#you dont attack other people in any way

[pansypr3p]

i dont blatantly sys post often!!! im not super into syscourse, i am not always against non-traumagenic systems. it depends. but i am here to complain abt how fucked up it is that anti non traumagenic systems/people are called sysmeds. like. its a play on transmeds y'know? and the thing about transmeds is like. being trans isnt a disorder. this is because. gender is not real. its a thing we made up. cant be a disorder. nothings wrong with you. yknow?

but like. being a system is stressful if not inherently caused by or influenced by trauma!! like. i fucking love and adore my headmates and wouldnt give them up for the world but. its hard sometimes, yknow??? like. switching is hard sometimes, role switches and internal conflict and all this bullshit. we love each other but having like 200 ppl in one noggin is a Bad Time, especially when there can be like 15-25 people in the front room at a time, not to mention the dissociation. i cant remember friday. or thursday, or wednesday, or tuesday. i think i have a vague idea of what happened? but i just. its just not there. yknow? and yesterday and today- ive been fighting feeling utterly apathetic because the dissociations so bad. and that was all because someone yelled at me for a second and i shut down because i got triggered because hey! trauma! woo!

so yes. being a system is a problem. not for others around you! but for me and many others. and i dunno. i just like. i just really wish they wouldnt compare us to transmeds?? like systemhood IS medical. maybe you got some other shit going on like systemhood, and yeah, okay! sure! cool! whatever! i could care less. but if you dont have that trauma, that dissociation and struggle. i want a different space!!! than you!! bc that shit is fucking hard. and fuck it. if you dont struggle like that i dont want you to talk like you do. and if you do, and you still think youre non-traumagenic. okay. sure. whatever. i dont want you in my space either. denial is a bad look.

maybe that was rude. i am sorry. i dont like being mean to people and i much rather respect everyone and leave them alone. bur i got a little frustrated so here! a rant.

[felignis]

i think chappell roan enforcing her boundaries to creepo parasocial fans is so fucking awesome and based and she should be allowed to do whatever she wants forever

[randomminty]

Putting my iono and grusha here as well. They’re friends for streaming reasons

[bigskydreaming]

We really lost the 'that is not how reclamation works' battle, huh.

Not to discourse on main, but I truly do not understand why its so hard to instead of saying 'oh its fine to say queer, its been reclaimed' just say 'I've personally reclaimed queer for myself and choose it as one of my labels and how I refer to community, so I support its usage.'

Or 'I've personally reclaimed queer and invite being labeled as such, but that's not the case for everyone so its best to continue to ask people on an individual basis what they prefer.'

Or 'I've reclaimed queer for myself and am fine with anyone using queer to refer to me, and encourage its usage among the community, but I don't feel great about cis straight people defaulting to it to refer to the community as a whole, given its history and the fact that cis straight people can not and SHOULD not ever be able to participate in reclamation.'

Or 'I personally have chosen not to reclaim queer, as given my personal history with the word I don't actually find empowerment in that and would not appreciate being labeled as such, instead of by the word(s) I've asked to have used as my labels.'

Like. It really is that simple. Call people what they ask to be called. Don't call people what they've asked not to be called. If you're not sure what they want to be called, ask them, and then call them that.

[perenlop]

in general i think im really tired of kirby antagonists that are like “ohhhh this is the main antagonist- actually they’re just being possessed and they’re not actually responsible for their actions at all”

[day-mark]

yeah gonna be honest i couldnt give two shits about how people try to justify their petty behavior towards sapnap. i dont give a fuck if you think hes too rich and doesnt deserve it and that he has no right to be upset about a game hes competing in fucking him over unfairly when you havent said shit about how another competitor started shit with him First.

someone will publicly @ sapnap in a public discord with a rude message and then proceeds to go into chat to call him a cunt, that he deserves to be talked badly about and then proceeds to try and go at his youtube plaques of all things. how is that not ridiculously petty and unsportsmanlike behavior? give your fair share of "criticism" to the other guy too and maybe i'll actually listen to what you have to say.

[geoffrey]

No your take on gay bars is wrong. Also gay men have a hook up culture whereas lesbians dont and require emotional connection.

lol.................... just walk away from me

[quietwingsinthesky]

thinking about even and jack meeting, because i think it would be hilarious. it’s not that flirtation goes completely over their head, it’s that anything that’s even slightly more complicated than ‘you’re pretty’ misses it’s mark because there are context clues they are not picking up on (autism) and innuendo they aren’t versed in at all (spaceship). which jack could obviously adapt to very quickly, i just think it would be funny for him to throw out something charming and just get sort of. squinted at.

[cloudspots]

like re last post i see it happen with jhw too actually but ESPECIALLY ysa. i think on  a lot of levels orv fans suck about ysa including people who really like her but reduce her down to. nice girl whos a bit bitter about it. you knwo!? theres so much more to her than just that. shes a major character for a reason.

[computerpeople]

my mom got very very drunk yesterday and she's an aggressive drunk, not physically but it amplifies her anger and irritation by like 6, and she's already a very very explosive and volatile woman. she got in a fight with her boyfriend and was screaming and drove off to the middle of nowhere and that's why my sister called and im so proud of her for reaching out and asking me to call, and i think she is too, she said she wants to call me more for sure and wants to ask more, and that she felt a lot better after we called. that feels good for me, even if im worrying about it now, at her age i didn't have anyone to turn to or call, so im glad i get to be that for her. i fucking hate my parents man

[nimbus-reblogsart]

the elementary school i went to had a large number of truly terrible bullies. Even now, after almost twenty years, i am still baffled at the violence both physical and psychological inflicted upon students (includes sexual violence). We were lucky in the sense that personal phones and social media were not a thing yet, so at least it was not uploaded for everyone to see.

In my case it's not like the adults weren't told, it's just that they could not do anything about it with their little speeches. And i think i need to give examples so people grasp just how unhinged these kids were.

things that happened to me personally were: kids trying to undress me in the middle of the gym, various substances being smeared into my hair during class, shoving and pushing, threatening sexual violence while pulling down their zipper, destruction of my stuff, throwing my intact stuff into the trash to force me to search for it so they could then make fun of me for 'dumpster diving'. Name calling i didnt even notice and would not have cared about if i had. They would find me sitting by myself and surround me as a group all smiley (from the outside it looked like I was part of the group) and ask me all sorts of uncomfortable questions, suggesting i had done x or y. They would be super cheery doing all this, throwing their arms around my shoulders so it looked like friends hanging out.

Keep in mind these were like... 9 year olds, 10 year olds doing that. It stopped soon bc i fought back, punching and kicking and screaming, but here is stuff that happened to other kids:

- bullies would destroy property in secret, then come act all sympethatic towards the crying student, hugging them and going 'oh who would do such a thing?' and going around arguing with the rest of the class, asking 'did you do it?' in an angry 'supportive' voice. the (newly transferred) victim kept thinking they were helpful and protective friends.

- hunt a child, literally, through the streets on her way home (the school was in a neighbourhood that was the worst in the city) smearing feces on her things, pouring food and liquids on her during the whole thing, forcing her to look for shelter in a tiny restaurant. It was at least a dozen kids, shouting and laughing while she ran crying in fear.

- rip out earrings, hair pulling to the point of bald spots, broken arms, at least one very memorable case of scissors used to carve a name into someone, throwing kids off of a three meter tall tower we could climb. Physical violence, but with torture™

this doesnt cover the condoms and needles left on the school property by strangers that would then be picked up by the bullies to be used against the other kids, or the school trips where the bullies had the isolation they needed to do more horrible shit to the kids in an old german castle.

I cannot begin to tell you how you need to systematically destroy bullying on every level.

Little apology ceremonies and suspensions are not working. Therapy session style conversations with the whole class are not working. The effect lasts maybe a week or two and then it is back to the usual torture. Bullies need to be inconvenienced at every turn for any little bullying they do. They need to be punched back, literally and figuratively. Kids who are bullied need to be taught that physical violence used as a defense mechanism is not 'escalating the fight' but the only consistent solution with long lasting results. Eventually you dont even have to fight anymore bc you establish yourself as a difficult target. Teachers that reprimand kids for fighting back need to be told to shut tf up.

In comparison high school where i witnessed more impactful violence in the form of fist fights as well as gang activity was easier to digest bc if i kept clear of them they just left me in peace. It was not this psychological torture i had witnessed as a child, the ever lasting cloud covering the sky that was looming over you even if it didnt rain.

TV barely does it any justice, i've seen some korean drama clips that get close but overall what i dislike is that the solutions are not more clearly discussed. It's an ugly answer maybe but from my own experiences i can say the solution is return the physical violence immediately. Do not let it fester, do not let them come together as a group, if one of them catches you alone in a hallway, no, you are the one catching them. Instill that mindset in your friends and keep an eye out for each other. They smear smth in your hair during class? you turn around and pour your water on them and loudly ask them why they would touch you. Make a scene, every single time. Even if your voice shakes and it feels scary, cause problems on purpose.

It gets worse before it gets better, they come back with a vengeance, i know firsthand, but keep it up and then it stops drastically.

There is no shame in self defense. If you have to get your big brother or smth involved, do so, if you have to smack them in the face do so. If you have to explain a humiliating moment to someone so they understand the seriousness of the situation, do so. There is no shame in self defense and dont let anyone who didnt bother to interfere tell you otherwise. They didnt interfere then, they dont interfere now.

And you will face that too, unfortunately, cowards who only speak up when you punch back but never when the bullies break the peace. It will be friends, it will be parents, teachers, anybody. Keep at it.

Don't start shit, but make sure to finish it when others do. Repeatedly. Systematically.

no piece of teen media has ever accurately depicted the quiet psychological warfare of bullying. bullies on TV are always dumb brutes and not the evil geniuses of emotional manipulation that they are in real life. being given a wedgie and having your lunch money stolen is nothing in comparison to a classmate quietly creating a taboo against speaking to you that they intend to enforce against all the other kids. it’s nothing like continuous cutting comments from people you thought were being nice to you. that way that the work of one kid can make you feel like every person on earth silently hates you and that you are dirty, disgusting, worthless, creepy and useless. that you can have friends but many of them will not speak to you at school for fear of the social consequences on their end. how that damage lasts in any social setting for the rest of your life

[mx-paint]

Some of y'all need to learn what the fuck boundaries are because it is *no way* good for you to be genuinely frothing at the mouth that a teenager in your latest fandom doesn't ship your ship and simply blocking you over it

[snekdood]

i worry a lot about some transfems and its not me trying to be like "im better than you" or some shit its bc some of them remind me of me when i was a kid and new into being considered a girl/woman and being really naive thinking people would treat me better than they would- like i knew people were gonna be shitty but i wasnt prepared for the sheer amount of dehumanization and being reduced to just a sex object... idk... I just want some of you out there to be careful...

[societysonlooker]

If you're driving on a two lane road and the road ahead of you is empty and the road behind you is a line of cars, please know that you are in fact the problem, and you really need to pull over and let them pass you. My commute is 30 miles of 2 lane roads on either side of a 20 mi highway stretch and yall fuckers make ny commute vary by a magnitude of twenty goddamned minutes. Not a single one of you is doing the speed limit (it's 50 the ENTIRE way, yall do 35-40). When I already log 3 hrs minimum on the road everyday I really don't fucking need it to climb uo to four hours. And no, I can't just move closer to work, because housing crisis. You can drive whatever speed you want to but for the love of God do me the courtesy of allowing me to do the same.

[swagging-back-to]

just found out one of the biggest series has incest in a main plotline

[dragon-tamer-1]

To that anon that asked me about why I still follow a certain person, I hope you can understand that I do not want hate for this. I am very much unaffected by the choice of belief someone else has. And while I know that others don't like or care for that person, I still do enjoy the art and writing by that person. Their choice of belief doesn't really matter to me, especially since that person hasn't ever done anything to anyone that was harmful, that I know of. Everyone is free to dislike someone, but I don't feel it necessary to hate anyone, especially over beliefs.

Please understand that I am not attacking anyone, nor do I advocate for hate of anyone really.