#tw loveless

[howlingtothevoid]

Tired of being used? Me too, pass the bottle

[shmaroace]

I AM NOT MISSING OUT ON ANYTHING BY BEING AROMANTIC AND LOVELESS!

[zonatcannibalism]

"Aspec people are not monsters, they still feel love" Aspec people are not monsters beacuse we are living breathing human beings and not some cartoon villain. Some Aspec people don't feel love, not romantic love, not platonic love, nothing. Some allo people don't feel love too, even if they do feel attraction. That doesn't make us any less valuable. That dosent mean we don't have any feelings. Were not valuable beacuse we can fit your idea of what's good and "human", were valuable beacuse were people not hurting anyone and just trying to live our fucking lives. WE ARE NOT MONSTERS. were just different then you. The whole idea of love, romantic love, platonic love, familial love, a bond that is the most valuable thing ever and nothing can defeat, is something that some people could never reach, just beacuse we don't understand what it is. And thats ok.

[suiana]

Nice boobs

(yandere! loveless loser x gn! reader)

love is stupid. romance is idiotic. actually, the very idea of romance is stupid. i mean, why waste money when on someone else when you could use it to do something else you liked? why even waste time worrying for someone else when that could stress you out?

it all didn't make sense for him, why?

because love is stupid.

every single time he sees a couple on the streets, he wants nothing more than to blow them up with a bazooka. it's even worse if they're walking slowly in front of him, kissing or sweet talking one another. it makes him want to pull his eyeballs out and take a bath with a toaster.

he wishes he could just eradicate all the couples in the world. if they want to be lovey dovey they can do it at home for all he cares! no need to share it with the rest of the world!

but oh...

when he first laid eyes on you, it was like he immediately understood why all the couples acted the way they did.

because with you, he wanted to do the exact same. he wanted to show you love even in public, wanted to treat you like the most fragile flower in the world. he wanted to drown you in his love.

however, you were constantly surrounded by others, blind to his feelings that grew darker by the day. the feelings that were gut wrenching, the feelings that twisted sharply in the depths of his heart, the feelings that made him feel high.

you were his drug, and he was addicted.

he couldn't stop the way he felt. but it's not like he wanted to either. not when you were so pretty, not when you were so so lovely... and most especially not when he finally understood why couples acted the way they did.

you were the cause of his epiphany. and he most definitely will not let you go. and if he does, you'll be coming with him.

because lovers should be together even in death. don't you think so too?

[neptune-scythe]

anyone who responds to "hey I don't like that/that made me uncomfortable/whatever else boundary" with "that's just how I express love/it was out of love just get over it" is getting WHACKED

love isn't some bandaid that you can slap onto any situation to magically fix it, and intention doesn't even matter

actions do in fact have consequences and constantly upsetting and harming another person in the name of "love" is going to have the exact same effect as it would if you had neutral or negative intentions, because ultimately you're still hurting that person regardless of if you "meant to" or not

and calling something "love" doesn't make it comfortable or okay or enjoyable for the person on the receiving end

it just makes the person doing it feel better about themselves and that's just manipulation and abuse

thank you for coming to my Ted talk

[mlp-friendship-isnt-magic]

Coining new term: Poison Apl

[Image ID: A flag with 7 horizontal stripes. From the top to the center, they are blueish plum, neon green, swamp green, and dull pink. In the center is a black apple. End ID.]

The term was made to be an aplatonic equivalent to evil aro, arson aro, and mean/cruel aro. Poison apls reclaim the negative stereotypes surrounding aplatonics, such as being unlikeable. They may be mentally ill or have a "scary" personality disorder that impacts their aplatonicism. This term can overlap with loveless apl, but not all poison apls consider themselves loveless. Poison apls support all micro labels on the aplatonic spectrum, even the ones called "cringe" or "pointless" by exclusionists. Overall, the term is to take back aplmisia and make it our own.

[georgiaswarr]

osemanverse allergies and intolerances

a list of headcanons and why they are 100% correct

BLISS

obviously, bliss is lactose intolerant. cause nobody loves dairy more than lactose intolerant people.

ROWAN

rowan is allergic to cat hair because as we’ve established he is allergic to going to therapy, so naturally he’d also be allergic to the ark’s therapy cat. doesn’t mean he shouldn’t have both. pill up, bitch.

LISTER

lister is severely allergic to shellfish. reasons being that in my experience, shellfish are a more elite, rich people meal, something you’d order at a fancy restaurant, i.e. something lister wouldn’t have had growing up poor. however, once he comes into money, he would try some for the first time and almost die, which shows that his current decadent lifestyle is very unhealthy.

JIMMY

jimmy is coeliac but he doesn’t know it yet. for one, he is constantly fatigued, which could in part be related to — and reinforced by — a severe iron deficiency. also, he is canonically shown to suffer from disordered eating, since he tends to skip and forget meals. this mirrors what many coeliacs tend to struggle with (and i assume people with other allergies too, i’m just speaking from my own experience); if your food options are greatly limited, it’s easy to skip or straight-up forget a meal.

GEORGIA

georgia is coeliac but she doesn’t know it yet because i’m tumblr user georgiaswarr and i say so.

SUNIL

sunil is allergic to nuts. that’s an asexual and trans joke.

TORI

tori has seasonal allergies because we all know her as a winter girlie, so tori in spring (no pun intended but pun greatly appreciated) doesn’t sit right with me. or her sinuses.

MICHAEL

michael has a loooooot of allergies; wheat, dairy, peanuts, oats, just to name a few. we all know he was very ostracised and unpopular at truham, something that would be reinforced by his ‘weird’ and ‘annoying’ dietary restrictions. after all, which horrible teenage boy is gonna like the kid that got peanuts banned on school grounds?

FRANCES

frances is allergic to certain fruits such as bananas or kiwis. however, she thinks that’s just how they’re supposed to taste, they’re supposed to hurt a bit. you know, just how she thought studying and university was just supposed to be painful without reflecting on why those expectations caused her this much suffering.

ELLE

elle is allergic to nuts. that’s another trans joke.

[infiniteorangethethird]

Oh, so you feel love? Damn, I'm so sorry to hear that. It must be really hard, unable to see the joys of life that aren't about other people. I mean it can't be healthy to base all your happiness around others, or to assume you're only truly whole if there's someone else next to you, have you tried seeing a therapist about it? They can probably show you how to stop loving and start focusing on yourself instead.

Wait, you don't want to stop? You want to keep loving? You want to keep doing things out of love? But that ignores and casts out anyone who doesn't meet your mysterious criteria to be loved by you. Are you sure you're not actually evil? Because it sounds like you're just making up excuses to only be nice towards the people you want to be nice to.

I mean I fully accept and support you of course. I still think you should seek help for this issue of yours, though.

[aros-ur-lovecore]

[ID: The words "I am whole without love" in green letters. The background is a matcha cupcake with light green icing topped with a small flower resembling a daisy. End ID]

There's nothing wrong with not feeling love! This applies to any and every kind of love. Don't let anyone tell you what feelings you "should" be feeling.

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[our-arospec-experience]

I'm loveless (which I noticed you wasn't in your aro-spec list and you should totally add) and I had to remind a girl I was loveless, and she went "Oh, I can love for you" and like, I assume she meant well, but it was so not cool, it made me feel sick to my stomach.

I'm sorry she said that to you, even if she didn't mean it in a bad way, it's still valid to feel uncomfortable.

(I will add loveless right away. Again, if anyone else knows a term i forgot, let me know)

[detergent3000]

Mcyt aro week day 2 | prompt - loveless

[unrestrained-balderdash-art-blog]

Day 11 of Pied Month! Again, multiple puns for this, the Pied Plover/Lapwing - Pied Pallovaro, Pied Plovelessaro, and Pied Lapbing. Having a lot of fun with doing highlights on pride flags as different flags (the loveless one killed me since I did both of them the wrong way round first)

Reference photo by Kester Clarke

I'm on Cara, it's a social media for art that's against AI, follow me @ tbalderdash

[frootlooptime]

humans are able to be reborn... humans can be reborn many times.

[neptune-scythe]

on my loveless aroapl shit again

but I think it's so interesting that "love" is the thing that is supposed to be the most important thing or whatever, and that's what most people are looking for or feel they need in order to be happy/fulfilled/whatever, when to me at least, love is a very flimsy self focused emotion.

and by that I mean someone could love me, but that has nothing to do with me. their love is for how they perceive me, which more often than not, is wildly inaccurate, in which case I'm not actually loved, just an imaginary me that lives only inside the other persons perception of me, which ends up harming me and the other person more than benefiting either.

or they love what I can do or provide for them, which again has nothing to do with me, just the services I provide, so if I stop providing those services for whatever reason, I'm no longer loved, because it was never actually about me in the first place

and even if were talking about the definition of love that is wanting the best for someone and wanting them to thrive and be happy, that's still the other persons idea of what is best for me and what will make me happy, which may very well not be anywhere near what i actually need or what will make me happy, or even overlapping with the first example, it can end up being "i love who you could be if you took care of yourself/healed/made healthy choices/whatever, but if you never ever changed i would realize i don't love you as you are now"

there is no version of love that doesn't prioritize the person feeling it or impact them more, and sure it can be nice to feel needed or important, but if that need and importance is based on love and nothing else then it doesn't have a sturdy foundation and as soon as that feeling is gone so will the importance and need

but back to my point

I find it so fascinating that people value that over respect

if I love someone, that's about me and how I feel about them and how my perception of them makes me feel, and it's all about me and my feelings ... but if I respect someone, that is entirely about them and who they are as a person and that they deserve to be treated right, and honoured, and made space for.

and maybe that's just a technicality, and respect is supposed to be lumped in with love or that is really what people are talking about when they say love, but to me it is a huge difference

but love without respect seems, in my experience at least, to be the common occurance, rather than love with respect

and this might be too controversial or whatever but I'm gonna say it anyway

abusive people that say they love the person they're abusing ... do love that person, they just don't respect them. they experience the feeling of love towards that person, that self centered "I feel a certain way around you" feeling, and because it's self centered and actually has nothing to do with the other person, they abuse them. and there seems to be the mentality that someone who really genuinely loves you wouldn't hurt or abuse you, but that's not the case in my opinion. someone could love you and still hurt you, but it's because there's no respect. because love is about how a person is in regards to yourself, how they make you feel, how you want them to live, but respect is just about who that person is and that you think they deserve to live their life as they choose and you honour their choices and decisions

and yeah respect can still fall into the "i want you to be treated right, so i'm going to treat you how i think is right regardless of what you think", but real genuine respect inherently includes trust and valuing the other person's opinions, which includes how they want or need to be treated.

and obviously there are still ways you can be mistreated or whatever when you're respected, but there's a much lower likelyhood of that than with just being loved

but anyway i just think it's interesting that love gets all the hype when respect is so much better and is a much better foundation for a healthy satisfying relationship of any kind whether it's platonic, romantic, sexual, queerplatonic, alterous, professional, whatever

and maybe that's just my opinion and other people don't really care about that as long as someone feels something about them, and that's why respect is so hard to come by, but respect just never seems to be talked about and I wanted to change that.

because I'm sure there are plenty of people like myself that are aro or apl or loveless or whatever, that value respect and trust over love, and are maybe even open to some type of relationship that's built around that rather than romance or platonic attraction or any type of love.

but even it seems queerplatonic or alterous relationships are "supposed" to be based off some type of love, or at least the conversations I've seen or been a part of still focus on or include that, rather than just respect and commitment which, to me at least, is much more appealing than any type of love.

and there does seem to be a misconception that loveless people hate everyone and don't want any type of relationship ever, and while that is true for some people there should also be room in the conversation for people who are still interested in some type of relationship or support system with other people as long as it's about mutual respect and trust and support rather than fragile changeable feelings

anyway that's my rant for the day, shout-out to aros and apls and aces and loveless folks and people who don't want anything to do with another human and people who do but only in certain circumstances and everyone in between

[ichiharas-familiar]

latest evil Loveless thought is that while Soubi's sexual/romantic interest in Ritsuka is waning severely due to its basis in Ritsuka's position rather than Ritsuka himself, Ritsuka in the later volumes seems to be developing a big old crush on Soubi, and the realization that someone who was lovebombing him doesn't actually share those feelings in any 'real' way is gonna be fucking devastating.

[shiutsu]

Notice how this is usually said by attraction positive mfs. I put mostly so people wouldn't scream about it.

Yeah,how dare I make a meme that's stereotyping the identity when I'm basically the stereotype of the identity!

I've never seen anyone repulsed screaming at attraction positive that they're ignoring the repulsed side. And as I said a long time ago: according to the community (this can be seen among aspec communities), it's wrong not to include repulsed side but if you don't include allos then it's a warcrime.

I also noticed that in one of my posts reblogs or in someone else's post, someone was mad that people dared to point out when people who are basically the stereotype of the identity want to troll the allos are bad & that it's immature or some shit.

Suddenly it's wrong to do the same what you do to the others,huh? You wouldn't like getting asked whenever u'd make a shitty question towards them why are you the exact opposite, you don't want shit to get back fired to you. Y'all say equality and everyone matters until someone does the same shit and that's wrong since they don't feel the same as you do.

Like why are you mad when I make a meme that goes into the more repulsed side? There are fucking tens or hundreds of memes that are for the allo side. It's my content, my experiences and if you don't like it,then ignore it.

Like I got mad comments when I once made aplatonic bingo cuz I didn't include like alloromantics or allos in general and I specifically said that there were too many things to aplatonism. And fucking tens of people were pissy and refused to go through the comments where I said it since of course Reddit is lazy. Like someone straight up made a mock up of my bingo where they took half of the things I had it on and put unrelated shit on it, the comments were nicer when I released the 2nd part where I included more the allo side & people finally shut up.

Or that one person in the ficto sub that got mad that I made a dino meme saying "Fuck people" and acted like it was targeted towards them. Like man, if I fucking hate people then I'll make a meme about it with the ficto flag,not everyone's like you, shut up. If the meme doesn't speak to you then ignore it & don't throw a tantrum in the comments.