#willow vulnerability

[chartreuseschaos]

This user is supportive towards all paraphilias.

Paraphilia is an uncomfortable, highly stigmatized topic wrongly associated inherently with committing abusive acts, making it near impossible to create compassionate, educational, and fair conversation about it. It is crucial not to let disgust rule your better judgment when it comes to this topic.

The term Paraphilia was coined in 1904 by ethnologist Friedrich Salomon Krauss as a way to describe an orientation that fell outside of the norm, at the time this was considered any sexual behaviour that didn't serve the purpose of procreation. Nowadays it is primarily used as an identity label by those with taboo orientations.

Some of the population happens to have orientations which include abusive, unsanitary, obscure, or otherwise taboo preferences, some of which cannot be acted upon due to the non-consensual harm they will cause. I firmly believe caring about preventing abuse requires an indepth understanding of paraphilias.

The truth is that a signficant amount of sexual offenses are commited opportunistically to exert power, rather than done by someone who genuinely has a paraphilic orientation. I am however not going to sugarcoat the reality that some individual paraphiles do offend.

In order for paraphiles to lead a positive life, it is important they are not shamed, especially not for what they haven't done. Framing them as disgusting monsters who are doomed to offend is not going to prevent them from offending. Ostracization and self-hatred will actually more likely encourage offense, for they might feel like they have no positive experience of life to protect anyway. It is not encouraging to do good whatsoever when it feels like no one in the entire world will ever have a kind thought about you. This is not an excuse to offend, what I'm trying to say is that this hateful, stigmatizing attitude towards paraphiles prevents honest and open conversation about paraphilias, therefor prevents paraphiles access to information and understanding about themselves, therefor brings forth more acts of entirely preventable offense.

Conversion therapy is considered an inhumane practice when it comes to queer people, so why should it be any different for paraphiles? Through things like art, writing, dolls, roleplay, and fantasies, paraphiles can engage with their paraphilias in ways that objectively do not cause harm. What they do evoke in many is disgust, which is not a emotion that should rule your morality.

It might be easy to think why can't paraphiles just not exist so I don't have to be uncomfortable and question my morality? Well, they do exist, and they will never not exist, because paraphilia isn't an hereditary disease that you can eugenics out of the population, neither is it something you can socially conform out of existence. Paraphilias are inherent.

[chartreuseschaos]

My A's and how they manifest within me

Aromantic Repulsed by depictions of romance and being approached romantically. No desire for romantic relationships. No romantic attraction.

Aplatonic In theory not repulsed by friendship, but in practice end up having no desire to be friends with others. Unable to reciprocate platonic attachment, social engagement, emotional support, interest. Friendship ends up feeling pressuring and overwhelming. No platonic attraction.

Afamilial Repulsed by depictions of familial love and responsibility. Feel no attachment to own blood relatives. Do not value the concept of family, unable to comprehend it. No desire for found familial bonds. Do not feel familial attraction.

Anaffectional Repulsed by depictions of common affectionate behaviours. Rejecting of being shown affection and love. Does not feel love.

[chartreuseschaos]

Why I prefer Harm Reduction and am against the concept of Pro-Recovery.

Harm is unavoidable unless you demand perfection of others all the time, which is unreasonable and actually ends up causing more harm.

Those who are too focused on full recovery being the end goal, often end up blaming the target when they inevitably are not able to reach a 'healthy' standard that is forced upon them.

Whereas harm reduction focuses on reducing harm. It accepts that harmful habits will still happen. It celebrates little bits of progress even if they're not the 'healthy' standard. It honours the individual's capabilities. It shifts focus away from a pressuring, looming, full recovery.

Furthermore, the current standard of 'health' is unjust towards the disabled, fat, mentally ill, neurodivergent, insane, sexually deviant, and other non-normative existences. No, these are not insults, these terms are used by the communities themselves.

There is also something to say about autonomy and risk awareness. The right to hurt ourselves should be advocated for. If that sounds extreme, then what do you think about for example hardcore kink, religious fasting, nail beds used for relaxation, and heck, even exercising?

Something else I include in my Harm Reduction view is the belief that abusing abusers does not lessen the amount of abuse in the world, it adds to it. If you focus only on 'recovery', then you could claim that locking someone up or numbing them with medication and preventing them from being able to do anything constitutes as 'recovered', but you can completely sweep under the rug that you are harming them in the process.

[chartreuseschaos]

I still don't like the idea of a personality being able to be disordered. I sort of get it, if your traits are distressing to you, feel like they control you, you don't like having them, etc. But then whether or not your personality is 'disordered' hinges on whether or not you experience some kind of discomfort with it, instead of you exhibiting a list of traits, which completely obliterates the current model of personality disorders. What about those of us who like being the way we are? Who feel authentic like this? What even is a normal personality supposed to look like? I don't want one.

This is coming from a being on the schizospectrum with cluster B traits.

[willosword]

the more i think about the vees the more i love their whole concept, especially after learning about the rift between them and the older overlords. three comparatively young/arrogant upstarts who each think they're the backbone of their little team constantly working and flying by the seat of their pants and scrambling to stay relevant while keeping each other in check because if any one of the trio crumbles the rest will topple down with them. a precarious balancing act

[chartreuseschaos]

Auditory Processing Disorder is a disability that obstructs one's ability to process units of speech into actual language and meaningfully distinguish different sounds that are happening simultaneously. Unless I'm self-managing by avoiding noises and people, all I hear is chaos and incomprehensible gibberish. But because I can 'technically hear' my struggles are shoved under the rug and I receive little to no accomodations. I've been called lazy, overreactive, spaced out, dumb, hard to handle, paranoid. And keep in mind APD is far from the only 'hidden' disability I struggle with.

Things I cannot do with APD

Have or follow spoken conversations with others while there is other audio present including but not limited to other conversations, tv, music, construction work, and loud vehicles.

Hear myself think while there is other audio present.

Listen to music while there is other audio present.

Follow the meaning of lyrics of a song as I listen to it.

Watch videos with dialogue comfortably without there being closed captions available.

Comprehend any type of distorted audio present in things like memes or puzzles, or due to it being recorded on outdated or poor quality technology.

Have any telephone or voice chat conversation with others due to the crackly buzzing sound of being live connected with someone that apparently no one else can hear.

[welcometogrouchland]

[ID: digital fanart of the owl house featuring Amity, Boscha and Willow in their designs from For The Future. The three stand facing the viewer- Boscha is confident and smirking, Amity is closed off, concerned and has tear tracks on her face, while Willow is slumped slightly and crying. The background is split into three triangles- a yellow one behind Amity, a pink one behind Boscha and a blue one behind Willow. The lyrics "you only love me when I'm crying" are written across the canvas with doodles of hearts, rain drops and jagged lines around them. End ID]

when I'm begging you to stay/you know I hate to get emotional and vulnerable/but you like me this way

[chartreuseschaos]

The yearning for kinship and connection you cannot find with anyone.

*ok, but what is Jake's stragle?*

[fappellmoan]

fuck HER on the floor friday #feminism

[atomicengineerdetective]

THIS SHOW

"She's so determined to make herself sad..."

"My dad didn't care if I failed, But I didnt want to fail him"

"Everyone's on edge and I don't know what to say...I wish you were here"

"I can do this, I can do this... I Can't do this"

"All I've ever wanted is to be Understood"

This show Just keeps on tugging at my heartstrings, Bringing Back every insecurity and deep-rooted fear I may have, huh?

Its truly so emotional seeing characters you love so much Go through struggles that are just a little too familiar and see them overcome them.

I think I never felt as Understood and represented as I have with this show. Each new special brings back a lesson I learned long ago, or something I'm still working through emotionally. In doing so, It reminds me I'm not alone in my experiences. (And it does so with great animation and phenomenal worldbuilding)

God, I love this show so much. I don't think it's gonna be topped anytime soon.

[willowser]

WILLOW I MISSED U SM PLS DONT GIVE ME A HEARTATTACK ANYMORE!!! DO NOT LEAVE MEE I HAVE ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT

i'm sorry friend ! 🥺 anytime i've had to step away from this space, it's typically due to my comfort level being v v low ! either with myself and my own writing, or the community at large 🥺 i think taking time away is a good thing ! a good way to get up and stretch my legs and gives me time to think on things; what i want to see in the space around me, how i can change that if at all, what my point is in being here. i can't say that i won't step away again, bc i most likely will ! it's very cathartic to me ! but i am always around 😊 in and out and watching from my lil perch in the distance 😊🩷✨

[chartreuseschaos]

Honestly, as I read these beautiful, expressive descriptions, I can see glimpses of my authentic self within these bygone queer people. "Always queer", "part of everything, owned by nothing", "a gentle societal mindfuck".

There is an inherent beauty to taking away our oppressors' power by welcoming their slurs as our identities.

This is exactly what I stand for. Staying unpalatable and rebellious, strange and nonconformist, nebulous and proud. Make our oppressors eat the fact that we will never stop existing.

One word to unite us all, Queer.

[izzyspussy]

why are they laughing at him as he gets straight up killed??? he doesn't deserve this! he's a sweet kid at heart! he literally just needs one (1) real friend!!

[shmorp-mcdurgen]

Ended getting writer's block and didn't write anything :(

Anyways, on a scale of one to ten who'd you think would win in a fight? (ex: shadow Mark vs host, monster dave vs the willow tree or something, etc)

grenade launcher anon

I'm. not sure, I could do like. Matchups between all the characters but that would take forever, so I'll just say. who's the strongest au variant of all these characters instead if thats alright with you.

Gabriel: Canon Gabriel is probably more powerful? but i'm gonna say. HSH Gabriel. though i'm not going to specify why just yet.

Six: Honestly not sure.

Preacher: Gardener is probably the most powerful. mainly due to height.

N: Not sure either.

Mark: Shadow Mark is winning a fight between all the Marks. Alt Mark is close behind but Shadow Mark has. a flesh eating "locust" swarm so-

Cesar: Lab Cesar or Thing Cesar

Altsar: Not very many options surprisingly so i'm going with Host

Adam: MP Adam or Were Adam. Maybe Thing Adam too i'm not sure

Jonah: Alt Jonah. purely for mental attacks considering most Jonahs aren't physical attackers.

Evelin: MP Evelin

Sarah: Lake Sarah

Dave: Monster Dave for sure

Thatcher: Probably. Monster au?

Ruth: I have. no idea. most Ruths are dead and/or spirits so

[chartreuseschaos]

Am I just that weird autistic guy who frequents the same social spaces as you that you don't mind being there but also don't feel like getting to know better? Or am I an enigmatic unapproacheable source of advice, education, fun, and/or quirk you appreciate but can't manage to get close to? Maybe I am nothing? I wonder who secretly hates me or thinks I'm annoying or holds a grudge against me for something I did. All these possibilities and no answers. All these tones and body languages I can try to analyze but cannot read. Even silence can mean several things. How do I navigate a world of so many possibilities? It's so much easier to be a loner. Only watch YouTubers, because they have no clue you exist. You're just one of the many views, a statistic, a blank. Not being perceived by anyone seems like such bliss.

[urmomsfavelesbian]

girl help i. what if i miss season 14 so much that i cried watching the new episode what if my eyes are intrinsically searching for my daya my boscy my willow and im feeling like an abandoned puppy when i can’t find them !!!! what if my chest actually hurts !!!! what if i’ll never be able to move on from season 14 because it changed my life and showed me joy that nothing ever has !!!!! what if it genuinely feels like i’m losing a part of myself !!!!! huh what THEN !!!!!