#anon bhai ki asks

[shut-up-rabert]

Are you a feminist?

Yepp. pls tell me you aren’t going to shame me for that

[vellhighbandi]

Sharmaji (Not Namkeen)

Naam to suna hi hoga (a million apologies for any of the self entitled Sharma's you might have encountered...) Technically speaking intro dena humko aata nahi kyunki hum hai distracted ultra pro max insaan. Bakte bakte kab kahan kis tangent pe nikal jate humko khudko pata nhi hota. The thing is don't be surprised if you randomly find words that don't make sense (they do, just not to you) cause I'm a multilingual insaan with a few words of lotsa languages thrown into my vocabulary making a right khichdi of words and feelings up there. But then again sometimes I don't even understand what's going on up there myself so we can drink to that. (I don't drink. We'll be getting high on jaljeera and air)

As for this blog, it's a metaphysical (is that the right word?) representation of me (I guess?) Not really sure. Definitely this insanity is a part of me. But is not all of me. I mean agar khudko utna accha se jaan hi liya hota to phir zindagi me confusion thori hota. Chale gye hote hum bhi kahin pahado me zindagi ke sach ki khoj me. As for the people I have met here. They are downright amazing. Maane kya hi bataye. Simp karna ho, ya laash thikane lagane ke upaay dhundna ho, they will have my back. (Oh and don't even think of hurting them, you won't just regret it but regret your entire existence. And that's a fucking promise)

Wanna read me turn Lilac's brain children into psychologists horror?

Compromised . Chapters : One, Two, Three.

To coming to the reason why me actually went ahead made this intro post... My tags:-

[cruel-kaya]

Well whoever it is sending stupid anon asks to me at @chand-ki-priyatama kindly stop cause you are really testing my patience with your stupidity l...

@alhad-maharani @shyam-kariya @btw-its-tamanna @dev-das

Sab mere dost hai aur Bhai behen ki tarah hai, aur bahut khatarnak bhi hai

[bandarrrrr]

Oh ho ho Dil toote aashiq!! Khaali 17 ka hai tu, ek ladki ne dil tod diya iska matlb ye nahi ki zindagi khatam hogyi hai. Puri zindagi baaki hai teri. Bahar nikal, duniya dekh. Naye log milenge, naye experiences honge tab pta chalega ki abhi tak duniya kitni choti thi Teri. Bhale kelie bol raha hu bhai. Apna bhai samajh ke bol rha hu, baaki teri blog hai tujhe idhar jo express karna hai kar, par hamesha yaad rakhna ki teri zindagi aur Teri duniya, dono boht badi hai.

Ek taraf bada bhai bol rhe ho aur ek taraf anon par baithe ho, ye kaisi baat hai, also I am trying to see the bigger picture but tbh abhi nhi dikh rha, I have mostly lost people when I was attached to them the most isliye na ab Darr lagta hai naye logo se milne me, connect krne me, attach hone me and the problem when me is I get attached, people say ki attach mat ho but mai ho jaata hu and then they leave and it fucks me badly, meri society me kaafi log hai meri age k like 20-25 log aaram se but mere sirf 2 doost hai puri society me, without them I am all alone kyuki I am no capacity to interact with new people, attachment issues mere ko kaafi Kam age me ho gya tha shayad isliye if someone leaves, I grieve for them nearly my whole life, they always stay in back of my mind all the time!

Bada bhai bol rhe ho to off anon aao, dm me yaa ask me as you wish

[discoveredreality]

Hi!! What’s your fav movie?

omg hi anon!

ty for the ask <3

umm shit idk i don't really watch movies that

ig i liked mean girls and the barbie movie

and intersteller and the matrix

idk

oh and my favourite bollywood movies are munna bhai m.b.b.s and rocky aur rani ki prem kahani

yeah that's it

wow that is not one movie

[orgasming-caterpillar]

Aur behan slut to tu hi hai, slut whore sab tu hi hai. Tere jaisi besharami anons mein bhi nhi hai. Aur hate to milegi hi behan tujhe... harkatein hi aisi hai 😂. Tujhe to tere ghar vale peet te honge tbhi yahan ake cool bnne ki koshish krti tu 🐥

Pehli baat to mai ladka hu. Dusri baat mai khud mere piyakkad baap ko marta hu. Aur teesri baat Besharam to mai hu 🥰🥰🥰 bina matlab khudki marwana band kar bhai and let it be. I left it on a peaceful note and got called slurs for it. Another ask and I will not be decent I'm fr

[deesi-academia]

mnn wahi anon jiski love life fall apart kar rhi

hamne last tuesday se txt nhi kiya tha and baat to kal ek word bh nhi hui. eye contact bh hua but usne hi nhi bola and main ghr aakr bohot royi. ghar mnn toh okay bad bitch bann jaate hain but usko dekh kar itna hurt hota hai.

and kal raat usne ekdum nonchalant wala msg bheja and ek competition ke baare main mujhse poocha and that was it. i gave one word replies bas.

but the weird thing is ye competition ho chuka hai???

and so kal school me main usko confront karungi. bhaad main jaye ye confusion. im going to ask him why hes avoiding me and fucking ruining my life. im going to be ekdum shaant and main simply poochungi ki agar friends nhi rhna toh bhaad mnn jaye.

Bhai did you talk to him? You must clear the air between you guys anyway. He's so confusing pls and they say girls give mixed signals. Ugh.

Let me know how its going?? SENDING STRENGTH AND LOVE AND GEET KI GAALIYAN TO HIM.

[mera-mann-kehne-laga]

to the anon who asked me to answer almost all of those horrible ask questions:

Id skip the inappropriate ones:

Yes have a pretty good one.

I think lilac witch di or Swap bhaiyya

Yes. A lot of things. It's mostly regretting not doing it.

Ofc I am insecure. About a lot of things.

Single by choice

Preferably in sleep (a.k.a the thing I love doing the most)

Peanut butter and chapaati.

I play sports only in school hours uk. Stuff like basketball, football and kho kho

No. I don't.

Yesterday in the evening with my beloathed and beloved sister.

A lot of people lol. I'm a simp with attachment issues.

NEVER. I can't stay up after 12 hi bhai. Going 48 hrs is faar too impossible for me lol

Meri behen.

Yes. a lot of people. Mainly this sundari @tum-se-hi

No. No pets

Sleepy? Even tho I slept for 8 hours.

No I'm not scared of spiders. I just think they're gross and creepy. It's more like eww no.

Yes, who would miss that opportunity? I wouldn't change anything tho. Id just live in that moment and come back.

Pdhai.

Not my own. I'd rather adopt some. Maybe 1 or 2

3 in total

All of them hehe. I'm good at all subjects. SST and maths maybe

mostly frnds I'm no longer in contact with

CHOCOLATE AND COFFEE

No lol. I haven't. I have never had the chance to haha.

Nope

Single since birth

The kids making noise neeche

Im sure many people love me. But I don't think anyone romantically does lol.

Turquoise and Dark blue

no. I don't.

I don't remember. It was about papa or mummy I think.

Meri behna. We share the same room so I cry uske samne quite often.

Yes bcz I'm very forgiving.

It's easier to forgive mere liye toh

So far it's the worst.

51. south indian

yes Everything happens for a reason

Backed up some screenshots to my Google photos

No. It isn't

Idk. Nobody has ever told me that I am.

My one and only sister

Yes. I believe in true love

Rainy weather it is. Actually the weather that's there before its gonna rain heavily. Hawaayein, bijli, baadalon ki gadgadaahat, the black and gray sky, and when the air smells of rain. Fuck I miss Maharashtra.

never seen it irl. I love the idea of it tho.

im not sure. I think no. I don't wanna get married. Maybe it'd change with time. Who knows. lol

Already answered

Many things. Books, cute movies, music, and also seeing others happy (mostly little babies and kids smiling), a pretty sky, the moon, sunsets, trees and birds in the evening etc etc.

No. I would never change it.

65 already answered

I act my complete self around all of my friends lol no matter how close I am with them. I don't have a close guy friend. I had one 3 yrs back but he now lives in a diff state.

Online, it was the Tele guy I keep ranting about. In person it was a classmate 2 days back.

I'm not a deep convo person actually. I rarely have such convos. I think it was the guy friend from (66). We talked online.

Yep I do.

meri bhn

[daughterofruins]

Movie recommendations

Umm hi idk what you've watched or not but here it is

Hollywood:-

1. 10 THINGS I HATE ABOUT YOU

This movie is so good and just..it's perfect, it shows the whole enemies to lovers thing so well and i just love it so much

2. YOU'VE GOT MAIL.

Just.the best movie ever. Watch it. Trust me you won't regret it.

3.PRETTY WOMAN

Again, epic classic. Deserves every ounce of fame it has received because damn! The whole 'i wasn't supposed to fall in love with you' troupe serves so well!

4. PRINCESS DIARIES both but the second one specifically because Anne Slay Queen Hathaway ate and left no crumbs

5. FOOLS RUSH IN

GOD THIS MOVIE HAS SO MANY REASONS FIRST MATTHEW PERRY MAN HE JUST NAILS IT AND C'MON DUDE IT HAS SALMA HAYEK WHAT MORE DO YOU NEED

but seriously it serves the whole i love you and want you but I'm strong enough to survive on my own trope so well aaah God I love it!

Okay now, BOLLYWOOD:-

This list could go on, but I'll just give you my comfort ones

1. MOHABBATEIN

Need I say more? SRK as Raj Aryan in oversized blazers and warm sweaters is a treat to the eye I don't take constructive criticism okay and plus the students arw their romances the "darwaza tod do" scene the mean evil BigB scene Godd perfection!

2. KABHI KHUSHI KABHI GAM

Please srk kajol rocked this movie especially after ddlj it was perfect. Kajol served the "talks too much" girl like she was meant for it and the banter the dialogues the songs God perfect. I especially love the "paise ke ameer dil ke gareeb kabhi na jaayein Eshwar ke karerb" part so much. Plus Kareena and Hritik has such amazing chemistry

and the dadi dies so they all live happily ever after

3. DILWALE DULHANIYA LE JAYENGE

THIS MOVIE IS THE IN LOVE MOVIE. IT ACTUALLY SERVES THE "COME FALL IN LOVE" IT HAS WRITTEN ON IT'S POSTERS I KNOW WHAT IT FEELS LIKE TO CONSTANTLY WANT PARENTAL APPROVAL AND ALWAYS CHANGE JUST TO MAKE SURE MY PARENTS ARE HAPPY AND ITS SO FREAKING GOOD ITS SO NICE IT'S COMFORT ITS-

4. JAB WE MET

Comfort movie 2.0

Waise toh sab mujhe is movie ki Geet bulatein hain lekin baat ye hai ki mujhe Aditya abhi tak nahi mila aur mera Aditya na, I'm sure, marr raha hoga kahin kyunki use mai nahi mili lekin kismat ki baat hai-

Overall, jao yeh movie dekho. ABHI.

5. Okay this one's pretty new but DILWALE

Seeing srk kajol share screen after so long was just pure bliss and srk as a don? Dude who did this casting it's heaven personified and kajol as evil mean woman? And the 5 minute date? Bhai mujhe le chalo paanch minute ke date pe mai saath janam peecha na chodun (iykyk)

Thats it. I have loads more for bollywood tho, so drop in and ask anytime. Also, tell me your reviews about them. Love ya anon!

[jalebi-likes]

Hello AJ. Shy anon here.

So I saw your answer for the overrated/underrated actors ask and I absolutely loved it and I felt like asking a similar question of my own but I'm going to keep it within tellywood.

So could you please tell us some of your all time favorite supporting characters from tellywood shows? It can be any show, old or new and the significance or length of the role doesn't matter. Anyone except for the lead hero heroine/parellel leads are fair game . I just want to know the characters you've loved.

And as always this ask is meant to be fun so if you find it too time consuming or taxing then please feel free to ignore.

Bye 🥰

Hello my dearest Shy Anon!

Thank you so much! Feel free to ask as many questions as you want - you always brighten my day!

Here is my list :D (In no particular order)

Favorite Side Characters in Hindi Television

1) Rosesh Sarabhai. That guy’s poetry - khatarakhun khatarkhun khatarkun, mere dil ki awaz sun... 

(Also love him because he’s literally a secret lover of Hindi soap operas, a hidden shipper of his dearest Sahil bhai and Monisha bhabhi, and is actually a wonderfully ethical and morally right human being! He is sometimes just a wholesome bean who loves his mother the most and takes pride in being part of terrible dramas. Protect this bean at all costs).

2) Kinjal from Anupama

I do not really watch this show except for her bits. She’s progressive, beautifully so and shows that not all children are blind followers of their parents. She loves her mother and mother in law the same, does not hesitate to call out her mum’s and husband’s hypocrisies and makes it very clear that she’s a woman first - everything else later. I’d love a show about this absolute champ! 

3) Benji from Miley Jab Hum Tum

We all love the main six but Benji - man this guy’s comedy, humor, a classic sidekick and constant friend to Samrat. I have always laughed when he’s on screen. He loves, he has the youthful recklessness and if you’d ever want anyone on your team - it is Benji. He is the harmless flirt who’s often down on his luck but this man can totally lay his life down for his best friend. Trust me when I say I really missed him in the second half of the show. His absence was felt. 

4) NK from Iss Pyaar Ko Kya Naam Doon?

Ok, he was overused towards the end of the show but I just loved him in combination. He was gold with Akash-Arnav as well as with Buaji. I could watch the New Year episodes on repeat. (I’m not the biggest fan of the jealousy part - he’s just hilarious otherwise). Fun, wholesome, Khushi’s ultimate supporter and one of the only people who isn’t intimidated by Arnav and doesn’t hesitate from telling him on his face “BUDDY YOU LOVE HER AND YOU SCREWED UP”. @ridzmystique ka husband and an absolutely darling.

5) Kusum from Shaadi Mubarak

KUSUM DI IS EVERYTHING AND SHE WAS THE PLOT AND THE MAIN STUFF OF THE SHOW. THE MOST WHOLESOME WOMAN WHO IS A GREAT WOMAN, A PURE FEMINIST AND A HARDCORE ROMANTIC (AND THE BIGGEST FAN OF HER KT-SA). This is a great character who got lost in a terrible show. This woman deserves her own show. I want to see her life. How she had a happy marriage, raised wonderful kids, loved and lost but doesn’t let life get her. @m0hinii I know you were heartbroken over this *sigh*

I’m sure there must be many more but these five are the ones I can remember at the top of my head.

Thank you so much for asking.

Love,

- AJ

[shut-up-rabert]

Do you think the Aryan Invasion Theory is true? I watching Mahabharata (star plus) and they kept using Aryavarta which reminded me of the Aryan race that Hilter used and so I did a little research and obviously he had no idea what he was talking about but what I found on the theory was a bit unsettling. I always believed that Hinduism/Sanskrit/Vedas originated in India (Indus Valley) but this theory seems to have genetic research to support it and it set off my whole belief system and gave me an identity crisis for some reason

Well, I am not really big on this theory because it has zilch proof to it as far as I have seen, only theories.

A simplified take on the same is the Indian Express article on Rakhigarhi excavation.

Other than that, there was this lengthy India Today article on the same excavation that gave me a headache because it won’t go to the fucking point, but I suppose it is in favour of the theory? I don’t know man, it’s fucking long and I did not read it all, just understood that IVC people from 4500 were native and that apparently we have outsider DNA.

There is no proof of any migration other than those based on change in genetic make up, a more plausible theory of which I explain later.

The interesting thing is, that the said Aryan invasion Theory first pinned us to be central asians from 1500BC and now we are Iranian farmers. It completely ignores the fact that Indians have little genes in common with Europeans who we supposedly come from moreso with South Indians (and I mean much more, we have almost the same gene combination except a few), and seems as if the India today article, based on the same premise of “Aryans had this one gene (r1 to be more specific) common with Iranians that Indus people did not have” fails to realise that people from the northwest of Indian subcontinent can have common genes with the bordering land for other reasons aswell because no shit sherlock, people fuck💀

I mean, how else do you explain the much higher genetic connection to south indians?

Another factor they use for the theory is the simultaneous developement of modern day Hinduism and Zorastrianism, but that too can be chalked upto influence rather than migration, given that Hinduism is actually older by a little margin (oldest living religion) and for the theory to be true, the migration should have gone westward instead.

Heck, the influence thing can easily exclude the theory altogther, because Iran is close to what are now the areas of IVC, and them slowly influencing the culture during or after IVC when they became more civil, (in 4000BC) or us doing the same, or even intermixing of the two will make more sense than AIT.

The migration of these Aryans cannot be proven otherwise aswell because there lies no proof for same. Literally none. The archeologist in the India today article and few others uphold it yet are unable to prove it beyond circumstantial evidence that makes more sense when turned against the theory rather than its favour, like the Iranian thing I mentioned. It might also very well be a migration to eastwards in Hind from the western part, because the Vedas were written before the supposed “Vedic Aryan invaders” happened and they are clearly neither Monotheistic nor Tribal, and align more with the Indic religions, so I digress they came from Central Asia or Iran.

Plus, the Vedas were written by the "aryans" on banks of saraswati, and the saraswati dried up centuries before they "destroyed IVC and took over". Another interesting thing is that Saraswati flew through the IVC sooooo.... yeah, maybe it all can be summed up to people fucking🫠

The thing is, we are locals, this culture was very much developed here on this land. Vedas, Sanskrit, Sanatan, there is a reason you do not see traces of them elsewhere, and I am certain this theory is BS because of the little I have read, because it has nothing to prove for itself.

But other than that, this particular subject was never of my interest because of how lengthy it was, and I fucking sucked at history, so may I suggest asking others who do think of this topic as often. I only know @tiananmen-square-orgy to be my nerdy mutual on this topic, and if finnie cannot help you I'll try geting you connected to a friend who is not on tumblr yet can help becuase of his extensive knowledge.

[sly-merlin]

That one worried anon is so precious omg, adding onto them, I'm literally half European living with Indians, it was always difficult suiting in when people couldn't move further from making fun of my name, coz it's oddly long and difficult to pronounce. They often had several misconceptions, and my hindi initially was so bad, i can cry thinking about it lmao, but who can explain the ways of respect to 2nd graders or 1st graders. I'm also an atheist, an extremely weird option while in a convent+

School, and a highly religiously diverse country, the dynamics of not following a religion is so constricted here that oof lord. Also the fascination people here with "Gore ladkiya" (white women) is creepy, i may not look white, but my mom does, and the guys here have an odd infatuation with it, now imagine lol. I mostly became introverted for a reason as to because, everyone sort of wanted to be my friend, for the upliftment of their status if it makes sense. Like i was a trophy they felt +

Proud of, oof. And yes simmi di you a wise queen, educating comes top in this, you can't know the intentions sometimes, and you can't jump into conclusion, it could've been smtg else entirely. I for example, when people ask, do Russian drink vodka in place of water, i will say stfu no, then I'll say be careful with alcohol we do not. Or if someone from Russia asks, do all Indians live in houses with 300 kids, i will say stfu, no we have pretty normal families. It is how it is 

 i wish i had met you when you were little bee!

i 100 % agree with all these things. being a poc and non-poc..both is rather difficult here! you were a kid at that time and it was such a difficult experience for you and i cant even think what your mumma must have felt!  you two are so brave! 

my upbringing is totally religious like sikh school and all and i loved being there but my system shuts down when people use religion to create toxic environment. you live here and you know wt i’m talking abt babes! here , you are not born a human but in a religion. humanity gyi tail(oil lmao) lene! bhai if you are of my religion , then okey dokey or else i’ll categorise you into outsider category! 

and the infatuation with white culture is so sick like my mum is dark brown and i’m a mixture of light and dark and whenevr my muma used to pick me up from school , everyone was like - is she your mom? i was a stupid naive kid till 10th so i thought maybe they say it because she has that intimidating aura around here and i look like a silly fool who lost her candy! but then i understood those bloody hell kids used to compare our skin colour and it had happened in collge as well. lmao the law students are being racist ,even if we say unintentionally, i have no hope in anyone. i befriended the only muslim junior in our college and everyone was like hayee you talk to her! how is she? dickheads! she’s a human , talk and find out!😂

i cant imagine you being an intovert! you are my fluffy cloud , peak extrovert energy . fuck those people for making you feel this way and you are a proud atheist! You are still a better human being than them . Ma golden human being🥺

whoever says anything harsh , we can file a lawsuit and clean their bank deposits(do it the cooler way!)😂

 follow wtever u want! bloody nobody has right to say anything to you! 

and what kind of soulmate are you??? i dont know your real name!! 

and who replaces vodka with water yrr..yeh toh matlb nihayti bakwaas hai...aur 300 kids! india has only one family with these many kids and they are in mizoram i guess...around 150 members in that family! 300 is too much...logic ki vaat lgi padhi hai duniya me😂

[tellywoodtrash]

status update:

So, I got a few friendly, good-natured asks on how I was doing, and what’s up with my life (work, Chandler, etc.), so I suppose this is as good a time to tell everyone: I quit my job earlier this week.

Early followers of the blog may be aware that this blog started as an attempt to find some kinda peace during some very trying times in my life. Since then, I’ve been burning the candle at both ends (I guess, in some kinda misguided attempt to move on with life) and... it’s finally caught up with me. I’m fucking exhausted and at a breaking point. Physically. Mentally. Emotionally. ('Spiritually. Ecumenically. Grammatically.' Name that movie!) And so, I'm giving myself a break and am going to be taking some time off to focus on my mental health.

However, this hasn’t been an easy decision to make, as it means bye-bye financial independence and my ~~riproaring Sex And The City life (snort, NOT) and that I will now have to pack up my entire life and leave the country I (and Chandler!) call home. So the next few days will be even rougher; full of transition and second-guessing myself. But in the long run, I think I need to do this now before things get much worse.

Poor Chandler has no idea what’s coming up; that he’s about to be unceremoniously stuffed into a box and flown many thousand miles to a whole new country, with strange new smells and creatures (including my relatives who will want to come around every now and then and friendly-ly harass our socially anxious butts.) I just hope we both survive this move!

As for what it means for the blog, it’ll mostly be business as usual, I suppose. I will have more free time, but it’s going to be invested in moving, and settling in, and recovery (first I have to recover from the moving and settling in, and only then can I focus on *actual* recovery) so... I’ll do as much as I can. Yes, there's lots of new shows, most of them better than IB, and I might wanna watch them too, but.... idk, I don't seem to have it in me right now to get invested in a whole... new.... thing. We'll see once I'm properly settled into a restful routine where I don't feel so battered in the brain. On the plus side, moving to India means proper access to Hotstar and Sony Liv and alllllllll the platforms; I won’t have to jump through hoops and diddle around with VPNs to access what I wanna watch! Yaaaaaaay!

There are a few things blog-wise that I just have to address though, because they’re srsly stressing me out a lot lately:

Messages asking me to explain WHY stakeholders in the industry (actors, makers, the channel) make the decisions they do. Bhai main kahan un sab ke ghar ya boardroom mein ghussi baithi hoon, ki mujhe pakka pata hoga???? All I can do is speculate like the rest of you. Which is what I do. I look at the facts that I do have (social media posts, TRP reports, etc.) and put out MY theory. But it’s all it is. A theory. I do not have any kind of information that you also do not have access to. Asking me to explain the inner workings of complete strangers' minds is just nonsensical. I do not have the complete information based on which I can give you an accurate answer. So please just stop asking me these. At this point, idek why *I* do half the things I do, let alone have any surety of anyone else’s decisions.

Complaints. Look, all of us have complaints about the shitshow that is IB, and the Tellywood industry at large, and its affairs both off-screen and on-screen. But just think of my plight when news breaks/an episode airs and I get like 10 anons in an hour, most of which are filled with cribbing. OVER SOMETHING I DON’T HAVE ANY CONTROL. You have all the right to complain, sure, but not IN MY INBOX. I only publish about 30 - 40% of the asks that I actually do receive, and because of that you may think that you’re the only person sending in this to me; but trust that more often that not, you’re not. I most probably have already received least 5 messages about it, in varying degrees of negative, and it’s exhaaaaaausting for me to wade through it all.

"Asks” that are just STATEMENTS, with no real question to them. I get these and whether I agree with your statement or not, my only reaction is “.... haan, toh???” What really is the point of these? I have nothing to contribute to them. It’s just YOU deciding that your opinion is sooooooo important that you must come tell ME it. In my inbox. On anon. Which is not just stupid, but also RUDE af. What you're doing is the equivalent of going and ringing the doorbell of a stranger's house and monologuing in their face about a random topic when they open the door. Like, I literally did not ask?????? Especially since you’re on anon and I have absolutely no personal equation with you. By having an open inbox, I didn't consent to being the receptacle of every opinion wrt Tellywood under the sun. Like, the whole point of this blog is so I can shout MY dumbass opinions into the void that is the internet without bothering anyone else about things they might not care about/agree with. Anyone who follows/engages with me is here by THEIR choice. Why don’t you do the same? Go make your own blog, instead of using mine. There’s only place for one person here on this blog, and that’s me. Please read your messages before sending them and ask yourselves: Does my tone/content leave anything open for discussion? (FYI: Just putting a question mark at the end of a sentence does not make an engaging question that opens up a discussion.) What contribution am I inviting from the recipient with this message? If the answer is “no”/"nothing", then please don't send it.

The rise of combative and contrary asks; ones that don't come out of a genuine curiosity, but with the intent to mindlessly argue, talk in circles without a point and overall, and just belittle the opinions I’ve expressed by engaging in whataboutery. There's a point at which "healthy discussion" ends, and "debating" starts, and I’m not here to engage in Debate Hour. The open askbox (or replies function) is NOT an invitation to pick at ONE sentence of some post (often missing the context; those other sentences are there for a reason y'know) and demand explanations from me, for which I have to then bend over backwards to clarify to some random faceless person on the internet. Not only does it take tremendous amounts of time and energy (for what is largely a pointless endevour: these people aren't really here to have an exchange of ideas or even try to see my point of view, they're just trying to force THEIR contrary opinion ON me), it really sucks the joy out of the blog for me. Look, I am not an idiot. I can correlate writing patterns and associate them with previously seen comments/opinions and make educated guesses on who these may be coming from. I've been holding off on blocking anyone yet, but these comments and asks have me seriously considering it. (And FYI: blocking an anon blocks you via IP address. So don't think ki 'oh ho ho, I can just hide under the anon function, coz that has no consequences.' All you'd be doing is proving my guesses right, as to who is whom.) I don't WANT TO go to such extents, and want this still to be a place where people can approach me, but this gross disrespect of my time and boundaries is beginning to wear on me now. Before coming at me, please think to yourself if what you're saying is actually necessary. If it's just a passive-aggressive counter-argument to my opinion that's all conjecture/opinion (i. e. things without factual basis and based on feelings) then please; you're very welcome to whatever you believe, but I don't care. If I wanted your opinion, I’d ask for it. If I care for your opinion, I will engage with your posts (by liking or commenting or reblogging or sending you my love in your inbox.) I just really really don’t care what anyone's opinion ON MY OPINION is. Please stop being contrary just the sake of it and ruining my day and mood. Go chronicle your opinions on your blog/twitter/whatever, instead of using MY blog as a platform and arm-twisting me into participating in this unpleasant exchange. I just don't have have the energy or interest to engage in this fuckery anymore.

Look you guys, I love getting stuff in the askbox. I do. If I didn’t, I’d just have closed the askbox and called it a day. I’m just asking that you be a little THOUGHTFUL about the recipient, me, AS AN ACTUAL LIVING PERSON WITH FEELINGS AND A LIMITED AMOUNT OF ENERGY AND TIME, instead of some kinda faceless robot who just processes your messages in binary and spits out an answer. Before engaging, please re-read your message to consider your tone and content and the impact on the person on the other end. Despite this request, if you just decide to engage in the above mentioned ways, I’m sorry in advance if you end up getting blocked; but things have reached a point where I have to look out for myself, and my comfort, and what I want from this space. I would like this blog to be source of joy in my (and others’!) life, not something that I feel resentful about, or as a source of draining what little energy I have left.

Sooooooo, that’s how it is! Things should be the same around here barring some periods of inactivity occasionally due to moving/spotty internet (but the queue should be running anyway.) A lot less negativity and gloom, hopefully! Wish me (and Chandler!!!!!) luck and please send us all your good, restful, soft and fluffy vibes!

(The restful slumber of a poor fluffy bastard who has NOOOOOOOOO idea of what the next few weeks have in store for him.)

[shut-up-rabert]

"Centrist starter pack"

*tries to justify literal fascism*

*uses logically fallacies and whataboutism*

*both sides are bad*

The moment you equated right wing with fascism right wing, I knew just how politically educated you are.

If you still think we are fencesitters or something, we are not.

Everyone who does not agree with your "things are just as my narrow perception sees them and the issues I chose to ignore are not important" ideology is not a fascist sympathisers. Sometimes it is as simple as that you are fucking wrong.

Like you were on Iran revolution

Like you were when you gave Cuba to socialism

Like when you were in any instance involving communism

Like you were when you decided to pardon a history of tyranny in anything involving Jews or muslims

Like you were when you decided that burning people's livelihoods in BLM was not bad.

Your ideology is just as flawed because of the same reasons right wing is, you fuckers don't logically know when to call quits. You have your head so far up your asses that you cannot think straight and accept criticism.

Now tell me, is any of this whataboutism to you?

Both ideologies are not bad tbh, both have good principles if you look, values for both can work great together if not taken to the extreme.

People of both sides suck ass, though. Wanna know why? Because you guys do just that, take it to the extreme and refuse to hear dissent and ruin stuff, have you seen the trans age bullshit on twitter? ( "But it is not all of us, it is not our ideology" Yeah, and every right winger is not fascist, it is not part of their ideology, welcome to the real fucking world)

Y'all really like to call out right wing extremism but then go on and pull the same shit; assert your opinion, bully people who do not agree, hurt people and ignore those who have reasons to believe otherwise. The difference is that you interchange the groups of victims and perpetrators.

It does not matter what way the cyclone rotates, its still a fucking cyclone.

Centrist thinks both side are okay, what they don't think is that people on both sides are fine because you guys are both going to ruin humanity from two different sides, and we sit in the middle hoping we go last.

[shut-up-rabert]

Is bjp truly the reason why communal riots started in Manipur??

Nope.

Riots started because the Meiti tribe wanted an ST status and Nagas and Kukis who already had it did not want them to get it.

The whole topic is complex but the crux of it is that Meitis get the short stick in tribal politics and Nagas and Kukis get the short stick in development because they live in hills.

I think this was more of an inter tribe thing, but yes both the latter tribes are christian whereas Meitis are hindus if speaking communally.

The former wanted it to be able to preserve their culture, which is in danger with the rising evangelical and tribal sentiment in the other two (it is alleged that they have refugees of similar identities from Myanmar inflating their numbers)

The latter fears that Meiti will get a bigger stack in development than they already do.

Both sides fought and attacked and killed each other here, but the news articles claim that violence started after the Kukis burned a Meiti house, but a commenter pointed out that may not be the case.

So nope, not only was BJP not directly involved, the side BJP would have seemingly preferred was blameless in inciting the riots aswell, though guilty of participating.

[shut-up-rabert]

how do you find unbiased sources about the historical events/political events? do you just read all the newspapers? could you mention some sites/places you get your info from? i'm interested in knowing all perspective and deciding for myself, but ugh its hard when biased media and prejudice is all around

Hindustan times is a good enough source, the news is reported by minute on their yt channel so there's not much scope for favourable editing, although I feel like there might be some BJP bias there (idk,might be the cautionary within me speaking). Wion and surprisingly firstpost are good aswell these days, but you need to know that unbiased news sources tend to leave some corners uncovered.

For making up for those, I look at biased sights next, I read the same article from Print or Quint and Op India or Swarajya (worrying how the sites that clearly claim to favour right still deliver more aspects of news than those claiming to be neutral, tbh)

Watching leaning channels like Mohak (liberal) and Sham Sharma (right) helps aswell. Dhruv and Akaash are all BS not to mention, they deliberately hide stuff and present things in a way that changes the entire meaning. Although right wing channels like AKTK, String, and again, Sham are great if you are trying to put things in perispective, especially the last one since he acknowledges the whole issues and never leaves stones unturned to favour his side. (Well, neither do the other two, they are very thorough with their research, String is outright impressive in debunking the propagated narrative of the left. Its just that they favour right too much to not be considered a bit too politically motivated, even though they are correct and don't pull the cheap tricks Banerjee and Dhruv do)

Other than that, if I come across a claim like "abc attacked xyz" or other such stuff from past, the first thing I do is search it up on wikipedia, they are biased but cannot lie about the timeline and such of incidents. From there you get a lead and can search up with required keywords.

As for claims of present day incidents not on wikipedia, search up and look at articles from newspapers and live news that reported the whole thing. When it comes to newspapers, how it is worded might vary, some may be vague enough to not name who started it or how it happened, but the subsequent sequences will make it clear. And if it does not, that too can be sorted.

One example is:

"The group of attackers killed 100 people, and inflammatory slogans were chanted. In retaliation, following this the mob from xyz community attacked"

Now search up with words "attackers kill 100 people and chant religious slogans" and you will see a biased news sight or live news portal give you the names of who these attackers were. From there you can construct your own timeline.

Sometimes, Quora too can prove to be useful.

This is all I can think of for now, if yoy need more feel free to hmu in DMs again <3