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Hey here’s an idea instead of endlessly posting “we’ve survived worse before we will continue to exist!” About times when trans people very much WERE NOT SURVIVING, instead we post as many verified and trusted resources for diy hrt and gender affirming resources, emergency shelter and hotlines, tips for interacting with the police, and tips/resources for recovering from hate crime as we can get our hands on so the people most at risk of actually seriously not surviving this have a better chance
#yes trans people will always exist#it is impossible to snuff us out of existence entirely even if every one of us dies#that’s great that’s true#that’s not fucking comforting.#it’s not helpful#it does not solve the very real fears people have over the very likely spike in hate crime#and bigoted and abusive legislature#transness will survive and let’s make sure as many existing trans people survive as well
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Rowling isn't denying holocaust. She just pointed out that burning of transgender health books is a lie as that form of cosmetic surgery didn't exist. But of course you knew that already, didn't you?
I was thinking I'd probably see one of you! You're wrong :) Let's review the history a bit, shall we?
In this case, what we're talking about is the Institut für Sexualwissenschaft, or in English, The Institute of Sexology. This Institute was founded and headed by a gay Jewish sexologist named Magnus Hirschfeld. It was founded in July of 1919 as the first sexology research clinic in the world, and was run as a private, non-profit clinic. Hirschfeld and the researchers who worked there would give out consultations, medical advice, and even treatments for free to their poorer clientele, as well as give thousands of lectures and build a unique library full of books on gender, sexuality, and eroticism. Of course, being a gay man, Hirschfeld focused a lot on the gay community and proving that homosexuality was natural and could not be "cured".
Hirschfeld was unique in his time because he believed that nobody's gender was either one or the other. Rather, he contended that everyone is a mixture of both male and female, with every individual having their own unique mix of traits.
This leads into the Institute's work with transgender patients. Hirschfeld was actually the one to coin the term "transsexual" in 1923, though this word didn't become popular phrasing until 30 years later when Harry Benjamin began expanding his research (I'll just be shortening it to trans for this brief overview.) For the Institute, their revolutionary work with gay men eventually began to attract other members of the LGBTA+, including of course trans people.
Contrary to what Anon says, sex reassignment surgery was first tested in 1912. It'd already being used on humans throughout Europe during the 1920's by the time a doctor at the Institute named Ludwig Levy-Lenz began performing it on patients in 1931. Hirschfeld was at first opposed, but he came around quickly because it lowered the rate of suicide among their trans patients. Not only was reassignment performed at the Institute, but both facial feminization and facial masculization surgery were also done.
The Institute employed some of these patients, gave them therapy to help with other issues, even gave some of the mentioned surgeries for free to this who could not afford it! They spoke out on their behalf to the public, even getting Berlin police to help them create "transvestite passes" to allow people to dress however they wanted without the threat of being arrested. They worked together to fight the law, including trying to strike down Paragraph 175, which made it illegal to be homosexual. The picture below is from their holiday party, Magnus Hirschfeld being the gentleman on the right with the fabulous mustache. Many of the other people in this photo are transgender.
[Image ID: A black and white photo of a group of people. Some are smiling at the camera, others have serious expressions. Either way, they all seem to be happy. On the right side, an older gentleman in glasses- Magnus Hirschfeld- is sitting. He has short hair and a bushy mustache. He is resting one hand on the shoulder of the person in front of him. His other hand is being held by a person to his left. Another person to his right is holding his shoulder.]
There was always push back against the Institute, especially from conservatives who saw all of this as a bad thing. But conservatism can't stop progress without destroying it. They weren't willing to go that far for a good while. It all ended in March of 1933, when a new Chancellor was elected. The Nazis did not like homosexuals for several reasons. Chief among them, we break the boundaries of "normal" society. Shortly after the election, on May 6th, the book burnings began. The Jewish, gay, and obviously liberal Magnus Hirschfeld and his library of boundary-breaking literature was one of the very first targets. Thankfully, Hirschfeld was spared by virtue of being in Paris at the time (he would die in 1935, before the Nazis were able to invade France). His library wasn't so lucky.
This famous picture of the book burnings was taken after the Institute of Sexology had been raided. That's their books. Literature on so much about sexuality, eroticism, and gender, yes including their new work on trans people. This is the trans community's Alexandria. We're incredibly lucky that enough of it survived for Harry Benjamin and everyone who came after him was able to build on the Institute's work.
[Image ID: A black and white photo of the May Nazi book burning of the Institute of Sexology's library. A soldier, back facing the camera, is throwing a stack of books into the fire. In the background of the right side, a crowd is watching.]
As the Holocaust went on, the homosexuals of Germany became a targeted group. This did include transgender people, no matter what you say. To deny this reality is Holocaust denial. JK Rowling and everyone else who tries to pretend like this isn't reality is participating in that evil. You're agreeing with the Nazis.
But of course, you knew that already, didn't you?
Edit: Added image IDs. I apologize to those using screen readers for forgetting them. Please reblog this version instead.
#transgender#trans history#transsexual#transphobia#Magnus Hirschfeld#holocaust#holocaust denial#book burning#j.k. rowling#jk rowling#just in case you missed what i mean by all this: go fuck yourself anon :)#trans people have always existed#and we will always exist#if you really wanna pick a fight with me over well-documented history then you better bring in some sources to back your shit#queer history#queer#lgbt+#lgbta+#lgbt#lgbt history#edit: i finally got around to those damn image IDs. i am so very sorry for totally forgetting that's my bimbo moment of the month#also real quick i thought about adding an image of the actual building but the only one i can find has a Nazi parade in front of it#it was taken the day of the book burning raid and honestly if i were to include it then i'd add it to the first few paragraphs#and i think the story's better told when you uphold the hope Magnus Hirschfeld and all the researchers he worked with had#also keeps being brought up: yes Hirschfeld was a eugenicist. it was a popular belief set that was only discredited after WW2#Hirschfeld died in 1935. he literally didn't live long enough to see science turn against those beliefs and practices#considering how he changed his mind on transitions i like to think he would've changed his mind on eugenics too if he'd lived
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Trans dude whose favourite NFL team are the Packers
#trans#transgender#lgbt#lgbtq#ftm#nonbinary#trans meme#do NOT talk NFL with me though because i don't care for american football#i know how the game generally goes but i was a band kid#my friend was an angel for reminding me about this#im now a Packers fan just because of how meta this is holy shit#ngl though wisconsin does not feel like a real state and i always forget it exists#actually anything too north or deep in the midwest just doesn't seem real to me#actually this is goving me an existential crisis because what do you MEAN these states are actually real#(yes i know these states are real and i have always known they exist. i just never hear shit from them so i always forgor they exist)#i wonder if people do that with my state (insert [REDACTED] state)
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“Fuck it everyone is gay.”
-Chloe Gong, writing Foul Lady Fortune, probably
#But literally#rosalind lang#is demisexual#orion hong#is bisexual#alisa montagova#is aroace#celia lang#is trans#phoebe hong#is also bisexual#Chloe said that#silas wu#was queer it just wasn’t in the book#And it’s the 1930s#LIKE YES QUEER PEOPLE DID EXIST IN THE 1930S WE’VE ALWAYS BEEN HERE#secret shanghai#foul lady fortune#foul heart huntsman
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i think everyone on sunnytwt needs to be sat down so i can explain to them what basic human empathy is. and then maybe i put them in a blender until they agree to write meta about the characters instead of whether or not charlie day got facial reconstruction surgery.
#ada speaks#u do not exist in a vacuum and your words have the capability to harm others#celebrities may not see your tweets but your balding transmasc mutual and your follower who feels self conscious about her nose will#it is fucking bizarre the way these people conduct themselves online#really. really fucking weird man#and then you see them acting like ppl are 'defending rich white men'#instead of taking issue with the actual shit theyre saying#whether or not you think rcg has been 'under the knife' or not#a) how is this any of your business. you are not entitled to this info nor do you have a free pass to criticize someone's personal choice#b) ask yourself why you feel you need to critique alleged surgeries and how they stack up to imposed conventional beauty standards#c) you do not *own* them. you can have opinions on your own attraction to them but#a person getting plastic surgery or hair plugs or whatever is up to them. not you. if it helps to make them feel better then who cares.#just because it doesn't make them attractive to YOU doesn't mean its okay to point and laugh#if a trans guy got top surgery and it was 'botched' would you act like they were stupid for getting it in the first place?#if a trans woman decided she wanted to surgically shave her jaw would you shame her for that?#it's their body. it's not yours.#for the record i don't believe any of them have gotten work done but think its a stupid thing to speculate on regardless#ive watched family members go through plastic surgeries of varying success. ive seen them get botox and hair plugs and everything#normal everyday people do it and it's not always about vanity#it can be for gender reaffirming reasons (and yes this includes when cis people do it) to alleviate dysphoria#trying to point out alleged surgical alterations made is just. gross#not to mention that holy shit MOST of the shit ppl are saying is like. age. different hairstyles. different facial expressions.#maybe if these people actually watched the show theyd be able to see the gang in action instead of staring at pics like spot the difference
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heartwarming: the most annoying lesbian separatist trans woman and the most annoying straight trans woman on twitter are fighting
#both of these women reliably come out with the worst takes imaginable#like i’m sure most of y’all have not a clue who these people are#but they’re both from seattle which should already be strike one#and mimi is the girl who’s always saying shit like Actually cishet men who date trans women are more queer than tme lgbtq people#and valkyrie is the girl who’s always getting extremely transphobically mad at trans men and transmascs for Existing essentially#and yes they are constantly getting recommended to me and it makes me feel insane
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Post: gender identity is complicated and everyone has their own unique relationship with it. Presentation does not equal gender and not everyone likes strict labels!
Me: Yeah! True! This is great so far please don't turn this into-
Post: I will now use this as an excuse to obsessively list every possible way in which a lesbian ends up with a man. I will equate butches and gnc women to men, completely missing my own point when I said presentation doesn't equal gender. Also being transmasc is always the same as being male aligned btw. I'm going to find a way to fit dissociative identity disorder into this for some reason. I'm also going to be really condescending and talk like no lesbian has ever understood the concept of gender noncomformity, ambiguity and complex relationships to gender. No, I never talk this way about gay men and nblm why do you ask
#it's like. idk. for a certain niche group of people ''complex gender identity'' just means ''maleness included''#yeah nonbinary bigender and genderfluid people can be lesbians obviously and a lot of relationship nuance will depend...#... on the specific people involved. But also gender can be complex and nuanced and strange without involving maleness#why does non standard gender expression always seem to mean proximity to manhood for a certain group of people and why are they obsessed...#with attaching lesbians to men but never the inverse?#also do we forget that unaligned people exist. Like did we forget there are people who are attached to neither#or do we just have 4 genders now. boy girl nb(boy) and nb(girl)#really frustrating to genuinely consider no longer calling myself transmasc bc people point and go MAN! BOY!#even though part of the reason the terms transmasc and transfem exist as terms is to cover folks transitioning in a specific direction...#...without necessarily being the opposing binary gender#like idk. you can be cool with complex gender without also being gross towards lesbians who set reasonable boundaries regarding men#yes including trans men#Obligatory disclaimer this is a specific niche kind of post no I don't think everyone talking about nonstandard gender expression is doing.#... secret anti-lesbian dogwhistle posting there's just a specific brand of weirdo who are always strange about this
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I agree with your list ! People being asshole about lesbian & other headcanons gtfo! That list could work for many other things too.
But to be sure everyone don’t mix thing up i just want to point out that not liking/ not being fan of an headcanon don’t equal being an ass about it. It’s the mean actions or words afterwards that are bad.
hey! i’m glad you found it generalizable. there’s a lot of things on there that get used against pretty much any “diverse” perspectives both inside and out of fan spaces. as for your second point, i don’t disagree with you. there are some queer headcanons that i don’t personally hold, but i’m going to be cheering them on rather than contributing to the negativity we face on a regular basis. you can personally hold a different headcanon without being a jerk.
this is not @ you anon, but there are a lot of people who believe that underrepresented groups seeing themselves in characters — whether through the lens of race, gender, sexuality, disability, etc — is “politicizing” fandom and ruining it somehow, as though a white/cishet/male/abled perspective is the default in art and anything else is “tainting” the “pure” fanspace. some of them might believe those voices can exist — so long as they keep their heads down and don’t take up too much space. the fact of the matter is that’s a bigoted thing to believe. our existence has been politicized against our will. for the marginalized, fan spaces are just another front we have to push to participate in. if someone finds themself constantly disliking one specific type of queer/nonwhite/disabled/etc. headcanon and feels the need to say over and over how much they don’t like it, they ought to seriously interrogate why that is.
#anon#ask#discussion of of bigotry cw#it kinda touches on most of them bc i feel the framework im talking about here is broad enough to apply generally#idk i dont think this is what anon meant?#but like. i feel there is a difference between having a different pov and actively openly disliking smth#i actually find utena tenjou to be a good example of this#utena is very ambiguous in both gender & sexuality as a character#ive seen all varieties of headcanons for her and all sorts of people relating to her#from trans men to nb people to butch cis women. lesbians bi folks pan folks ace folks etc#and i dont think any of those perspectives are wrong#i think shes a transmasc lesbian because i’m a transmasc lesbian and the show cracked my egg lol#but i dont think that means that like. transfem ppl are Wrong to relate to her. i don’t think it means bi ppl are wrong to relate to her.#i dont think hcing her as those things are wrong either#but if someone comes out and says people are wrong and bad and annoying for existing with those povs?? shut up#and when those ppl crop up they are usually trying to argue a character is more Normative#ex: gender conforming. straight. cis. white. etc.#so yes dont be an asshole over headcanons but being an asshole to queer hcs almost always looks very different#bc its usually built on bigoted foundations
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Second time in about 48 hours that I have gone into the search mines to bring out a specific pride flag for my blog only to be met with either long or thoughtless posts about how x flag is the most inferior or y flag is the most superior while shitting on other flag designs. Like, I am all for making as many flags as you want — the more the merrier no monopolies here. I would just like for people to keep in mind:
Which communities (including geographical and cultural!!!) specific flags come from and why they were created.
You do not need to be represented by every single stripe for the flag to be applicable to you.
If a flag is featuring a specific identity there's probably a reason for that, I don't care if it's ugly.
Please cite sources and inspiration! Flags represent communities and usually come from community involvement and influence.
Seriously unless a flag was made purposefully to demean or alienate others it's probably fine. You don't have to use it or prefer it and you can be annoyed with it but it doesn't mean it's the end of the world.
#Apparently the polyam flag was '''''''''“officially'''''''''''' redesigned a year ago and I don't even consider polyamory to be#_inherently_ queer but I don't consider leather to be _inherently_ queer either and like the leather pride flag was like the second ever#pride flag and was used in a Pride parade across the country from where it was designed less than a month after it was revealed.#Anyways it's fine if aromantic or other polyamorous people don't feel like they have infinite love but#a) π is not infinite it is _irrational_ and it's decimal _expression_ is infinite and#b) π is literally just the Greek letter p‚ like the Greek rootword poly πολύς.#If you aren't a Black or brown person from Philadelphia then I don't really think it's your place to reject the Philly Pride flag.#Yes there has previous been a black stripe on a rainbow flag to represent AIDS. Colors can mean multiple things. The spectrum for visible#color for humans is only so broad and we are so good at coming up with meaning and nuance.#People talk about ''Queer is a slur.'' being a TERF talking point but I don't see nearly enough people talking about#''Not all intersex people want to be included in LGBTQIA+.'' as one too. I rarely ever see this coming from intersex people and I have#NEVER seen it on a post actually about intersex rights. It's always a throw-away comment when they're criticizing other queer people.#I'm agender and don't consider myself trans. It's fine if specific intersex people don't consider themselves queer. The I still belongs.#And even if it DIDN'T that would mean the Intersex-Inclusive Progress Pride Flag has MORE reason for existing not less.#If intersex people aren't inherently included in the rainbow flag then that means a flag representing the union of queer people and#intersex people has a PURPOSE and isn't redundant.#personal#...I might have used too many tags so that might not show on my blog. I forget if the limit is 14 or 20.#I just wanted to reblog pictures of the πolyamory flag and the 2017 Gilbert Baker nine-stripe rainbow flag and here I am getting annoyed#and irritated.#Ugh this is probably gonna show in search results too because I didn't censor anything.#Well while I'm pissing people off I will give my hot take that the biggest crime of the leather‚ trans‚ and lipstick lesbian pride flags is#all these dang white stripes in the center.#Other hot takes: More people need to take a leaf from the bi flag and vary their stripe widths please.#Also while it can easily be overdone‚ I like the symbols in the corner of the leather ❤‚ bear 🐾‚ and lipstick lesbian 💋 flags.#Also hot take I've posted before: the 8- or 9-stripe rainbow flags and the sunset lesbian flag can be for you even if you're ace and/or#sex repulsed. The flags aren't like... criteria for an identity. Not to bring up something horrible like the US empire but you don't have#to have lived in one of the thirteen colonies for those red and white stripes to still represent you.#I hate that the TERFs use the colors of the suffragette flag in heart emojis 💜🤍💚 and that those colors are so similar to the genderqueer#flag (a coincidence on the part of the creator of the genderqueer flag).
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i literally hate when people act like transandrophobia isn't real despite the fact that i am constantly excommunicated from online spaces talking about misogyny/transmisogyny because i am a trans man. despite that the reason that those things do effect me is because i am a trans man. and i am never included in discussions about pregnancy/abortion and u.ter.ine/vag.in.al health despite both of those literally being things i have to think about and deal with because i have a u.ter.us and a vag.ina. despite the fact that i do not pass (and might never pass) and have had to and will probably always have to deal with people misgendering me and seeing me as a woman and being misogynistic to me because of it. and people being chill with me for a while but then automatically seeing me as predatory the second they find out i'm a man. and people seeing me as inherently inferior and physically weaker than cis men.
transphobes will always see me as a woman until they can oppress me about being a man. they will only properly gender me when they can use it against me. to call me weak and predatory and irrelevant and 'entitled.' but sure. i'm not oppressed because i'm a man.
#myevilposts#transphobia tw#but i'll get paid more. right? sure. i have that going for me i guess.#that's not worth nothing. i know i'm entitled slightly for being a man. sure. but like there is a specific#brand of transphobia that targets me. that will always call me a woman until i say hey i get oppressed for being seen#as a woman and having the genitals that i have and then it's all But Uh Um You're A Man. Men Aren't Oppressed.#sure sweetie. but i am a trans man. important difference.#and then it's all Oh So You Don't Actually See Yourself As A REAL Man. You're Such A Fake! and it's like sighs. sighs so loudly.#i get treated differently than other men because i am trans.#also people saying misandry isn't real like toxic masculinity doesn't exist and isn't a widespread systemic societal issue.#like yes! smash the patriarchy! but you don't need to be prejudiced about men to do that.#bc it's a systemic issue you all know this right men as a whole are not inherently evil the patriarchy is a systemic societal issue right.
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I’m so sick of queer stories that aren’t about the queer character but about how everyone else reacts to them. It’s boring! It’s old! Queer people exist news flash!
#we exist and live our lives that don’t revolve around you#it’s time we got to see that#my own post#i know that stories where that happen exist and I know part of my problem is that I read a decent amount of YA#but this goes for films too. there’s so many that are just the people around the queer person reacting to learning#that they’re queer and the person themself spends all their time and energy placating everyone else#that just because they’re queer doesn’t make them different from before and being queer is fine and normal#i know those stories are important and I know they’re especially important when trying to show outsiders that really we’re all people#but GOD i’m sick of them#the main character is always so boring too. they’re gay person clone 1 who is normal and yes at this point it really#does feel like I’m complaining about love simon which is definitely one of that type of story#i think its because I’ve had a taste of what else lies out there that I don’t need to be preached at by cis gay character 1 that gay is oka#cool. is trans okay too? bi? ace? polyam? kink? out of the box unmarketable queer? are we okay too?#and those stories never tackle that. never touch on it. gay cis characters and gender confirming binary trans people only#(i think this may have been a little bit inspired by transamerica which i did enjoy but it did very much feel like trans person preaching#at a cis audience though it wasn't too bad and while its also a bit dated it was okay. there was a scene with a trans social group#and all the people there were actually trans - including a trans man - which i liked)
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to all the ppl talking about what a diversity win this is and how poseidon was a bro for this i uh. think it's a bit relevant that poseidon only offered to grant caenis a wish after raping her. Caeneus then asked to be made a man, so that he could never be hurt again. i get the appeal of trans heroes and finding ourselves in the past because we have always been here but idk that this one really counts as a diversity win or great act of charity on good ol' poseidon's part. act of contrition at best.
shout out to my fave under-appreciated unbreakable transgender hero
#cw: rape#mythology#not trying to hijack a trans positivity post by any means bc we have been here for always#but it really bugs me when people yoink these things away from their context#yes okay yay trans mythology#but also. it wasn't exactly a mythologising the existence of trans folks type of story#just one more notch in the metamorphoses talking about things from which people are irrevocably and fundamentally changed by#anyway. maybe im touchy from my own backstory with rape as a trans person but. don't like.
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aventurine is bisexual 🏳️🌈 and also trans 🏳️⚧️
#kayleigh.txt#i don’t make the rules 🤷🏼♀️#lmfao i’m kidding; you don’t have to agree with me these are just my headcanons ✨#i know everyone is adamant that he’s gay but like... bisexual people exist???#idk i just. am so tired. of fandoms making everything and everyone strictly gay. like??? ugh 😩#like yes obviously gay people exist but there is just much bisexual erasure in all forms of media and i am TIRED OF IT 😤#but you can always rely on me to take it upon myself to trans a character’s gender 😂
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rip bu/mbleby blog i followed. you no longer exist in my mind
#why yes i do unfollow if you start rbing or posting shit about how b/ls aren't queerphobic and are good faith identities#or start rbing from people who have said shit like that like v*spider#maybe even block if i feel particularly hoodwinked by people being stealth#i'm not discoursing over this btw i've seen all the arguments in support of it and the so called history they keep sharing#its funny how they only ever have like max 3 sources and one of them is ALWAYS the la/vender women poem.#hrrrm.#i do not have the spoons to list out in length why the language/labels used are harmful but i do have a carrd /w linked sources#it's not that their experiences don't exist i just think they have some internalized queerphobia to get over#bi and lesbian aren't dirty words and nb people are included in every sexuality already#trans women are women and conflating trans people with terfs bc we say lesbians aren't men or can't be attracted#to men is uh... sure something alright (transmisogynist)#having a pref for women/similar genders doesn't make u not bi#and comphet isn't genuine attraction its comphet#also i am genuinely so tired of people saying that the only reason bi people were shoved out of lesbian spaces is because of terfs#like i am genuinely so tired#our movements for our rights and to be seen as a whole valid identity was a natural progression of the bisexual community#you are taking away our history and autonomy#i wrote up a post about my extended stance but left it in the drafts actually but these tags are sort of a tl;dr about that so
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This is so unbelievably real. I understand where people are coming from (in some areas) but there is such a negative idea of masculinity within the queer community that it’s starting to feel childish, like vaspider said. The shit said to trans men and masculine is so fucked up too. The idea that someone being a man is the part of them that is bad is a poisonous thing. It’s incredibly dangerous and is not only working to rip the community apart, but is adhering to fucked up gender norms, in a way. Being a man in inherently not a bad thing, but there are, of course, a lot of bad bad men out there. But even then that doesn’t give people the right to just be shitty to any person they come across that might be a man and say shit like what was shown in the screenshot above. Like shit like this is what pushes men into incel spaces, and saying that all men are evil just allows for more shitty men to do shitty things under the guise of what is basically the adult version of “boys will boys”
alienating men and masculine aligned people is just fucking weird. Especially in queer spaces. Masculinity for some reason is now considered the antithesis of queer, when that is not the case? Queerness doesn’t equal femininity, queerness is just something outside of the strict societal norms that a lot of us are starting to, even if we don’t realize it, adhere to. just be nice to everyone and don’t alienate based solely on gender and presentation, man. Doing shit like this is only going to tear us apart further, which is exactly what the people against this community want.
sorry since realizing my gender i have zero tolerance for the whole “man hating” angle of being queer i hate i hate it i hate you. stop. you are hurting people.
#Also like don’t get me started on how rampant this runs in transmasc spaces and masc aligned nb spaces#Like hey…isn’t this#what you’re aligned with#its just extremely unproductive#and it’s also exactly what the enemy wants??#Also the idea that masculinity is the antithesis of queer is entirely wrong#like queerness is not femininity#Queerness does not come from femininity as a whole#Being queer is to exist outside of societal norms#so yes#that does include trans men#gay men#and all sorts of men#Also saying that you hate all men is a huge generalization that’s just harmful#Because not all men have the priveleges that cis straight white men have#Like think trans men#and men of color#but even then that doesn’t make cis straight white men the enemy??#The system we live under is the problem and it always has been#Also the phrase “not all men” is horrible under a specific context#like its origins are fucked up as hell and it should never be used in response to S/A like it has been#But the thing is that it’s true OUTSIDE OF CONTEXT. it’s really not all men#There are horrible people in every single group ever#If we could make teach the boys we raise and help the guys around us then maybe we’d be better off#It’s just unproductive and cruel to be so hateful#its exactly what the people against our community want#Also also it’s weird hearing straight women say that they hate men#Like hey girlie. I thought you were supposed to like them??#Just say you hate your boyfriend or husband idk#Anyway yeah it’s just unproductive and cruel and we as a community need to do way way better than we’re doing rn
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this is great, i haven’t taken any of my fucking meds, and i’m still feeling unwell from MY issue that sent ME to the ER last week, and fucking up this med schedule is not going to be good for my fucking gut.
i’m not fucking going to the goddamn hospital tonight. it’s already almost one AM and odds are good they’re admitting her ass anyway. fuck this.
they’re already going to think i’m just another piece of shit that neglects my poow ewderwy mother for her fucking social security or some shit anyway given, again, she’s just been laying in her own fucking piss most of the time any more and won’t fucking shower even when i offer what assistance i can do.
i’m so fucking tired and fucking hungry.
she has the goddamn nerve to fucking argue with me in front of the goddamn EMT’s while the whole apartment smells like piss and her room, specifically, is fucking trashed out because she can’t be bothered to fucking clean up after herself.
#why does everyone always fucking blame me#my fucking sister spent like eight goddamn years fucked up on drugs and in and out of jail and stealing from me and#everyone fucking else while fucking abusing and neglecting animals and leaving them to die horrible deaths#in fucking drug houses and to this day she's never done anything wrong in her life ever as far as everyone else is concerned#meanwhile most people in that fucking family don't even remember i exist and when they do they genuinely don't know my fucking name#and that's not a trans joke bc i have a deadname they straight up don't even know my goddamn deadname#also hi yes i will go to bat for addicts and protecting and helping them but no that does not apply to my sister specifically#yes it's a cognitive dissonance yes i sleep fine despite having it thanks for asking <3#my sister isn't a horrible person because she's an addict. she's a horrible person that happened to become an addict#hope this helps
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