#you're one of the only blogs/people (because i don't really get anon asks either 😭) that interact with me and every time

[loserboyfriendrjl]

dorcas and marlene always booing or talking about how much they hated seeing physical affection. pandora kissing sybil on the cheek: dorcas gags. remus and sirius sitting extremely close together in the same seat whispering to each other: marlene throws stuff at them.

and then,, they start dating. and they just snog anywhere, sit in each other's laps, hold hands all the time, constantly flirt, call each cute nicknames, etc.

but whenever another couple does that, they complain about it, "get a room, that's gross!" "yeah! no one wants to see that" (while half in each others laps and mid making out)

LITERALLY SO RIGHT (i love the fact that you added giftseer ily <3 /p)

it's literally so them to do and they will/would never stop doing it because "when we do it it's cute and when you do it you just gotta get a room. easy." also the last part, the thing in the brackets, that's so true. how are you so right all of the time /gen

[sharp-rosee]

Hey funny story: I haven't been around Tumblr at all for months, but today someone told me menalez had deactivated or something so I came on here and looked it up. First result was a post by you, i checked out your blog and wouldn't you know it your most recent post had you defending me post mortem lmfao. I sent an anon to the other woman too but it seems she won't post it so to clarify to you: when I supposedly said "studies showing violence suffered by bisexuals are cringe and useless" what I remember thinking about that is that those studies that I've seen are never used to try to understand why bisexuals suffer such insane rates of violence (more than homosexuals) and trying to stop it. I've only seen them be used as battering rams in discourse when homosexuals criticize bisexuals. Which is crazy for such a serious issue and totally trivializes it lol. Also that my explanation for it was that such studies show that many abused people incorrectly id as bi for a time. You can disagree or wtv just those were my points, she made it sound like I'm cheering on women beating if they're bi or something. Also your defense of me (thanks queen lol) is accurate if you were wondering. I used to be sorta pro strict separatism but I outgrew the anger/ denial phase of "most women will partner with men" and reached acceptance. Most people are built for romantic partnership, that's just human nature, I can't be hating het women just because their lot in life in that means they're more likely to be abused. Just because I'm not drawn to men, or even much to romance, doesn't mean I should act like that's everyone else too and judge them on that standard, I accept reality and want women to be safe within that rather than pointlessly hate on them and get all worked up because some women have boyfriends..

Well I'm also a mean asshole, I'm sure you noticed, and I definitely would give the bi girlies on radblr a hard time here at the time lol. I don't have the "one side" sort of takes on this divide on radblr. It was funny but I can't feel the energy to that anymore since leaving tumblr, way too few bis or gays irl to care about that stuff. But at the end of the day these are my actual takes on all that disk horse. Funny to see it immediately on such a causal stroll around here lol

-sleep3r4gent

QUEEN I used to follow you ♡ at least when I was crypto a few years back I did.

Also, I'm glad you clarified because the way some women on here seem to hallucinate things they read almost makes me feel insane as well. Like you sending an ask saying you never thought of a certain perspective is not indicative of you agreeing and obviously one can change their opinions over time.

I really have no opinion either way tbh, I myself am straight and in a relationship, and have had others on my last blog send some anons calling me a "dick worshipper" and other misogynistic BS, but they stopped once I didn't let it bother me much. It's so obviously a group of trolls that it's embarrassing that they still believe it enough to keep bringing back the same users, some like you who aren't even misogynistic, to further their persecution complex.

It even is more annoying because these are the women who made Mena/Moideater leave, the above drama is a big reason why. The way radblr will still reblog posts from very racist blogs and not bat an eye but then freak out over a clique of women who aren't even radfems really does show what demographic makes up this site.

I know it gets exhausting to be involved in arguments, but it's nice to know you're still somewhat around. I hope you, Mena and Moid come back someday. If not I understand. But I'll never forget any of them and I haven't forgotten you 😭😭😭

[asexual-society]

Just looking for some advice about how to tell my best friend I’m aroace. I was trying to find a way to ask other people in the community and found this blog so I hope it’s okay to ask. I do apologise if it’s not.

About three years ago, I tried telling her. I hinted at it, but in the end, I was too scared to actually tell her. I have two other really close friends that know, but one of them figured out I was ace before I did haha. They’re both very understanding of me due to their respective identities.

Recently, it’s been eating at me more and more. I write fanfiction and have been really wanting to explore aroace characters. We are actually co-writing a fic now and she’s one of my beta readers too. One of the characters I write the most about gives me major aroace vibes and I want to write about it and discuss with readers about it. The problem is that she reads my stuff. She’s supportive like that.

I’m just scared about her reaction is all. I don’t particularly care about what my family thinks because I have no intention of telling them. Not out of fear or anything, but for other reasons that don’t really matter at this point in my life. It’s my best mate I’m worried about :/ I don’t want her perception of me to be changed nor do I want her to start saying things like “you haven’t met the right person” or whatever.

This was long. I’m sorry 😭 I kept it anonymous because even though she doesn’t have tumblr, she knows my account and I’d rather not risk her seeing this :)

Hey Anon, I'm not gonna lie, I hate coming out. I've been putting off coming out to some people closest to me for so many years. But on the other hand! I totally understand having a hard time ripping the plaster off, and the feeling of it eating at you, so I can give you a couple of low-confrontation methods that might work in a pinch, and a couple of slightly scarier options and how to deal with them in case you're feeling brave?

You said she knows your blog but doesn't have tumblr, so you could try posting more about aroace stuff on here, or put it in your bio. That way, since she doesn't follow you, the chances of her seeing it are low enough that you have plausible deniability that you didn't think she would see it, and if she does, you were Definitely just about to tell her. Effectiveness: 3/10, she might not see it, in which case you'll be worrying about it for nothing.

A similar vibe of coming out is letting someone else do it for you. This only works if you have mutual friends, either online or irl. You don't have to be there when it happens, but I find it's less unpleasant if you are; finding out someone has outed you after the fact is for sure worse, even if you intended it to happen, but someone else offhandedly bringing it up takes the power out of your hands, which is scary in a different way, but it can technically work. Effectiveness: 5/10, it'll do, but it will not feel good. Requires mutual friends. If one of your friends is a loudmouth with no filter it might even happen organically at some point, but you can't count on it, so if you are there (even just in groupchat form) being able to steer the conversation in that direction might give you the small push you need to say it yourself, since it's way harder to just bring it up out of the blue by yourself, and also having another already supportive person present who has your back always helps. Effectiveness: 8/10, getting onto the topic might be hard, but having moral support is good. Requires mutual friends.

Similarly, you could engineer a situation where you're coming out to her and one other person who you know will be supportive (or you're already out to, if you're okay with a little deception) at the same time. She can't say anything shitty if there's someone else already there being cool about it. You don't even have to be coming out to the other person, you can just mention it while they're there (so it works the same as the above, except a little more intentional). Effectiveness: 8/10, points deducted for deception, but if it gets the job done, does it matter? Requires mutual friends.

Bargaining. Set yourself a deadline and have people to hold you accountable to do it. Effectiveness: 3/10, absolutely would not work on me, will probably not feel good, could be the kick you need to do it but only if your brain works that way.

Come out to someone else first and use the momentum to tell her right after. Works best if the first person you tell isn't close enough to you that it'll be really bad if they suck about it, but if they do suck, you can use that as a jumping off point to tell your friend (e.g. I told someone I was aroace and they said XYZ shitty thing), and you can sneak in an example of something that was hurtful that your friend will know to avoid saying. And if they don't suck about it (fingers crossed!), it could give you the confidence and boost you need to tell your friend. Effectiveness 6/10, requires you to come out twice as many times. You may be able to substitute in someone else being aphobic but not directly to you as a jumping off point instead.

You could try testing the waters by mentioning that you headcanon the character as aroace and seeing her reaction, if you haven't already, and then you can say "I sort of relate to them actually" and see where that gets you? Effectiveness: 5/10, high chance of backing out at the last minute, high uncertainty means this might be the scariest option.

If you have ways of making yourself do scary things already, do as many of those as you can, but if not, I can tell you that when I want to do something I'm low key terrified of but I know will help me in the long run, I write myself a letter to open as far in the future as I feel like (there are websites you can use for this), and I tell me-of-the-future about what I want to do and that I'm scared about it, and then I imagine them reading it and imagine how it'll be by then if I haven't done it yet, and how much better it'll be for them if I do.

Sometimes it's really hard to do things for ourselves, but imagining you're doing them for you-of-the-future gives yourself enough distance that you can convince yourself that you're actually doing it for someone else. It might also help to imagine that you of the future will be proud of you for doing it, and this is a pretty instantaneous reward situation, because you get the little kick of someone being proud of you before you do it just for deciding to do it, and then as soon as you've done it you get to be proud of yourself. Effectiveness: 8/10, high risk-high reward, will feel really good if you do it, but you have to do it.

If you're still worried about her saying specific unsupportive things, coming up with a few good responses to the most likely ones that you can use in the moment without even thinking can take some of the power away from her (or anyone else) saying them. If your friend is only attracted to one gender you can use the "how do you know you just haven't met the right [person of gender she isn't into]?" or "it hurts me that you think I don't know myself well enough/that you don't trust me to know this about myself". If someone you come out to isn't supportive you are legally allowed to be petty or guilt trip them, if they know you're not just gonna back down when they try to disagree with you, it shows you're serious, even/especially if you wouldn't normally go on the offensive like that. Effectiveness: ?/10, depends on your personality and how assertive you are, and can be difficult if you're worried about confrontation with your best friend, but it could just be what needs to be done, and is likely but not certain to get your point across.

I'm not saying all of these are good methods, but they are definitely methods that you could use. And hey, if you do it, let us know how you did it and how it went!

Best of luck, I hope you figure it out <3

~mod key

[aris-ink]

I'm so tired of hearing everyone being pressed about that tea blog, even right now I'm getting dms. it's an honest place that provides receipts and warns readers which content creators to stay away from? the person who runs the blog and the anons there talk about tremendously important things, and only encourage action bullying and harassment for real offenses that people deserve to hear about.

like for example:

sexualising santa by writing christmas fics

including corruption kink in fics. (especially if you're someone who slept around. us sluts have to stop hurting innocent women by writing fanfiction 😔)

having fun with astrology (don't you know that's the devil's tool, you zodiac freaks?)

having a kofi. what's wrong with you? so you tell me you spend hours writing and editing and you dare to suggest someone gives you a tip for it? 😭

being upset about not getting enough engagement. clearly you're just untalented and bitter, darling. 💖

other readers enjoying things they don't. (that's just going too far.)

being religious and liking bts/expressing sexuality. um, don't you know if you believe in God you should be on your knees in church looking at Jesus instead of Jungkook's abs? 🤨 in fact, you should be on your way to becoming a nun, so...

writing yandere fics.

this is all so true. hey, anyone here ever read or watched twilight? oh? I hope you didn't, because we all know fiction equals reality so..... I'd be really concerned for the local morgues.

AHSHDHDHDDH anyways, now that I'm done with the sarcasm, as always, please give me a break. I've reached the image limit but I'm sorry. making fun of authors for how they write, encouraging our works to be reported, making fun of authors with kofis or who express their feelings towards little engagement.... telling a Muslim woman that she cannot be Muslim and write her fics (the fucking audacity), then making fun of her for getting stalked. treating people who enjoy/write fics that include sex and aren't "pure" as less and depraved. accusing writers of sending asks to themselves when they get a nice message. twisting their words. this behavior is absolutely disgusting, but besides that it's so lacking in logic and critical thinking skills that it's just sad, and this is who is getting you down, guys? 😭

you're wonderful, keep doing you, and let these amazing little anons and blog runner keep doing them. 🤷‍♀️ YOU know who you are, your followers know who you are, and it doesn't matter what a bunch of bullies have to say. I personally don't care either. what they gonna do? report my fics? I got enough followers to get around, they're enough for me. send me a rude message? oh no, anything but that.

😭💀 sending lots of love to anyone who ever felt alone and targeted. I promise you, literally no one who is worth your time cares. ❤️

[clanwarrior-tumbly]

Not a request, just thinking of angst about that one demon reader for Faith.

Imagine turning away from your own people, your brothers, because you don't remember them. Imagine not knowing who you really are, and being taken by people who think they are being kind or saving a person. Imagine looking in the mirror, knowing you're a freak, but not knowing you're damned.

Being asked if they're a monster or a demon, either seriously or as a joke must weigh hard on that reader. While the concept is comical on surface level, I can’t help but think of the pain.

How many demon friends does the reader not recognize? How many enemies do they not know they have? Do they think they're allergic to water, when holy water is thrown at them by priests? How many times has Gary's goons tried to recruit them, only for them to say they don't believe in anything?

They don't believe their enemy exists, and they don't believe their own kind exists.

Plus, they probably forgot maybe centuries worth of things, and believed they only forgot a mortal life. They might think they have a family they don't know about, or a name they forgot (headcanon for your headcanons, I think this reader goes by [y/n] because they forgot their demon name. Kinda like frisk from undertale.)

If the memory loss demon reader ever gets their memories back, they're probably going to be devastated. Not only are they really a monster like everyone says, but they're doomed to an inevitable fate as a demon: judgment day. Even if they want to continue a mortal life, they're still doomed to live for eternity till God makes eternity finally end. No matter how good they try to be, they'll never be good in the eyes of God.

Sorry for rambling about blorbo from followed Tumblr blogs-

All i can say to this is MAN 😭

Why must you hurt me this way, anon- (/lh)

[randomestfandoms-ocs]

How do you do ships with other people’s ocs? Like, developing through roleplay or?

in my case, a lot of it comes from crossover ask games that help develop ideas, sometimes if I make an OC and know one of my friends has ocs in the same fandom I'll just send them an ask to basically say heyyyy here's a new oc any thoughts if any of your ocs would make a good crossover, hey any vibes/headcanons on crossovers between these specific people, hey this crossover thought just hit me like a train what do you think, etc

(i have a crossover ask tag here for some examples of how those conversations look – though those are mostly people sending me the asks not ones I send – and a general crossover tag here for more examples!)

it's also very helpful for me that 90% of the time I only talk to the same small handful of people and they're all people that I've talked about crossovers with before so talking about new ones isn't hard – talking to new people about crossovers is definitely more intimidating haha! always worried that they won't like me or my oc or the vibes etc – and then it's mostly just sporadic conversations when we have ideas

I haven't done a lot of roleplay at all (I do have an rp blog but kind of forgot about it whoops 😭), especially with crossovers, but it's definitely not something that I'm against either

I definitely think the best starting point is just to ask! (i say, being terrible at starting any conversations) if you have a specific crossover that you're interested in with someone you can always start with like "hey, i'm super interested in a crossover between these ocs, this is sort of the vibe i can see, you interested?" or if you just want a crossover (or want to give them options in case they aren't feeling the same specific vibe) you can always go with a "hey, i'd really love to talk about crossovers, do you have any ocs who might work with [your oc]" or "hey, i'd really love to talk about crossovers, do you have any ideas on crossovers between our ocs" – just in that case make sure it's easy to find your ocs lol! I've gotten that ask in the past when people don't really have lists of ocs or any easy to find information (consistent tags help the most imo, masterlists are good, really just anything that helps them actually find your ocs/get an idea of them to think of ideas) and it's really hard because you want to make good suggestions but if you can't find the ocs, you can't really figure out where to start

It's also obviously different starting the crossover conversation with someone you already talk to, whose ocs you know and who knows yours, and where you probably already have a bit of an idea of each other's vibes and likes/dislikes with ocs compared to someone you've never talked to. Both can go very well and be very fun, but if you're nervous you can always start with just sending some asks about their ocs or a "hey are crossovers a thing you're interested in?" and building a bit of a connection first, but that's really a personal preference/level of social anxiety decision imo!

i feel like this was a lot of rambling without a lot of useful info so if anyone else has thoughts, drop them in the replies to help anon out <3!!

[causenessus]

HELLOOO GOOD AFTERNOON!! how are you doing <3 i already told u ab what happened at my school today but MORE HAPPENED. i was walking out to my friend's car since it was the end of the day and we were gonna drive back to our apt BUT BRO???? ness idefk what happened but a car bumped into me im not even joking 💔 like bumped me from behind and made me fall over. like how does that even happen omf 💔 not demure, nor mindful. BUT IM PERFECTLY FINE DONT WORRY!! i just scraped up my palms and my arms a liiiittle bit 🙂‍↕️ so i hate parking lots that was not cute at all

I SAW YOU AND MANGO ANON TALKING ABOUT ZODIACS A LITTLE BIT ONE TIME WHEN U ANSWERED THEIR ASK AND WAS LIKE OH!! NOW IM CURIOUS!! like im really not big on astrology i only know that im an aquarius thats all ive got! but i was searching up like what certain signs' relationships look like? i guess? or like compatibility? one of my friends are a cancer AND I KEPT SEEING THAT THEYRE THE LEAST COMPATIBLE W AQUARIUSES? (is that the right plural of it? aquarians? idk whatever) so like i had a revelation and i remembered you were a cancer so i was lowkey disappointed with all of the zodiac compatibility stuff i was seeing online 😞 ALSO I SAW THAT MANGO ANON GOT A BURNER!! (i mean like i saw through your post i didnt find their blog LMAOAOA) is this the end of an era?? if it is im gonna miss seeing their asks and your responses on my dash aaaaadbsjk they are so cute!!

ANYWAY lately ive been really pondering (i feel like this word is funny to me) what an ideal friend looks like to me because someone at school asked me that😭 i feel like the first people that came to mind were you and mango anon!!! i keep mentioning them SORRY i just adore how sweet they are omf 💔 why am i telling you this? idk! but i feel like in terms of friendships i seek out people like you!! i cant really describe the traits SPECIFICALLY but i feel like you're a super good friend ‼️ i was also curious what an ideal friend looks like to you though! cause i feel like people always look for specific traits or have traits that theyre naturally gravitated towards and they're always super different from person to person, yk? KINDA RANDOM THO LMAO

ALSO today in my speech n debate class my friend started drawing on my hand as we listened to people's oo's from the national oratorical (is that even what it's called i have no idea) and like... i totally zoned out.. so now im behind in that class JUST A LITTLE!! listening to peoples speeches can be so boring i have serious regrets regarding choosing that class honestly 😞 but i feel like it's also one of the more fun classes you can take to fulfill the speech credits for graduation so i GUESS im staying... some of the people in that class are super cool!! getting peer pressured into joining the competitive team sigh

THATS ALL IVE GOT TODAY!! I FEEL LIKE THIS ONE WAS KINDA LONG OOPS. how are you doing ness!! i hope you're getting enough rest! make sure you're drinking enough water and eating! AND DONT FORGET YOUR MEDS ‼️ I LOVE YOU

HELLO SAV!! i??? i??? i can't? A CAR BUMPED INTO YOU??? LITERALLY DID THEY LIKE APOLOGIZE??? MAKE SURE YOU WERE OKAY??? ANYTHING AT ALL???? THAT IS SO HORRIBLE 😭 I'M SO GLAD YOU'RE OKAY BUT OMG THAT'S LITERALLY AN INJURY?? LIKE????????????????????????

AND AWH DW 😭 tbh i don't think i know many aquariuses (idk the plural version either!!) BUT THE STARS HAVE NOTHING ON US </3 AND YES!! MANGO ANON GOT A BURNER BUT I THINK WE'LL STILL BE YAPPING THROUGH ASKS A LOT <3 IT'S JUST FOR US TO BE LIKE "i miss u </3" and tell each other short things in the meantime 😭

AND AW THAT'S SO SWEET AND KIND THANK YOU SO MUCH :((( PLEASE DON'T APOLOGIZE AT ALL FOR BRINGING US/MANGO ANON UP!! you're not doing it a lot or anything so don't worry at all <33 idk who my ideal kind of friend is!! like everyone is so unique and i think i get along with most people <3 i just really appreciate people who are like very understanding and kind!! like obviously i'm very?? like soft hearted?? or like gentle. like for example i don't like to curse outside my fics bc for me i always associated it with being mad?? or just kind of scary?? like ofc i really don't care if other people curse!! it's just a personal preference/choice and so i think i just appreciate people who are observant and kind!! idk everyone super cool :D and i've learned a lot from people who are different from me so i like most people!! (just not middle school freshmen boys who are super rude and annoying and loud yk 🌝)

SPEECH AND DEBATE SOUNDS HORRIBLE 😭 I'M SORRY BUT I COULD NEVER I'M SO LUCKY MY SCHOOL DIDN'T HAVE A SPEECH REQUIREMENT OR ANYTHING BC I WOULD NOT HAVE SURVIVED </33 and i've always been like a very "idc!! u have ur opinion and i have mine i'm not gonna try and convince u to have my opinion!! like seriously idc pls i don't want to argue or debate!!" so i really just could not survive that class at all but best of luck to you!!

IT WAS GOOD TO HEAR FROM YOU SAV!! i am doing ok!!! it's nice bc idk my manager didn't really schedule me this entire week 😭 BUT I'M NOT COMPLAINING!! I AM LIVING MY BEST LIFE WITH ALL THIS FREETIME LIKE I ACTUALLY AM REALLY ENJOYING IT so that's been nice!! AND THANK YOU SO MUCH <33 TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF TOO!! I HOPE YOU TOOK YOUR MEDS!!

[tadpolesonalgae]

ive seeing these anons giving advice and im glad we're all wondering why you aren't more well known. ive been reading acotar but it took me a while to find your blog and i really was surprised i hadn't found it sooner because you're a great writer and you also write a lot, so you should be on searches and stuff a lot. i thought it was because you wrote a lot of dark fics at first and that's not for everyone but you also write a lot of others so im not sure how you don't get way more notes on your fics. i think what the other anon said about interacting with other writers and im not familiar with the examples they gave tbh but yeah there's a few blogs that interact with each other a lot so you know they're friends (azsazz and acourtofthristandmen and more) but if you don't know them or you're not really good at/ want to you don't have to try to interact with them, i think you should bet on interacting with your audience more because that's what keeps people coming back. dont be afraid to post stuff on here either, this is your blog so you can post, especially asks because we do love seeing our asks answered and if people don't see their asks answered they might not keep sending them bc they're basically being ignored.

I mean, is there some setting I might need to switch on or off? It took me months to figure out how to link posts and even longer to discover the whole ‘read more’ thing so I wonder if there’s just a really obvious button that’s labelled “share work” or something and i’ve just entirely missed it 😭

‘so im not sure how you don't get way more notes on your fics.’

Thank you so much??? That’s such??? A lovely thing to say???

Honestly I’m very happy with how things are at the moment, like having people write in if they enjoy a fic, offering ideas, giving advice—I’d much rather keep things as they are than maybe having more notes on a fic but less people knowing this blog well enough to want to send in requests or talk?

I hope that doesn’t sound ungrateful or anything, it’s just that I don’t want to sound like I’m complaining I might not be getting enough because I genuinely I love how things are at the moment 🧡💛

‘ i think you should bet on interacting with your audience more because that's what keeps people coming back.’

Okay okay!! So!! I don’t know if this is a common thing other blogs do, but there are people I see interacting and I was thinking it would be fun to include you too? I know some people might find that stressful though and I don’t want to scare anyone off, but I thought it might be fun to tag some of you guys in those tag games? Solely because before I started writing, people who wrote fanfics seemed so far off in the distance and that is genuinely not the case, so I thought it might help people feel more comfortable in this space?

That is just an idea though, and I don’t even do tag games that often, so it wouldn’t be a regular occurrence or anything! :)

‘especially asks because we do love seeing our asks answered and if people don't see their asks answered they might not keep sending them bc they're basically being ignored.’

I’d like to clarify it’s not only not spamming things that makes me nervous to respond, but also because I don’t always know how much free time I’ll have in a day, so I often only have mornings to get to talk to people? I really hope no one feels ignored—generally if I haven’t answered something it’ll be because I simply didn’t get to find the time that day to get around to it? But I completely get that it can be discouraging to manage to send an ask in then it doesn’t get answered :/

[shut-up-rabert]

whatever the anon is saying I've watched videos of the same from last year and I've listened to those music myself this year on the ram navami's event and that definitely is not something lord Rama wants us to do what I've seen ppl doing during ram navmi.... so-

I'm a hindu I don't get it how is it hinduphobic I've also seen it so it's ig the truth if that's hinduphobia than your post was also islamophobic and no pleasw dont be so naive and reply ke I didn't say muslim i just said some community nvm I don't really find you or your opinions or your blog smth i would follow or someone I would like to interact .... it's just because you're a part of the desiblr your post came on my dash and your urge to deny all the things thw anon said with words like hinduphobia and evidence and liberals blah blah arghhh like bro chill it was just too much to just see and get through it without involving I don't want this dumbassery in the name of hindublr or desiblr I can't unfollow the tags ig i better block ya

….the post isn’t even tagged either hindublr or desiblr. Its only non personal tag is hinduphobia and ram navmi.

For this specific reason aswell.

Tumblr would not have showed you my post if it wasn’t tagged desiblr or you weren’t already liking my stuff (which your “i don’t find your opinions something I follow” tells me you weren’t given this is a political blog).

……… you wanna say something now or?……

And do ya think I was denying the claims over nothing? I searched the stuff they were speaking of, and came to the conclusion after finding nothing. You too, anon, have only provided words and no actual proof.

The burden of proof is on people who say xyz happened, how does someone prove it did not happen? By showing it not happening?😭

And how do you not see an annual attack on Hindu processions to be hinduphobic is beyond me. If someone threw a stone at me everytime I passed by, I would think they have a problem with me aswell.

My post was not islamophobic because nowhere did I blame Islam or muslims in that post. Do you think I did not mention the said community because I wanted to hide Islamophobia?

Bull. Fucking. Shit.

I did that because I did not believe that every Muslim should receive flak for that as the community in itself is not responsible for such people, but the fact that those individuals were part of a particular religion and hated us because we were a part of another one, it does make religion relevant in all this, both ours and theirs.

So no, Muslims at large are not at fault here, but these attackers did hurt us in name of islam, so mentioning what excuse they used to attack us is only natural becuase it is a crime against humans and hence intention needs to be known for being able to tackle/trace it better.

And do you realise that the whole point of me answering such provoking asks is to either confirm or deny them? What do you think I will do with a post that’s blatantly accusing with no proof? Not deny it? Not ask for proof? Tell me whether any of the “excuses” I used were out of place or unrequired there.

[tinyidle]

I'm a young smut writer (going into high school in August), but I'm not open about my age, cause I'm afraid what my following will think. I'd like to think I'm decent at it, with some of my fics getting over 100 notes. I read smut, and write it, because I unfortunately am hypersexual (due to trauma) and I find it a good way to release that energy. My fics are the only thing I find good about my hypersexuality tbh, every other part is just hell.

I am old enough to be on tumblr, just to put that out there !! And I've never stated that I'm older than I actually am, just never clarified.

I feel a little bad not putting my age outright, but I also want my followers and other writers to feel comfortable interacting with me :(

Idk, I just saw that post you replied to abt minor writers/readers and wanted to get opinions on my situation.

I really enjoy writing, I love my anons, and I appreciate the support. But ik if I be honest some people probably wont be comfortable following me anymore, as sad as it makes me to think about, I know I just have to accept it

And if I decide to put it out there, I know I also wont be welcome following most blogs (which sucks since tumblr writers are amazing, esp you, you're my favorite writer on here) 😔

Thanks for reading, I'd like your opinion on my situation if you don't mind 😭 <3

hello ello ello! ive been kinda of busy, keeping up with school notes and reading fics and textbooks and all (im in college), but i read and reread this ask and have been thinking about it since yesterday.

most of us smut writers have been hypersexual minors reading smut at one point and moved or reading into writing, though i can only speak for myself when i decided to write as an adult. personally i suggest to, if you really want to be/continue being a smut writer, to be at least 16 years old (not recommended however), but considering how i calculate what highschool age is and how old i think you may be, you might not fit that criteria and will have people block you if you do disclose your age online.

ive seen (and had at once followed) minors writing smut, but after a while i either stopped reading or stopped following because of either them not being comfortable about it anymore or just me not being comfortable. if you know that that will be the case with you from other writers, i honestly have no other suggestion than to let it happen.

some won't care, but many will since it's already a big no-no in writing to have minors in smut. you can't really help it since most adults dont want to feel like they are indirectly grooming minor writers by encouraging their writing. of course the easiest thing to do is lie about your age, but i personally dont like when people do that (e.g., tiktok pages that have aged between 14-17, like- why not say 15 or smth??), so i go against that.

this might not be what you wanted to hear, but i can only be honest. i still dont condone bullying minors on the internet to do what they do, yet at the same time i cant support something i myself avoid. i dont even stan groups with minors (i literally waited until txt were all adults until i stanned-- and two of the members are my age).

im glad you like my writing, but i hope most of what you like are my non nsfw works (albeit them being minimal).

[throwaway-yandere]

Hi! Very late but i just wanted to congratulate you on your follower milestone!

Feels a bit weird when I'm not a follower myself but haha. Your type of yanderes aren't what I'm really into, but I still periodically check on your blog like some ghost stuck to a place bc your writing is really really good and i absolutely adore how creative your ideas are. Speaking of which, i really love how you handled the matchups! They're still made for a certain person but so open that they're also accessible to everyone else, which isn't something I've ever seen before but definitely seems the best way to go about it.

I'm super curious to see how your series will progress and all the other unique ideas you'll come up with in the future (and sometimes just reading the anon interactions, as a Frequent Visitor and really socially awkward person I'm like the physical manifestation of the word "lurker", but it's really a bit like watching a friend group interact and have fun which really warms my heart. It's just super good vibes!)

Please remember to look after yourself, get enough nutrition and rest. And hope you don't mind me haunting this blog a little longer :p

Hey don't feel scared to interact even if you're not following!!! I adore asks lololololol, it makes writing worth it. Feel free to stick around!!! But like how I start most my fics, if you're not in a mentally well state it's best to avoid these!

I'll be honest, I would NEVER hang out with any of the yanderes I've written except for SPK!Childe & Thoma and HysHum!Dainsleif. I think the only "soft" yanderes I wrote are those three.

Childe just wanna fish & Thoma just wants to listen whenever the reader rants about their problems. Then there's Dainsleif, who's sane but is one chip away from losing his marbles because his reader is about to turn Teyvat upside down lmao.

The rest? They're all insufferable meow meows <333 Other than the three I mentioned whenever I write about these yanderes I keep slandering them in my head <333 it's so much fun <333 okay i lied dain's not an exception I still insulted him in my hyshum drafts <3333–

I'm not sure if it's incredibly obvious in my writing but I'm asexual and quite possibly aro, so I think I "excel" more on the "yan" side than the "dere" since romance isn't my forte. I mainly write for the horror so I don't expect people to come to me because they're into the yanderes I've written but more on the story (... I'd be a bit concerned but won't question if you're into stuff like cannibal!cat!ayato and horse feeder!diluc). That's why everytime I post I don't expect anything AND IT'S VERY MUCH THE REASON WHY I'M CONFUSED THAT THIS BLOG IS STILL ALIVE. THIS WAS MEANT TO BE A THROWAWAY ACCOUNT–

I'm not sure if I'm making sense lol but that's pretty much my two cents on that so I wholeheartedly understand if my yans aren't your cup of tea! They're not mine too– I want to bury them all with my hatchet!!! <333 I want them to go to therapy!!! Eat lasagna!!! Play farming games!!! Literally just don't bother (y/n) anymore 😭!!!

About the event: I was genuinely hoping for match-ups set up like this because there's some sort of "togetherness" in it?? Hold on I just woke up cuz I accidentally slept while reviewing for Algebra when writing this so I'll probably rewrite this draft or something if I'm not lazy lol. It's just that I like it when readers are characters I can add some quirks and details to (of course, cept for things like physical descriptions and what not) since it makes pairing them with a yandere more natural. And you know what? I'm super glad the anons are all very nice and interesting huhu. They truly make the event more alive!!!

I adore otome games and trust me, almost everyone in r/otome_games prefer an MC who has a personality rather than an eyeless self-insert too lol. Much like there's no such thing as "absolute justice", I believe you can't have a "perfect self-insert" fic either because not everyone shares the same mold. It's just not as entertaining to me when the reader is silent so I guess that reflects on my writing too ;;--;;. It's just too much fun pulling up an mbti and going "ah yes, I'm using this type."

Anyways, yeah!!! Is it bad if I'm satisfied about how I set it up as well haha it feels like my 1 braincell was actually put to use ;;----;;;

Oh sht i ended up rambling my bad umm tHANK YOU!!! Haha it feels strange celebrating this milestone and I appreciate your kind words!!!

(out of curiosity, is there something I can call you? Like "lurker anon" or something haha)

[everything-is-crab]

Sometimes upper caste marxist women in our country are just pathetic. I follow this person on facebook who frequently posts mra rhetoric but adds "bourgeois" prefix to women to appear progressive. And it's honestly so disappointing because she makes otherwise good analysis on class. But when it comes to women's rights, all they do is cater to misogynistic leftist men for social media clout. I get annoyed at feminist spaces for disregarding caste or class and then see this from marxist women.

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=pfbid028dyBEvs7UdDhVKmwqDoEHAzDq3MUDKVdh7oDqH5qc8caAcsvn4N36n49ktvHfmCsl&id=100000560346594&mibextid=Nif5oz

She's straight up reblogging from a men's rights activist. I'd hoped a leftist woman would be better than this.

Also, I am so glad I found your blog. You're really a genuine person and your posts are always so intelligent and well put. Thank you so much💕

😭😭 anon no offense but please don't send me links anonymously. For security reasons, I don't open them. Usually I don't complain cause people have sent me only Tumblr links until now and I just find the blog and the post directly instead of opening the link. But 1) You can't do that with facebook. 2) I don't have a facebook account anyways 💀💀

But you could still tell me in another ask what kind of exact MRA rhetoric she's spreading wrapped in Marxist language if you want.

And well even though I personally haven't come across any such upper caste Marxist woman (because I hardly come across Marxist women here in general), it's not surprising.

Look I appreciate the Marxist movement here. But sometimes some Marxists are right wing deviants. A lot of them are not just sexist but casteist as well. I wouldn't necessarily say they're "casteist" but they do ignore the distinction between caste and class and that opposing capitalist system by itself is not going to help us.

I have found it better to read a bunch of different texts with different opinions and come to my own conclusion. I have never found a perfect text regarding caste, class and gender. And you won't either. Sexist Marxists and Dalit activists, casteist Marxists and feminists.....it will never end.

It's a mess. I hardly come across intersectional analysis and the ones I come across are very faux. I once came across this one male university student writing a short text on gender caste and class and there was nothing unique about it except for one thing- he said opposing sex work is casteist and sexist 😭😭

The argument being cause it is mostly Dalit women pushed into prostitution and hence attaching stigma to it. And while I do agree there's stigma against women in prostitution and women from oppressed castes are seen as sexually deviant which together make it very hard for Dalit women in prostitution, one can't expect us to just let it go on. Do you see people arguing against the abolition of manual scavenging? No. Then why should women from oppressed castes be expected to not just continue being exploited but embrace it? Nobody dares to ask Dalit men do that. So why should women be confined to roles society historically forced upon us? It's not empowering. Little girls from oppressed castes and poor backgrounds are forced to give up their education and join prostitution. And I am just supposed to accept that and to make things balanced expect women from upper castes to join them? Fuck off. Men are the worst lol

The best we can do is make wide like-minded connections around us as much as possible. I feel like, until our economic issues are resolved, we will not progress further in social issues.

Women make most of the poor here. How will they be able to talk about abolition when it's hard for them to achieve even reform? No amount of activism or NGOs is going to work as long as there is corruption.

Btw there's a lot of Dalit feminist theory around. But they're written by many upper caste women instead like Uma Chakravarti, Sharmila Rege. Dalit feminist writers exist. Bama, Urmilla Pawar and all. But they prefer to write fictional literature or biographies instead of your theory. And in their own language rather than English. So you will have to dig deeper for the translated texts. But I do recommend reading them even if fiction and biographies bore you. Only those texts have given justice to describing what it means to be a woman from an oppressed caste experiencing both male and upper caste arrogance.

And also do read Tithi Bhattacharya's books and interviews if you feel discouraged by coming across right wing bigotry even in feminist or Marxist spaces. While she's upper caste, she's very prominent and is a Marxist who's a feminist,anti casteist and anti nationalist and also doesn't bootlick colonial era. However, I don't fully agree with her views on imperialism. What she describes related to imperialism in the global south is true but very basic....I don't think many people really understand US imperialism....it's not just about the IMF or World Bank. Even though they're equally evil. It's the whole US dollar hegemony and the way it is backed by their military. And also opposing any left wing government in the GS and everything. But that is a whole another topic. Sorry for getting a bit off track but my point is.....there will be dissent and while I understand not accepting MRA rhetoric which is just blatant sexism, remember you won't find any person you will agree with 100%. Just read and form your own thoughts. You may be wrong but still.

[shinydixon]

i really need to tell you something i've been trying to stay away from joseph gossip and rumors. i've been trying to go back to checking only tumblr for any kind of news because as bad as this website can be, it's still ten times better than twitter. tiktok is not a problem because i don't have one and i don't really like it. twitter is very hard to quit because there are so many AMAZING steddie artists there as well as writers but eventually you stumble upon some stupid hellcheer or vanquinn trying to start shit and it kills the vibe. so i've been avoiding these platforms. i kinda use your blog to check for news too but i realized that anons come to you with the very things i'm trying to avoid and it's not your fault, it's not the anons' fault either, this is a me problem. i tried really hard to just avoid your blog too but i just can't do it. you're such a sweetheart and i've never seen anyone do what you do. you literally let your blog become this safe space for joe fans to just gush about him or worry and sometimes some of the asks you get aren't even about joseph and you're always very kind. i know you've been through some shit lately regarding this very blog and a hellcheer spreading lies about you. i could tell by the way you responded how hurt you were by it because it's true, you never insult grace or tag her or do anything that might count as an attack towards her. so i just wanted you to know how important you are and how happy your blog makes me. there are days where the nonnies are on fire and cracking jokes and it's really awesome. thank you for letting us come to you with our rants and problems and news. <3

You're so sweet thank you 🥺🤍

I'm happy that people consider my blog a safe place 😭

[td-scenarios]

can I ask for dakota, dakotazoid, cody, owen, noah, and blainley reacting to a marriage proposal? I'm so excited to see a td blog :D also a recommendation, you should allow anon asks so people don't feel embarrassed asking!

Thank you for telling me that my anon requests weren't on I appreciate it sm 😭😭. Thank you for the ask! (also i hope u know that u gave me some of my favorite characters ever and I appreciated writing this so much <3 )

Dakota

You just HAVE to take her to an amazing place like Disney World or like Paris for a proposal because you know how much she loves a good picture to post to social media

Sure, even if you're broke, her parents are totally in on it and will help with the funds. Anything for their daughter

Dakota may not be bright on most things, but when it comes to romance and expensive stuff, she’s all over it.

Obligatory hands over face and squealing as soon as she sees you kneel on the ground

She says yes so fast only so she can snap a few selfies of the whole thing (even though you literally made sure there was a photographer around to capture the moment)

Dakota immediately starts planning what the wedding will be like even though the proposal just happened like 10 seconds ago

You love her anyways

Dakotazoid

This proposal definitely happened in either the comfort of one of your houses or in a beautiful forest since she is still not the best with going in public after the whole transformation thing.

She would get a bit scared that you’re hurt or something when you initially do the classic kneel on the ground for the proposal

But as soon as that ring comes out, she’s in tears

“You love Dakota that much?”

Dakotazoid is absolutely over the moon with this especially since she’s been real down on herself ever since she became like this

She doesn’t put you down for the rest of the day

Cody

The setting for this proposal was probably on one of your guys’ Friday night date nights.

This time, it was in a fancier restaurant than usual and, despite being together for a few years at this point, you two were acting more in love than usual.

It all became clear when he knelt on the ground with the ring and asked

You, of course, laughed which instantly made him panic

But that’s because you ALSO planned to propose to him tonight and didn’t even realize that he had the same idea as you

That then turned you both into laughing messes as you guys slipped the rings onto eachothers’ fingers and hugged

Owen

He forgot marriage proposals existed if he was gonna be completely honest

To him it just seemed like a perfectly normal outing to one of your guys’ favorite restaurants, nothing big

It was odd to him that you got out of your chair just to tie your shoe? Who does that?

It all clicked together for him when you pulled out that ring and oh boy, was this man not afraid to show his emotions as he swept you up into one of his bone crushing hugs while he teared up.

You thought it was sweet.

He was kind of confused as to why you’d want to marry HIM of all people, but you are quick to shut that thought down completely. Saying everything you loved about him.

Noah

If this proposal doesn’t happen in a library then it isn’t done right

Some people will say that isn’t romantic, but to him, it’s everything.

You purposefully made him drop a book so you would have an excuse to bend down without making him suspicious. Knowing Noah, he probably had some idea of what was going to happen though.

As soon as you pop the question, he is uncharacteristically at a loss for words.

“Oh, wow”

It’s awkward for a few seconds until he’s finally done being shocked and decides to finally agree to be your betrothed.

He doesn’t really show his excitement that easily, but if you two have been dating long enough for a proposal to happen, then you know that he’s absolutely psyched for this idea.

Blaineley

She actually proposed to you

#girlboss

That AND you’re maybe still a tiny bit scared that you two were only together for the publicity even though it’s been like 3 years and you were too afraid to ask.

She had to take matters into her own hands if she was going to get Y/N to be her spouse

You obviously say yes since you’ve been wanting to do the exact same thing for a while now

This also takes your fears away quite a bit. Double win!

Being a celebrity, the proposal is instantly everywhere on social media

Not being able to go out without getting a ‘Congratulations!’ by anyone who recognizes you or Blaineley is inevitable within the next month or two afterwards

[papirouge]

And don't even get me started on make up. It's super sad seeing tradfem saying that they wear make up because they want to look pretty... like you don't like yourself already? Do you think women need to wear make up to be considered pretty? And men don't? Do you think God made womens faces imperfect thus why you feel the need to cover His desing with these chemicals??

And seeing tradmen saying that they want their women to wear make up... and then they excuse themselves saying "but it's only light make up!!!" Like are you really attracted to women? Or are you attracted to feminity? Would you still like your girlfriend if she stopped wearing make up? Or shaving? Like I suspect that some of these "tradmen" still secretly watch porn and are too used to seeing the made up women on porn... either that or they still haven't shaken up the effects that porn addiction left in them.

And then you see them refer to women who wear short hair and pants and don't care much about their appearance as wanting to be like men, while also posting or rebloging dumb photos that have a phrase like "choose feminity" that features a heavily dolled up women with a tight, revealing dress, high heels, long hair and obvious make up.

Like ok, by this logic then an MtF who has long hair, wears dresses, shaves, uses high heels, has long fake lashes and wears make up is more of a woman than an actual woman who has short hair, doesn't shave, doesn't wear make up and prefers to wear comfortable clothing to "hide her womanly curves" (I literally have seen some of them phrase it this way 🤢)

Like ok sir, you don't find most women in their natural state attractive, they don't make your peepee hard, whatver but what does this have to do with religion?

And then they have the audacity to make fun of trans people when they're literally using the same stupid logic! Just with different agendas.

Sorry for filling your inbox whit this rant, it's just that I have been thinking about this topic lately and then I saw that post about life being too short for feminity and your comment about it and I just had to get it out of my system.

Anon you really feel sorry for dropping in my ask box you've been spilling nothing but #facts and you're the best anon I ever received so far😭💙💙🔥🍵

Honestly I'm team #tradmenshutupaboutwomenchallenge at this point. 99% of tradmen on this hellsite give me overweight mouth breather teas, sorry not sorry. They should be quiet, stay in their lane, and stop interacting with tradfem to simp after "ideal feminity". Tradfem aren't out there obsessing around men's look to fit an idea of "ideal masculinity" and shoving themselves into every discussion about them, so why do men feel entitled to do that?

I just CAN'T with these men having sooo many things to say about women, what they should wear, how they should behave, when they're out there, having the audacity to exist doing nothing to improve their own life and work to better themselves & become a fitted husband. Sorry but men bickering over women's look is extremely tacky and I'm shocked that none of the tradfem -that this kind of creature LOVE orbiting around- never had anything to say about it. A shame they enable such typical weirdo around - they only seemingly draw the line at porn blogs lmao The bar is just *that* low.....

Ah yes the famous "just light make up :)" LOL what's the point anyway? don't wear any make up at all if you're hellbent on wearing as little as possible¯\_(ツ)_/¯ You're right on the money babe : one of my biggest turning point in me dropping make up altogether was how disrespectful it was to disfigure God's work like that. If anything, not wearing make up is a good exercise of modesty and humility because it forces us to go beyond our fleshly desire to be appealing. And that's such a liberating experience. Make up is ALWAYS portrayed negatively in the Bible, so it does say everything about what God thinks of it. So weird how tradfem will totally understand such narrative when it comes to polygamy (never displayed as positive + always ended up bad) but suddenly when it's make up, they go Stevie Wonder and be like "just little make up is okay :)" Just a little bit of polygamy is okay, then LMAO

I remember one tradfem in her blog saying that "women not shaving was weird" and my petty self got like "how is women not shaving "weird" but not men?🤔" and she NEVER bothered replying to me lmao

Say what you want about radfem, but they're lowkey right on the money on the fact that some tradfem are actually men identified and rehash male identified code of feminity and pass it off as "biblical feminity". It also explains why tradfem will gloss over male bs to not sound like an angry feminazi but one woman says something remotely harsh against men and 'masculinity is under attack' lol Why femicide and rape stats aren't enough to make you think women are under attack?🤔 see? male identification.

Sorry but cutesy dress aren't any more biblical than comfortable/practical wear. Make up isn't biblical. These tradmen just want a "Christian doll" but a "doll" nonetheless and tradmen are buying right into this fishy narrative.

And yes, these unnecessary strict gender roles are partly responsible for transideology. Female not feeling comfortable with traditional feminine code start to think something is wrong with them and/or that they're not female. Women fetishizing feminity aren't any better than TIM (= trans identified men) doing so. So yeah, it's very ironic to see trads clown trans when trans are a byproduct of this idolization of feminity and compulsive reinforcement of gender roles in an outward way.

Eve didn't have her body hair shaved or plucked eyebrows. She most definitely didn't wear make up or wore fancy dress. And yet, she was the model for womanhood. Let that sink in.

[the-mad-starker]

i feel so awkward asking this but do you know how to find good tony/peter fics on ao3 bc i barely know how to use it 😭

Hello anon! I probably won't do a good job of answering this but I'll try 🥺 adding a cut cause it got kinda long 😳

For me, coming into a new fandom, what I tend to do is search by ship because it's the ship I really go for. Then under filters, I tend to sort based on rating and kudos/comments/bookmarks. This usually gives me the fics that people have read or enjoyed the most.

Some visuals!

Once I have my pairing, I click Filters.

Clicking filters gives you this Lil menu on the right:

I circled sort by because I usually change this part to either kudos/comments/bookmarks. Image of what you see for the drop down menu.

Other things I tend to do is mess with the other filters. The marked green section is all the things you'd want to see in a fic. The marked red section is things you don't want to see in a fic.

There's also a more general search function near the bottom which you can just type whatever you're interested in finding.

I basically play with these by changing the rating, etc. or if there's a specific tag I want to read (ex: alpha/beta/omega dynamics) once you start typing, it'll pop up common tags:

The more you filter, the more precise the fics will be which typically means fewer results 🤔 you can basically play with the settings and get a feel for what fics you want and what fics are available in a fandom. You can even chose to only look at completed fics under More Options.

Also other alternatives!

If you want recs, you can always ask ppl in the fandom 😯 I've gotten a couple asking for specific ones so 😅

Oh! And a good blog to follow for ao3 stuff is:

ao3commentoftheday

I hope this helps and if you have questions or anything, feel free to send em my way and I'll do my best to answer 💗 and if anyone has any other suggestions, feel free to add. This is pretty much how I devour ao3 fics 😅