#which ppl don't usually find attractive these days

[sebdoesthings]

Regis blorbo chart thingy! ☺️

spent entirely too long on this 🤙

[Blorbo Blingus sheet]

[scarlettfevor]

I think that it's really sad how lesbians really have no role models in Hollywood or in the music industry to look up to, it's even worse because like I said before every since the entire gay community was labeled as queer straight people have starting opting into our community. I think that the reason why everything is so fucked up is because straight women started calling themselves bi, and bi women realized this and started calling themselves lesbians to overcompensate for the attraction that straight women in their communities had erased. Which is why so many famous "lesbians" are actually bi (chapel ranch, renee rapp, kehlani) and it doesn't help that they're spreading this harmful rhetoric of being lesbian "now" as if they decided to dedicate the first half of their career to men they dated for years or get pregnant by a man and *then* decide to become a lesbian, and parading these facts about publically only further making it seem like lesbians have to fight our non-existant attraction to men or are only lesbians because we don't want to date men. Pretty much all the famous out gay women are bi. If you had told middle school me that so many women were publically talking about their attraction to other women, I would've been overjoyed, but as I said earlier, not only are most of them bi but they spread harm to lesbians. The last popular lesbian celebrity I know is Haley Kiyoko and people always made fun of her when at the time, and even now she's basically the only out lesbian in the industry. And it's clear that the only reason why she gets made fun of is because she is kind of a GNC lesbian.

[peachjagiya]

something I have noticed about shippers especially #one group of shippers it's that they don't seem to like the idea of jk actually being attracted to men. A lot of shippers frame jk's sexuality as him being a straight dude with an exception for their fav (tkkrs too) and u can see an extension of this by the way they choose to insult Tae too,I have seen them act "offended" on jk's behalf bc "how could you think that he could like Tae's refrigerator body" (ofc they word it a lot more meaninly) and the pictures the show it's just him being a hot dude lmao 😭 among a lot of other vile remarks about his body and of course there's nothing wrong with his body but it's clear to me this ppl have an idea of how a gay couple should look to be appealing to their fantasies and that jk must be a straight dude whose world happened to be put upside down by their "feminine prettier than girls" fav which btw I don't see jm as feminine at all btw it's just that he is short man 😭

And then I think about the many videos of jk being entranced by Tae's looks and particularly that one where they were filming the run's pool scene and his shirt sticks to his body when he is out of the water and u can clearly see that jk likes likes what he is seeing (made more obvious by jm's absolute normal friend reaction) and him being like "his back is bigger" completely entranced and yes, jk likes a man, jk likes men (and there are many different ways in which a man can look ofc and different ppl can be particularly attracted to a way or other or many) but jokers point is the opposite of that, the way they insult Tae is like they don't like the idea of jk being attracted to traits they deem as not feminine bc are usual on men like being (comparatively to women) bigger in height and body proportions etc and that's bc deep down and bc of their straight fantasies a couple should have marked differences. Anyways my point is that if you are going to believe that your fav is in a relationship with man you have to believe they like MEN and not act weird about what that means.

And this applies to both shippers bc i have seen tkkrs being weird about tk's bodies too

Goodness, I've never actively made that connection but now you say it, there is a definite tendency.

It's fetishization plain as day, I think. The Wattpad ideal of a gay couple being one macho guy and one cutesy femme guy, overemphasis on dominant/submissive stereotypes. I think every fandom I've ever been in has had a thing for it. I wish I knew the source of it! Why is it such a popular ship dynamic?

A lot of shippers frame jk's sexuality as him being a straight dude with an exception for their fav

This is really interesting too. Important to note that demisexuality is real, where the attraction develops after the emotional attachment, and that could encompass this idea that only one guy is attractive to him.

But it's not really about what JK does and doesn't find attractive. If he's attracted to various men, we have no idea, but as ever the real problem is the absolute shutting down of an idea. Discounting a whole "genre" of man just because they'd rather sit with their fantasy is problematic, reductive and wilfully ignorant of the breadth of queer attraction. And when the shutting down of an idea comes with a damaging limiting stereotype and a weird kind of body shaming, almost...? I'm side-eyeing. It's very "yes you can be gay as long as the gay that you are is the gay that I want you to be." Nah, accept all queerness, actually.

A note on attraction though: I think about especially the Run wet tee moment that you referenced and actually, when Tae is dancing and JK is shouting awww yeah from the table - it's always struck me as an attracted appreciative tone to his voice.

But also noticing Namjoon's thighs first? Cute story but actually... To be distracted by someone's thighs... 😂 And Namjoon is so masc.

(I'm not Namkook shipping 😂😂😂 but if I have any small silly conviction, it's that Jungkook did nurse a tiny little boyish crush on Namjoon: https://twitter.com/namkookloops/status/970380343885926408?t=FIQjZfeSUWaGDmMyu5zV3A&s=19)

Thanks! These thoughts were super thoughts! 💜

[candiid-caniine]

Is it wrong to be attracted to multiple genders but only mostly be attracted to one genitalia? Like I'm bisexual and I've kind of always known I was queer, idk if it's my inherent distrust of cis women specifically because they're always the ones that make my life worse or if I'm just attracted to penises. Is that wrong....or is that okay? -jjba anon

I don't think it's wrong at all, nor do I think it somehow makes you less queer (in case you were wondering)! attraction is one of those strange things.

look at me for example: im t4t primarily, which means I'm mostly attracted to other trans and/or nonbinary ppl. that's not to say I just prefer it: these days, I mostly find myself explicitly attracted to other trans people, and secondarily women, whether trans or cis, with a marginally small, occasional attraction to some cis men.

and my spouse: theyre pan, finding attraction across all genders, but are mostly attracted to people with gender expressions that are sort of "in the middle" - that's female-identifying people who are masc or butch, male-identifying people who are femme, and nonbinary folks in general, along with high femmes but not high masc usually.

in short, there's nothing at all wrong with being attracted to both men and women, but preferring penises on both. being attracted to cis men and trans women specifically doesn't make you any less bi/pan 💕 anyone who tells you otherwise, I'd be suspect of their views on transfemmes tbh.

[felixwaffling]

Totally different vibe but I'm gay and thinking so much about him. This post might get nsfw, folks.

I'm smitten. Sure we have our problems, I mean, of course we do, he's dating ME- But FUCK, man. It's like how I felt with Alex except Victor is a good person who actually loves me. He's way stronger than me, which makes me SHAKE bro. He could hurt me if he wanted to, but he's so nice. He calls me things that have me on my fucking knees.

Like. Hooooly shit I can't wait til I get a chance to meet him in person bc when I say I'm gonna do whatever he wants... I MEAN WHATEVER. Like. I will be incapable of saying no. I will be pathetic.

Imagine if we meet in a bar and I get super drunk and kiss him dude that- HGJDHDBFHFHD.

I want him. I want him ON ME. I legit- like. I'm acespec, sex repulses me, the thought of being touched is so scary, but like I'd let him be all over me if he actually wanted me. I'd let him do ANYTHING.

I am so fucking attracted to this guy, and we have so much in common that some days we do nothing but play video games for literally the whole day together... We play almost every night and he puts up with my drunk nonsense, he doesn't complain <333

I wish I could tell him about the shit I'm into bc the only way this could get better is if I get proper dominated man I'm- I'm weak, I'm small, I like hiding behind people and letting them make all the decisions. I'm a dog for this man. I'm property.

FUCK I am drunk rn and if any of my friends find this I'm going to be humiliated beyond belief, they don't-

Nobody knows how much I want this man to fuck me and it weighs heavy, like, I don't even think he knows how I'd kill for him to both absolutely wreck me AND baby me.

Bc on one hand. I'm a little baby. I'm pure. I'm innocent. Treat me like a little goober and hold me and. IDK FUCK MAYBE I JUST HAVE DADDY ISSUES BC I THINK IM ASKING FOR A DILF-

... but on the other hand, I'm a bad person, I'm the worst, I'm whatever villain you need me to be just PLEASE put me in my fucking place I *WANT* you to punish me I'm like literally asking for it, I'm doing shit that gets on ur nerves bc I wanna be RAILED man I WOULD BE SO MUCH LESS ANNOYING IF YOUD JUST SLAM ME AGAINST THE WALL AND BREAK ME WHEN IM A LITTLE BITCH

HhHh.

I still can't believe I'm saying all this shit

I'm beyond wasted. Like. Intoxicated moreso than usual. Typing this so far has taken an HOUR and I got sad halfway through out of humiliation and went to write that first post. But even through all the drinking, all I can really think about is being pinned to his bed 👉👈,,,

,,, it's not just sex either bc I want kisses. Neck kisses. Like. Damn. I want him to hold me from behind. I want to cling to him. Hide my face against him. If he touched my face I would do the fucking meme thing and refuse to let go of his hand. I want to snuggle against him and just. Disappear for a while.

.... I want to cry myself to sleep in *his arms* instead of on my own. I hug my pillows and try desperately to pretend they're him. I see him when I fall asleep, when I'm alone, when I'm sad... when I'm fucking suicidal the thing that stops me is that then I'd have to wait who KNOWS how long for him to live out his own life, and that I might have to watch him fall in love with someone else (the worst thing ever)

If. If I ever lost him idk what I'd do because fuck dude. He's everything. Victor is my world. I want to meet him.

.... I also want him to control every aspect of my life and tell me what to do bc without guidance I drown. Ppl might think it'd be toxic, but I think I need that in my life. I hate making decisions. I want to sit quietly and let him think, bc I'm bad at thinking, and thinking overwhelms me. I want him to hide me behind him and be the one to handle the world so that I can just be *his.*

UGH. THIS IS THE HORNIEST, SAPPIEST FUCKING POST IVE EVER MADE EVER.

[chevelleneech]

https://www.tumblr.com/chevelleneech/760748078531788800/confession?source=share

Mileapo the same actors from kinn Porsche right? I haven't watched the show but I'm aware of it since before it's release as i had watched one edit before it's release and i liked the chemistry, acting right away but i haven't watched cause i don't watch dramas/series/movies anything lol.

U know this reminded me of the other Thai bl drama actors their ship the brightwin....some 2-3 months ago one of them started dating and that causes distress in their shipping Fandom. All big accts left nd all that typical things happened and funny thing was the girl who bright is dating was another actor from their show right? She was frnds with both ig. Again haven't watched but got to know some things thr ppl on my tl who watched their drama when it aired.

This again made me realise how sometimes shippers just don't have the bigger picture in their mind you know. if i have to take jkk's example then we see them mostly with members so we usually just can compare how they behave with e/o to other members but there's soo many ppl outside that which we don't see so we don't have any idea how they treat other ppl. E.g. when those pictures of jk with mijoo were leaked it again caused havoc in Fandom cause ppl thought him back hugging is too much for friendship or what not. Again shippers cause so much over back hugs when jk seems pretty comfortable doing it with ppl he's close to doens't have to know them for years long u know. Armys for yrs has portrayed as jk hates woman when reality says otherwise.

We think jm treats jk in a certain way or vice versa when off cam there might be other people whom they treat more differently than that. I always think jungkook treats jm as his close frnds and jm does the same. When ppl were making big deal out of that jk bucking up at jm over sausage many said alot of things about jk when it's actually very normal in friends. I still don't think that's something jk would do to his actual partner but that's just my thoughts. People said jk not knowing jm's schedules nd not even going to any of jm's music shows despite being free ain't a big deal it happens in couples when i feel jk would be the first person to support when he's partner doing some projects as solo(if we assume jk is dating another artist).

Do i think jkk are close? Yes. Do i think they're more than friends? Yes. Do i think they flirt? Yes. Do i think they feel attraction towards one another? Maybe. Do i think they're dating? No. There are some rs that go beyond just friendship but it stops right before crossing the line between friends and romantic rs. I feel jkk's rs is there somewhere.

Feels one day fans gonna find them with their respective partners exactly like other ships.

Sorry it's just kinda rant

I’m not exactly 100% on what you’re comparing, because Mile and Apo were shipped, but not because of how much time they actually spent together. They were shipped for the same reasons as many BL actors, which is because they starred in a production together, and have major chemistry.

What added to the shipping is them having history outside the show, seeing as they went to the same college and crossed paths enough times, but weren’t friends. Then Mile talked about how he always thought Apo was good looking, back when Apo came up as an actor. And Apo thought Mile was handsome from when he saw him in their college gym working out. On top of that, Mike basically created the production company Kinnporsche was released under, because he wanted Apo to have the opportunity to shine. So they are or were really good friends, and Apo teased Mile a lot about being his sugar daddy because Mile is really rich, as he grew up in a wealthy business family. But outside of extremely specific lines, shipping them wasn’t because of how they acted around each other, because they spent a lot of time together, or because they appeared to want to be together.

So all that said, while people obviously shipped and still ship them, they aren’t really comparable to JM and JK, because Jimin and Jungkook aren’t being shipped just for being friends and coworkers during one project. They have a decade of history and are very questionable together, and as AYS shows, they were intentional about making time to spend together. Mile and Apo flirt and have fun, and are also private about their friendship for the most part, but anyone shipping them beyond the “I think they’d look good together.” we’re doing so knowing they likely weren’t a couple. Their chemistry is real, and I definitely thought they would remain visibly close as friends, but things change. Also, Mile is apparently dating a woman he has been rumored to have gotten with like two years ago, when he and Apo were still visibly close. So again, people were shipping knowing they weren’t together.

Yes, Jimin and Jungkook’s friendship might change after enlistment as well, we don’t know, but the context and circumstances are very different.

[ladyseidr]

What does your muse believe happens after death? Do they believe in an afterlife and why/why not? If they do, what do they imagine this afterlife to be? ( x )

Jeremy has a pretty, "Whatever happens after death, I don't know and it won't matter until then" mindset. He's fairly open-minded to spiritual stuff, but generally fluctuates between being atheist or agnostic religiously. He is not open to organized religion at all ( as someone who grew up in it ), however, and is vehemently against the concept of "Hell" or any sort of eternal punishment after death. No, his mother is a not a fan of his beliefs ( or lack there-of ), but she knows she couldn't change his mind if she tried.

Do they spend a lot of time dressing up, fixing their hair and/or putting on makeup? ( x )

Ooooh yeah. You don't get the rocker hair without some time and effort every single morning lmao. He does, in fact, put a decent among of energy into His Look. A majority of the time he does style his hair and choose his outfits and jewelry carefully, might even wear eyeliner if it's a special day to him ( like a date ). On his down days, whether he's planning on just lounging around at home or he's sick / feeling bad, he'll probably just put his hair up and wear something comfortable.

Yes, I do think it should throw your muse off the first time they see him with his hair unstyled lmao

What is your muse like when they're in love? What does your muse find attractive in someone else? What are their love languages? How do they show affection? Do they show any distinct signs that they're in love? ( x )

He falls for somebody fast and hard, he just can't help it. He's very, very affectionate, both physically and emotionally. Definitely not the type to leave things unsaid. That's not to say he never gets bashful, but once in a committed relationship he's usually comfortable being open. He's allllll about quality time, physical affection, and verbal affection but honestly all of the "love languages" apply to him ( like they do for most ppl lmao ).

He definitely has a type ( hot people who look like trouble, regardless of whether that's true. . . but especially if that's true ), but personality-wise he loves somebody with a good sense of humor ( bonus points for teasing and sarcasm ) as well as people who are honest / maybe a little blunt so long as it's not just an excuse to be a dick lmao. He likes "trouble" as in Rebellion, not being a pretentious asshole.

Signs he's in love: wants to hang out with somebody, like, a lot. Clingy-level of ( obv consensual ) physical affection, especially cuddling. Showing off, which definitely includes showing off his fucking motorcycle and offering a ride on it, GODS. Very flirty """jokes,""" which are so clearly him just testing the waters.

[destinyc1020]

I’ll bite. I’m a Z fan who likes her with Tom now. Initially I can’t lie, I was glad she was with JE or even the rumors about JDW. Tom felt like such a school boy, bouncing everywhere and Z was moving into her “adult” era, JE seemed to compliment that more serious and artistic vibe she had - and yea they looked better paired. Nowadays while I like Tom some what I will admit that sometimes he still seems very young boy compared to her woman which isn’t helped by the height. On my worst opinion days it feels like he is far behind in every category.

Thank you Anon for your honesty. I'm glad you're at least being HONEST lol. 😂

I'm pretty sure that's probably how a LOT of Z fans feel (or USED to feel at some time) tbh. 🤷🏾‍♀️ I really think some ppl have some really warped views of celebrities or smthg lol. 🥴

I think ppl make judgements when they don't really know someone on the public eye, and the judgments are usually negative until they get to know MORE about the person. I'll admit, I've been guilty of it too! 🤷🏾‍♀️

But once I've spent more time in someone's fandom, and get to know more about them (either through fans, fan encounters, or just their interviews and whatnot), my view of them starts to change..... usually for the positive. 😌

With Tom, I personally feel like he CAN be serious? I've seen him be serious before. I mean, he's the son of a comedian for goodness sakes lol, so he's going to have jokes and a sense of humor, and I think Zendaya LOVES that about him! 😂

I actually don't think she would like being with a guy who's TOO serious or uptight... 👀 I know I personally wouldn't. I prefer light-hearted, EASY-going guys. No drama or up and down attitudes for me please no. I dated a guy who was like that (up and down all the time) and it was a nightmare 🥴 I was so attracted to him, but in the end, he was just a downer! I vowed never to be with a guy like that ever again lol. I can't do the up and down rollercoaster, or guys who take themselves TOO seriously. 🥴

I think that's why I didn't really think that she and Big Foot were a good match. He just always seemed like he took himself TOO seriously, and was always on a foul mood lol 😆 Now, I could be totally WRONG and way off base about him, but that's just the VIBE that he puts out to me. Idk the dude personally, so again my perception could be way off base, and I'm perfectly happy to admit that. 🤷🏾‍♀️

Z is def in her "grown woman" era, but I think that Tom is in his "grown man" era as well now. Women DO mature faster than guys lol... But hey, sometimes opposites attract! 😃 You don't want someone TOO much like you lol. That's kinda boring? You want a guy/person who can teach you things, make you look at things differently, open you up, allow you to be completely YOURSELF. One thing about Tom is that he's very confident in himself, and he is just who he is regardless. 🤷🏾‍♀️ That's a very attractive trait. I'm sure that allows her to be 100% herself as well! 😌

I just don't understand why ppl police us black women and who we find attractive so much! It's ANNOYING!! 😤🥴 Leave us alone my gosh lol. 😂 Everyone's always got an opinion on who we like, date, smash, or find attractive. 😒 Even in the black community! Like, can't we just LIVE and love in PEACE?? Geez! Let us thirst in peace please lol 😆

I think Z is with the right guy for her who makes her "the happiest"! 🥰❤

[junkissed]

hihi im starting a writing blog for svt but im relatively new to tumblr and its mechanics and all the etiquette and things like that. also im a jun biased and im weird in the way where i don't usually have inspo for other members? if that makes sense? so like idk is there anything i need to know or is it relatively acceptable to mostly only write for one or two members?

also sidenote but i really love some of your writings ahaha match of the season is my favourite :D thank you so much if you ever reply!

no that totally makes sense! i would say most authors on here will write for ot13 but they definitely write more for their bias than any other member. i feel the same way, for me it's easier to write for jun than for other members (and also i love him lol) so my writing ends up being like 90% jun and 10% other members. which is completely fine! at the end of the day it's your blog and your writing, and you should write for whoever you feel comfortable writing for and whoever gives you the most motivation. there are hundreds of writers on this site so if one writer only writes for a couple of members, it doesn't mean the other members won't get written :) nobody says you're required to write certain things or for certain members!

if you intentionally leave out one member but write for all the rest (i've seen writers who write ot12 and exclude jun because they aren't attracted to him), you might get some side eyes but again that is your choice. i personally wouldn't say a hard no to any members and i'll give them all my best shot, but that's my blog, and your blog is up to you.

as for things you'd need to know, i'd say the number one thing is interact with people! the best way to get interaction on your own work is to reblog and comment on other fics. as i'm sure you've heard me say before, reblogs are the most important feature on this site! it basically boils down to, treat others how you would want to be treated by reblogging their works and leaving feedback, even if it's just a simple "i really loved this!!!". it makes you stand out in our notifs and if you're also a writer it might even get you a new mutual.

other tips off the top of my head:

have a masterlist post (helps people find all your fics in one place) and have a guidelines post (makes it clear what you're comfy with)

DO NOT PLAGIARIZE AND DO NOT STEAL ANYONE ELSE'S WRITING (this one is in caps bc super super important!!! you can take ideas or inspiration from someone else but you cannot take their words or their writing. you'd think this one would be obvious but plagiarism happens a lot more than you'd think)

if you're inspired by someone else, tag them in your fic! it shows respect to the original author, and you should tag them whether it was from a fic you read or if they helped you brainstorm ideas. it doesn't have to be a super long thing, just a little "inspired by @onlyhuis's fic!!" is more than enough, but it goes a long way :)

like i said, you can write for whoever you want, whenever you want! when ppl start interacting you it's gonna be stressful because you want to make them happy and put out new fics often, but just remember that it's your blog and you get the final say on everything. don't put pressure on yourself to write constantly because you will get burned out and i promise it will not be fun!

if people send things that make you uncomfy, don't be afraid to delete (or block) them. it's your blog and your boundaries so don't feel guilty for standing up for yourself. also, ignore answer hate asks because they're just looking for attention so don't give it to them

trigger things properly! this is the little section before the fic that says "warnings". don't censor any words (using punctuation like bl00d or d3ath instead of typing blood or death) because it defeats the purpose of ppl who have those keywords filtered, so type out the whole word uncensored. this is a courtesy for people so they can choose to avoid content that may be harmful to them. (this also counts towards visual works, a lot of ppl use tags like "tw flashing" on gifsets)

speaking of tags, when you post be sure to put tags on it! it's the section at the bottom of your post with all the #'s. if you click on any of my fics you can see that i use tags like "jun smut", "seventeen scenarios", etc. these tags help people find what they want to read (but only tag relevant things; don't put "mingyu smut" on a jeonghan fic unless mingyu is actually in the fic). if you aren't sure which tags to use or how to format things, feel free to look at other fics for examples. if you read a lot of fics you might see there's a pretty standard way of doing it

the tags i use like "june.txt" and "june writes" are organizational tags. when you click on, for example, my "june writes" tag, the results are only my fics that have that tag. it basically organizes things into categories (which imo is the best part of tumblr) and it makes it easier to find different types of posts. it also allows people to filter those tags so posts with that tag don't show up (for example, i require minors on my blog to block the tag "minors dni" so that nothing nsfw is shown to them)

again like i said, don't be shy! make friends, join networks, send asks to people, reblog fics, etc etc. interacting with others is the #1 way to make writer friends :)

just a general tumblr tip: no one can see how many followers you have except you, so don't try to make it a competition of who has the most. it's what makes tumblr different from tw*tter and insta and it makes the social media experience a lot more casual because there's no influencers here. it's like a diary where you scream into the void and sometimes ppl scream back. a lot of writers do milestone events (i recently had one for hitting 1k followers) but you aren't required to do those either

if you have any questions about tags, filtering keywords, and other tumblr stuff like that, don't be afraid to ask! any tumblr veteran is more than willing to help break down our weird system to new bloggers

be proud of your work! even if it doesn't get many notes or feedback it doesn't mean you're a bad writer. writing should be fun and something you can enjoy doing, so don't make it seem like a chore by focusing too hard on numbers

i can't think of any more but here's my tag for important posts & info for new tumblrs users that you can look thru for more! i hope this helps :) and when you start your blog send me another ask!! i would love to be your first follower <3

[kuunibal]

Ok so I was talking to my brother ab him and he said that my darling said it was probably gonna last a couple weeks at most bc he was just kinda messing around and that was like well over a month ago so kinda hoping.

Tbh I don't mind that he doesn't love me I'm happy that I even get to have this relationship with him at least I'm able to get some if it out of my system ykwim, like most ppl don't get this close to their darling and watch from afar, so ig it's better than nothing.

I'm spending the next few days going into glowup mode tho bc I'm like a solid 8 most days ( the arrogance is jumping out but ik I'm attractive I've been told that my whole life and I love my appearance) but with effort and some mascara I can look a lot hotter lmao

Idk I haven't seen him in a couple months so I feel like I need to look as good as I can bc why would I give him anything less yk.

Also I'm in therapy yeah and on Wednesday my therapist is gonna talk to my mum ab everything and go over it and I'm scareddd bc I mentioned the violent urges and thoughts and that most relationships feel shallow and that once someone wrongs me or we break up or whatever all my feelings and empathy for them just dies and that I collect blackmail on people even when we're still friends or dating just in case and I don't want my fucking mum to know I have a darker side bc I put on a mask with my family so they don't suspect me!

-🍄

I get what you mean about being happy to even be as close as you are to your darling even if he doesn't return your feelings. I am still basically my beloved's default hookup when she is in between relationships, and I still treasure those little moments of closeness with her despite everything. Although I also feel a tad used sometimes, and it hurts to know that it is only temporary and not because she actually loves me.

It's not arrogance, it is good to be able to appreciate yourself! I hope the glowup/makeover goes well, usually I find it very empowering after.

Is it legal for your therapist to be disclosing all of that information to your mother, especially when you don't want all of it disclosed? To my knowledge, typically there is a right to confidentiality between therapist and patient unless you are putting yourself or others at risk (which you are not).

[menlove]

Same anon here, I don’t think you quite understood what I was trying to say and that’s okay because I just didn’t phrase it correctly. I wrote afabs because that’s honestly just easier to type, I tend to cringe when I use it as well. Back to the point: It’s less about gender essentialism and tbf the anecdotal evidence thing is definitely tricky, so we could go all day going back and forth, but that’s not gonna be productive. What I was trying to say is that it’s even engrained deeply in older people that *women experience attraction differently*. And yeah, that is gender essentialism that I don’t agree with, of course. I know there’s plenty of women who are horny beyond belief. But there’s some truth in the fact that there’s a standard for sexuality set that’s called *allosexual* and I honestly doubt that that standard is free of gender bias and free of oversimplification. And I definitely also wasn’t trying to say *you think you’re special for being ace*, even if I think some ace takes online are annoying when it comes to material reality of discrimination based on sexuality (see discourse about kink at pride). I’m on the aro ace spectrum, I just don’t need that identity label. But I talk to others and understand completely why they need it, I’m not gonna sit here and yell at them just because I don’t necessarily need that label.

Maybe what I was trying to convey is a bit too convoluted, I find it hard to find the words for this without it coming off wrong. I’ll sit on it and think about it again or how to phrase it. But thank you for your perspective, I find it very hard to talk about this because everyone I know who identifies as asexual is very defensive about this and I haven’t had the most positive experiences. I’m always willing to have my mind changed!

sorry this took me a bit to answer but aaah yeah i get you !!

(throwing under a readmore bc my response got long rip dw it's nothing bad i just tend to ramble)

and honestly i agree w 99% of what ur saying here and sorry i kinda jumped the gun a bit on misinterpreting ur point there. but yeah no i definitely feel all of this and i do think there's a big conversation to be had around what gets labeled "allosexual" and why bc it, like most other things when it comes to sexuality/health, is based around cishet white men and how they experience things. and i'm in the same boat as you as being on the ace spectrum but not really labeling it bc i don't find i Need to unless it's relevant (usually when it comes to talking to partners and making sure to set boundaries/expectations/etc but this is smth i think is important in any relationship regardless of how you identify).

oh and a quick clarification bc i don't want you to think i was trying to jump down Your throat but the "you think you're special for being ace" thing was more about how like. that's typically what Many ppl who say things along the lines of "everyone does that!" are saying. so while i absolutely love and welcome nuanced convos and pov's like yours the post was more abt ppl that are coming at it from a very black and white way that is super annoying

but yeah i agree like i think at the end of the day there's a lot of nuance to be had around the topic of micro-labels. and i think part of the issue is that a lot of people get very defensive on both sides (see the other anon that wound up in my ask after you lmfao). when in reality it's a complex situation that i think comes down to like...... everyone on earth experiences sexuality/gender/attraction in a unique way and you're never going to have the same exact experience as someone who shares your labels + there will always be someone w similar experiences that uses different labels. and these can be harmful to some people and helpful to some people & we should absolutely be able to have the conversations around ways in which they're harmful and ways in which they're helpful

bc i do agree that i think a Lot of people are on the "ace" spectrum and don't label it that way or need to and perhaps the category of "allosexual" to mean typical attraction needs to be workshopped bc what IS typical attraction and why is it typical ? and tbh the same can be said abt neurodivergent vs neurotypical.

overall i think it just comes down to what you feel most comfortable with and what labels/non-labels make you feel best abt yourself and feel truest to yourself. but we should definitely leave room to Have conversations on what is being viewed as normal vs what is being viewed as atypical

(also yeah lmao i do agree on ur point abt feeling a lil annoyed around conversations abt being realistic abt oppression and i say that as an "aspec" person who doesn't label it but. that is a conversation for another day)

[consequencesofargentdawn]

pretty disappointed to see recently that you coad support toxic players. as toxic and dramatic as PCU I dare say. So basically we have PCU on one hand, and then on the other hand, a forming clique of children. This seloriaz elf and her clique had previously been almost instanced in sw, rudely ignoring ppl for RPing supposedly with pcu people. when I /w them they ignored me again and then one of their alts whispered back at me saying to not bother them again because I was seen RPing with a PCU-affiliate whereas I simply chit-chatted with someone from the dawn that no longer even is in azura dawn. from the other screenshots also with shonn, I respect when he admits that he does 18+ RP and that he is mindful of not doing it public but that goes against the one who whispers, which is seloriaz and had a TRP profile with a not-so-hidden link of their nsfw character artwork. who's the real clown? pls do your research and don't give voice to toxic players that expose everyone to their nsfw artwork and they dont even give you a chance because you "RpEd WiTh ThAt oNe dUdE wHo We ThInK iS pcu sO wE iGnOre yOu!" So glad these people left Argent Dawn and went over to epsilon last I know. Better stay there. And coad, pls post this and if you kindly ask for evidence I have a few screenies though my TRP was wiped so I cant find that NSFW link I wrote above.

Sounds like malding PCU hotheads getting burnt here. You provide no receipts, no evidence of wrong doing from whoever you're trying to throw under the bus and your goons have created no less than seven (7) twitter accounts to harass someone.

People d o n o t want to interact with the PCU and are wholly entitled to curate and moderate their spaces online from those who align themselves with the group. You are a toxic brand who have attracted incels, genuine fascists and sympathetic rightoids who's attitudes towards women, minorities and vulnerable groups have routinely for the last five years and more been on par with the same type of "cleanse the society" rhetoric that neo-nazi extremists have pumped out. Your former Dear Leader often loved to compare himself to great totalitarian personages of the 20th century, and somewhat ironically given the context, to the great Butcherer of Bucha. You are abjectly the greatest hypocrites to ever ingloriously grace Argent Dawn.

We are breaking from our usual operating code as we don't generally reply to angry PCU wiseguys these days. The utter hysteria your ilk fill our inbox up with grants us glee and delight. Every anti-Semitic, racist and xenophobic jibe, every misogynistic and medieval "lol funny deus vult" quip and homophobic, transphobic and fragile cis white male angerbait sent our way? You think it does anything but encourage us further?

The PCU have n e v e r been able to provide genuine evidence of supposed wrong doing that hasn't clearly been through two layers of photoshop and reveals a players actual screen rather than the poorly cropped text box themselves and two buddies did together on Epsilon at three AM posing as other players to dirty, denigrate and slander innocent players. It's always someone posting easily faked TRP profiles, chat boxes that crop out 80% of the screen or suspiciously only use easily modifiable terms such as player names or two players sitting side by side one another (because that apparently is ERP?)

Yet what have we got? A mountain of evidence. A litany of questionable behaviors, off-color remarks and abuse dating over years of which at least half of all of this has been contributed by other players, the decent and normal people of Argent Dawn who read this blog to see just what scummy depths the PCU and all of its adjunct supporters are willing to prop up in the name of "good standards" and "protecting fellow roleplayers"

So to quote Akande Ogundimu, aka Doomfist.

Go and sit down.

[billys-lover]

Hi!!!!! Could I please get a ship?

I'm 18, I'm bi, I use she/her pronouns, I'm 5'3 and I'm pretty chubby, I'm black with dark skin and I have pastel pink locs right now but I like to dye my hair a lot!!!

I'm an infp and a Gemini sun, Libra moon, Gemini rising (with great decision making skills as you can imagine).

I have adhd and I tend to not speak until I'm spoken to, but once I start talking I don't stop easily lol. If I'm talking about something I'm especially interested in I can literally go on for hours at a time. I'm really into witchcraft, mythology, most cartoons, all of the twilight movies except new moon cause I don't like seeing ppl get sad, and languages, of which I'm currently learning seven (almost none of which are remotely useful lol) I especially love dead languages, rn I'm learning ancient Egyptian and Latin and I am ✨obsessed✨.

I'm a huge history nerd but I hate hearing about war and politics because they can be kinda triggering for me, i don't rlly like violence unless I know it's explicitly fake (so supernatural horror movies r usually good but if it seems to plausible I start to freak out lol). I'm incredibly sensitive but I think since I talk so much and overthink constantly I'm a lot more likely to just communicate with someone instead of arguing or fighting with them, (not that I can or would want to fight anyone I hate all physical activity so much lol) and I love love and being romanced but I have pretty bad trust issues

My favorite genre of music is probably hyperpop even though I listen to literally everything (one of my favorite songs is an Icelandic lullaby about the ghost of a child calling out to its mom) and I almost always have headphones on at 100% volume.

My receiving love languages are acts of service, gift giving, and quality time and my giving love languages are gift giving and quality time, I'll cry while watching anything even though I hate crying in front of people, and I love literally all animals (except centipedes, they scare me a lot) and would jump in front of a Mac truck for literally any stray cat, and I can and have walked into mildly unsafe areas for the sake of getting a better glimpse at some raccoons

!!! <3 <3 <3 thank you!!! I hope you're having a good day !!!

i had so much fun writing this?! i hope you enjoy it! also i’m so sorry i haven’t been very active this week:( i’m getting stuff written i promise! anyways, i ship you with…

SIDNEY PRESCOTT!

- i feel like this poor girl would drool over you 24/7

- please let her help you dye her hair.

- she's too scared to dye her own hair so she’d love to do your’s instead! 

- she can totally understand the whole not speaking unless spoken to thing 

- i have such a strong feeling that this girl is super duper shy so please don’t stop talking! maybe add her into the conversation too! - loves to hear you talk.

- please tell her about your day!?!

- sidney would love the twilight franchise. i know it.

- watch them with her!

- you watch cartoons too? name your favourites to her and you two will watch them all night.

- will sit there in absolute shock when you speak to her in a different language.

- she finds it beyond attractive.

- “where did you learn that, doll?”

- loves the fact that you dont quite do slasher films because of her past trauma... obviously.

- but if one day you decide to watch a slasher film that isn't too gory or doesn't show much violence then she’ll be willing to watch it with you as long as you're comfortable! 

- just please cuddle her. she needs it

- she promises she’ll cuddle you back!

- i’m convinced you would barely fight.

- you're both willing to talk about what's bothering you and unlike her ex billy, you wont scream (wink wink) and shout at her.

- would definitely take her a while to get into hyper pop but i feel like she’d quite enjoy it!

- loves when you give her gifts and will give you the cutest shit as a thank you.

- WILL GET YOU A CAT AS A GIFT!!!!!!

- and will kill centipedes for you even though she's quite scared of them herself

- what can i say! she loves you. 

[rose-of-the-valley]

For ✨wanna be nosy here's your chance✨ ask-

3) do you smoke?

13) biggest turn ons?

14) biggest turn offs?

15) favorite movie

16) I love you if_____

19) a fact about your personality

21) what I love most about myself

28) a description of the person I dislike the most

33) what words make me feel the best about myself

34) what I find attractive in women

35) what I find attractive in men

(if you go both ways answer both, if not, answer only the one that's relevant to you)

42) the last thing I ate

Have a nice day! 😆🌹

im putting this under a read more bc i talk a lot and it got a little too long LOL

3. do you smoke

nope! no smoking here. i am an epitome of the success of the dare program

13. biggest turn ons

if i were a romanceable option in a dating sim you'd probably win me over by helping me do the stuff that i dont feel like doing, listening to me give multi-hour repetitive lectures about my favorite media, and feeding me sweets

on a slightly more explicit note, im a sucker for praise

14. biggest turn offs

you'd lose dating sim hearts if you stress me out unnecessarily, think you know what's best for me/try to push your views on me, or are too into PDA

on the explicit side, cannot handle any sort of ageplay. i can deal w/ a daddy kink if it comes up in like a fic or something but otherwise no

15. favorite movie

hmm idk if i have a favorite bc it's usually "whatever movie i watched recently that was good" BUT i do regularly rewatch the 2005 pride and prejudice so probably that

16. i love you if ________

you let me be weird around you

19. fact about my personality

i like to say that my first priority is always committing to the bit but in reality i feel bad pranking people and am almost always the first to tell ppl the truth afterwards

21. what i love most about myself

i'm actually really adaptable and good at figuring things out when i want to be. it's how near the end of my boat job one of the captains told me "you can't tell it's your first season" bc i'd learned so quickly.

the problem is the "when i want to be" part LOL

28. person i hate the most

oohhohgohoho my first bf's bestie, henceforth referred to as L for Loser, was a total sleazeball

L kept hitting on me and my friends asking us to go over to his place even when we were in relationships, and he convinced a later gf of my ex to cheat on him with L

L also ended up dating 2 of my ex's exes

the ex has joked that me not dating L is one of the few things that kept his self esteem intact in high school which is funny but also sad bc wtf kind of bestie does that

33. words that make me feel the best about myself

as someone who grew up mostly being known as the smart kid sometimes being told "you can do this" is actually more stressful, so it'd have to be more along the lines of "you can do this, but it's ok if you don't get it the first time or if you don't want to"

34 + 35. what i like in men + women

for context i've dated 4 ppl so far, all men (with varying degrees of gender conformity), and 3/4 have been >5'10", 3/4 were in a high school robotics team, 3/4 were asian, and all were stem majors

if you want me to like you, you HAVE to have a love of science and some level of fascination with space and be able to tolerate me going off on long tangents about whatever's occupying my mind that hour (and preferably be able to engage w/ those so they're more conversations than monologues)

when it comes to physical traits i only really have a pref when it comes to fictional characters

also i like sharp teeth but no one irl has that without severe tooth pain so

42. last thing i ate

my mom gave me half a sushirrito that she had for lunch as my dinner. first time having one. ngl i hated them as a concept but they're actually pretty good

also i got groceries delivered today so i am HIGHLY contemplating eating the entire can of peaches that came with it

thanks for asking! ^_^

re: this ask game

[everythingthemoontouches]

Could you tell about my astrological placements????

Moon:Revati(pada 4) ppl forget about this particular nakshatra 

Rising:Moola(pada 3)

Sun:Ardra(pada 1)

Thank you for answering.🙏🙏💓

Hi yep, you did 💕😂

Issok, Tumblr still confuses me sometimes and I'm always messaging random strangers to ask how they got a certain picture up on their blog page 😂❤️ they've been kind. Unfailingly 💞

💫General note to anyone sending in astrology Big 3 questions

Since there are 27 Nakshatras, there are 27 x 27 x 27 = 19683 sun, moon, rising combinations. Now aobiously its a Herculean effort for one person to cover all of those. So I'd really appreciate it if you guys checked for your big 3 Nakshatra posts on my blog via the search bar before sending in an ask 💕 for those of you who would like a personalized report of the Nakshatra analysis, I do offer paid readings as well which take a week and are usually more detailed with breakdowns on life purpose, relationship with the mother, and your general impact, impression, worldview. They're currently priced at 350 INR.

🗻🐙As for your questionI'll answer it here since I haven't really spoken much about Revati before 🐮🐬

Moola rising :

mysterious. Sharp. Intelligent. Like to get straight to the point. Like to gather the facts. Strength in unity. Has a Gothic vibe. Could be seen as wise. An occultist's aura. Good at solving Mysteries. Ruled by Ketu. There's a seriousness to your energy.people see you as someone who knows about deep spiritual truths or has a wealth / hidden treasure chest of rare knowledge. You could also have a skill in which you're considered the most experienced person regardless of the room you're in.

Revati moon :

intelligent. Your soul is nourished by travel. You're good at getting rid of obstacles.you Like to nourish people by feeding them. A combination of Jupiter's wisdom and Mercury's quick intelligence.funny sense of humor. I think soem women could be jealous of you and see you as a man stealer? There's just something about you that would make people do dumb shit to be with you. You're secure. Dreamy. Head in the clouds. Very emotionally intelligent. Charming. You know how to handle conflicting egoes. Pisces dissolves differences. This could make you a good manager where you have to handle your teammates issues, insecurities, anger issues, deadlines and stakeholders demands. You know how to adapt your approach to the specific person you're dealing with.

You probably give off a very ' I'm. Not quite here. My head is elsewhere' aura so people find you enigmatic. We're all drawn to a good mystery are we not?

🌄🥲Sun in Ardra :

you're good with words. Probably have a lot of pain inbuilt. Channeling this pain is what helps you create. You need to sleep things off Sometimes. With sun in the 7th house, you're drawn to and attract people who are witty, charming and are good conversationalist. Could be good at public speaking. You could have a message you're meant to spread. A sense of feeling like you don't belong. Since ardra is Rahu ruled you could have a string of casual dates / situations hips in your early days.

Animal whisperer

You intuitively speak to animals?

Your sun and moon Nakshatras are both associated with animal life. Sun with the exotic / reptiles. Moon with cows or other dairy / domestic animals. You could either work with animals for say sustainable and humane livestock practices. Or be an advocate for their cause. Love wildlife sanctuaries but animals in their natural habitat is more your jam. Pisciculture.Your dream life involves Lots of pets. Could even be a vet?

Food for thought : Which house is your North node in?

Here are some posts from my blog you may like

♐Mula moon

💟🐬Romanticizing Pisces

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[ferie-anon]

oh, i just saw this randomly and i'm now curious. if you'll allow me, can i know my ateez ship? mine is cancer sun, gemini moon, leo rising, gemini mercury, gemini venus and virgo mars.. i know what's behind the moon, sun and rising but i don't know what it means abour venus, mercury and mars... hehet 😅

Oh that’s okay if you don’t know, venus is how we love and our romantic ideals, mercury is your communication how you speak, and mars is your temperament and assertiveness/how do u assert urself in ur passions and goals. Moving in to the desc, cancer sun natives are naturally warm hearted, and a caring friend. They’re the emotional one, but the supportive and understands how you feel when you confide in them~ gemini moon shows you are constantly multitasking the thoughts in your head, your mind is always running kinda. It also shows you have an intellectual brain able to process a lot of info quickly, and then forget it :P. Your mercury is in gemini as well. Witty af- there is such a humorous and creative flow of conversation and smart remarks- And you have gemini venus, which shows you idealize a partner who can hold a conversation with you, witty banter or stimulating conversation. You show your love in your eagerness to talk to them all the time and enjoy humor with them. Virgo mars show your approach to your goals/passions are in a simple hardworking way, sorta meticulous but you are grounded in this approach. You rarely get mad, but when u do your remarks hurt as virgo’s planet is the mercury of communication. ~<3 Oh and Leo rising shows your first impression to ppl is you come across as charismatic, a bit bold or leave a lasting impression yknow, leo’s planet is the sun so having your rising in it certainly shows you stand out a bit in the crowd. :3

In Ateez... your match is Yeosang~

Yeosangie here is a gemini, and you have three placements with gemini (hence a stellium) so I think you would relate to Yeosang’s humor and witty words. Cuz we all know Yeosang is funny even when he doesn’t try, roasting ateez all day 👀😂 So in first meeting, Yeosang noticed you chatting with your friends (it wasn’t the first time he saw u, he definitely saw u past the hallways alot, so this was the official meeting where u both were in the same place) and he always thought u looked the prettiest talking with those lit up bright eyes as u smile and laugh with your friends~ :3

Yeosang’s moon is in cancer, so it is conjunct to your sun. This shows you both share an eminent connection. Yeosang provides you the emotional comfort you desire with both signs cancer, Yeosang understands your personality and sensitivity. Your sun in cancer provides a light 💡 or an admiration to Yeosang, as he admires the qualities you have that you project to which he relates to. For ex, you may be naturally nurturing and it shows for your care in your friends, and Yeosang who has a soft and caring side too, but less showy admires you openly being like this. Similarity and attraction is prominent here ;)

Next, he has mercury in cancer~ His mercury is conjunct to your sun, making his speech appeal to you. You find it easy to talk to him, both of you guys like talking bout new topics and you work well together. Your energetic intellectual side with his listening and warm side balancing each other out well. Yeosang’s mercury is sextile to your mars. This shows you both have well off teamwork, and you challenge each other in a healthy competition. Yeosang is inspired by your passionate side with ideas as Yeosang would want to help you, and you both love talking bout interests regarding goals you both want.

Also, his venus is in leo ooh~ leo venuses love to spoil their s/o or rather are very showy in their affection. They sometimes buy their s/o their favorite item or luxury, or they definitely are openly displaying their affection. For ex, Yeosang may have bought you a mini couple watch, and he’s just happy looking at your face gushing over his thoughtfulness and hugging him 👀~ Also, your gemini venus is sextile to his leo venus. You both appreciate each others love and affection, as Yeosang be appreciating and enjoying every conversation and every word he has with you, staring at you attentively 🥰🥺 You both have great compatibility in this aspect~

Lastly, his mars is in Libra~ This means he is usually easygoing and passive in his approaches, and libra mars rarely gets angry as well. Your virgo mars and his libra mars are similar in a sense they both are lowkey in their actions, but they both are usually peaceful while virgo is a bit more goal oriented. Your gemini placements are trine to his libra mars. This overall shows you both have great chemistry and the similar placements I talked about before applies here too. You get along, inspire each other, have admiration and love~Also your leo rising is sextile to his libra mars. This shows a magnetic physical attraction as your rising is how you present yourself and he finds himself drawn to you~

Overall, the witty, smart - savage and sweet couple~ I’ll bet you both can find a million things to roast everyone with based on how much eloquence you both have, and you both have great chemistry that you can’t help but naturally be lovey dovey around each other~ -> 💛✨🌷⚡️🧃🍦❤️