#trans rape culture

[tomboyfriends]

it's so obvious they see TIFs as women, it's why TIMs are so comfortable physically and sexually abusing them and publicly airing it. they know they can get away with it because they will be protected by misogynist society.

Just another man abusing a woman under the guise of kink, absolutely nothing new. Of course the comments were full of other TIMs saying they envy the situation.

[prolibytherium]

Just in general I think trying to look to pre-late modern period history for validation of LGBT+ identities is an absolutely useless venture. Every single underlying human experience defined through the lens and framework of LGBT identity has always existed, but it's impossible to pin down Exactly who and what a figure might have been if they existed in this contemporary context and decided to self identify via these labels.

It's also a wildly reductive lens that flattens the complexity and variety of how sex and gender has been constructed across time in different cultures, how sexual norms have varied, etc. This is not a constructive approach to learn about history and you're never going to be able to fit historical figures neatly into little identity categories.

[sunnist4rs]

Fucking moids

[tomboyfriends]

TI-MRAs just can't stop weaponizing misogynoir against Black women, especially Black lesbians...

Trans rights activist just revealing how lesbophobic and misogynistic they are when you disagree with them. To TRAs, being a woman is when you wear makeup and dresses.

[transgynemisia-archive]

This is a response to a thread about a trans man who said he was chased from his home after being raped and threatened by a trans woman.

He's dismissed as a potential liar by this baeddel because he is "tme" and so is probably making things up to try to destroy trans women

The thread in question:

[nervoustragedyluminary]

Reductress is just spreading terf rhetoric now

The "joke" is that nonbinary people are somehow escaping from violence by being trans that we can opt out of fearing violence and don't fear violence when walking at night....

Like just yuck as a transmasc nonbinary survivor whose actually aware of the stats of violence against nonbinary people this just disgusts me...

Also I'm betting they have talked to zero Black trans enbies or men or women of colour about how being seen as "scary" puts them in danger from racist white people & or they're just assuming all enbies are white idk it's disgusting... There's just so many layers to the bigotry and white fauxminism of this "joke"

They've previously made posts like this so idk if they've got terfs on staff who keep trying to slip this in to pipeline people or people who think certain trans people they dislike facing violence including sexual violence is funny and that those trans survivors are lying and shouldn't be beleived.

They're priming their audience to disbelieve and mock nonbinary trans survivors. They're literally pushing the "people transition to escape/opt out of patriarchal violence like a fun game" terf talking point which isn't reflected in the stats of violence against trans people who face higher rates of physical sexual and domestic violence than cis people

Just "it's a coin toss!"

As a survivor fuck you

Like the comments section is full of transphobia and people going "har har they think they're in danger they're delusional " or spouting transphobic BS and a trans man whose talking about how he fears violence walking at night being called 'female' and misgendered like well done you've curated a comment section full of transphobes and people who think trans people aren't who we say we are fucking yikes

None of the transphobic comments have been deleted reductress seems happy to leave up comments calling trans men "female" and saying that trans people are a danger to children

[queeraliensposts]

I can't believe I live in a reality where a white woman who was falsely accused of rape can sell BLM merch, keep the money, and be praised by tik tok, but a queer musician that everyone thinks is "cringe" gets canceled and accused "profiting from a child's death" by talking about Nex Benedict in a tik tok he earned $0 from, where all he said was "this is why I make the music that I do".

[tomboyfriends]

this is rape culture btw

I wish men had absolutely zero access to lesbians and lesbian content

[gameshowtrainwreck]

An open letter to right-wing Tumblr

Nobody owes you a debate. Their refusal to interact with you isn't an attack on your free speech. Rights exist in the third-person perspective in ways just as solid and just as established as in when they are expressed in the first-.

What makes your right to say whatever you want without government penalty for having done so (except in a few, well-established, well-defined precedents that any reasonable citizen would agree with) any more sacrosanct than my right to exercise free assembly to say "fuck you, fuck this, I got a better life to live than to spend it listening to the same horseshit being argued over and over again?"

The court of public opinion holds a lower standard because it's ultimately the lowest stakes in anything we have the gall to call 'justice' in this nation-- every case is presented to every individual juror who sorted out their findings based on what they had available to them, and judged them one way or the other. Sometimes the cases reach conclusions like (as an example), "the right is more bent out of shape about trans people while also being really fuckin unwilling to do anything about the chimos operating within their own ranks" and found a reasonable consequence for that finding to refuse to consider conservatives in any other relationship besides adversarial.

If you don't like that, either present better info or find better beliefs. Nobody will hate you for changing your mind, everybody does it. It's okay to admit mistakes, and it actually shows a degree of maturity to accept that and take accountability for them.

(and before you try; fuckin don't. Democrats are just as fucking terrible-- y'all don't think Palestine is being raped hard enough while liberals try to tell everybody a little of it is necessary. Harris lost more than Trump won. Their best idea to run against a brain-damaged rapist was to find a brain-damaged rapist of their own and then bury #MeToo because sometimes presidential candidates are allowed little a rape, as a treat. Don't explain to me how democrats are bad, too, motherfucker, I actually chaired for the shiftless pieces of shit. the point is to be better than the other assholes, not to be even bigger assholes. They keep trying to muscle in on your brand and y'all keep sliding right in response. The matter of Epstein's death matter less than the idea that several powerful people availed themselves to his hospitality and nothing will ever be done about that because Republicans and Democrats both were involved. The majority of CSA cases are by people who the victim knew and trusted but y'all wanna tell everybody you think is too ugly to shit in a public restroom that you know better-- considering how much nuance Jim Bob Duggar found about child molestation when the world discovered he raised his own flesh and blood to be a serial toucher, are y'all just oblivious or trying to smokescreen your own predation? Half of y'all get real bent outta shape about age of consent laws for some reason)

The fact that you feel it in cumulative is on your own fuckin heads, assholes. You don't blame the people for the idea of messages spreading farther, wider, and faster than the time it took you to think not at all about it before you pressed 'post' any more the Democrats can try to blame voters for not supporting someone more unpopular in 2020 than a sociopathic racist CIA Blacksite dickhead (the rat-faced fuck) who tried to force the most cringe-worthy fucking meme of the election cycle before Hillary Clinton's fight song horseshit (no, seriously, look up the high hopes dance and tell me that ain't fuckin pathetic).

I would say better politics start with you, but taking the law of averages and the current state of the Overton window in American politics into consideration, some of you won't make your best contribution to American politics until you leave this world.

[inkcurlsandknives]

Quotes / women who grieve are women who rage. Society makes no space for angry women. Cannibalizing ourselves trying to make pain into something more palatable

Good and Mad: the Revolutionary Power of Women's Anger

Kate Hodges Warriors Witches Women: Mythology's Fiercest Females

Not That Bad: Dispatches from Rape culture

Saints of Storm and Sorrow

[wild-wombytch]

Of course it's a TIM asking that on a LESBIAN forum 🤦🏻🤦🏻🤦🏻

Duh, I wonder what is the gender and attraction of a HOMOSEXUAL FEMALE. Totally a "preference" also. I 100% choose to experience homosexuality, and you never know when me, a lesbian on a lesbian forum, will start "preferring" men instead. Maybe I should force myself harder to prefer them🙄 /s

[redheadlesbianfreak]

"Are women punishing men for withholding sex?" I personally believe that nobody, under any circumstances, should have sex if they don't want to have it. Nobody, under any circumstances, "owes" you sex. If somebody doesn't want to have sex, they don't need a reason or an excuse.

Fun fact: insisting otherwise perpetuates rape culture. And I've seen a ton of people perpetuating rape culture on social media since the 2024 election, including people who see themselves as progressive. I'm begging people to be fucking normal about sex and autonomy.

It's actually insane how normalized rape culture and acephobia is and people have no idea.

[ribstongrowback]

something that radfems fail to understand about rape, is that it's a system

they'll tell you that they do, but if they did, they'd understand why trans women are much more likely to be on the receiving end of it than the other way around, and for this you just need to look at the way rape culture works.

look at bill clinton. look at dominique strauss khan. look at harvey weinstein.

everybody fucking knew.

everybody shut the fuck up.

god was in his bedroom and everything was normal. people understood on a fundamental level that these powerful men could do whatever they want, and whenever they were "exposed" people jumped to their defence because it was normal.

There is a system in place and it is meant to protect specifically white cishet male from repercussions when they commit rape.

specifically white, because POC men are seen as animals.

specifically cis, because trans men are seen as either dangerous butches or weak women who must be saved

specifically het, because gay men are seen as pedophiles

and specifically men, because women can't want sex

I'm focusing on men here, of course, because that's what radfems see us trans women as, so the way rape culture protects cis women from consequences when they do commit rape and the intricacies of that are beyond the scope of this post

what I'm getting at here is that trans women are exempt from this protection because there is nothing normal about a trans woman anywhere other than within a 100% transfem space. a trans woman is expected to be a rapist. if a trans woman rapes someone she is dead. if a trans woman is ever in a grey area situation with anyone she is dead. if a trans woman ever makes someone else uncomfortable she is dead.

trans women face scrutiny at every turn. men don't. men just get to rape people and escape the consequences. their friends will stick by them. the media will comiserate their ruined career while they get million dollar gigs talking about economics or whatever.

a trans woman will have to move back into her parents and into the closet, and die.

that is what sexism, on a political level, on a systemic level, looks like. if you fail to see that, you cannot hope to help any woman.

[pirateswhore]

remember how a few years ago gender neutral bathrooms were all the rage and everyone was advocating for them but then people realised it would include trans people too so they did a 180° and went back to "bathrooms must be protected and used as safe spaces for women at all costs <3 🥺".

sod off. say you're transphobic and sod the fuck off.

[quff]

i immediately know what kind of person you are when you start talking about how bad "cancel culture" is

[vampire-nyx]

I don’t want to reblog it directly because what I have to say is too much for just tags and I also don’t want to get into a big long debate about this with the op, but I have some things to say about this post.

This post makes great points about the man vs bear hypothetical, cis people absolutely are often transphobic and blanket hatred for men and belief that men are inherently violent is Bad. Full stop, those things are true.

The post does however, make those points by either deliberately or genuinely misunderstanding the intent and unspoken things about that hypothetical and the answer. The question and answer are not as simple as the literal words would suggest they are. I know this is the autism website so I understand if that unspoken second part went over a lot of peoples heads because it was unsaid, but it is important to understand.

When a cis woman (or trans person, because trans people have answered this question as well) is asked “would you rather be in the woods alone with a man or a bear.” The question is not do you think a man or a bear is Worse, it’s often, especially at the point of popularity the question has gotten to, not a genuine question looking for a realistic answer, it’s a setup to a Statement that will be made through the answer.

Most people, if presented with the hypothetical in reality, would choose the man because it is understood by most that men are not inherently violent, that is a fringe radical thought as much as terfs and radfems on the internet and in politics make it appear to be widely held.

However, the answer is so widely “the bear” in order to convey a statement. The statement being “look how scared people are of rape culture, that they would exaggeratedly choose a bear over a strange man in an isolated place.” The point of the discussion is to Perform this fear in a way that cis men who don’t think about rape culture will either develop a deeper understanding of it, or out themselves as misogynists publicly (saying women are stupid for thinking a bear won’t kill them (not said), “not all men” statements that ignore the point in favor of being outraged at womens’ trauma, etc.)

All in all, man vs bear is a very lukewarm feminist statement that on a whole does not consider trans people. It is true that radfems co-opt this statement, as they do all feminist statements and ideas, to further push the idea that all men are violent monsters (and implicitly so are trans people) but to claim that that is the only goal or outcome of this conversation is, frankly, not helpful to anyone. It comes across as very performative outrage to see cis women (and as I said before, trans people) expressing in an exaggerated way that rape culture and violent misogyny is Scary and go “oh I bet you hate trans people too, don’t you. Since you hate men so much.”

It is never helpful to broadly apply radfems’ bullshit to everyone engaging in the lukewarm feminist ideas that radfems have stolen and twisted for themselves. Be critical of feminist talking points associated with radfems, but know the point at which it becomes radfeminism so you don’t accuse random well-meaning feminists and average women of radfeminist and terf beliefs.