turning off reblogs is cruel but I get it sometimes the engagement needs to stop. however I think tumblr would benefit from a turn off likes button to force people to engage in a meaningful way. this is coming from a chronic post liker but I am still a chronic reblogger as well. you people need to learn that you can do both things
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I feel like every condemnation of the gods of Exandria, in-world or out, comes from someone who, when posed with the Trolley Problem, was like "well I would simply ensure I was not in that situation" and just generally I think the first time you say that in your life someone must give you a patient, gentle, and throrough explanation of the concept of a thought experiment. they should also give you a healthy snack. every time after that though it's purge rules.
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This is probably a controversial opinion but I don't think you should complain about not getting reblogs (including "reblogs > likes!!" kind of stuff) if you havent provided an image description. If you want people to share your shit, maybe it should be accessible to everyone.
Just saying. It's not that hard. Don't complain about the lack of notes if you cut out a fraction of your audience because it wasn't worth the effort. If you don't know how, you can learn. If you can't, you can ask for help. You have options. Any ID is better than no ID. Try harder. Do better.
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every single conversation abt fatphobia truly goes like
fat people: i am treated horribly by society. thin people harass me, even sexually, devalue me, and endanger my life by not taking my medical issues seriously if they aren't related to weight. health problems are not my main concern, it's genuinely just horrible the way other people treat me. i am seen as sexless and oversexualized. clothes are not made to fit my body. people see me as disgusting, lazy, etc and because of this i'm less likely to be hired for jobs i am more than qualified for. i would be fine with my weight if thin people treated me like a human being rather than a laughing stock or an inconvenience. i am constantly encouraged to put my body through hell and develop an eating disorder to lose weight, or go through invasive surgery that would physically alter the size of my stomach so i would get sick if i ate more than half a healthy meal. i have dieted time and time again and engaged in disordered eating and tortured my body for years/decades trying to lose weight but because this isn't how bodies work it does not happen and i have wasted literal years of my life away devoid of any enjoyment around food.
thin people: why don't you just lose weight then? we're never going to treat you like a human being or reflect on our own behavior. it's your job to cater to us and make US comfortable to be around you. this is your fault <3
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OG Choi Han they could never make me hate you cause if some random rich boy was yelling at me and telling me my family deserved to die like a day after it happened and all I wanted was to know how I could get help I’d beat him up too
This plus the added fact that the Harris Village people were the first people to take Choi Han in and take care of him after years and years in the dark forest. Like he’s obviously not going to be mentally stable after all that, and he was so young when everything happened to him like I cannot blame him at all. I don’t think I can ever hate OG Choi Han like ever, he’s flawed, he has problems, but I love him dearly. He deserves the world. This kid who had to fight for his life, was taken away from his family, and in the process had to give up parts of his own humanity to survive, and like went to war two years later, they could never make me hate u OG Choi Han…
Like yeah violence is bad I guess but OG Cale had it coming(saying this as an OG Cale fan, I love him, but he was mean as hell when he was younger!)
If I’m honest, I think they were both in the wrong to an extent. Like OG Cale shouldn’t have said all that no matter the circumstances, and OG Choi Han shouldn’t have beaten him up so much. But u say mean shit and you get hit, that is how it will work when you’re talking to the guy who just saw his entire village get murdered like idkkkk man
I understand where OG Cale was coming from, but he had many issues and while he wasn’t an awful person, he was capable of doing bad things because of his own internalized pain and emotions that he never got to properly process because of his emotionally distant childhood and relationship with his father who should have been there for him more when he was younger.
Okay speaking of his childhood, Deruth isn’t the WORST father in the world but there are a lot of things he could have done better. I think a lot of Deruth’s flaws come from his fear of failure and messing up. He’s scared of doing the wrong thing, and so he sticks to doing what he knows and using what he knows best. That’s why he uses his money, that’s why gift giving is his way of showing affection, he knows that it is one thing he cannot mess up.
The problem is that money and gifts is NOT what OG Cale needed. I think what that guy needed the most was a parent who wasn’t afraid to talk to him, to ask him questions. Not to say that Deruth gave up on OG Cale, but I think in a way he gave up on OG Cale by giving up on himself. Deruth didn’t trust himself to have the capabilities to talk to OG Cale, which is why he never did. It’s because that Deruth was scared, and didn’t trust himself, that he could never face OG Cale
If Deruth was able to trust himself a little more, and pull himself together, I don’t think OG Cale would have turned out the way he did. As a kid, he probably thought the only way he could help his family without relying on anyone(no doubt this whole ‘I have to do it myself’ thing came from the fact that he couldn’t rely on his father when his mom died, and instead was acting as a pillar of support for his father when it should have been the other way around) was to sabotage himself, the only heir. If he was shown to be unfit to be heir, then everyone else would have no choice but to direct their hatred towards him instead of his family.
If Deruth had talked to his son at least ONCE when he was a kid, asking him why he was upset or why he did the things he did, I think OG Cale would have told him. Why? Because he’s a kid!! A kid will obviously want to rely on his father, if he just had one sign telling him that he didn’t have to do it alone I’m 90% sure OG Cale would have said something.
Basically, while Deruth isn’t the worst father, he’s not really a great father either. I think he does do his best, but he has issues with communication lol
OG Cale and OG Choi Han are both complex characters and had their own reasons to behave the way they did. The thing is with people is that they’re complicated and have layers, so the situation with them would have layers behind it as well with multiple co-existing truths and stuff
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My hot take is that unsalted butter makes no difference in the flavor of my bakes and that buying it separate when I exclusively use salted butter for everything is dumb and silly, and an instruction that I will continue to ignore.
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