#unwritten rules

[lgbtqreads]

Fave Five: Softball/Baseball Romances

Playing for Keeps by Jennifer Dugan (f/f YA) The Prospects by KT Hoffman (m/m) Unwritten Rules by KD Casey (m/m series) Heart of the Game by Rachel Spangler (f/f) You Should Be So Lucky by Cat Sebastian (m/m Histrom) Bonus: These are all prose novels, but for a graphic novel series, check out Grand Slam Romance by Ollie Hicks and Emma Oosterhouse (f/f))

[queer-book-character-tournament]

Characters, book, and author names under the cut

Walt Stone/Anubis/Sadie Kane - The Kane Chronicles by Rick Riordan

Alec Campion/Richard St Vier - Swordspoint by Ellen Kushner

Delilah Green/Claire Sutherland - Delilah Green Doesn’t Care by Ashley Herring Blake

Zach Glasser/Eugenio Morales - Unwritten Rules by KD Casey

[youth-liberation-june]

do you ever get punished for following unwritten rules?

i just did.

my mom had this new box of cereal instead of the normal brand of cheerios. and usually, when that happens, it means i have to eat them, because i don't have a choice in what i eat unless she approves of it.

but i was wrong. she never told me the cereal was just for me, but for either one of us.

so she got upset from me following the unwritten rule & opening it, saying “i shouldn’t even get snacks for that 👵🏽, for that sTuPiDiTy”. i had to walk away from that, it was just too much bitterness & hate.

i'm not sure why she's so upset i opened it, though, if it was for either of us.

[scramboileditlog]

It's funny. I still notice the bros of Tumblr following the unwritten manly rules of appreciating blogs by men. We like posts, reblog, and sometimes comment, but rarely do we follow each other.

From one brother to another, I feel you.

Parang yung mga "whoever moves first is gay" pranks recently. 😂

[turtwig387]

Not sure if it's worth mentioning but inspired by a post I just saw about not understanding invisible "rules" (social rules I guess)

I feel like neurodiverse traits can be acquired (or rather, maybe, sometimes, neurotypical traits Not being acquired)

Through things like.... not socializing or experiencing enough as a child, for reasons such as being physically disabled and / or sick as a kid and therefor spending a lot of time doing medical things or being home etc, and less time socializing and going out, etc.

And also, less relevantly, having protective or strict parents who might not have let you experience a whole lot of things

Or any combination of those...

The other post just made me think of that because I'm aware that not knowing invisible rules is a common neurodiverse experience

And the post doesn't mention neurodiversity which I kind of like because it might not be an ONLY neurodiverse experience

And,,,, I've never been diagnosed as anything neurodiverse (as far as I know) but I relate to the not knowing invisible rules (among other things)

And I kinda figure it might have to do with being sick as a baby and disabled as a kid, and therefor maybe,, I don't know? Not learning these things? Even.... indirectly learning? Because I do understand that it's not incredibly "taught" (that's why they're "invisible" rules...)

If you're someone who didn't socialize a lot as a kid or didn't experience a lot as a kid, and you know the "not understanding invisible rules", maybe you can relate? Idk. There's no call to action, just some thoughts.

[poisindonottouch]

Queer reads: KD Casey

For day 28: To round out the romance section, and the month of queer reads, I bring you the subcategory of Gay Sports Romances. I think I picked up KD Casey because Cat Sebastian recommended Diamond Ring on instagram, and that was it for my and this rabbit hole. 

So, first off, I must state that I do not care for sports. Like, I don’t hate them, because that’d be way more feelings toward a thing I do not care about. But for any given sport event happening on the TV, I’d rather be in the other room reading a book. Ironically, it might be a sports romance.

KD Casey does not hate sports. In fact, they care about them greatly. All the baseball fanning, all the baseball knowledge. When I explained my new-found interest in sport romance novels to my coworkers (all of us high school English teachers), one of them said, “Oh, so you read sport romances like it’s sci fi.” To which, yes, except I know way more about space ships in the far flung future (or a long time ago, in a galaxy far, far away) than I do about baseball. 

But these were fun. The series actually is called Unwritten Rules, and it starts with Unwritten Rules, but I think I read them Fire Season, Unwritten Rules, Diamond Ring, which is 2, 1, 3? Anyway, there’s some flashback stuff going on, so it wasn’t too far off. There’s lots of sporting happening in these books, but also very gorgeous men with lots of feelings and internalized homophobia. Actually half of the characters have no internalized homophobia, but that’s part of the angst. Sports, as we can imagine, whether we like sports or not, is not a world that’s super open for gay people of any stripe, and part of sports as the setting presents some built-in conflict for the characters. If you’d like your romances without homophobia, these probably aren’t for you, but I think I mentioned how much I like angst, and these deliver on that. 

KD Casey makes writes some great tension, steamy sex, and compelling characters who all have some serious baggage. There’s also stuff about recovery, injury, and physical disabilities (one of the MC in Unwritten Rules is hard of hearing, which is always present but isn’t actually part of the conflict of the story.) 

If you like sports, check these out. If you don’t like sports, but you think Cat Sebastian has some good recommendations (or you think I do), check these out. 

[breakingcuties]

If you’re not her daddy then why do you talk to her in that way?

What way is that? Do I have to put a collar on it before I condescend to a dumb baby? I’m running into unwritten tumblr rules left and right.

I know condescend is a big word, but all it means is to explain things in a way dumb babies can easily understand. Are you going to thank me for helping you understand?

[qbdatabase]

Unwritten Rules by K. D. Casey Zach Glasser could have had everything he wanted--if only he'd had the guts to tell his family, tell his baseball team, that he was in love with his teammate Eugenio Morales. But when Zach couldn't come out, Eugenio made the devastating choice to move on. Three years and countless regrets later, Zach still can't get Eugenio out of his head. Or his heart. And when they both get selected to play in the league’s All-Star Classic, those feelings and that chemistry come roaring back ...

[mothmanflight]

If you spray paint love affairs or tags in caves, you're a jackass

[lgbtqreads]

Happy National Coming Out Day 2023!

For even more Coming Out reads, check out this post from way back when! (And for a post on coming out, check out “Never Too Late” by Kelly Farmer.) Ellen Outside the Lines by A.J. Sass Thirteen-year-old Ellen Katz feels most comfortable when her life is well planned out and people fit neatly into her predefined categories. She attends temple with Abba and Mom every Friday and Saturday. Ellen only…

[dwgill-quotes]

Intermittently, at least, Swift was a kind of anarchist, and Part IV of Gulliver’s Travels is a picture of an anarchistic Society, not governed by law in the ordinary sense, but by the dictates of “Reason,” which are voluntarily accepted by everyone. The General Assembly of the Houyhnhnms “exhorts” Gulliver’s master to get rid of him, and his neighbours put pressure on him to make him comply. Two reasons are given. One is that the presence of this unusual Yahoo may unsettle the rest of the tribe, and the other is that a friendly relationship between a Houyhnhnm and a Yahoo is “not agreeable to Reason or Nature, or a Thing ever heard of before among them.” Gulliver’s master is somewhat unwilling to obey, but the “exhortation” (a Houyhnhnm, we are told, is never compelled to do anything, he is merely “exhorted” or “advised”) cannot be disregarded. This illustrates very well the totalitarian tendency which is implicit in the anarchist or pacifist vision of Society. In a Society in which there is no law, and in theory no compulsion, the only arbiter of behaviour is public opinion. But public opinion, because of the tremendous urge to conformity in gregarious animals, is less tolerant than any system of law. When human beings are governed by “thou shalt not,” the individual can practise a certain amount of eccentricity: when they are supposedly governed by “love” or “reason,” he is under continuous pressure to make him behave and think in exactly the same way as everyone else.

George Orwell, "Politics vs. Literature: An Examination of Gulliver’s Travels", featured in All Art is Propaganda: Critical Essays.

[bloomintune]

I think it's the little footnote that sells this.

one of those pop linguistic lists of untranslatable words except they don't tell you what they mean (because they are untranslatable)

[periodt-blogs]

How to survive solo in a hostel with social anxiety| Busting common worries

Content and Reading Time 13 minutes Busting Common Worries Alone In A Crowd of People Talking to new people Getting in the way Breaking unwritten rules Donate This week I’ve been solo travelling. I spent 3 nights in Seville and then 2 nights in Madrid. It was a really great experience but fuck me was it an EXPERIENCE. I’d say my therapist would prefer I call it a ‘learning’ experience…

[www-islandofsodor]

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[educationaldm]

What are the unwritten rules of D&D? Or in fact, any TTRPG? Do you agree with these? Or have any to add? Splitting the party is a debatable and situational one...

[crankydevon]

today I learned: drying room! Of course this is the answer for cold climates where having a ton of automatic dryers (machines) is not common.

in USA shared laundries, we pull people's clothes down and put them on a table or in the empty basket that obviously goes with them. no pissing required. it's absolutely a problem here that a few folks will leave laundry in either the washer or dryer for more than a day.

Many cultures have a sort of "insider/outsider clause" for their cultural customs. A stranger, like a child, has the privilege of being given some mercy for failing to behave as one properly does - for how should they have known any better? And much like a child, this slack that is given from social norms is tied to their limited status. If one acts like a child, they will be treated as a child, and they will not have the privileges of grown adults. And if one behaves like a stranger, they will always be a stranger, until they begin to make an effort to respect the society's rules.

I can understand if the neighbour currently hogging the laundry room despite of the rules which are clearly written on a sign on the wall in two languages doesn't speak enough finnish or english yet to understand that the time limit is 4 hours per week, and that they can't just leave them there for 24 hours even if they booked that time on the schedule books. Or this person might not be aware how much the act of following common rules is seen as a sign of respect, and ignoring the rules is an insult and expression of disrespect.

But if I find out that this unknown neighbour who won't follow the rules is either native here or otherwise should know by now how dead seriously finns take the law of written rules, I swear to god the next time I catch their laundry in the public laundry rooms at the wrong time I will personally take it down into a pile on the floor and piss on it.