#we need to dismantle

[cosmicredcadet]

I wholeheartedly believe that the last thing that should be said in response to aspecs hating their identity is "don't worry! Aspecs can still do X, Y, and Z" and I'm so fucking serious about this.

The least helpful thing you can do to someone who have not accepted their aspec identity yet is give them ways to compensate for it. If an aspec person is upset over not being able to enter a romantic relationship, the last thing that should be done is to tell them they can still enter one or instead enter a QPR - not because that's not true but because that is quite literally going to stunt their ability to accept their aspec identity. Telling them they can instead enter a QPR when they're upset over the lack of romantic relationships is at MOST a bandaid for the main issue. Instead of them coming to accept their identity and accept who they are you have instead handed them an amatonormative alternative on a silver platter that allows them to pretend they still fit into amatonormativity without every deconstructing it. This is how we get QPRs getting shoved into an amatonormative framework - these people NEVER got over the "I'm sad that I'm aspec" phase because they were handed alternatives instead of given actual support in deconstructing their internalized aphobia, self hatred, and amatonormative biases.

[intergalacticantics]

This is genuinely one of the best interviews I’ve ever seen and I want more of it.

[hijinxinprogress]

Whenever the JL starts complaining about YJs public image YJ just straight up gaslights them

[grxi]

Grab me and push me and touch me and make me into the desired compromising shapes

[black-ace-culture-is]

Don't send me asks like this.

Like I promise you can just keep scrolling. No one is forcing you to make a comment on Black asexuality if you aren't Black, aren't asexual or neither. It's just condescending. 'You're doing a good job minority' like thanks for the approval I never asked you for I guess. Also you're clogging the inbox from actual Black aces who wanna submit things.

[bogkeep]

good old-fashioned whining

i am gonna Try not to like. constantly complain about oslo girl on my blog. i am accepting that i have developed Bitch Eating Crackers syndrome about her and everything she says and does is gonna rub me the wrong way and i will vent my petty grudges to friends frequently. i think it's just that we're from fully opposite spheres - she's a straight party girl from the capital and i'm a queer bog creature who treasures solitude. it's not that these spheres cannot ever be bridged, but she and i are socially incompatible. i will do my best to be a mature adult about the fact that we have to share housing (and kitchen........ ahhhhhhhhhhggggg).

but there is one thing that is like... just bad etiquette and feankly baffling behavior, which is that she is talking shit about her boyfriend, Constantly, While He Is Present (sometimes in english, which he understands, sometimes in norwegian, which he does not. unsure which is worse). allegedgly her bf complains about her too, but i have not heard him speak NEARLY as much as oslo girl does. at first i worried this was a racism thing since he's Black, but the more this goes on I'm starting to think this is first and foremost The Heterosexuality Tar Pit. like, girl, if you are constantly talking about how worried you are about him being alone with other women... you can just break up? she's talking about the possibility of infidelity like it's something everyone in relationships worry about constantly and that's just the cost of dating. then she's constantly making fully unnecessary comments about everything he does like ommmggg he's so weird.... for singing while cooking. or omg he's so useless when he asked me about where to find a kitchen tool. GIRL DO YOU EVEN LIKE HIM OR IS THE STRAIGHT DATING SCENE IN OSLO JUST THAT FUCKING MISERABLE. actually it really might be from what i hear.

she was telling the czech couple about how Difficult and Challenging it is for a couple to work here together and how important it is for them to keep communicating... but czech couple has been really super chill and have clearly done stuff like this together before. there are several couples working at this place, some for several years in a row!! and they're ALL chill! even the gay couple that worked here last year came by to say hello and they're evidently: Still Together. one of my coworkers is here on her own while her bf is working in finland and there's no issues there either!! (people get so weird about even temporary long distance relationships so i am very thankful for coworker not making a big deal out of it.) i suspect oslo girl is just struggling to fathom the concept that not all of her experiences are universal.

i was hanging out with the czech couple this evening as we were doing a jigsaw puzzle together, which was an absolutely lovely, quiet time until of course, oslo girl sat down and conversed at us... i mentioned my uncle having children from his previous marriage, and she was like "that's just like [boyfriend].... would you ever date someone who already has kids????" and then she had to specify "having kids with random women" and not like, previous long term relationships... and just as i was about to say something like yeah sure if a guy is being irresponsible that's not a great sign she added "it's so uncomfortable to think about him having a child carried by ANOTHER WOMAN... he should have children ONLY WITH ME...." nevermind you lost me again. if this is such a dealbreaker to you juat break up. please

anyway we made great progress on the puzzle. unsure if it was worth all the oslo girl exposure to my psyche but it's difficult to walk away when you're in the Zone

editing to add ANOTHER THING SHE SAID TODAY - apparently she will never say anything about someone she's unwilling to say to their face, which explains the Talking Shit About Her BF While He's Literally Right There, maybe. i think it's a good skill to be able to confront people but. i don't think this trait is as virtuous as she thinks? like of course i am saying that while writing a venty blog post about how much i dislike her, but i think it's perfectly fine to save some commentary for different company, you know? i need to talk shit to people who are never gonna interact with her so i don't explode, but nothing good will come out of her potentially hearing all this. i will answer honestly if she ever takes me aside to ask if i've got a problem with her, but i won't be listing every silly thing she said that annoyed me. i think culturally it is seen as a Terribly Cruel Thing to talk about someone behind their back, and i do agree that it can be all that, but also like. i do NOT want to hear what my haters say about me. i think it's fine for my haters to complain about me in their private little group chats. i trust my friends to actually talk to me if there's any legitimate concerns! my friends are not my haters!

anyway ok now im done

[son1c]

something weird about california also is that i recently discovered some of the malls here are the same... brand?.... of mall that they have in the UK. that's not right to me. like that's just unnatural

[patheticblorbloscholar]

To the countries outside the U.S please understand trump thrives on the uneducated- and some of those with education[who are racist, ect]

Living here is not only embaressing but with the rising anti intellectualism, hatred for those with expertise, a distrust of science, a lack of knowledge, and a cult that had the tightest grip on trump- living here is hell.

[egberts]

do you have any audio/video of fig and lou meowing..I must hear their voices

omg their little meows are so precious you have no idea but actually I only have videos of them yelling about food for the most part but

here he is yelling to be let out of baby jail, even his little shouts are small and cute (i let him out after this because he sounded so sad and he immediately snuggled up on the couch)

[sforzesco]

Historia Augusta, Geta

Cassius Dio, 78.1

Cassius Dio, 78.4

Mutiliation and Transformation: Damnatio Memoriae and the Roman Imperial Portraiture, Eric R. Varner

this is. well! it's probably fine.

[rooatgumpoint]

Lovely phantom sail sprites from his release event thing that I dug hard for chat he is so beautiful 🙏

[brick-van-dyke]

So, I've been doing some thinking. This could either be a meaningless little ramble that no one will care about, or something seen as really dangerous and putting a target on my back.

So, what if we, those most weary of the far right created an international group of activists in light of the US election? See, the thing is that Donald Trump and Elon Musk are very dangerous, but they are also very incompetent and could lead the government down a path that weakens it. It could create a very unique opportunity to address the far right problem and the US Imperialist system itself in one go. Or maybe I'm being overly ambitious.

This group I have in mind would have several purposes, such as keeping communities safe and protecting people from the harm the far right would do in the name of winning the election. Or, most importantly of all, connecting activists from all over the world and allowing us to dismantle the system as a concrete and united movement. Maybe it's just me being naive and hopeful, but maybe it's also something we've all wanted deep down but been too afraid to initialise? If so, maybe this is a sign to really stand up and start trying to make those connections.

[cheerfullycatholic]

The wedding went well! I had a headache the whole time and my oldest nephew was on the verge of a meltdown from the beginning but my cousin looked beautiful and happy and the cathedral was stunning and it all worked out

[iamumbra195]

Don't you love it when you get back into your childhood hyper-fixation that you remember very fondly as an adult and realize how fucking depressing the actual story is now that you have the capacity to understand it beyond cool fighting and characters, humor, and awesome friendships?

[halalchampagnesocialist]

See this is the thing that angers me about Zionists. In one breath, they love to say that Palestinians aren’t really oppressed and it’s a lie or that the suffering is exaggerated, and then in the next breath, they’ll tell you that Palestinians brought on their own suffering or that they deserve it.

The worst part is it’s never even from some random Zionist in the US or other parts of the world, but always Israelis I.e the ones directly benefiting from the oppression. So sick and twisted.

[baura-bear]

what's pissing me off most about the election is how many people who have similar opinions are absolutely tearing into each other in search of someone to "blame" for the trump win. It doesn't matter what we could've done differently because at the end of the day it's done. blaming each other and turning on each other is only gonna help the white supremacists who want to run this country. so instead we need to focus on creating community so that we have a network of resistance and care built into our lives. tear into trump supporters all you want but if you are anti trump, if you were discontent with both options, if you were/are whatever, focus on people who share the same ideas as you and how you can build each other up and make your community stronger. that is where revolution begins. not yelling about ballots that have already been cast.