#or run sixteen hour shifts doing voting registration

[nonegenderleftpain]

I love that you'll accuse me of transmisogyny and not give a single example lmao ✨

Anyway, when we trans guys talk about transmisandry, this is the kind of response we get. And I'm going to address it, even though this anon has been blocked. I don't hold discussions with people who will baselessly accuse me of bigotry.

First, I have made several posts on why I continue to use the term transmisandry while the community at large has moved to the term transandrophobia (and people like this are part of that reason), so I won't rehash that here. I will reiterate, however, that controlling what vocabulary people use to discuss their own oppression is what we call "tone policing." When you take energy away from our conversation to attack what words we use to express it, you are doing this for a reason. And that reason is to prevent us from being allowed to discuss it at all.

Secondly, discussing the oppression transmasc folks face is not transmisogyny. It has nothing to do with trans women, it is not negating their struggles, it is not silencing them, and it is not attacking them. A person can care about more than one thing. Having a conversation about my own struggles does not make me a bigot for not centering others in that conversation.

I love my trans sisters so much. I have fought for them and with them for years, with my boots on the ground. And I trust that any trans women I do offend or hurt have the agency to tell me that themselves, without some random anon white knighting for them. I respect them enough to not let others speak for them, especially not to use them as a tool for lateral aggression to separate our community.

I will not stop discussing the oppression trans men face. I have thicker skin than you seem to think, and I am here to be a shield for those of us that don't. Those of us who won't speak up about the transandrophobia/transmisandry they face because of people like this, so ready to brand them as transmisogynists with no evidence or reason. I did not become an activist just to have some coward on the internet scare me away from my work. Bullying is not activism, and you will get nowhere with me saying these things.