#transharm

[cisfox]

holding me down while forcing the muzzle on me, yanking at my fur to get me to stop struggling, to listen to you. you’ll have to beat me near lifeless until i willingly submit to you, i’ll make this as rough as a experience for you as it is for me. but you like that, don’t you?

[add1ctedoggy]

tumblr t-worded me bcs of my stupid ep earlier gulps,,,.. moots come back,,,..

[renqueer]

they’re no good for you. come on, you know i’m the only one for you. i’m the only one who can give you the raw, violent and possessive love that you crave. you know you want me, not them.

[phantomofinferno]

- TRANS SNUFF FILM VICTIM

a transharmed trans-id in which one feels that they should identify as/with a snuff film victim.

- TRANS SNUFF FILMER

a transharmful trans-id in which one feels that they should identify as/with a snuff film creator/filmer.

[divineobserver]

i can’t wrap my head around how people are actually against conabuse and conabusers. Like it’s completely consensual and enjoyed by both people so why are you upset about it? I would genuinely like to see someone’s point of view on this so much

[mizukisprince]

Transharmful in the teenage boy online threatening to commit if the person their dating (bonus points if a child or adult) texts back too late ! :3

[tobyisms]

need someone that's obsessed with me that i can toy with and when i get bored, toss them away like they're nothing. until days, maybe even weeks or months later, when i get bored again and come back to fuck with them.

but they're still there and willing, desperate for any scrap, any shred of affection and attention i'll give them until i inevitably find interest in other things.

and then the cycle repeats.

[sillyfreakx5]

for transID month day 9! :3 (plural transID beings and intersectionality)

featuring @pinkcringe

[transparasocial]

transDissector 。

- a transID (can be used as transharmful) where one feels they should be / identifies as someone who dissects living or dead organisms for any reason

self indulgent coin by me.

[bunnieonherknees]

i love love loooove small acts of abuse disguised as kind gestures...

i ask you to comb my hair and you do it so roughly it rips the hair out of my head, you're doing my makeup and i keep moving so you grab me by the neck and choke me within an inch of my life, decorating me with jewelry that is so tight it cuts off circulation.

even better if you blame me for it every time, that i shouldnt let my hair get so tangled and that you have to be rough, that im too stupid to keep my head still and that's why my trachea is crushed, that i should be grateful for how nice you are to give me such pretty jewelry.

hmmmmmmmm....

[radouppy]

the transgroomer urge to break down a younger person’s state of mind until all they can think of is me is..incredibly strong. i want to be the name they doodle on their homework n surround with hearts, the person they look to when any minor inconvenience happens, the person they rely on for attention n love.

and the worst part about it is that conabuse doesn’t do it for me. no, i need the real deal.

[vanetine]

Love is a universal language, some just have different accents

[ravenouscanine]

The Addams family is all radqueer

[gutsondisplay]

I think most TransHarmful people don't get "too" violent or put more pressure actually HAS a reason

If you weren't there back then, DIRECTLY after TransHarm was coined, there was a huge discourse around if it should be accepted or not, and a lot of people saw it as really bad (insert "this is why antis hate us!" Etc here)

Those who were transharmful had to chip and trim themselves so they "weren't ACTUALLY harmful!!", a large percent even going back at each other for being any modicum of appearing bad

It was seen as safe to be edgy, but never bad. and while maybe ironic to a lot of you who aren't specifically TransHarmful, but we feared being pushed out of our own community! And we really were back then!

Transharmfuls had to figure out how to not be seen as evil despite wanting to be like that, most had to water down themselves so they could be accepted, becoming the most passive and explainable identity we used to tell people who hated us

But no one ever let us know it was okay to be mean again, and it kinda seemed like when we *were* mean, it would hurt us in return

Cause when conabuse was made into a thing, people went out of their way AGAIN to tell TransHarmful people that they didn't belong! And that they were horrible in ways we didn't want to be seen as!

Cause idk if you know this, but there's a trans part of TransHarmful! Most of us didn't exactly have experience hurting others! Not in these kinds of ways!

And I think it's really REALLY fucking understated how much harm (ikik teehee) discourse around conabuse did to transharm people on both sides

Those who thought they had a connection they could have and use to get euphoria, now one side was really questioning if it was okay, was it even consent? Rethinking if someone's yes to you was actually a yes

If you have not had to second guess someone being honest with you about consent or boundaries before, you have no idea how bad that spiral can be

You could possibly lose all trust in that person being truthful about you being able to do whatever you agreed on, maybe even anyone to be truthful about those things, and if you go down enough you could possibly lose that for a fucking while to forever

And let's not forget the transharmed people here either!

Having people constantly going against you and saying your consent didn't matter because "that's not something you can consent to!" Is fucking horrible! People who talk like their "helping" you are taking away your consent more than someone you told was okay to do that to you

Parts get to you that it doesn't really matter what you actually say to them, maybe a lot of people, why didn't it matter what you said? Because it was something they wouldn't personally like?

If falls victim to the tactic used against all those who use transIDs that have perceived benefit ironically enough

People saying things like "you don't have to do this!", "you don't need to go through this to feel like you have enough pain to be a victim!", "I'll get you out of that!", "someone told you something wrong"

Etc etc. all just saying you don't get a choice because you want something "bad"

It'd be wonderful if it didn't get in the way

And now

Both sides of transharm don't exactly know how to exist, maybe they don't know this happened, maybe they don't know they can do more

But we should help them do what they want to do if they want help

I know there's some transharmfuls who really wanna go all out, go for it babe <3

[nicollodangelo]

IMOQUEER

Imoqueer is a queer stance that focuses mainly on welcoming people who are typically harassed by moralists. The main idea is to question social constructs and discuss whether everything that is considered wrong by the majority is, in fact, wrong as they say. Imoqueer people should analyze reality from a material rather than a moral perspective and, in this way, have their own conclusions about the world and how it works, positioning themselves in relation to the rules and expectations that have been imposed on us.

Imoqueer also uses a lot of sympathy, trying to understand how others feel and supporting them and offering support so that they can improve, regardless of how bad it seems. welcoming many fragile people who are usually excluded and left aside due to their disorders and coping mechanisms.

Note that being immoral does not mean being anti-moral. The idea behind this queer stance is to question morality and sometimes oppose it in certain aspects, not to be completely against it. This queer stance may or may not engage in discourse for whatever reason. They are not obliged to argue with anyone they deem not worth discussing.

Idea for an identifying emoji: 📚🌈

pro

"controversial" identities such as lesboy gaygirl

ANY type of hetero and cisdissidence (includes mono mspec, multiorientation, cistrans, iso…)

non-monogamy and open relationships

transbodies and extreme body modifications

alterhumans

paraphilias, paraphilic disorders and fetishes (taboo or not)

CONSENSUAL paraphiliac contacts

sh and suicide as artistic performance (may include public suicide)

euthanasia, assisted suicide and others

autonomy over one's own body (includes abortion)

consensual c☆nnib☆lism

mad pride and anti-asylum, anti-sanism and anti-psychiatry movements

self-diagnosis / self-identification and any type of systems

destigmatization of unhealthy coping mechanisms such as romanticization of trauma

toxic, obsessive, ab_sive consensual and/or mutual relationships (conabuse)

proship and pro fiction / anti censorship

furry and other harmless communities

communism and anarchism

ACAB

feminism

paganism, neoreligions and fults

legalization of all dr_gs

blm and other racialized people's movements

RAISE in the age of consent (actually this one depends, because I wrote this thinking about the age of consent in my country which is 14)

sex workers

inc2st (consang or not)

encouragement of veganism

all transIDs

claiming and redefining slurs and offensive terms

MIK

shtwt and edtwt

MUDs

anti

contact of any paraphilia that is done in a non-consensual way

CSEM / CSAM

LSDqueer, basedqueer, kandiqueer, xenosatanism and similar

fatspo and any type of bodyshaming that is not consensual

bullying and harassment

conservatives, right-wingers, especially Nazis and fascists

terf, radgay, genitalists, transphobes, exorsexists, binarists…

religious bigots

more information below (if interested)

FUN FACT: where did the idea for the name imoqueer come from?

All the bullshit on my old twitter account (nicogoscared) started in a post where I criticized anti-para people and called them moralists - I have to admit that, partially, that word reminds me a lot of that BSD scene of the agency against the guild where Tanizaki protects Naomi - and even after months I still refer to these people that way. It ended up taking more than expected and, basically, it's common sense in my bubble to call people who are against the things I defend moralists.

Come to think of it, if they are the moral ones, then logically we must be the immoral ones, right? and I believe we should claim that label with pride, embrace immorality as part of our identity and struggle.

Creator of the term: Nicollo Miriel (me)

Date: I don't have an official coining post, but it was coined around July 10th, 2024

Flag: made by bambi (I don't know his current username) on July 21st, 2024

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[divineobserver]

everyone loves transharmfuls till they stick to their word and actually act harmful when you asked them to in the first place