#using the same tags

[arunneronthird]

in the batcave where i feel safe

[guiltyidealist]

On your MOST FOLLOWED blog on Tumblr,

[oobbbear]

I want to post this here too because I’ve seen it happen a few times

Please understand that there are cultural differences and language differences, if you see this happening let the person clarify what they meant, that person might just not be familiar with words the western side of the internet use

[3d-wifey]

Guys, help shed some light on this for me.

And my reply to that last comment is: @jungalsims you come onto my post on my blog talking bullshit and assume I'm gonna talk to you like we're having Sunday brunch? Again, you have to be stupid. My tone is rude bc I don't respect you. Simple as that. "Sit at home alone reading dune fanfiction for a living." Corny, hardly an insult to be told I read fanfiction when, guess what? You're here too, babe. Funny how that works. And I'm a full-time college student for a living since you're so curious.

You said that white ppl write for white ppl and I should find a black author or write my own stories, which I do. That was your solution to the problem of READER inserts using language that would only truly apply to white women. Translation: You don't have a right to be upset by white authors writing for white people, go read stories written by your own race. Get over it.

I'm sorry to be the one to tell you this, but that's just segregation lite. Black ppl had black actors and black music, and white ppl had white actors and music. These two worlds never overlapped, and ppl knew better than to expect them to. And if anyone was upset by that, they were told to "get over it."

Now, let's get some outside opinions on this. I welcome anyone who wants to speak, but I warn you, if you come at me disrespectfully, you can't expect me to act like Prince Diana and bite my tongue. I'm gonna be disrespectful back. That's just basic call and response.

"Atriedas!reader"

"...sister of Irulan..."

"...daughter of gurney/stilgar/the emperor..."

STOP IT STOP IT STOP IT I AM NOT WHITEEEEEEEE

I

AM

NOT

WHITEEEEEEE

ARE YOU SO UNORIGINAL THAT YOU CAN'T COME UP WITH A WAY TO INCORPORATE THE READER INTO THE STORY WITHOUT MAKING HER RELATED TO A MAIN CHARACTER??? WHERE'S THE IMAGINATION, PEOPLE?!!! LIKE FUCK, AT LEAST SAY THE READER IS ADOPTED IF YOU REALLY NEED HER TO BE SOMEONE'S SISTER/DAUGHTER, DAMN 😒😒😒

Don't get me started on the pointedly white language "you blushed" "squeeze so tight, your knuckles turn white" "peach toned..." "his handprint on your skin...". like you actually have to go out of your way to add that shit and it takes me out of the story like i roundhouse kick to the mouth. You. Make. Me. SICK!

[rasoyas]

what a pleasant view. 🏡 original households + my 3 rotational ocs!

[ghosted-jazz]

Traffic Gals- Introducing Gem!

[thebrainrotsreal]

Drew this real quick because I fucking love these two so much ???? Especially Bee. I wish they interacted more so badly. PLEASE.

Also learning how to draw these guys.. slowly.

[redtail-lol]

I might have trypanophobia myself and while I can sometimes get shots, it's not fun and I'm really happy to see the point about herd immunity. Some of us really can't get them and I think a panic disorder around needles is a valid reason to get a medical exemption. Much more valid than the conspiracy theory bullshit some people believe.

What Not to Say/Do to a Trypanophobic Person

I've seen a lot of ignorant people (most of them healthcare providers) over the course of my time as a person with a severe needle phobia, so I've compiled a list of things that have made my blood absolutely boil and either don't help or actively worsen my phobia.

Saying "it's just a little needle", "it's not that bad", or anything else that aims to minimize the situation. Phobias are irrational, but the people who have them are not. We're fully aware of how ridiculous phobias are, you don't need to remind us. It's infantilizing and likely to put us on the defensive, which can raise anxiety/adrenaline.

Calling us babies or weak for having a phobia. Phobias are panic disorders. We can't switch them off. Unless you think having a mental illness is a weakness (which I hope you don't) it's illogical and hurtful to apply this kind of thinking to us.

Physically restraining us. Physical restraints are bad. Really fucking bad. If done wrong (or even when done correctly) they can seriously injure or kill someone. If a person with a needle phobia is attempting to leave the situation, they are engaging the "flight" part of "flight or fight". So what happens if flight becomes unavailable? We fight. I've injured people who have restrained me in the past. It's not conscious or intentional, it's pure instinct. It can also be traumatizing to be exposed to something you're terrified of and forced to undergo a procedure, even if you agreed to it previously. Let me repeat that for emphasis. Even if a person previously agreed to undergo a procedure, it can still be traumatic if they attempt to retract consent and aren't allowed to.

Trying to scare us. When in a calm state we might decide, on our own, to weigh the risks and rewards of getting a procedure involving a needle done. And sometimes our anxiety about not getting a procedure done outweighs anxiety of getting the procedure done and we decide to go through with it. But if you attempt to scare us into a procedure involving a needle, we can tell. And once we figure out what you're doing, we can no longer trust the information you're giving us. I've known doctors who have exaggerated or straight up lied to me about what would happen if I didn't get a vaccine. Even if you're 100% truthful, tone matters. Don't act concerned, angry, or like you're talking to a child. Give us the facts in a calm, professional manner, and let us work on the rest.

Insisting on talking about needles even when we've asked to stop/said we're done. If you're discussing a procedure involving needles with a trypanophobic person and they say anything to the effect of "I don't want to talk about this anymore", the conversation is over. It doesn't matter if you just had some great revelation or if what you have to say is really important. Keep it to yourself. We usually won't cut off a conversation about our phobia until it reaches a point where we can't handle it anymore. If you keep pushing, you might trigger a panic attack.

Exposing us to needles without our consent. "But exposure therapy!" I hear you saying, and to that I respond "shut up and fuck off, you don't know what that is". Exposure therapy is when a person with trauma, OCD, a phobia, or another disorder that can be triggered chooses to slowly, in a controlled environment, expose themself to a trigger. Exposure therapy can't be done to a person, only by a person. For a trypanophobic person, this might be looking at pictures of people getting injections. When they've had enough and are getting too stressed, they can simply close the tab and move on to something less stressful. Sending someone pictures of needles, taking them to places where needles might be, pretending that you're going to jab them, those things aren't exposure therapy. That's emotional abuse, repeatedly exposing someone to something that you know triggers panic in them for your own amusement.

Shaming us for the "damage" we could be doing. Herd immunity is important. It's important because it protects those who can't be vaccinated, including some of us. I was at a point a few years ago where I physically couldn't enter a room where I knew a needle was going to be used on me. My body just wouldn't move that way. Since physical restraining isn't an option, if someone can't bring themself to get a vaccine on their own due to a phobia, they're vaccine exempt. End of story.

Shaming us for not actively working on recovering. First of all, there's no way for you to know if someone is working on their phobia or not. Second of all, there are a lot of valid reasons to not be recovering. The main one that comes to mind is external stress. When my needle phobia was at its worst I was in 10th grade, the hardest grade at my school. I was barely staying afloat as it was. Treating your day-to-day stress has to come before working on a bigger, less present issue.

Asking us when we're going to get over/grow out of it. Phobias vary in severity and ease of management. Some people are never able to manage their phobia. Some people learn to manage it very quickly. Some people benefit from simple techniques like deep breathing and distraction, some people need more advanced help. Some people are able to participate in exposure therapy, some are too overwhelmed by their trigger to even try. Like any other mental illness, phobias are complicated and no two phobic people are exactly alike. Applying your expectations of recovery on us doesn't help and can vary from annoying to hurtful.

Ignoring or arguing with our accommodations. Disabled people, as a general rule, don't ask for accommodations we don't need. If a person with a phobia is asking you to perform a procedure in a different way than you're used to, it's more likely than not that this is the only way they can get it done. For instance, I have to have blood taken from a vein on my right hand. The vein on my inner elbow, the one they usually use, is hard to find, making the procedure take longer and causing me more pain. The only reason I'm able to get the blood work I need to manage and research my chronic illness is that I discovered this easier way to do it. People who are doing exposure therapy are in an extremely fragile state of mine, often having or on the verge of having a panic attack. If things don't go exactly as planned it can be traumatic and reinforce the phobia even more. Do what you can to make the procedure as calm and quick as possible. If something goes wrong accidentally, apologize and be kind even if the person seems irrationally upset over it. We're dealing with incredibly high adrenaline, our bodies are sending us signals that we're in mortal danger. In addition, as I mentioned before, some people also can't do procedures involving needles at all and will need to be excused from those procedures. Pushing a person with trypanophobia to discuss needles can cause them to panic or become defensive. This isn't something we have control over and it's not something we can be talked out of.

[sadmages]

In my mind palace my tav and Astarion are playing the exact same game of 5D chess and they don't realize it yet

[wasabi-gumdrop]

Kabru has a secret admirer in the castle!

[beebfreeb]

Yeah, sure, I'll make up stuff about those blue things that show up for maybe 2 seconds at most. Why not.

I imagine it's very funny to be reused graphics.

[starleska]

as a cringe selfshipper who's been in fandom for decades and draws nothing but blushy ship art, i feel so seen and so attacked right now 😂💖💖💖

[ankles-be-bitten]

idk, i just feel like if your primary argument against transandrophobia/antitransmasculinity theory is that you think it's transmisogynistic you're not being intellectually honest. who does it hurt when trans men and mascs coin a term to describe the intersection of transphobia and sexism as it most frequently affects them? because it does hurt trans men when they're told that they're not entitled to speak on the discrimination they themselves face.

what I'm hearing from people who oppose the antitransmasculinity movement is that transmisogyny is when trans men talk about their problems 👍, but obviously that's not true. i know that's not true. you know that's not true. so then what is the issue? genuinely, enlighten me. you want trans men to shut up and listen? I'm listening.

[zevrans]

GALE + 'The Invitation' Armor from DATV 

[royalarchivist]

Bad: I don’t think people understand the effect QSMP had on some of the streamers in terms of like… The real raw mental impact, so I’m gonna set the stage for you. [...] Imagine that you were given a friend to play Minecraft with — like your best friend — BUT if this person dies, if they die in the game, you never get to talk to them again. Can you imagine what that’s like?

Bad: If you did not live through the QSMP, if you did not live through that, it almost sounds like, crazy. But I don’t think people realize how much of a joyous experience the Eggs were. They were SO awesome! They were literally so awesome to just hang out with and spend time with.

Bad: I’m not saying I regret it. To this day, I loved the experience. I’d do it all over again in a heartbeat. Even knowing how everything went, I would still do it all over again. [...] I would still do it all over again, because — even knowing like, all the trauma and suffering and stuff like that — because it was just… It was just that fun, it was just that fun.

Earlier today during his stream, Bad shared his experience and thoughts about the Eggs and the significant emotional (and traumatic) impact they had on him and his fellow QSMP members.

This clip a very edited-down version since his commentary was ~13 minutes long, so I highly recommend checking out Bad's VOD if you have the time. (Timestamp: 47:36 - 1:00:14)

[ Full Transcript ↓ ]

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Bad: To be fair Chat, I really think the QSMP... I don't think anyone really can relate to it, Chat. It's something that's so... I've told people this before, like– but it's hard to understand. Right? Like...

Where was I? Sorry Chat, I'm losing my train of thought. Look, let me explain Chat– here's the dealio, ok? Here's the dealio, and this is what I mean when I say like, it's important to keep this in mind, Chat. Ok? It's important to keep this in mind:

I don’t think people understand the effect that the QSMP had on like, some of the streamers, in terms of like… The real raw mental impact, so I’m gonna set the stage for you. This is the analogy I’ve given to every person who I’ve like, shared this with. Imagine you meet somebody– [He hears a strange noise] What the fudge was that? Did you hear that?

Anyway– Chip! The story I was just relaying to Chat, Chip, was this: I was sharing this story with them, I said–  I was giving them an analogy. 

Imagine Chat, for example, imagine that you were… playing Minecraft, with like– you were given a friend to play Minecraft with, Chat, like your best friend, and [unintelligible] were like, “Hey, you get to play Minecraft with this person, right? BUT if this person dies – they’re currently your best friend, Chip – but if they die in the game, you never get to talk to them again. Ever again.” Can you imagine what that’s like, Chip?

I don’t think a lot of people understand like, what that does, right? I’m not gonna say that like, it creates this situation, Chip, that like, messes with your head, but it– Chip – but it totally, totally does, Chip. It messes with your head! It literally puts you in a position where you’re second-guessing and thinking about everything, Chip! You’re thinking about EVERYTHING Chip! Ok? And that’s the problem, Chip– is you turn into a paranoid monster because of it, Chip! Like, you don’t understand Chip– I was- I was so afraid of every dirt block, I used to carry a shovel with me Chip, and I would specifically right-click dirt blocks that looked suspicious because mines, Chip– mines could not be shoveled! Like, I was crazy, Chip! But here’s the problem, Chip: that craziness is still there. I’m genuinely like–

I remember thinking Chip, that I would one day– I was like, “I’m going to move past–” here, let’s go up here, Chip. I remember thinking one day Chip, I was like, “I’m gonna move past the underground base, one of these days. You know, one of these days, I feel like I’ll be able to grow and achieve the desire to build a base that doesn’t have to be underground.” But I don’t think it’s possible now Chip, because I think… I just don’t know. I feel like the paranoia– there’s still like, residual leftover trauma from that situation, Chip.

But here’s the problem Chip: I don’t think I don’t think– I don’t think people understand it. Like, I just really don’t. But I also don’t blame them Chip, ‘cuz I don’t think it’s possible to fully understand it if you haven’t lived through it. Like, if you did not live through the QSMP… I’m talking about the QSMP, I don’t- I don’t know if that was obvious– if you did not live through that, it almost sounds like, crazy. But I don’t think people realize how much of a joyous experience like, the Eggs were. Right? I don’t think people realize it. Like, they were SO awesome! They were literally so awesome to just hang out with and spend time with, Chip. So, it’s just one of those things that–

[He’s interrupted by a loud rumble of thunder above them]

Did lightning just strike here? Is it thunderstorming out…? But anyway, Chip. That’s the food for thought.

But that’s the problem– Like, every time it rains in Minecraft, I have to like, look at the sky, and I get this weird, like, second--hand vibe because of the trauma. The trauma, Chip! The trauma is real! But that’s the point– I’m not saying I regret it. I, to this day Chip, I loved the experience. I’d do it all over again in a heartbeat. Even knowing how everything went, I would still do it all over again. 

[He falls down] Dangit, don’t come over here Chip, ‘cuz I’m coming back up! Ok.

I would still do it all over again, because — even knowing like, all the trauma and suffering  and stuff like that — because it was just… It was just that fun, Chip, it was just that fun. I really wi– I don’t think it’s ever gonna be possible, Chip, to give people that same energy, like that same experience. You know what I mean, Chip? I don’t think it’s ever gonna be possible again. Like, EVER.

Because… because like, one: I will say on one level Chip, I will say on one level, like– it’s sort of emotionally like… It’s emotionally devastating, and I think to actually go through that– and this is where like, if I ever do end up going to a– see a therapist, if I ever do end up going to see a therapist at any point, I’ll talk it over with them and be like, “Hey, what do you think about this?” Because I genuinely think on one level, like– it’s created this fear of forming attachments because of like, how things can go. You know what I mean? Like, the fear of getting attached to something and then potentially losing it. Like, it’s- it’s a genuine thing. I think people forget about that.

Like, at the end of the day, everything was RP, right? On the server. You know what I mean? Like, everything was RP, Chip. BUT at the same point, even though it was RP Chip, it was still like– there the reality of you were still playing like, with another person, and you were still getting that experience, and it felt like you were genuinely attached to someone and you didn’t want anything bad to happen to them. It was GENUINELY stressful, Chip.

But at the same point, I don’t regret it, and I don’t think it was a bad experience. I’m– 

Sometimes in life Chip, you go through stuff, and maybe you have a certain amount of like, things that like, can happen, that you’re like, “You know what, maybe this wasn’t a good thing that this happened,” but at the same point, you still aren’t necessarily upset about it, because… it’s like growing as a person, right? Here’s the thing Chip; even bad situations, Chip, can lead to an overall good outcome. Like–

Even if you’re going through something bad Chip, just because a bad thing happens doesn’t mean that only bad things have to come from that. That’s one of the things I tell people all the time, Chip, is that if you go through a bad situation, you can learn from it, and you can use your experience to help others. And you can be that– you can be, at the worst-case scenario, you can be someone for other people who are going through that same experience to lean on when they go through that.I think there’s a certain amount of comfort that comes from that; from knowing no matter how bad your situation is, you’re not the only person who’s experienced it. You know what I mean?

[wishchip106]

i’ve been using my brain more than its used to

gonna think about gay mutant road trip hope my brain doesn’t explode