#transmisandry babies

[0w0tsuki]

Both "Transandrophobia" and "Transmisandry" come before "Transmisoginy" when you search for it, with"Transandrophobia" being one of the top results when you type in "trans" into the search bar. The average post from the top Transandrophobia blogs where they Critique and Analyze cropped screen caps of transfem's posts behind their back will get thousands of notes of praise for RATIONAL and REASONABLE they are for speculating that a throwaway line about "trans girls taking the piss" is actually a joke in direct reference to an anon led sexual harassment campaign of a trans man.

And due to the new tagging policy all that's needed is to mention the word for it to come up in the tags. Which has resulted in half of the #transmisoginy tag being mired with trans androbros crying about how their not transmisoginists, or that they're affected by transmisoginy, or that TME/TMA distinctions are just interagating them about their genitals. Which is by the way AFTER I've used the notes of the posts by the aforementioned top transandro blogs as a blocklist to block these chuds by the thousands. I STILL have to to sift through trans andro post after transandro posts to find a post discussing transmisoginy IN THE GOD DAMN TRANSMISOGINY TAG!

It's been nearly half a year since @/humans announced that they were "working vewwy had :(" to unban the #tgirl tag when they've proved that they can unban tags within a week. Meanwhile the #tboy tag was never flagged to begin with. Hell. Trans women can't even post a selfie in the #transisbeautiful tag without risking attracting the attention of sissy porn chaser blogs.

And EVERYTIME we point out transmisoginy whether it's the "megapope was right" discourse, calls to "critique" gender affirming care for transfems under the pretense that it affirms the patriarchy, obvious "best of both worlds " trap jokes, or a crossdressing cis femboy streamer being treated Height of Gender™ who "no one else does it like". EVERY TIME we point this shit out we are met with condescending TMEs treating it as the Transfem Crusade of the week. Who belittle, talk down to us, and position themselves as the educator to us aabout our own oppression. Who tell us that we are taking things out of context, that were overreacting, that we don't have any reading comprehension, that we don't understand basic theory, and that we're just looking for anything to be angry about.

But no keep crying about how trans men are ignored and talked over meanwhile transwomen are overprioritized and "dominate" the trans conversation. Because surely we haven't been told enough about how we take up too much space.

[genderstarbucks]

Acknowledging that transandrophobia exists is not us denying that transmisogyny exists

If you believe in transmisogyny but not transmisandry, why? Give me an actual GOOD reason

Transandrophobia is just a word to describe the shit that us trans men and transmascs go through, it says nothing about our thoughts on transmisogyny

I am a "transandrophobia truther" because I believe that transphobia specifically directed towards trans man and transmascs exist.

Yes, I do believe in transmisogyny because trans women and transfems DO face transphobia specifically for being women and fem

But I also believe that transandrophobia exists, because it fucking does

Yes, we're both trans but we face different kinds of discrimination

Transandrophobia is literally just a word describing the hate that trans men and transmascs face, just like transmisogyny is literally just a word describing the hate that trans women and transfems face

I'm tired of you people believing that trans men and transmascs don't face any oppression and are generally accepted

WE FUCKING AREN'T, ALL THESE LAWS BEING PASSED AFFECTS US TRANS MEN AND TRANSMASCS TOO

Trans men and transmascs are not seen as the "more acceptable" way to be trans

We're told:

- testosterone is a poison and will make us bad pepple

- we're transitioning to the "bad side"

- we're just little girls making "bad" decisions

We're also:

- treated as little white twinks

- treated as fucking babies

- seen as "transtrenders" if we're still femme in any way

- seen as dangerous if we're too manly or masculine

- treated as "not real men" if we menstruate, get pregnant or do anything of the sort

We're told time and time again that our identities aren't important and that the discrimination we face isn't real and that our existence just means we're transmisogynistic

How do you think we feel?

It's even worse when shit like this comes from our own community

[genderkoolaid]

It's so frustrating to see people purposefully misunderstand transandrophobia/transmisandry and then very confidently talk disparagingly about the people who talk about their experiences of it and then blatantly ignore everyone going "hey yeah no that's not what that means"

Like. Devon price trying to frame it like people who talk about transandrophobia are doing so firstly because they're just ignorant misogynistic babies who want to be oppressed so bad and also to try and drive a wedge between transmascs and transfemmes is so fucking disingenuous I don't even know where to start.

We're literally just trying to talk about the experiences transmasculine people have and the institutional problems specific to us? Why is this such a fucking problem?

Its painfully obvious that the people who make these posts do not ever actually engage with the discussion of anti-transmasculinity & the wider transunitist-feminist theories. Its embarassingly obvious in this case because Devon tried to make this sick gotcha, by bringing up one of the most common topics of conversation in our spaces.

And then there's the whole "TMRAs don't realize most of what they deal with is misogyny!" take, which I've seen in other places as well. Which imo comes from the idea that people who discuss transmisandry are literally just the trans version of MRAs. & the MRA idea of "misandry" is just a reversal of their idea of feminist theory- so they use it to describe "actually society is based around women's needs and desires and it targets (cis) men and we actually live in a matriarchy!" While the transunitist concept of misandry/antimasculism is "patriarchal beliefs about men/masculinity & the roles they are expected to fulfill, used both generally to reinforce patriarcharal control and specifically to target marginalized men/perceived-masculine people." I coined antimasculism specifically to provide an alternate to misandry for those who are uncomfortable with it because of the MRA associations.

& like. whether or not you agree that these are useful words, its obvious that the transunitist idea of misandry/antimasculism is very different to the MRA one. But to know that you'd have to actually, like, read the things we write & take seriously to our theories on the patriarchy. And not just trust Tumblr Callout For Evil Trans People #3245853723 that said we don't think misogyny exists.

Also tbh I think a bigger part of this issue (transmascs who are anti-transunitist) is that its a symptom of anti-transmasculine erasure. If you don't personally experience, assault, demonization, or accusations of being a predator for being a trans man, and no one you know has either, then... you certainly aren't gonna hear about those issues from wider society. And even if you have, you might not recognize what happened as anti-transmasculine, or tell yourself it must be only a fraction of what trans women go through. & again, they don't fucking read anything we post. That's why I feel like its so important to point out & remember incidents of anti-transmasculinity (like what I do w the AoVaTP). Because its so easy to buy the "people don't violate trans men the same way" until you've read about (tw for somewhat graphic anti-transmasculine violence)

trans men getting their faces cut off, beaten with a chain, thrown out of men and women's bathrooms, hit over the head with a cooler, having their shelter at a refugee camp firebombed, having hot coffee poured in their eyes while being called a "he-she", institutionalized & tortured for not showing "proper gender behaviors" as a child, having their family burn their documents to keep them from getting a job, forced to jump from a 2nd-story window and left to die, being harassed by Fox News for being a "groomer" until their school got bomb threats, held captive and tortured for two years, found dead with their genitals stabbed, assaulted by a police officer for "lesbian activity", called "tranny" a lot, and so many rapes and so many suicides, and this is just some of the shit that I have collected for that archive.

But yeah. We're just whining about silly representation nonsense.

[paintedhyenadogs]

People so easily out specifically trans man related Transphobia as general Transphobia it's kinda weird to me. Past that, yall either demonize or see us as widdle bby men who can do no wrong. It's we're just like shitty men or we're babies. It's like this with terfs and transphobes too.

Transandrophobia and Transmisandry exists. Just as Transmisogyny No it doesn't mean Misandry exists or is just as bad as misogyny, no it doesn't mean we are MRA's. Trans men, like all types of trans people, will experience things (including HATE by terfs or other queers or trannies) that are unique to us. We experience misogyny, but we also experience transmisandry. If you can't understand that, learn.

This especially applies to other trans people. We are your fellow trans siblings, and you are fellow family. We aren't against eachother. We are on the same side, fighting the same fight.

[bullshit-tqia]

Removing organs in order to cure mental illnesses is the line of thinking that is applied to both lobotomies and sex reassignment surgery. I disagree with the idea that changing the body in any way cures mental illnesses.

Science agrees with me. Science understands the importance of therapy to be THE primary solution to mental illnesses, with psychiatric medication included, which serve to provide a possible means to come to realizations that are required to facilitate change that will improve the mental state long term.

Bad mental health is not some ghost that you become possessed by and the only way to rid it is certain rituals. Bad mental health is the result of a bad environment. You have to change the way you view your environment or you have to remove yourself from that environment. Your body is separate from your consciousness. It is anti-science to suggest that the body is the cause of bad mental health, because the brain is the organ that controls what is considered “mental.” Your heart, liver, lungs, are separate organs. Why punish your body’s organs for something that is solely under the domain of the brain? It’s fundamentally illogical. It fails to address the root of the problem.

If you’ve ever done any research into the history of both homosexuality and transgenderism, you’ll know that the theories around what causes these two things both start from the same place. Obscure German activists from the late 1800s, specifically Karl Urich. Urich states that the cause of homosexuality comes from the fact that homosexuals are a “third sex” and theorized that the cause of homosexuality was the “germs” that cause fetuses to become either male or female failed in some way to in making the fetus completely male or completely female. Other German activists theorized it was possible for female souls to be trapped in male bodies, and vice versa. Hirschfeld, the “grandfather of sex reassignment” was inspired by Urich’s writings and believed that sex reassignment was the way to make the “soul” align with the body. The issue is that I don’t believe in souls.

Urich, Hirschfeld, whoever, anyone who states that transgenderism is caused by some sort of mixup of organs or hormones in the utero have NEVER actually investigated whether there is some sort of mixup in the womb. There has never been any sort of long term hormonal study of pregnant women that sees if their children later identify as gay or transgender. All of this is theory. What’s wrong with this?

IT DOESN’T FOLLOW THE SCIENTIFIC METHOD.

It is backwards. There’s a hypothesis, sure, but there is never any testing to actually check if these hypotheses align with reality. Rather, as peer reviews show, that many of these scientists start from the idea that being trans exists, and find evidence that supports their theory. This is called confirmation bias. They think within the box of their hypothesis and refuse to think outside of it, limiting them to evidence that only proves their hypothesis while ignoring all evidence that suggest other hypotheses and completely disprove theirs. This is anti-science.

How someone is treated based on their condition or how they express themselves does not inherently make them victims when they are treated badly for it. Someone with a delusion thinking that they’re Jesus reincarnated will make people uncomfortable and can even get themselves kicked out if they do something deemed unacceptable because of this delusion. This does not mean that the moral thing to do is support this person’s delusion and support their right to be deluded. We should fix the delusion so they can go back to their friends and families without causing issue.

Family members who kick people out for things they can’t change, like being gay, disabled, liking certain clothes, are bad people. The same way it isn’t moral to uphold the Jesus delusion, it isn’t moral to uphold the delusion that you are somehow not male or female, or that you are the opposite sex. Rather, we should get rid of the delusion AND change societal attitudes so you don’t feel the need to destroy your body to “become happier” and the people at home can accept you no matter how you express yourself. But ultimately, it is someone’s right to express that they don’t support certain aspects of someone’s character. The same way that being a transphobe can be the deal breaker for you, the same way that someone being trans can be the deal breaker for others. Whether it’s morally right is a different topic altogether. I believe that people should be allowed to say and do things that are immoral if they are legal.

I like the fact free speech exists because there is a possibility that actually morally good speech may be silenced by people who think they’re the ones who are being moral when they are not. Hitler thought he was saving the world.

The fact that you didn’t even know people can be diagnosed with gender dysphoria and that the solution to gender dysphoria is transition, shows the depths of your ignorance. This is an actual coughing baby vs hydrogen bomb situation. I know far more than you do.

Gender euphoria has never been scientifically analyzed and any research into gender dysphoria shows that it essentially does not exist for dysphoric types. Rather, those who are dysphoric feel less dysphoria rather than euphoria. Which results in neutral feelings. However, those who feel euphoria, have been analyzed not under the auto-androphobic lens, but under the fetishistic lens. It should be no surprise since “euphoria boner” is a legitimate term people throw around. Because someway somehow the penis is also a happiness meter. Sexual arousal is somehow not associated with boners in some situations. Because it’s also impossible for men to have fetishes for crossdressing, apparently. I believe it is possible for men to have a crossdressing fetish and for them to not realize it. So you should be able to logically understand why I am upset at the possibility of men who are partaking in fetishistic acts being allowed to do it around unsuspecting women. This is how the TERFs see your kin. We are not being hyperbolic. We genuinely believe this. We believe it is possible for men to have cross dressing fetishes and the “euphoria” is just sexual arousal.

Once again, actual coughing baby vs hydrogen bomb.

this is... not the take op thought it was, huh? We've really gone right back to what's in your pants is more important than you as a person.

Yeesh. Women are more than just their genitals.

[2percentsugar]

your post was funny af what did that person even mean by "considering the source". here im a trans man on t had top surgery and have bottom surgery on the way and still don't wear boxers. probably wont until after srs cause they don't fit me that great personally. it legiterally doesn't matter. wear what makes you comfortable especially underwear. those companies are preying on your insecurity, bitch!

AW thank you anon 💕 for context, this is the post they commented under. i think the tweet was by a trans woman (it looks like deirdreskye's icon, maybe that's her twitter?) and the post i drowned was written by a transmisandry truther who was. well. truthing

i am also post op several years on t and i personally love my walmart aisle boxer briefs (better than boxers or briefs check em out ppl) but you're certainly not the only person ive met who they dont fit well. hell ive met cis men who have trouble w the constant wedgies. underwear isnt gendered and the only people who will see yours are the ppl you trust the most so get what fits

i have sympathy for the baby transes who struggle w getting new clothing and want a shortcut. the first few times i went to the store for Boy Clothes, i left without any. but thats an obstacle you have to surmount, you cant just buy from queer lifestyle brands forever. i really hate the tomboyxs of the world which prey on this insecurity

[puppyudderly-dreamy]

honestly i think there’s a social damage to this constant transmisogynistic “discourse” that gets ignored a bit cuz like… the young (this isn’t a dig i check y’all’s ages youre Babies half the time) transmascs who participate in it are being closed off to an understanding of themselves and their position in society that they should rightly understand. them being ignorant of how gender and sex works and how society is structured to enforce its systems makes them unprepared to face their own oppression. and no i don’t mean transmisandry. considering it, or whatever other name you have for it, is just a transmisogynist smokescreen it lacks the framework for understanding and teaching about actual transphobia faced by transmascs and it does it’s ill gained followers a disservice simply by existing as a replacement for actual history and theory. it’s not a big deal cuz the primary danger of the people subscribing to these beliefs is the threat they pose to transfems in their vitriolic harassment campaigns and constant attempts at redefining us out of existence, but i have no doubt there will be a day where these boys will have to grapple with the fact that they lost years to believing in and advocating for these damaging ideas. they’ll have spent years in social circles that are kept together by fear and threats, they’ll have let themselves be walked over by the cis people who glom on to this rhetoric to excuse their own transphobia and hatred, they’ll have to realize that they’ve been lost and for a long long time and that it will take effort and even more time to dig themselves out and it won’t be kind to them. not all of them will hit that realization i know, but a lot of them will and how will they cope without their brothers and sisters to support them when they finally do, i just don’t know

[gaphic]

frankly the only problem with the term ‘transandrophobia’ is that it should be transmisandry, both linguistically and because it’s easier to spell and say, but we can’t call it that because a lot of simpering baby brains would take one look and say ‘um misandry isn’t REAL’

[0w0tsuki]

Didn't you know that TransUnity is when you go around collecting screenshots of trans folks and put them side by side with literal actual fascists and call transwomen who are against this TERFs?

This surely ISN'T infighting itself and is what's needed to mend the divide in the trans community.

[necronatural]

am i seriously seeing transmisandry discourse on tumblr on top of twitter. like its some ambiguous exclusionary epidemic??

i will tell you now in no uncertain terms: everyone likes bullying these guys because they are misogynists, and often transmisogynist. thats it. the word naturally attracts dudes who are annoyed when women are centred and other women have noticed how often this happens and make fun of them for it.

Yes, it's really unfair when people assume you're one of these misogynists without listening to your perfectly salient points. It sucks. But you aren't going to get any further in the discussion by accusing them with "so you're minimizing trans men?" like no baby they're minimizing the guy who's favourite slur is baeddel. The problem is that they have unfairly associated you with that dude. Start there.

[omegawizardposting]

The transandrophobia debate is batshit to me. The fact that other trans folk are so angry at transmascs for coining terms that help us discuss our oppression--absolutely mad. We are being raped and beaten to death and denied reproductive rights and facing medical discrimination, but because we're men, we aren't allowed to talk about it.

They say, "Well, transandrophobia is a bad term! Try something else!" We've already tried everything. Y'all didn't like transmisandry. Y'all don't like anti-transmasculinity. Y'all don't like transandrophobia. Y'all don't like transandromisia. Nothing will satisfy y'all.

They say, "Well, transandrophobia was coined by a bad person!" You mean the trans POC who faced a massive harassment campaign for daring to have a sexuality in private? For daring to indulge a transfem partner's "problematic" kink? For daring to talk about transmasc issues? Y'all hunted down the guy's PRIVATE KINK BLOG and MADE HIS PRIVATE CONSENSUAL SEXUAL INTERACTIONS public. Y'all did this so y'all could shut down discussions of transmasc oppression. Y'all needed dirt on him to delegitimize our latest attempt at trying to draw attention to our suffering.

They say, "Well, actually, it's just transphobia and misogyny!" Then let us use transmisogyny. You don't like that either, though. That word is for transfems only. I want to know what I should call the medical discrimination trans men experience for being men. How we can be forced to detransition to have a child OR to have an abortion. How gynecologists refuse us treatment because we aren't women. How Republicans used us to strip away reproductive rights for all AFAB people, pointing to us as examples of lost lambs who need a good cis man to put a baby in us.

What should I call all of that? What should I call it when people hate me for not being a cis woman? When my manhood and masculinity is what makes them despise me? When being a man is what makes me trans?

I know the answer. You don't want me to call it anything. You want me to shut up and sit down like a good girl boy.

[gwemmieee]

I think there's a real problem of getting lost in the weeds of terminology.

There are real issues of transphobia happening to trans mascs (or people who are perceived as trans masc as in this particular case) and a lot of it happens because of preconceptions about masculinity. For that reason, plenty of people want to call it transandrophobia or transmisandry. I think that is fair. Trans mascs deserve to have an easy way to refer to directly to experiences of oppression that are unique to them.

There is also a real intersection of transphobia and misogyny that affects trans fems, transmisogyny. It is very standard and institutionalized. We get a lot of bonus oppression because of the way that our existence doesn't just challenge gender, but also challenges the patriarchy directly, because we are choosing to "downgrade" in its view. All trans people struggle with frequently being dehumanized, but while trans mascs struggle with being respected and let into feminine spaces, trans fems struggle with ever being allowed to exist in any spaces at all without immediate erasure and ostracization. We are starting to form our own very downtrodden communities in fringe places like tumblr, but we're still mostly never given the chance to grow up, have friends, find success, etc. It's all-encompassing, and it's suffocating, and it happens especially because we are a gender that usually cannot find success or safety without direct intervention and support from good parents or allies, and even when we do, it is forever by the grace of people who have the power to abuse and control us, and at the same time, we are usually barred from even being fully seen or treated as that gender, which nearly erases any access to support we otherwise might have had. And even in trans spaces, we are heavily muted and controlled by severe pressure--that is often especially enforced by trans mascs--to always be perfect, stable, reasonable, and to never be the crazy trans woman who gets ostracized for having feelings and trust issues. For that reason, plenty of people want to maintain a distinction between the hightened and more institutionalized struggles resulting from transmisogyny. I think that is also fair. Trans fems deserve to be recognized and supported for the extreme and all-encompassing levels of dehumanization that we tend to face from literally everyone else in our lives, unless we're lucky enough to have great parents or a real ally as a close friend.

So here's where I'm at. If a trans masc wants to talk about their own problems and have a word for it they picked, that's totally fine. None of us should have a problem with that. It's great to be able to acknowledge your own struggles. However, if a trans masc wants to hold any baby trans fem to an unreasonably high standard of always knowing what is and isn't OK to say, and what feelings are not OK to voice, instead of engaging in good faith and trying to hear them, validate them, educate them, and NOT control them, that's kinda fucked up. Let the understanding between us focus on reality and each other's feelings. We do not need to practice perfect usage of terminology in every setting. And we do not need to make inflammatory statements about what forms of oppression are and are not real. Transphobic behavior over preconceptions about masculinity--transmisandry--is a real thing that happens.

"Transandrophobia isn't real"

A few years back my grandparents and I wanted to see a gynecologist for reasons, I was under 18, but every gynecologist that worked with minors refused to take trans boys. I haven't had a single bit of medical transition unless you count birth control. I have a vagina and boobs. Everything about my body is female but I was denied care because my hair was short and I had a deeper voice.

And when I tried explaining this to a transphobe they went "Well yeah they don't want mentally ill people"

My exclusion was based off of me being too masculine. Y'know, the thing that transandrophobes claim doesn't exist?

Transmascs go through the same shit transfems do. Transandrophobes need to stop shitting on us to feel superior and get a fucking life.

[nonegenderleftpain]

I love that you'll accuse me of transmisogyny and not give a single example lmao ✨

Anyway, when we trans guys talk about transmisandry, this is the kind of response we get. And I'm going to address it, even though this anon has been blocked. I don't hold discussions with people who will baselessly accuse me of bigotry.

First, I have made several posts on why I continue to use the term transmisandry while the community at large has moved to the term transandrophobia (and people like this are part of that reason), so I won't rehash that here. I will reiterate, however, that controlling what vocabulary people use to discuss their own oppression is what we call "tone policing." When you take energy away from our conversation to attack what words we use to express it, you are doing this for a reason. And that reason is to prevent us from being allowed to discuss it at all.

Secondly, discussing the oppression transmasc folks face is not transmisogyny. It has nothing to do with trans women, it is not negating their struggles, it is not silencing them, and it is not attacking them. A person can care about more than one thing. Having a conversation about my own struggles does not make me a bigot for not centering others in that conversation.

I love my trans sisters so much. I have fought for them and with them for years, with my boots on the ground. And I trust that any trans women I do offend or hurt have the agency to tell me that themselves, without some random anon white knighting for them. I respect them enough to not let others speak for them, especially not to use them as a tool for lateral aggression to separate our community.

I will not stop discussing the oppression trans men face. I have thicker skin than you seem to think, and I am here to be a shield for those of us that don't. Those of us who won't speak up about the transandrophobia/transmisandry they face because of people like this, so ready to brand them as transmisogynists with no evidence or reason. I did not become an activist just to have some coward on the internet scare me away from my work. Bullying is not activism, and you will get nowhere with me saying these things.

[0w0tsuki]

"Cis radfems who aren't TERFs" hmmm I wonder what purpose you have to try and delineate radfeminism from TERFism and pretend they aren't the same. Perhaps it's because you're a transmisoginist looking to label trans women as TERFs without directly doing so? So you can call any Transfem who doesn't kiss the ground you walk on (or kisses it in a way that's not to your liking) a Radfem and throw your hands in the air "I'm not calling her a Terf" when you get called out for labeling us as the literal hate movement that wants us DEAD!?

[catgirlforeskin]

I feel like you saying that transfems somehow experience this godly level of oppression that trans men won't ever understand is really ignorant and childish in the face of the very real experiences we have? Like.

I didn't end up in online sex work where I was taken advantage of and praised specifically for being transmasc for u to say that. People specifically used me and my trans body as a way to alleviate their guilt for sexually abusing a 14 year old because I wasn't a girl (but not a boy because that makes me too human, acknowledging what i actually am, that I'm anything more than a goddamn fuckdoll.) They fetishized me for being a subhuman tranny and they convinced me that it was totally kinky and cute to call me transphobic slurs during e-sex and blackmail me into telling them my deadname. I've sat through degrading comments from family members asking about my reproductive system with the invasiveness of a doctor and Ive been harrassed by every member of my family about the "irreversible damage" and I've watched the biggest fucking public figures talk about me like I'm a baby and tear away my transition opportunities one by one.

I'm fat and disabled and I'm in constant fucking pain but doctors haven't taken me seriously, and it was even less so when I came out. I have not gone through this fucking hell for you to be a whiny shitass. You are a goddamned adult, act like one.

I like your blog, I think you're funny and I'm sure we'd get along great irl but this is not the shit and you need to cut it out. You need to realize that hurting your trans brothers like this gets you nowhere. Trans people need each other.

I need you to realize how triggering it is for a trans man to read your blog and see the stuff you say about us. it is dehumanizing and gross and you're contributing to transphobia, whether or not you like it.

I enjoy how all your jabs on me are done in the most paternalistic way possible, was your transition goal “shitty dad”?

Not really sure what sparked this, feel like I haven’t talked about transphobia at all in a while on here, and when I have never once said trans men don’t experience transphobia, I’m genuinely sorry those things happened to you, though it’s also weird for you to drop all that in my inbox. I’d rather not strangers tell me in intimate detail everything bad they’ve ever experienced, including sexual violence, for the sake of an argument, y’know?

Is this because I’ve spoken out about transmisandry and its variants not being terms people should use, and those posts are circulating again or somethin? I’m more confused than anything

[spacelazarwolf]

bringing this post back again bc this post is the reason so many chronically online baby queers are calling me a “lesbian rape fetishist” and insisting “transmisandry truthers are trying to force lesbians to have sex with men.”

book abt a twink and a lesbian who are roommates and just went through bad breakups and swear off sex until they realize they’re both incredibly horny so instead of going out to get their hearts broken again they just fuck each other since there’s zero chance of falling in love.

book ends with them both finding good partners and coparenting kids together. no IVF necessary bc that shits expensive.