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sigma freud diagnosed me with equal combinations of oral-aggressive and phallic-aggressive and honestly i think he should have been shot with a gun
#cuz wtf was he on about#why is it all abt sex#all that coke went to his head i fear#sigmund freud#personality test#mbti#enneagram
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amab and afab, if they were used as shorthand for the actual full phrases that they signify, with emphasis on the "assigned" part, and an understanding that they are enforcements of normative (ie, dyadic and cisgender and binary) sex, would be like. really useful. but people took the terms and started using them as shorthand FOR normative sex instead of the ENFORCEMENT OF normative sex. so when other trans people (almost always dyadic trans people) ask for your agab they are almost always asking for your Original Genital Situation. your starting point, so to say. and the reason FOR asking is also almost always bc they are trying to also enforce a certain kind of normativity within queer spaces (which is stupid bc being queer is inherently non-normative but here we are). like, you cant be a lesbian if you're ftm, bc you ARE m, so if you ARE a lesbian, then that means you're lying about some aspect of your identity. does that make sense?
it is always always always incredibly.... i do not trust dyadic trans people that use cagab terms, even moreso than i do not trust dyadic trans people that just use agab terms. agab is also coopted intersex language, but the "coercive" part of cagab SPECIFICALLY refers to medical "intervention" of intersex characteristics, such as "corrective" surgeries and hrt. i am deeply fucking suspicious of any dyadic trans person that uses those terms exactly the same as described above, even moreso if they do so bc "all gender is coercive".
like. yeah. that's true. but you use these terms to erase and overtake intersex discussions on the medical abuse of intersex infants. and i cant help but wonder why you would feel the need to do that.
#iirc it was also common to tirf ideology and the baeddel group#< notoriously intersexist group#to say nothing of any other tirf beliefs#both of these misuses of agab and cagab come from the same source#but it is . deeply disconcerting with cagab#bc its like. that is such a lesser known term in the greater dyadic trans community#you would HAVE to have known what it originally meant#either YOU are misusing it INTENTIONALLY#or someone TAUGHT you to misuse it INTENTIONALLY#people that are cruel and bigoted always want to believe theyre good people#so its hard to convince them when they are being bigoted#esp as marginalized people#and especially as a marginalized people that is particularly affected by the same enforcement of normative sex#the more i learned about this the more i learned abt intersexism in trans spaces#the more i notice it. its so fucking pervasive#and like u should care abt intersexism on its own but its like#no surprise that the ppl misusing cagab terms usually are transandrophobic (as the discourse du jour) and exorsexist#these things go together and reinforce each other#anyways it sucks bc ill see a BEAUTIFULLY written analysis of transmisogyny but so often there will be#like one thing. two things maybe.#and ill go to ops blog search a few keywords and lo and behold#they are transphobic. they are intersexist. they are racist. they are aphobic.#all forms of exclusionist politic in the queer community just lead into each other ad infinitum#nauseating... and#i will read the theory of people who disgust me or who are fundamentally wrong abt other ppls experiences bc i think they still have#valuable things to say but i am SO FUCKING TIRED of running into the same goddamn problem EVERY fucking time#i think its just the posts that get circulated the most that are like that#bc i think the majority of people dont actively seek out and learn abt new queer theory as it rolls in#or other ppls experiences in general#so they dont learnt to recognize the red flags or even realize why its bad in the first place
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can i ask why ur getting the surgery? /gen curious /no hate
i am getting a bi(lateral)salp(ingectomy) bc i never want to be pregnant or be a parent!
Even if i do change my mind later about the parent thing (not super likely but things can change, sure) theres noooo shortage of single parents lmao
And even if I never End Up In The Circumstance(s) Where I COULD Become Pregnant in my life, I'd want the peace of mind anyway...
I've always felt disgusted that this is something my body is capable of. I want it to be MY body and not a site and vessel for potential tragedy in any direction. And I want it to be something permanent and not dependent on access to services/medicines or even laws!!! Dis is a gender affirming surgery for me honestly...
#anonymous#skunk mail#in the past ive always thot about how id obvs immediately get an abortion if anything happened#but along with living in texas idk#like. id obvs get it but just the thought of ever being pregnant in my life for even a little bit makes me feel sick.#idk what id do. what a betrayal by the shell im in that would be.#my mind wld be frayed forever. ive had nightmares abt it. i dont think i cld ever Enjoy Anything if i was always worried about BC failure.#pregnancy is so unnerving to me i dont even like seeing or being around pregnant animals especially when ppl start calling them Mommy or#Mama it just makes me extremely uncomfortable.#my life was destined to be tragedy as soon as I was born in this body‚ i might as well do one of the only things I can do to ease the horro#of it#ive literally had my day ruined by just remembering its something my body can do. it makes me so miserable#it feels so disgusting etc#without the surgery my life would continue to feel like its counting down to inevitable tragedy#whether it be by Scare or Assault#and why wld i continue to live my life like that if its always going to be unwanted!!!!! need permanent solution and not just a bandaid#its not like the opportunities come up often but honestly ive even been avoiding sex bc of this. id rather just not ever do it at all#than risk anything
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[puts my hand on your shoulder] bro the 'is the lamb amab or afab' question is so stupid dude, canonically the answer is neither. in that world, anyone can have kids with anyone, these characters very clearly arent from a species with two sexes, there is no male or female in here, gender is entirely separate from biology in this world dude. this is not an either/or situation, all the followers are both bro, theyre hermaphroditic, can you hear me?
#they should all have both sets of geni tals can you hear me??? there is no afab amab!! it doesnt exist how else would the matin g tent work#THEYRE NOT GONOCHORIC PLEASE#i also think that genetically they have to all be one or a few species with an incredible amount of viable hybridisation due to#like the similarities in what they can eat and do and stuff on account of theyre all the same interchangable follower model#which is a step too far in overthinking it but like. ppl really got me stumped wondering why theyd ask a question like is the lamb afab#especially coming up to other ppl and asking and making it uncomfortale having to explain what u think and why#cotl#sozo reproduces asexually why did we decide to add this division to a game that doesnt have it#thays like arguing over minecraft cows#idk it just comes across a little weird to ask so often i need nb characters it doesnt matter abt their bio sex anyway
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the king shunned, the lion dead, the knight lost, the princess absent. but the wizard lives.
#pokemon#swsh#champion league#cw: gore#hi! this one is also about being trans btw. but mostly it's abt stories#I think I was drawing this one like ''leon should get to have fun a little'' and it turned into. this#well. there are many things already! like I've been rotating the lion dance costume head as trophy thing in my brain since#that one doodle I did with that lion head#the original idea for this has the wreaths more prominent and also pizelated#and. it tried to incorporate something that needs much more delicate handling#than I'm currently capable of. so I shelved it for this instead#I think this piece is just like. fully linking the king-knight-beast-princess-wizard figures altogether for leon#u know what I think abt all that! u kno whats up#but also just a tiny bit. this was drawn with that whole once-a-month disk horse abt sexing skeleton remains#about which my only real thought is ''I gotta be buried in a solid metal salmon suit then''#well. if I were to be buried at all. I'm good to be thrown out for a natural meal as well of course#(technically) first piece after job babey!!#in the end the tiger wanted to be drawn first but this was started way beforehand#I think because I wanted something more ink-heavy. since my job art was almost entirely painted#to anyone who may come into my inbox or comment to ask why the bones shine: its cause theyre wet. congrats#have a good night lads! it's nice and cool to be gross sometimes
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cannot get over how absurd Sunstreaker’s and Sideswipe’s relationship is in IDW. Sunstreaker’s like. this is my brother. I love him very much. I do love showing off and being a menace but I always try to include my brother in my stunts and i dont see anything patronizing about what im doing, im just trying to be supportive and nice. I am now currently being tortured through means beyond your understanding because I decided to be cocky and then I got kidnapped and now im here. I need you to kill me. I need to be killed. The pain is unbearable. I can’t stand closing my eyes. I do not feel comfortable in my own body, because it feels alien, it does not feel like mine, not anymore. I miss my friends. I want help. Please kill me. and while all this is happening Sideswipe is like i fucking HATE my brother. I want him DEAD. i hope hes DEAD. hes such a fucking show off and he loves doing better than me on PURPOSE. He includes me in his stunts and tries to get me to do things instead of him bc he loves throwing it in my face how much better than me he is. He says he loves me but i KNOW hes lying and doing it to seem cool and like a good person. I dont even actually want to LOOK for him. Im just looking for him because then i can prove im better than him. I just want to be the one to rescue him so i can throw it in his face. Then when hes rescued ill be mean and when were separated ill send him videos and voice mails of my mission.
Sideswipe was filled with so much hate and envy towards Sunstreaker while streaker was literally just chilling out and being himself he literally didnt even seem all that much of a show off. he was doing the same thing everyone else was doing and sideswipe hated him for it. but they were still brothers. do you guys think about how they were brothers and streaker left in the lost light to heal from the war and then when he came to Earth for his brother he found a broken and battered corpse that resembled a compacted soda can. Do you think about the simple difference of Sideswipe not so much as blinking when they find Sunstreaker as nothing but a head and nerves vs Sunstreaker yelling we cant leave my brother hes in there! and Sideswipe! what did they DO to you?!
#i think abt it all the time.#why was sideswipe like that towards streaker it was so fucking funny#in one panel youd get sunstreaker begging someone to kill him while theyre having sex in front of his beaten and beheaded corpse and then#the next you have sideswipe like "when we rescue streaker hell be such a fucking jerk abt it i fucking hate him i hope something BAD happend#WHAT WAS WRONG WITH HIM#IM SO SERIOUS#sideswipe#sunstreaker#idw transformers#meta#they speak#mine#the ramblings of a mistful storm#maccadam
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his eyes are up here bud
#AND HE WAS HIGH IN THIS SCENE#im soooooo normal#very#very normal#im not a prude but why is every fic abt them like ur my sex slave what if i don’t want to read hardcore freaky deaky smut all the time#can i get some like this all happened the exact same way but they had thoughts about kissing#yeah#wheres my pining#suits#harvey specter#mike ross
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Watching everyone do a 180 on caitvi as they become the internet's favorite yuri punching bag 😔 I know the writing is partially to blame for this but fuck y'all the version of them that exists in my head is good actually.
#arcane#caitvi#people not liking cops is fair#but damn who in this story IS a good person except ekko. Ambessa is a dictator and colonizer and frankly the hottest character of the show#and why are you expecting good class commentary from the show based on a property from riot games incorporated.#complaining and whining about fandom#thinking about caitvi all day...i could've fixed them#the caitlyn redemption arc shouldve involved her finding out ambessa was behind the memorial attack#and have a full on blubbering breakdown in guilt#and THEN the sex scene happens#NAWT in a jailcell while jinx is abt to kill herself.#vi looks sexy when tormented too but actually it should've been CAIT who was spiraling leading into the fucking.
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just watched the first episode of iwtv and had to quietly but frantically pace two laps around the house bc holy fucking SHIT
#like uhhhhhhhhhhhh. i hope yall are ready for me to be obsessed w this shit#u know when u consume some good good content and you just go God fucking dammit. i’m gonna write fic abt this and i have No choice#like jesus fucking Christ i’m. i literally had to remember to breathe towards the end of the episode bc i was getting dizzy from#subconsciously holding my breath#why did no one tell me there’s gay sex in the First episode. WHY!!!!!!!!!!!!!#i assumed this was an ofmd wwdits queerbaiting/Insanely slow burn situation#like jfc i’m. i’m all in man. this show is going to ruin me
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always forget how absolutely awful Arizona is to Callie until I rewatch
#why is she violently biphobic at every available chance#i will never get over her saying she only gets “the gay callie”#and “that’s only abt 20 minutes a night cuz you feel to bloated to even let me touch you”#LIKE HUH#nasty behavior#there is just one bisexual callie#and why upset your PREGNANT girlfriend doesn’t want to have sex all the time#you freak#greys anatomy#arizona robbins#callie torres
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Thought thats applied to like three or four different contexts this week -> gintama is about having guys in you
#Gintama is about. Just as inexplicably as orv is. Being plural. And. Having gay sex. And. Being a vessel for grief/metaphors/plot echoes#And. Being The Understanderrrrrrrrrr#And then whatever literal nonsense takasugi is doing with this concept. Plus the having psychosis#Sopping wet gintoki posting#Gintama is abt all the ways u can invite guys inside u. Oh right also ghost possession. Which is why it has its eternal hooks in me sadly#Theres never been so many guys in other guys
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also it’s crazy that sabrina has received all this backlash when men are always taking off their shirts performing half naked and mimicking sex w their guitars or whatever and the only thing u see is men and women and the tabloids thirsting over it
#like idgaf abt men doing all of that either but that’s just hypocrisy and double standards!!!!#and like i know there’s bigger issues in the world but like why are ppl so weird abt sex!!!!!#like women also like to fuck!!!!! what’s so difficult to understand!!!!#like u did the same thing to miley cyrus in 2013 grow up!!!!!!#also ppl trying to justify themselves saying there’s kids at her shows 😭#WHO is bringing their child at a sabrina carpenter show like that’s completely on u 😭😭😭😭#most of her songs are abt sex like what r u doing bringing Ur child there that’s ur responsibility no the pop star’s…….
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certain rarepair ships stop shit talking abt the more popular ship involving one of the characters in the rarepair on every single post abt that u make challenge IMPOSSIBLE
#weird as hell can u just enjoy your thing without it being about something else or what#sorry its the wrong hour of morning for me and i am a hater but its EVERY FUCKING POST#'why does everyone talk about this duo with loads of canon interactions and an established dynamic when they could be talking abt#this guy having sex with boinkus bong from the spin off mangas thirteenth edition special?'#tired of you mfs can you leave my sight forever you all distress me#nyxi cant stfu
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re: "good girl" i think they say it once randomly as a joke and its just one of those things that gets him wayyy more than they expected it would. so now its their secret weapon and they use it very sparingly and every single time he gets super embarrassed about it but it works ill tell you what.
#HES MY PRINCESS IDEK.#i dont think it happens naturally all that much because theyre usually in the business of calling each other names and being mean#so i think this would just be a random night where theyre on top and just think it would be really funny. to yank on his leash and call him#a good girl after bullying him into doing something. and well i just think it would get him is all i dont knowwwwwwwwwwwwww#i havr a lot of thoughts on the matter but i will stop for now#but the tldr is that with each other they tend to switch frequently and are always fighting#so i think itd take someone else being in the picture for hog to even realize how much he likes being a good boy :3#and i also dont think fish would be good at straightforward domming in the way he would want and they both know that#so its something he keeps between him and rat mostly. please dont ask me questions abt jrs sex life i have too many opinions on it#anyways. i think even tho fish knows theyd be bad at that they still feel left out so sometimes they go watch. they dont get anything out of#doing that theyre just sort of taking mental notes#all of this circles back to i think fish has always been the more sexually experienced of the two. and romantically.#i dont rlly think hog is a guy who dates i dont think hes ever been that and i dont think he made much time for hookups#(i think its cute if hes a virgin when they meet but 🤷 im not solid on it)#but i think for him hes just only ever fucked this one person and they do a LOT of stuff and it gets the job done so hes just never really#tried anything else. but. and again i have too many opinions on this but i think rat wouldnt be into their usual shteeze#i think hes a bit of a freak in his own way but the blood and weird anger issues is just not doing it for him most of the time#but i do think if given the opportunity he would LOVE to be The Boss for a little bit so i think he and hog can explore that together and it#will work out beautifully for them. this is great because i am not into strict d/s dynamics like that but i know in my heart that hoggy#would be. and i cant do that for him#again i think fish would be butthurt about this. mostly in a 'why didnt u tell me so we could try this :(' and he would go#'because you would suck at it and wouldnt like it' and they go oh. right. well im still mad#ANYWAYS. circling back. i think the good girl thing would be something fish knows that rat doesnt. and idk if theyd tell him or not#because i do think if they tell him he is using that for evil hog is going to be a good girl forever and ever. rat doesnt have the patience#to space it out the way fish does. which idk maybe thatd be good for hog he could work through some stuff...#but on the other hand i think its fun if they DONT tell him and just bust it out sometime when all 3 of them are doing the deed. or whatever#because again they mostly like how embarrassed he gets about it and i think he would be reallyyyy flustered by it#^ this is essentially part of my fantasy about spitroasting my beautiful wife until he cries just so everyone knows#idk i just think when he lets go of himself hed be a very cute and kind of needy subby bottom and i think hed be really easy to fluster#about it and i want it so bad
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I hate when people ask you something about an interest you have and when you answer they’re like “how do you know?” I’m going to murder you
#not in the curious way I mean the condescending way.#this is specifically about tarantula mating. no my tarantulas cannot mate. no they cant make a hybrid.#do i need to sit you down and tell you about mechanical isolation. they are two different genus'. yes theyre closely related.#no they cannot mate. tehy dont have compatable reproductive organs. do i need to sit you down and explain that or can you shut up when i sa#no they cant breed#like. again i love when ppl ask me stuff about bugs i love to infodump but like.#ok eyah this post is abt someone who keeps asking me this (nbh) and like. hes like why dont you breed your spiders#and im like oh well first of all theyre not mature seconf of all they cant even breed#and hes like oh just have them make a hybrid and im like no they cant breed they cant make a hybrid#AND HES LIKE. oh why dont you try tho like how do you know like what if they make a new species.#im going to kill youand hang you on a fucking meat hook ok ?#like. lIKE. HE DOENST LISTNEN TO ME WHEN I TELL HIM THINGS.'#do ineed to sit you down and tell you that the brachypelma genus' copulatory organs are too small compared to the tliltocatl's#do i need to tell you that the brachypelma genus' spermathica baseplate is much stronger and harder than the tliltocatl's. and therefore-#-the male tliltocatyl could not penetrate it. do i need to explain bug sex to you or are you gonna trust me bro#IKNOW WTA IM TALKIGN ABOUT PELALSSEE#not a big deal just. a major pet peeve of mine\#hollowspeak
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i won’t screenshot the dms bc i don’t feel like opening the latest message but EYE posted on my story abt the tiktok pictured below basically about how i got horny thinking abt someone working through a difficult math problem lol don’t worry abt that anyway sam slides up bc i cut part of it out so as to avoid insta censors and my slight embarrassment lol and was like does that say c*m and i was like well yes and then he was like haha what you’re into math… girl u have to walk w the thought process 😑 which i know you’re incapable of anyway so i vaguely responded like ah yeah what being away from stem for so long will do to u and he responds with like ten messages. including. ‘you gotta do it yourself’ that’s not the point 🙄 ‘you know how i’m terrible at talking to women’ wow really ‘so i realized i can calculate the speed of cum’ ‘bc i have some data’ DID I ASK?????!???!?!!!?!!!!! hello there’s oversharing and then there’s this… does the girl you’re having sex with know you share to this extent. and then he said how he accidentally brought this up to someone irl to be like haha awk whoops and i was like yeah well there r times where perhaps we need to self censor. and then i also get a message that’s like ‘hang on im doing the math’ IM NEVER EVER EVER GONNA BE ATTRACTED TO U I HOPE U KNOW THAT SCREAAMMMMM (and u need to know bc he’s genderfluid. im only using one set of pronouns for clarity on here ok i promise im not a dick. but he thinks he’s like. an exception for lesbians basically… like he doesn’t Count…. and like look im no essentialist im all for like freaky gender sex but also at so many other turns you do take advantage of being seen as a white male so. i don’t. yeah.) he’s kind of like the creepy dude at the edge of the friend group in high school named matt who would constantly harass me and my ex but like tried to be so lowk abt it. and it’s so bad basically. ‘17mph is crazy’ i hope you fall in an intersection sorry i can’t do this anymore 😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫😵💫 so pissed i have to see him tmrw i should be able to watch mmxxl w scully in peace
#like. WHAT possesses a person to say all this#it’s not like i’ve never talked abt sex stuff w sam or friends i mean look at my major and shit we’re watching we’re all adults here#but like HUUUUHHHHH???? on my silly little story about wanting to watch someone do calc or some shit… shut up…#it’s actually insufferable and i need u all to know. it has not always been to#like. this egregiously bad. certainly there are some flags i missed over time even when we first met maybe but he was significantly#more chill last year.. at least as far as i interacted w him. this is like. yeah idk#and just any time we’re together in person now he launches into whatever is on his mind or he’s up to at that moment what happened to hello#how are you etc. not that i can even like stand conversation esp like. dude we haven’t talked since the day we recorded the podcast#assignment which was also egregious. why would you start off like this. hello#abby talks#i hope his other roommate like beats him up or something. wont happen but well#AND more importantly. do i wear a mini skirt tmrw if i’m seeing roommate#we’re supposed to but we were also hoping to hang outside and now it’s gonna rainnnn but we’ll see#i don’t usually go for a cunty little fit on a monday. but i could. AND i get to go to class a half hour late
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