#using the same tags

[arunneronthird]

in the batcave where i feel safe

[guiltyidealist]

On your MOST FOLLOWED blog on Tumblr,

[oobbbear]

I want to post this here too because I’ve seen it happen a few times

Please understand that there are cultural differences and language differences, if you see this happening let the person clarify what they meant, that person might just not be familiar with words the western side of the internet use

[3d-wifey]

Guys, help shed some light on this for me.

And my reply to that last comment is: @jungalsims you come onto my post on my blog talking bullshit and assume I'm gonna talk to you like we're having Sunday brunch? Again, you have to be stupid. My tone is rude bc I don't respect you. Simple as that. "Sit at home alone reading dune fanfiction for a living." Corny, hardly an insult to be told I read fanfiction when, guess what? You're here too, babe. Funny how that works. And I'm a full-time college student for a living since you're so curious.

You said that white ppl write for white ppl and I should find a black author or write my own stories, which I do. That was your solution to the problem of READER inserts using language that would only truly apply to white women. Translation: You don't have a right to be upset by white authors writing for white people, go read stories written by your own race. Get over it.

I'm sorry to be the one to tell you this, but that's just segregation lite. Black ppl had black actors and black music, and white ppl had white actors and music. These two worlds never overlapped, and ppl knew better than to expect them to. And if anyone was upset by that, they were told to "get over it."

Now, let's get some outside opinions on this. I welcome anyone who wants to speak, but I warn you, if you come at me disrespectfully, you can't expect me to act like Prince Diana and bite my tongue. I'm gonna be disrespectful back. That's just basic call and response.

"Atriedas!reader"

"...sister of Irulan..."

"...daughter of gurney/stilgar/the emperor..."

STOP IT STOP IT STOP IT I AM NOT WHITEEEEEEEE

I

AM

NOT

WHITEEEEEEE

ARE YOU SO UNORIGINAL THAT YOU CAN'T COME UP WITH A WAY TO INCORPORATE THE READER INTO THE STORY WITHOUT MAKING HER RELATED TO A MAIN CHARACTER??? WHERE'S THE IMAGINATION, PEOPLE?!!! LIKE FUCK, AT LEAST SAY THE READER IS ADOPTED IF YOU REALLY NEED HER TO BE SOMEONE'S SISTER/DAUGHTER, DAMN 😒😒😒

Don't get me started on the pointedly white language "you blushed" "squeeze so tight, your knuckles turn white" "peach toned..." "his handprint on your skin...". like you actually have to go out of your way to add that shit and it takes me out of the story like i roundhouse kick to the mouth. You. Make. Me. SICK!

[kowabungadoodles]

How to spot a (heart wrenching sad cat) Charity Scam

So I've been get a lot of requests for money in my askbox lately, from users I have never seen before! Usually sad cats, sometimes gender affirming medical bills, a queer person being made homeless etc etc... and guess what? None of them are real! It's scammers who have learned how to work tumblr's userbase and prey on our general sense of community and charity.

Here it is, so sad! So tragic! But let's note a few things:

It's generic. They don't know me, I don't know them. it's addressed to 'friend', no use of nicknames or usernames.

Even the cat and the problem are generic 'little kitty' who has 'urgent needs'. This is not how real people talk, this is because this scam is being used over and over with different accounts a different 'cats'.

Praying (uh huh.)

Asking you to reply privately- This is so people don't spot the scam and point it out the mark and because if too many people posted replies to the same message it would beome really obvious that this is a scam. If they're looking for 'boosts' so badly, then why do they need you to reply privately?

Now that I'm suspicious, let's investigate.

Sent me an ask and then followed me! Sounds like they're just hitting up anyone and everyone, but even more likely they have a list they're working from.

(I get so many, I'm probably on a mail-out list a mile long, just being hit up for cash. Likely I fell for one of these once and got my name added to every scam list for miles, but oh well.)

So let's see if they're a bot or a real person!

The blog looks genuine enough, they've got a bio, a fandom etc. And it says they're an artist!

And of course there's that sad cat post, pinned right to the top, so I don't have to look any further through the blog for verification... Looks super legit, pics of the cat, pics of the bill... of course anyone can print out a bill and take a picture of it...

As I do scroll futher, it's full of reblogs making this look like an active user. So how can I tell it's not genuine?

Well, if they're an artist they probably post right? Doodles? Pictures? Let's have a look at their origional posts.

The fastest way to do this is by using an outside tool like Original Post Finder.

just type in the suspicious username and go...

Voila! As suspected, the only post this bot account has ever made is Sad Cat Post.

Confirmed: Scam. Do not give your money to these guys, it looks so real but they're just here to make you feel like a bad person for not handing over everything you can. Charity is wonderful, supporting friends is wonderful, but tbh save it for people you actually know irl/ mutuals you have an actual relationship with. Don't believe any rando who comes knocking!

Love and kisses, stay safe out there.

[thebrainrotsreal]

Drew this real quick because I fucking love these two so much ???? Especially Bee. I wish they interacted more so badly. PLEASE.

Also learning how to draw these guys.. slowly.

[sadmages]

In my mind palace my tav and Astarion are playing the exact same game of 5D chess and they don't realize it yet

[redtail-lol]

I might have trypanophobia myself and while I can sometimes get shots, it's not fun and I'm really happy to see the point about herd immunity. Some of us really can't get them and I think a panic disorder around needles is a valid reason to get a medical exemption. Much more valid than the conspiracy theory bullshit some people believe.

What Not to Say/Do to a Trypanophobic Person

I've seen a lot of ignorant people (most of them healthcare providers) over the course of my time as a person with a severe needle phobia, so I've compiled a list of things that have made my blood absolutely boil and either don't help or actively worsen my phobia.

Saying "it's just a little needle", "it's not that bad", or anything else that aims to minimize the situation. Phobias are irrational, but the people who have them are not. We're fully aware of how ridiculous phobias are, you don't need to remind us. It's infantilizing and likely to put us on the defensive, which can raise anxiety/adrenaline.

Calling us babies or weak for having a phobia. Phobias are panic disorders. We can't switch them off. Unless you think having a mental illness is a weakness (which I hope you don't) it's illogical and hurtful to apply this kind of thinking to us.

Physically restraining us. Physical restraints are bad. Really fucking bad. If done wrong (or even when done correctly) they can seriously injure or kill someone. If a person with a needle phobia is attempting to leave the situation, they are engaging the "flight" part of "flight or fight". So what happens if flight becomes unavailable? We fight. I've injured people who have restrained me in the past. It's not conscious or intentional, it's pure instinct. It can also be traumatizing to be exposed to something you're terrified of and forced to undergo a procedure, even if you agreed to it previously. Let me repeat that for emphasis. Even if a person previously agreed to undergo a procedure, it can still be traumatic if they attempt to retract consent and aren't allowed to.

Trying to scare us. When in a calm state we might decide, on our own, to weigh the risks and rewards of getting a procedure involving a needle done. And sometimes our anxiety about not getting a procedure done outweighs anxiety of getting the procedure done and we decide to go through with it. But if you attempt to scare us into a procedure involving a needle, we can tell. And once we figure out what you're doing, we can no longer trust the information you're giving us. I've known doctors who have exaggerated or straight up lied to me about what would happen if I didn't get a vaccine. Even if you're 100% truthful, tone matters. Don't act concerned, angry, or like you're talking to a child. Give us the facts in a calm, professional manner, and let us work on the rest.

Insisting on talking about needles even when we've asked to stop/said we're done. If you're discussing a procedure involving needles with a trypanophobic person and they say anything to the effect of "I don't want to talk about this anymore", the conversation is over. It doesn't matter if you just had some great revelation or if what you have to say is really important. Keep it to yourself. We usually won't cut off a conversation about our phobia until it reaches a point where we can't handle it anymore. If you keep pushing, you might trigger a panic attack.

Exposing us to needles without our consent. "But exposure therapy!" I hear you saying, and to that I respond "shut up and fuck off, you don't know what that is". Exposure therapy is when a person with trauma, OCD, a phobia, or another disorder that can be triggered chooses to slowly, in a controlled environment, expose themself to a trigger. Exposure therapy can't be done to a person, only by a person. For a trypanophobic person, this might be looking at pictures of people getting injections. When they've had enough and are getting too stressed, they can simply close the tab and move on to something less stressful. Sending someone pictures of needles, taking them to places where needles might be, pretending that you're going to jab them, those things aren't exposure therapy. That's emotional abuse, repeatedly exposing someone to something that you know triggers panic in them for your own amusement.

Shaming us for the "damage" we could be doing. Herd immunity is important. It's important because it protects those who can't be vaccinated, including some of us. I was at a point a few years ago where I physically couldn't enter a room where I knew a needle was going to be used on me. My body just wouldn't move that way. Since physical restraining isn't an option, if someone can't bring themself to get a vaccine on their own due to a phobia, they're vaccine exempt. End of story.

Shaming us for not actively working on recovering. First of all, there's no way for you to know if someone is working on their phobia or not. Second of all, there are a lot of valid reasons to not be recovering. The main one that comes to mind is external stress. When my needle phobia was at its worst I was in 10th grade, the hardest grade at my school. I was barely staying afloat as it was. Treating your day-to-day stress has to come before working on a bigger, less present issue.

Asking us when we're going to get over/grow out of it. Phobias vary in severity and ease of management. Some people are never able to manage their phobia. Some people learn to manage it very quickly. Some people benefit from simple techniques like deep breathing and distraction, some people need more advanced help. Some people are able to participate in exposure therapy, some are too overwhelmed by their trigger to even try. Like any other mental illness, phobias are complicated and no two phobic people are exactly alike. Applying your expectations of recovery on us doesn't help and can vary from annoying to hurtful.

Ignoring or arguing with our accommodations. Disabled people, as a general rule, don't ask for accommodations we don't need. If a person with a phobia is asking you to perform a procedure in a different way than you're used to, it's more likely than not that this is the only way they can get it done. For instance, I have to have blood taken from a vein on my right hand. The vein on my inner elbow, the one they usually use, is hard to find, making the procedure take longer and causing me more pain. The only reason I'm able to get the blood work I need to manage and research my chronic illness is that I discovered this easier way to do it. People who are doing exposure therapy are in an extremely fragile state of mine, often having or on the verge of having a panic attack. If things don't go exactly as planned it can be traumatic and reinforce the phobia even more. Do what you can to make the procedure as calm and quick as possible. If something goes wrong accidentally, apologize and be kind even if the person seems irrationally upset over it. We're dealing with incredibly high adrenaline, our bodies are sending us signals that we're in mortal danger. In addition, as I mentioned before, some people also can't do procedures involving needles at all and will need to be excused from those procedures. Pushing a person with trypanophobia to discuss needles can cause them to panic or become defensive. This isn't something we have control over and it's not something we can be talked out of.

[wasabi-gumdrop]

Kabru has a secret admirer in the castle!

[starleska]

as a cringe selfshipper who's been in fandom for decades and draws nothing but blushy ship art, i feel so seen and so attacked right now 😂💖💖💖

[basslinegrave]

pin-up

b&w originals

[beebfreeb]

Yeah, sure, I'll make up stuff about those blue things that show up for maybe 2 seconds at most. Why not.

I imagine it's very funny to be reused graphics.

[ghosted-jazz]

Traffic Gals- Introducing Gem!

[heydrangeas]

I am trying soooo hard not to be annoyed with american leftists. like we get it, you are ideologically perfect and won’t compromise with anyone or take any action or donate your time or money to any material cause—but at least you post the Exact Right Things and hate everyone!! Phew!

[hyacinthsdiamonds]

A lot of you underestimate how prevalent British bias is not only in F1 but across sports generally, and even in other industries.

Max saying he has the wrong passport in the paddock is an accurate statement. Do you think he, Seb, or Michael would've been half as vilified by the British media if they had a British passport instead? Would Fernando? Do you think Yuki would get half as much shit about his radio "conduct" if he was British? Because it's the British commentators who consistently have issues with it, and say shit like it's "unbecoming" for a driver to speak that way, ignoring that 1 it's not his first language and 2 IT WAS ENGLISH PEOPLE HE LEARNT THAT LANGUAGE FROM. Sometimes people misspeak, but Yuki has always taken accountability and apologised if he has and if he caused harm. Martin Brundle did not get nearly as much backlash from the media when he misspoke and called an Asian driver a slur while commentating. He also never apologised for it.

Alex, one of the four Brits on the grid but who drives under the Thai flag, has said that the commentators only call him British born when he does well. He was completely excluded from the Silverstone publicity about the home crowd heroes, whereas George, Lewis & Lando were heralded, not only on race weekend, but for weeks leading up to it.

Alex's statement also reminded me of this Richard Harris quote, "When I'm in trouble, I'm an Irishman. When I turn in a good performance, I'm an Englishman." Genuinely, if I took a shot every time a British organisation/person claimed a talented Irish person was actually a Brit, I'd have died from alcohol poisoning years ago.

Hell, I see George wearing the poppy pin this weekend in the lead up to remembrance Sunday. Do you know the amount of shit James McClean gets every year because he refuses to wear one? And he has very valid reasons for choosing not to wear it, yet he's torn to shreds every year by not only random people on the Internet or on the streets but by commentators and the media too.

Because of how this sport became mainstream and because no one challenged Bernie Eccleston's monopoly on broadcasting rights back in the day (people were given the opportunity to buy a share of the broadcasting rights; the idiots said no), this sport has prioritised the British voice/perspective for decades. I know the other broadcasts are just as biased for their home team/drivers, but the British one is the biggest one, as it's the main broadcast for better and more often for the worst. It's the broadcast with the most reach and influence. Their bias has to be challenged eventually if this sport ever hopes to properly expand and grow. The British bias is so difficult to miss once you start noticing it.

[technically-human]

Can you draw something with Doom Patrol!Edwin and Netflix!Edwin?

Maybe something about Dp!Edwin talking about his feelings for Charles with N!Edwin?

It's just something I've been thinking of, make it a little angsty?<3

Glad you asked

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