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Thanks for tagging me @the-larry-way!

This sounds like my fic series! Center Stage Whore, canon inspired smut fics from twelve 2023 HSLOT shows. You can find the whole thing here and the Reddit fic is here. Hope you enjoy ❤️

Hi, Gina! Could you help me find a fic? Not just one, in reality, it was a series of one-shots

H and L were touring and eventually they would meet and have sex, it had maybe 6 or 7 one-shots of that but I only distinctively remember one of them, it’s maybe too graphic to describe but it involved a pic being posted on Reddit

Oh, jeez. I don't think I've read those! Is it a more recent series? Like solo years?

Does anyone know this series?

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1D and Angels

One thing I’ve always found interesting is that the boys each have a song with the word “angel” in the title. As One Direction, they had Hey Angel. Harry has Only Angel, Niall has New Angel, Louis has Angels Fly, and Zayn released a cover of Angel by Jimi Hendrix. I always wondered if this commonality was on purpose, if it meant something to the boys, and if Liam would one day release an “angel” song too.

But with the cruelty of life, he became an angel instead.

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there are a million different beautiful ways to discuss the pain and impact of loss. those are important and valuable and meaningful, but you can find them elsewhere. today i want to talk for a minute about the practicalities of grief.

maybe this is the first time you’ve lost someone that you’re really attached to, maybe it’s the thirtieth (i hope not, but maybe). regardless, it can be helpful to learn or be reminded of the practical side of this big, hard emotion, so here are some things to keep in mind.

1: there is no right or wrong way to grieve. everyone does it differently, and how it manifests will likely change for you as time goes on. this is normal and expected.

2: it can be really hard to predict how impacted you will be by any given loss, or when. it’s okay to not feel it as strongly as you think you should, and it’s ok to feel like you’re hurting a lot more than you expected. see point 1.

3: aside from the usual crying and sadness, symptoms of grief can include a really wide variety of things from insomnia to fatigue to headaches, nausea, dizziness, dissociation, inability to focus, lack of appetite, irritability, and on and on. (i find it often hits me a bit like a migraine, like i’m thinking through cotton wool.)

4: if you are neurodivergent in some way, you may find that you are experiencing heightened instances of your neurodivergence. people with depression may have a depressive episode, people with adhd may struggle more than usual with focus, etc. it is important to keep an eye on this, especially if this is something for which you take medication. speak to your doctor or therapist about if or when you may need to adjust any dosages to cope.

5: relatedly, it is really important to practice pragmatic self care while grieving. if you can’t sleep through the night, at least lie down and rest. if you’re having trouble eating, pick really simple easy food and try to distract yourself with a show or book you like while you eat it. eat smaller amounts, but more frequently. especially if you’re crying a lot, make sure you’re staying hydrated. put yourself in the wet box and get clean at a regular interval. it’s easy to want to let this all slide, but doing so will dig you into a hole that it can be challenging to climb back out of.

6: find a way to acknowledge the loss. modern western society is bad at this, but it’s an important part of the process. if you can’t go to a public remembrance, attend one online or make your own. light a candle, read a poem, play a song, anything that lets you feel like there has been an “official” observance of what has happened. similarly, some people like to do “mourning” in the sense of painting their nails black or cutting their hair, some temporary outward sign of the emotional impact. whatever it is for you, finding a way to ritually and concretely acknowledge the emotions you’re feeling can be helpful.

7: touch some proverbial or literal grass. no one wants to hear it, but it’s true: log off. put your phone in a drawer. go for a walk. sit and meditate. have a cathartic cry in the shower. whatever it is to you, it’s important to find a way to step back from the emotional churn, even if just for a few minutes, so that you can begin to reestablish your equilibrium.

8: talk to others. humans are social creatures, and even if you’re not someone who likes to process your feelings with others, make sure you’re regularly getting some sort of human interaction. if you’re feeling overwhelmed with emotions, please seek professional help, either from an existing therapist or appropriate other person or by getting connected with a hotline or other resource. don’t struggle alone.

9: grief is cyclical and unpredictable. sometimes it’s all-consuming; other times it feels like it’s almost gone. you may find that you’re just numb for a while and it hits you later; or it might be terrible now and then fade only to wallop you out of the blue in three months time. you may have moments where you’re happy and distracted and the start crying five minutes later. this is normal. please refer to point 1.

10: be gentle with yourself, but don’t be complacent. grief is hard, and trying to deny it or rush it will not help. at the same time, the cruelest thing about grief is that life does go on immediately and unceasingly. if you allow grief to control you for very long, it will can really derail a lot of things in your life. please remember that you are loved and important and deserve to be cared for, and take small, regular, concrete steps to do so.

this, like all things, shall pass.

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Harry + Tweets

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The Edge of the World: postcards, letters and secret confessions

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Louis is drawing a dick on your blog.

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Yep, we all know what happened

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Two of Us - Richard’s Bucket List Official Video

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i miss harry with sunflowers

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still one of the most iconic headlines

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harry + headscarves

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i really need a hug from louis or harry

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same, Niall