#you have codependency issues

[tardxsblues]

Doctor Who || 9.04 Before the Flood

[starburstminibot]

Transformers ARK! The Twins

Sunstreaker, the self-proclaimed "eldest" of the two is cocky and egotistical. Most bots find him hard to approach so they simply steer clear. He takes great pride in his unstable reputation, and wouldn't be caught dead doing anything to break character. The only bot who seems to be able to put up with him is his twin, Sideswipe. And even though the two are rarely apart, they sometimes seem to barely even like each other. Despite preferring isolation, Sunstreaker has always been secretly jealous of how easily Sideswipe can make friends, and how other bots like his brother over him.

Sideswipe, while just as aggressive at times, can be much more relaxed and playful than his brother. He's funny and friendly, and can quickly gain favor with others. It's unfortunate that most bots are too scared to approach him considering who he's always hanging out with. Sometimes Sideswipe is resentful of the shadow he's constantly living in, and wishes Sunstreaker wasn't setting the standards of what bots grow to expect of him.

It would probably help both of their insecurities if they weren't so codependent, but no one's had the guts to try and tell them that yet.

[beanghostprincess]

Do you think shuggy ever gets possessive over one another?

Definitely. Undoubtedly. And it goes both ways.

I believe the most obvious answer would be saying Shanks is the possessive one because, you know, have you seen the rizz this clown has to always attract people? Cross Guild??? So Shanks gets jealous easily but I don't think he actively shows it because he wants to keep things peaceful and he truly does not want Buggy to get angry at him for this. So it's small, subtle moves that let others know Shanks is possessive over Buggy but without making Buggy notice.

On the other hand, Buggy is way more explicit with that. Shanks is just too nice. It doesn't mean he flirts with everyone he meets but he just has a flirty personality and it does look like that when he's being polite, plus, for some reason every girl wants to fuck Shanks. That man looks disgusting and very gay to me, but whatever the female gaze wants, idk-- And Buggy is more the type to get angry at Shanks and yell at him about it and quickly drag him away from any flirtatious conversation, but Shanks kind of sort of likes it, ngl. ("Awww you want me only for yourself, Bugs?" / "Shut the fuck up")

But this doesn't only happen romantically and I doubt you meant it only in that way. I was saving my favorite thing for last.

I think they were possessive of each other since they were kids. You know. Always being together and clinging to each other constantly. Never being without the other. They of course argue but they always have this "he should be with me" sensation when the other is with someone else because it just doesn't feel right to be apart from him. They have also always been possessive in the way of like-- Not the "you're mine" sort of thing but "we belong together, that's how it always has been". On the battlefield too, btw, if you touch one of them you will probably end up dead because they're just that protective (Shanks does it in a more obvious way and Buggy could kill someone to protect Shanks but he would blame Shanks anyway and say he didn't do it because of him when he totally did).

There's just something about them now that screams how they want to go back to the way things used to be when they could live in their own bubble together, only the two of them. And there's this clear possessiveness because their love is only theirs and no one else's. And I believe them to be extremely protective in all stages of their relationship. When they were kids. When they were teenagers. Even when they were fighting. And even more, if they date again.

By the way, I just had the most adorable thought about lil kids Shuggy being this possessive. A little headcanon-- Roger always playing with them and showering them with love because of course he did, and he used to hold Buggy and go "He's mine!!! <33 My ray of sunshine!!" and Shanks instantly got so possessive and angry going "No!!! Mine!!" and Roger kept joking about it until Shanks cried and he had to let go of Buggy if he didn't want the kid to have a whole breakdown about it (Buggy didn't give a single fuck btw he liked to be with Rayleigh better).

[langfield]

safiya/max :

- canonically obsessed with each other. vinh says that safi couldn’t shut up about max, and they spend almost every day attached at the hip

- both clearly mourning their ‘soulmate’ aka codependent girl best friend and are finally thriving because they’ve recreated that relationship via its foundation

- safi picked up max the day she arrived at caledon and they’ve been close since

- secret keepers. they don’t know anything about each other because direct questions get cagey responses, thus they snoop and dance around one another instead

- max had a piece of safi inside her and it was in her heart and it didn’t hurt her. safi laments about not wanting to remove it. need i say more?

- physically intimate in ways that are explicitly romantic …

- god complex meets chronic survivor’s guilt. themes of godhood and girlhood <3 yay

- safi said max caulfield if you don’t agree to wait for me i’ll probably ruin your life down the line because i’m obsessed with you btw. if you care

- and max said idc that safi hurt all those people because i fixed it! so the crimes are okay now yknow

max/vinh :

- max is super ( & embarrassingly so ) attracted to vinh that it’s brought up three seperate times … canonically has thought about kissing him, finds his shirtless mirror selfie hot, and thinks about how she’d be distracted by vinh nude

- vinh was extremely jealous of max when she and safi got close

- dysfunctional coping meets even more dysfunctional coping. they’re drinking on the job and vinh’s already dropping the ‘i like you’ bomb

- very quick obsessive attachment on vinh’s end … is reeling from safi’s death and clings to max like a life line

- ( will totally discard his character development and mope actively if max rejects him. petty! max likes that in a person )

- despite her best efforts max feels guilty about kissing safi’s totally not ex and reggie’s totally not boyfriend and tries to excuse her actions. doesn’t really work <3

- vinh tells max at every opportunity he is a bottom and max is like :) as she proceeds to fluster him into oblivion

- when vinh acts clingy, max doesn’t chide him or discourage him really. she loves clingy people. especially clingy people she’s kissed.

- he is a bisexual whore who is now enjoying the basic intimacies of hand holding and chaste kisses and maybe having a serious relationship. max is also tickled by their little moments and is eager to actually start healing … for real this time!!

safiya/vinh :

- maya and safi were up each other’s asses, meanwhile vinh was trailing after them like a helpless lost puppy

- safiya and vinh have fucked. probably more than once! and it was probably a miserable, horrific experience every time

- vinh is obsessed with safi and not only does he keep pictures of her in his phone he’s also willing to do everything and anything to spare her pain she doesn’t need or something

- canonically stated that safi doesn’t care about vinh but boy does she love to dress up as him! he also has a piece of her with him but safi’s not thinking about that

- four plus years of history

- safi’s mom added herself to their relationship and that sure … added to their dynamic!

- whatever they feel for each other is complex and full of contradictions … on behalf of them both having horrible issues with their respective identities and an aversion to being vulnerable with others

- ( on that note, the two share a lot of similarities that forced them apart rather than brought them together )

- safi’s eager to try on her vinh cosplay if it means she can romance or fuck max <3

[corner-collects-rocks]

what do we think the consequences are gonna be for the downfall of the ravens? while i understand there was no way the nest couldve stayed under tetsujis command, now that its falling apart whats gonna happen on the main family’s end? the ravens games + evermore were used for main family business as well as branch family business (ie, nathan dismembering a guy in front of kevin neil and riko, the raven vs foxes game). like the moriyamas have their own box for doing business out of evermore. So with the ravens falling apart they cannot have games like this therefore, no more big meetings at evermore. while no one is to blame for this but tetsuji and his really fucked up coaching practices and what he did to the ravens in the nest, i cant help but wonder if neil will face at least some consequences for this. like he was the one who pointed out what riko was doing and how tetsuji was facilitating it. or tbh i would love tetsuji to face the consequences of his actions bc he isnt rn.

anygays! i hope this gets addressed in one of the future books bc i think it would be silly and im curious to see how ichirou handles punishment and such. he seems like a logical guy and really if he is then the blame should be all tetsujis, maybe neil’s first paycheck goes entirely to the moriyama clan as like “collateral damage” tax or smth? idk just some food for thought!!

[winepresswrath]

Armand's simpering little "and I never have" has taken on new dimensions for me. Technicality king and also I think very in keeping with his whole malign fairy creature deal. You can tell him not to hurt the bae, but you should really specify what "hurt" entails. Is chopping someone's hands off really hurting them? If they have annoyed you very much I mean.

-questions Armand might pose to Lestat that inspire him to leave the country

[nenoname]

with bill directly sowing “trust no one” into ford's mind, i'm losing it over the stan twins parallel of taking their abusers "advice" to heart (for stan the concept of toxic masculinity/tough love when we know he was thrown out) and unfortunately passing it down to dipper, someone they both project heavily on to

(but at least in ford's case he learns that his abuser was wrong and gains his own stance on how trust works, but with stan he and dipper never really got to understand how messed up it was…)

[crimeronan]

eternally fond of writing princess luz and hunter's relationship because it's mostly just hunter going "honestly i'm really lucky. most people never find someone they want to kill and die for forever at any given moment. i don't know why i'd ever get upset about being so loyal to you that i will unquestioningly let you kill me to death" while luz is like [actively crying with gratitude] "you are so fucking crazy. stop being nice to me."

[wildstar25]

How much does your OC's background and origin affect their approach to relationships? Are there specific insecurities or preferences that lead on from their past?

I would say Arsay's background- a sole miqo'te abandoned by her parents to be raised on a tiny lalafell inhabited island in the middle of the south seas- absolutely had a huge impact to how she goes about her relationships.

She desperately wants to feel like she matters to others, that she's someone who can't be easily forgotten about or left behind. At the same time she has a very hard time shaking off the feeling like shes a burden to those around her. She's internalized a lot of guilt over the fact that Emrara Emra had to give up their dreams in order to raise her. It's often without thinking that Arsay to dismisses her own wants and needs in favour of tending to the person/people she cares about. She has to feel like she's of use to them or she doesn't feel like she deserves their time/affection (and fears that they will leave and forget her)

The reason why G'raha and Y'shtola work so well for Arsay is that they both counteract those big insecurities quite regularly.

G'raha proved time and again how much he thinks about Arsay. He couldn't forget her no matter how much time passed in the 8th calamity timeline or in the First. He is always the first to chime in with how valuable he thinks she is and how her skills set her apart from anyone else hes ever met. He wants to be burdened by her, he wants to be as important to her as she is to him. Meanwhile, Y'shtola provides Arsay with assurance honestly just by being there. If Shtola didn't want Arsay around she would have made it absolutely clear. And like G'raha, Y'shtola has always made it clear that she does not want Arsay to hide things from her nor does she want Arsay to take on the world by herself. She's always looking out for Arsay just as much as Arsay is looking out for her.

Beyond that, it's telling that Arsay ended up with two Miqo'te who -like her- was given up by their birth family for one reason or another and raised far from the traditional miqo'te norm. Obviously Raha and Shtola had some early childhood within their tribes but their formative years were outside of that. Arsay always wanted to find someone she could really connect and feel comfortable with and that's what she did!

[lucky-clover-gazette]

Volo of the Ginkgo Guild

(Part 3 of The Outsider, Chapter 2/4, 2933 words)

In his mind, it had gone like this: He’d threatened abandonment, not thinking of how it would make the outsider feel, and it had upset her. Jubilife Village was the closest thing she had to a home in Hisui—it must have be distressing to imagine Volo submitting himself to voluntary exile. He’d recognized this, felt regret for his misstep, and verbally apologized. What more could he have possibly said, to leave her sufficiently consoled? The outsider nuzzled against Volo’s chest, finding comfort in their physical closeness. Precious, he thought, as he tucked a strand of hair behind her ear. “Rest assured,” he hummed, “I would very much prefer to keep you by my side.” The outsider pulled away. Something flickered behind her eyes, but she still did not speak. “I will make no promises regarding the Galaxy Team,” Volo concluded, “but I agree to attend this interview, at least.” “Good,” said the outsider. “I don’t want you to join because of me.” He narrowed his eyes. For what other reason would I— “I know you don’t believe it now, but there are people in this place worth knowing. And the work itself is interesting and meaningful. I hope you let yourself see it, once you’re there.” More quietly, she added, “I think you’d be surprised by how much you could belong.” Volo didn’t know how to respond to that.

[arbitrarycategories]

bout to fuck around and give my reverse robins reverse coping mechanisms <3 they are equally unhealthy

[born-to-lose]

Why the fuck did I skip a Quireboys show near me because I had a date with my then boyfriend which I thought could have saved the relationship

[elytrafemme]

trying to think of how to kindly tell all of my family members to not message me for the next 72 hours because i finally have a plan for how to handle election day and the last thing i need is like anxiety texting from family members who seem to think i do not have any anxiety about the results whatsoever. but also maybe i need to be nicer to my family but also they're kind of a nightmare these days i'm not going to lie

[freakoutgirl]

one friend who keeps saying we'll hang out but then she doesn't text me and just posts pictures of her with her boyfriend. another friend texting the guy she's kind of seeing while we are in a THEATER watching a show TOGETHER. i need all boyfriends to disappear from the face of the earth actually.

[crossbackpoke-check]

re last answer: please don't stop, being very unhinged about these two pretty white boys is helping distract me from the sharks losing streak rn so bring it on

https://www.tumblr.com/bondedpairs/764566430180147200?source=share

(sideblog woes but there's the link for you) anyway in the vid they talk about going over to each other's houses to have dinner and things and while that is a delicious example of their codependence i love it bc through an rpf lens there is definitely some old man ******* going on. they can have the dilfs and each other.

(someone else mentioned kept boys which i could write an essay on but i fear being Perceived™️)

anyway if you have anything to add to this please do, if not ignore me and i will hide under a rock until the stress-related insanity has worn off and i am a functioning member of society once more 😂

- @bondedpairs

ty for the video!!! and please, WRITE THE KEPT BOYS ESSAYYYY i promise i will read it with my hands over my eyes if you don’t want to be perceived. do it scared!! do it anyway!! we’ll all love you for it!!!

[wizardofvamp]

Procrastinating writing by making concept/mood boards and Ana/Mihals entire relation/sireship can be summed up by these two images