#we just don't care and our opinion isn't relevant for this blog

[pshiftcultureis]

Hey we accidentally deleted your ask, but we were able to screenshot it before it happened.

You might be in the wrong place to be asking this question since it is something we truly don't want to talk about on our confessions blog.

We weren't around during that time, we've never even had access to the pack, so we cannot speak as to why this is as it is. (As far as we have ever seen, we have never seen any of this being true, no screenshots nor evidence that this has occurred.)

Either way, we won't be answering this anon ask. This is outside of our comfort zone and isn't something we want to cover using this blog. Please do not send any more asks about this sort of topic. (As in, covering discourse or drama of things within the community that isn't important anymore.)

[nothing0fnothing]

girl idk what to say. your mom hates autistic people cuz she's ableist. not an excuse to use an ableist term in response.

narcissistic abuse is ableist because it is inherently linked to narcissistic personality disorder. "oh but narcissist as a word existed before a diagnosis of npd" who cares? they're still linked together lol.

when someone talks about the evils and abusiveness of narcissists, people are going to link it to the mental disorder with narcissist in the name. that's how you get people who say narcissistic abuse and npd abuse interchangeably.

is it really that hard to say your mom is abusive because she's ableist instead of perpetuating, intentionally or not, ableism against people with npd?

if you're gonna keep saying narcissist abuse, then you just care about having a cute little phrase more than mentally ill people. your decision. listen to mentally ill people who say the narcissistic abuse is a harmful term, or ignore them.

“narcissist” is not a mental health diagnosis, Narcissistic Personality Disorder is. you dont get diagnosed as a narcissist you get diagnosed with NPD. The same way a person can be anxious without having a diagnosable anxiety disorder.

I have never once claimed my mother has NPD, because to the best of my knowledge she does not. And even if she did it wouldn't be relevant to any of my experiences. If your brain immediately goes to the disorder when I explain my mother's feelings, behaviours and motivations, that's on you for being uneducated, not on me for knowing the difference.

To be diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder you need to exhibit clinically high levels of narcissistic thinking and behaviour, along with other symptoms that have nothing to do with narcissism. The truth is plenty of narcissistic abuse is perpetrated by people who do not meet that clinical level of narcissistic behaviour and plenty of people who do have narcissistic personality disorder never abuse anyone in their lives.

Someone with NPD can be abusive and it can have nothing to do with their NPD, someone without NPD can be abusive and it can have everything to do with narcissism. “narc abuse” is just a description of how the survivor was abused, not an attack on people with NPD.

Narcissistic abuse IS real it IS connected to Narcissistic behavior and narcissistic, abusive people, regardless of weather they have NPD or not DO abuse their victims in a different way to people who are not narcissistic. The victims coming away from that type of abuse DO experience recovery differently to other victims of abuse. Simple Google search will tell you that.

The fact that you feel so confident to come to a strangers blog where ALL of their original content it about the abuse they experienced as a literal child and feel its your place to tell them that their experience isn't valid because YOU don't feel comfortable is beyond self absorbed and beyond ignorant. Do your research, read what survivors have to say, listen to what actual professionals have to say, then keep your opinion to yourself, because we don't need to hear weather you agree with our lived, documented experience or not.

My mom abused me because she's abusive. She abused me in the way she did because she's narcissistic. Idk how to make that any clearer to you. Feel free to block me if you disagree.

No survivors of this particularly incidious type of abuse are not ableists for calling it what it is. No the sub reddit Raisedbynarcissists is not a cesspool of bigotry and ableism because the people within in recognise their own horrible experience and know what to call it. No narcissistic abuse isn't a "cute little phrase" it describes the formative abuse I experienced between the ages of 4 and 18. If you think any of what I went through was cute you can explain that to your therapist. No you are not the victim in a total strangers abuse simply because you have a cluster b disorder. Get your head out of your ass.

[tea-with-evan-and-me]

good evening! your response is well said & you’re completely right. evan has gotten so much shit from so many people over the years, it’s exhausting constantly having to defend him & reveal truth to people. regarding the person who said those things about evan, i’m pretty sure that was actually my first time interacting with them, they are not my preexisting friend. & you’re right, age really does not matter when it comes to false accusations & i believe that wholeheartedly. the reason i mentioned his age is bc i was under the impression some of your readers were wanting you to drag him rather than educate him in a respectful manner & i have an issue with people cyberbullying minors for the sake of it. if i misread that then i apologize & i’ll change my perspective.

& i never unfollowed you queen, i just made a new acc & got rid of the old one which is probably why you thought i unfollowed. i appreciate what you do for this fandom & even if we disagree on some things, i respect you & believe that you have nothing but good intentions. not that you would know bc it hasn’t been public but i have defended you many times as well. my frustrations are not with you specifically, i am more so using your platform to speak to the anons who seem to have an issue with me as they are doing.

to the anons who are concerned about my posts, i would be happy to speak to you directly & have a civil conversation if you are ever interested but idk who you are so if you care to discuss further, please don’t hesitate to dm me! i am more than happy to have a discussion at any time.

tweam, i hope that you enjoy your edibles & bubble bath! i’m going to go spend some time with my loved ones before unwinding.

i sincerely do appreciate you clarifying your statement and why you responded the way you did. i understand, and truthfully, i think most fans who see people repeating false information get exhausted, and the default position is to assume that the person wants to argue, be defamatory, and has no interest in you educating them by presenting facts that counter their argument. while that is very common on stan twt, it's not always the case, and we have to do our best to operate with good intentions and not become malicious because of past experiences. i certainly do try to maintain my perspective, so thank you for saying that.

and to any readers who want to weigh in on this: please understand that this is not the place to hold forum about a social media user that you don't like. the door has already been opened for you to speak directly if you feel like there is something you need to say, so i ask that you do not attempt to use me as a go-between because i am not posting this type of message. i know it's the norm for people to share tweets that they disagree with or peoples' hot takes, and that's fine - but if there is a situation where a particular person just really rubs you the wrong way, there's no reason continually seek them out. one of the reasons i created this blog was because i wanted people to have a space where all could share thoughts/opinions/discuss topics about evan that were way too policed on other platforms, and particularly, to move away from the extreme negativity and bullying atmosphere of the post-frannie and dahmer fandom that was going to hell on here. i know everyone is bored because of the lack of evan content, but i really just don't care about someone being a fan of jared leto or who is beefing on twitter. it isn't relevant, none of this has anything to do with evan, and it for damn sure doesn't have anything to do with me. i have my own opps to deal with lmfao i truly appreciate everyone who contributes to this blog positively - whether you send in your fanfic writing, your random thoughts about evan, excitement when we get a new crumb, tiktok edits, legal services for koya, etc.. it is valued, and tweam is only possible because of what you guys add.

[orange-orchard-system]

We got what we're pretty sure is a bait or trap ask today. We will not post or answer it, but I just want to repeat something we've said (or at least implied) before:

This isn't a discourse blog. Occasionally, we will talk about discourse here, but it's not a serious interest or hobby of ours. In fact, for a lot of discourse (including the specific discourse you were talking about, anon), we might spend some time trying to understand it, eventually decide "not my circus, not my monkeys", and leave. Have you seen internet discourse? This shit gets specific and complicated fast. And due to the nature of discourse, a lot of it is little more than a giant clusterfuck. If there's some discourse you can't find our public opinion on, it's probably either because it's not relevant to our blog (which is system and alterhuman focused, if anyone has forgotten), or we don't feel comfortable or confident speaking on it (usually due to lack of knowledge or lack of interest). While we do sometimes interact with people who have their own opinions on whatever discourse it is, this doesn't mean we necessarily agree with them, or that we've even read what they're saying. We have a lot of discourse tags blocked for our own mental health.

Also, if you're going to send asks trying to provoke discourse, maybe don't make it sound as if your support of all systems (not even just us, but all systems and headmates) is conditional based on how we respond. Just a thought, since that kind of gave it away that you didn't really care about our thoughts on the matter. Anyway, everyone else – and anon, if you truly had good intentions – have a good day.

[sharp-rosee]

The number of people speaking out against that group of blackpills isn't any bigger than the blackpills themselves and the people that encouraged them.

Why treat that disgusting behavior and harassment of rape victims as inconsequential, but treat the women speaking up about it as some horrible failing, if your dismissal is based on it being a "small number of users"?

And of course you as a het woman have no opinion on your buddy saying that caring about studies on bisexuality is cringe and useless because they don't benefit her specifically. A lot of people don't even believe bisexuality reallys exist, how are we supposed to organize and do anything if we have no data, especially when people are insistent bisexual experiences don't matter? Both of your stances on bisexuals seems to be that if we get raped, abused, or harassed we shouldn't act uppity and act like it means anything.

I hate how everyone just loves to skim what's said and make up what is being said instead so they don't have to process what is actually being said. None of this is a horrible failure on eeeevil gross bisexuals, actually. I've never said that nor implied that, and if you want to come into this discussion assuming everything said in disagreement is said because I don't believed bisexuals are raped or abused and I think victims are being Dramatic, then I have nothing more to say to you specifically, because I have no time to argue against things you are making up in your head to argue about. For the rest of the audience:

She perfectly explained that the study on bisexuals could be inaccurate as women tend to misreport their sexuality as bisexual after being assaulted by men because, as you are well aware, there are also a lot of people who think that rape can turn a lesbian into a bisexual, which this accusation has happened countless times in our spaces, also by the same women who are targeting bisexual women.

I don't deny these blackpill women exist; its just that it's the same group of like 5 blogs that lost relevancy and are only kept alive by others who remember what they did, which is fine- it's a good way to police our spaces.

However; I don't agree with the ideology that's being pushed that somehow we have a Big Issue with them in our space here. Like I've said myself, on my old blog, before it got termed, shortly after revealing my heterosexuality I got harrassing anons. And I ignored them. And they never showed up again. Because with any troll online, if you don't engage, they get bored. Why do you think they hide behind anons now? Everyone knows their URLs. So they harrass and send targeted messages to get engagement that they otherwise wouldn't get.

These blackpilled women accomplished exactly what they wanted: make fun of het-partnered women, hate het-partnerships so much that even lesbians raped by men are bisexual to them- and now they're going after bisexual women and specifically targeting them/het partnered women to further divide us because they hate men, they hate women- they're really just doomers who want to see all our discussions be silenced. And they love that you all now somehow twist this as everyone hating bisexuals when they are targeting everyone who has had any contact with a male before, and they're playing into that. They love how you are all thinking that this is a big huuuge issue of being opressed for being in a straight relationship/being bisexual in general because to anyone not online and anyone who has to face any real oppression IRL, they can obviously clock this as you all falling for bait. And the blackpillers know this and laugh every time.

And the worst part about this is that you're giving energy to them, believing the lie that radical feminists hate you and feeling distress over that, and think that anyone trying to talk you down and really think about why blackpillers are doing this is them just denying your experience and not caring about abuse or rape.

Like... idk how else to say it. I know somehow this will be misconstrued as me being biphobic, but I really think you should just... ban the IPs of these harrassers, LOG OFF, and take care of yourself. If you find yourself so easily swayed by a few anons from the same accounts, you really need to be putting your attention somewhere else online that isn't tumblr.

[larry-hiatus]

Keep posting lies about Taylor R! So we can all mass report your racist tinhat and PR blogs! "Stereotypes permeate our society through media depictions and social interactions. Experiencing both a combination of race and gender, Black women are faced with stereotypes of being mean, aggressive, or overly assertive. A perception that created the “Angry Black Woman,” a label that stereotypes Black women and manipulates characteristics about them into a negative light."

Sorry anon, I'm really not sure what you're talking about???

I don't really post about the women that the boys are seen with, other than the occasional reblog, and I don't share anything mean about them. I checked through the last ten days worth of posts on my blog, and I only saw one reblog about it being a PR stunt, but I believe that about every girl, not just this one.

PR stunts are real things in the celeb world, and there have been many of them throughout history. And they make sense from a marketing standpoint! It's a way to get people talking about a celebrity, which their PR team might one for one reason or another. For H0livia, it was to promote their movie. This time, some people think it's to keep Harry relevant during his break, and possibly to further TayR's career (but I know nothing about that). Another wide belief/reason for Harry's connections to women is for bearding purposes. In any case, whether these relationships are truly PR or if they are real, we usually never know the truth. However, it's okay to have opinions as long as they are respectful, which I always try to be. I also always keep my thoughts and feelings away from the celebrities themselves, as in, I don't tweet them directly. Like I said though, I honestly don't really post about the women in general. But believing this to be a PR stunt, personally for me, definitely doesn't have anything to do with TayR's race. I held the same belief with TaySwift, EmRatta, H0livia, pretty much everyone.

It appears that you have pulled a quote from this article, The "Angry" Black Woman. I did not read the whole article, but I was curious what you were quoting. I am aware of the stereotype, and if TayR is receiving any racist hate from hate fandom, I definitely disagree with it and do not condone it. Regardless of whether people think it's a real relationship, or whether or not people like her, racism is never okay. I haven't seen any posts depicting her as "angry" or "mean" (I haven't really seen anything about her personality/actions at all), but my online experience definitely isn't the only one, so I'm not saying I don't believe that it's happening. Racism will be found pretty much anywhere, unfortunately, but I do try to not be involved in it. If I were to see that content on my dash from someone I follow who held those beliefs, I would definitely unfollow them.

The only post I can remember seeing regarding her race was something about how it's nice to see Harry with a POC because just about all of the women he's been connected to have been white. I don't remember what else the post said, and I don't remember if I shared it. But if I did share something racist, please know that it was not my intention, and I would appreciate if you would tell me which post so that I can remove it. I try my best, but I was raised in an ignorant bubble, so sometimes I make mistakes that I correct when I can.

All of that being said, I know nothing about TayR, so I really don't have any opinions about her as a person. I don't have any plans to get to know her or learn more about her because it doesn't really matter to me. I'm a fan of the boys; who they're seen with is just kind of extra stuff that I don't have much interest in. I don't really care to partake publicly in conversations regarding relationships (whether real or not) with women in the boys' lives, but I felt that it was important to respond to this message.

But anyway, I hope I cleared some things up. And if you don't like my "tinhatting," or anybody else's, please remember that the block button is your friend. You can report genuine racism or hate speech if you come across it, but in terms of just things you don't agree with, you're better off blocking and moving on. You will become tired and miserable if you try to fight every Larrie you find.

Have a good day!

[paper-collective]

We're making this a separate post in order to link it to our pinned, this isn't "important" per say, but if you care, here are our syscourse stances using this system linked here.

we just divided ourselves into two camps for simplicity, and other alters might (or might not) add their stances later.

opinion one

Ray / Ink / Viola / QL

NE / IDW / ONA / IDW / TXNO / DTNU* / CNP / SDXY / IDK / IDW / ESY / EAD (or EAM idk the difference) / EAS / XEN

opinion two

Mint / Reya

N / TC / MTR / IDW / TXM / DTNU* / CNP / SDXI / SMN / IDW / IDK / ESA / EAN / XEA

elaboration for q6, DTNU: it has never been required to remember trauma to have a CDD (i.e. OSDD/USDD/DDNOS/DID/C-DID/HC-DID), it's very likely not to if you have it, although it's also possible that you do. And you don’t have to be sure you have trauma to identify with one. And you definitely don't need "the right kind" of trauma to have a CDD. I don’t recommend casually digging into your past by yourself solely for “validity” purposes if you are struggling with CDD symptoms. But I believe CDD symptoms have trauma until that gets proven to be wrong.

You can discuss with us if we wrote "IDK" or "IDW", but otherwise don't, this isn't a syscourse blog

simple version (idk what those words mean rn)

anti-endo: Forcibly unnamed

endo-neutral: Lee

pro-endo:

other relevant posts: one,

(last updated: sometime in Summer/Fall 2023)

[thenightling]

I have a request. (And no. There is no personal matter related to this. My opinion on all the drama isn't relevant and not what I'm here about.) You are claiming that a friend of mine is making wild accusations about you while also doing the same to xem. This is getting you nowhere. What it /is/ doing is upsetting me a fuckton seeing all the lies being spread. My friend's already dropped it; do the same, why don't you?

I’m not “Claiming” anything.  I don’t make “Wild” accusations.  

A few days ago I saw a funny Sandman post.  I realized it was by someone who had blocked me some time ago.  I got frustrated because that person’s original reason for blocking me was they claimed I was pro-incest (made that accusation while I was trying to promote their Dreaming Discord for them…).  Then when they realized I wasn’t pro-incest they claimed I was stalking them by reblogging everything they post.  No, I just follow the damn Sandman tag!  

Then they changed their reason for why they blocked me and THIS was told me by someone who never read Sandman.

THIS person (who did nothing to me) thought I was into a child / old man ship BECAUSE of what they were told and they, themselves, had never read Sandman.  Do you know how gross that makes me feel? 

That’s a picture, not “Wild accusation” on my part.  That person spoke to me and said the reason xe had me on block was because I ship a three-year-old and “Some old guy.” a person who never read Sandman thought this about me.

I was told xe would “unblock me” when I’d delete my Morpheus / Daniel ship posts.  But I don’t even write erotic ships! So it was a serious WTF moment.

 I write about the emotional  / intellectual connection of two adult beings, with the same memories and intellect, and eight-billion or so years worth of knowledge, that are technically both aspects of the same larger being (they are facets of Dream of The Endless).   And one of the posts had been liked by the author.  “Oh, they have Neilman on block too.”     (That’s when I decided I no longer cared about being blocked. I’m in good company on that blocked list.)

I have said nothing untrue.   Here are some of the Asks I’d been getting since then.

https://thenightling.tumblr.com/post/189895724368/why-are-you-so-damn-obsessed-with-an-18-year-old

(The second one has a lot of crap in the notes.)

https://thenightling.tumblr.com/post/189895819008/just-because-someone-is-bisexual-and-supports  

https://thenightling.tumblr.com/post/189895950763/yeah-well-you-are-a-dense-motherfucker-answer-my

https://thenightling.tumblr.com/post/189896055598/im-so-fucking-sick-of-you-youre-so-sure-that-youre  

I don’t know if this one was related but it was coincidental.

https://thenightling.tumblr.com/post/189909849768/howdy-anything-else-interesting-happening

See, I don’t lie about people to try to make them look bad or to justify ill-treatment of them.

Did you know a single typo in a long conversation of using the right pronouns meant I “must” have been misgendering them on purpose?!   They were looking for reasons to continue to mistreat me and trying to make me look awful.   

I was linked to a fan art yesterday with no knowledge of whose blog it was so xe started NEW accusations when I made the mistake of reblogging them.  Because NOT knowing their alts MUST mean I’m stalking them!

 It’s not like this is a tiny fandom and three different people showed me that art and had the idea “Ooh, new Sandman related stuff.  TheNightling might like this!” I used to be able to share EVERYTHING Sandman related without issue. As I just follow the damn Sandman tag.  Most of us do.   It’s a small fandom.   

I wrongfully yelled at @jr4cats for linking to me that piece with me when I know she just wanted to share a post she thought I’d like, because I usually share most of the Sandman posts we find.  Neither one of us knew who had done it, we don’t usually look at “about” pages.  It used to be that in our tiny fandom you could just like and appreciate any work of art without fear of “Uh, oh, did the person who dragged my name through the mud make this?”

As I said, I don’t leap to conclusions.  EVERYTHING I have said is truth. I don’t LIKE lies and I don’t appreciate someone “who doesn’t want to take sides�� essentially accusing me of lying.  

Xe didn’t drop it, by the way.   Someone else in the fandom (since I AM friends with 90% of the Sandman fandom) sent me screen grabs of the latest baseless accusations, which were from TODAY!

[harryshmjr]

I read on another blog that Dominic Sherwood has always been messy though about the Malec ship tbh and regarded Alec's feelings for Magnus as a second choice and said maybe his character should be gay. I could have information from that old interview wrong though. Honestly, I don't want the actor to apologize but shut the hell up. He is so transparent to me. He stans Maia x Jimon and isn't even here for Clace at all. That is nothing but pure bullshit coming out of his mouth. I don't claim him.

I never shipped Clace either but to even try to compare it to a bland, ship with little to no chemistry, development or communication he is trapped in with Clary is just illogical. The discourse is strong and I read some of the interview on tumblr but his comments isn’t surprising even though he is really wrong and clueless about ships that has nothing to do with his character. It isn’t surprising like I said. Apparently he has always been messy about Malec. I just laughed the interview away.             

One more thing! These discussions are great about the interview. I rebooted a SH related post on my blog related to Malec and how fans will disregard a ship that isn’t white or straight. The LGBT and especially interracial/poc ships always have to work harder to be seen as “valid,” acknowledged as a whole compared to others. That post really stuck with me when I see discussions and it so relevant. Malec are in love period. I’m not LGBT but I’m a black fan girl of many things. I get it. I think.            

i haven’t heard much before because i started watching sh right before s1 finished. and i haven’t joined the fandom properly until like 2 months later or sthso i wasn’t following everything the cast said in the pastso i don’t have any opinions on that, unless i get to see/read the interview etc.

the thing is, celebrities often say shit but at the same time they’re just people so i try to give them a chance to apologise and get better. we all make stupid mistakes. but despite that, i still think what he said was incredibly wrong and it shouldn’t have happened because it’s wrong on so many levels

it did came across as simply being petty and jealous because others get more recognition and even though book stans are in love with clace, show fans (in huge majority) don’t care or even hate that shipit’s important to realise that while books are basically about that het ship, the show is not. and a huge part of this fandom consists of lgbtq+ people who will obviously care about same-sex couple. also, a huge part of this fandom consists of poc who will obviously care more about poc characters. we always look for characters that will be our rep and we relate to them so i don’t understand why some people find it hard to understand

but yeah, it’s true that couples that aren’t het and/or white always struggle much more with being recognised.