#toxic sibling

[dontthinkorjudge]

i thought good guys got to be happy i'm not happy

[booksinstacks]

My brother is a year older than me, we're both in our late twenties, and our relationship is very verbally/emotionally abusive. I can't take it anymore. We have never really got along, but things seem to be getting worse as we get older. I feel so alone in this. I don't know where to turn. I feel like no one cares. "Siblings argue all the time," not like this, they don't. My mental health is in the gutter because of him. He messes up my self esteem, argues with every little thing I ever say, tells me I'm stupid, blames everything on me (or just on anyone except himself, all his problems are everyone else's fault apparently), and he generally treats me like dirt. We are both disabled and we still live at home because neither one of us can afford to move out, so we are stuck with each other. I am going to uni in September so I will be escaping for 3 years into uni accommodation. But I might have to move home again after that. This relationship is so toxic, and I can't cope with it anymore. I've reached my limit. I want to end this cycle of abuse, but I don't know how. He's also misogynistic, transphobic, and generally bigoted, so, as a nonbinary person, I'm having a real bad time. I need help.

[one-abuse-survivor]

its my birthday today and theres so many emotions lol. my birthday has always been ruined by my family. either by my sister being jealous of my gifts and my parents giving her gifts and letting her choose the actitives for the day, my parents arguing non stop resulting in me being a messenger, or them making a big scene in a store because they dont want to buy me a cake or banners because i dont deserve it or im 'too old' for one/them. the last one hurts the most as when i was 16 i was so close to not even having a cake or a celebration at all because my parents were arguing, but i had to watch all my friends get big sweet 16 cakes and have parties and decorations and it made me feel like, what have i done wrong? it wasnt even a money thing either, like we could afford stuff, my dad just would not let my mum buy me stuff because id been naughty and didnt deserve a birthday. it makes it worse when tonight, im working a night shift and my coworkers and the person im helping's family are throwing me a pizza party and giving me a birthday card and it just makes me wanna cry so bad - in a good way! but its sad because how can people ive known for just over 6 months care so much as to do all of that, and my parents couldnt. im hoping i dont sound spoiled or ungrateful about my parents btw, im sorry if i do, i dont mean to be. it just feels so surreal that they even like me enough to do that?? im not even that good at my job yet so how do i even deserve a celebration at this point?? birthdays suck lol

Nonnie, let me start by saying you do not sound spoiled or ungrateful in the least. Everyone deserves to feel loved and appreciated, and birthdays are often an occasion when people show that sort of appreciation toward others. The fact that your parents ruined all your birthdays and told you you didn't deserve to have a birthday because you were "naughty" is really cruel, and it sends a message that you're not enough; that you're fundamentally bad, and there's nothing you can do to change that. It's cruel, it's emotionally neglectful, and it's abusive.

You deserved so much better than this. You deserved to feel loved, appreciated, and worthy of nice things. What your coworkers did for you on your birthday is what you've always deserved. The fact that your parents never allowed you to be celebrated is a reflection of who they are, not you. I hope that becomes easier to believe with time.

And I also hope you know it's okay to celebrate and appreciate yourself. It's not something you have to earn or be worthy of. It's something you can totally just do. On your birthday, or whenever you need it. You're allowed to have nice gestures toward yourself.

Hope some of this helps to read. Sending a big virtual hug ❤

[dis--mayed]

My mom is taking the kittens to a no-kill shelter today and my brother's all upset and saying how they're just going to kill the one cat......

This man, who is 48 fucking years old, has lived, for free, in my home, while collecting SSI, for 13 years and is hoarding shit he believes are worth thousands of fucking dollars, but just like his own fucking dog, he won't help us get this baby help,

and he's acting like he gives a fucking shit.

[stripysockxx]

Big fan of Gabriel and V1 killing each other intimately (^^)

[emkini]

Guileless son, I'll shape your belief And you'll always know that your father's a thief And you won't understand the cause of your grief But you'll always follow the voices beneath

[sparkles-rule-4eva]

Guys guys guys so you know how Tails is famous for copying Sonic's poses and stuff, classic little sibling trying to be as cool as older sibling, right

So

LOOK AT LITTLE KIT STRUTTING AROUND LIKE BIG SIS AND HIS LITTLE FACE OF DETERMINATION AND THE POSE AKFKWANENFKDMAKWMFKSMWKFNVLSNEMFKDAODKO

Just saying, it may have started out artificial and toxic, but I've really been loving to see how Surge and Kit's bond has slowly been changing to an actual bond, almost merely because of their shared trauma, and they're the only ones they trust. 🥺 Underrated siblinghood right here.

[witchyykitten]

'you're so sensitive'

THANKS

i was never fully allowed to express my emotions as a child because when i did i would get yelled or made fun of

[proxycrit]

What if I redesigned some horses to fit MY favorite narrative trope: fallen gods and forgotten myths of old? Anyways.

Twilight’s mentor is a strange one. In a world of twilit planes forever shrouded in mystery, the older unicorn Lest and her adopted student Twilight are one in many common travelers, migrating the pitted wastelands and eeking survival within settlements that spring up around the glowing meteor shards. Despite living with Lest for the last four years, Twilight can’t help but seek answers to where her brother has gone— and in the process, perhaps dig a bit too deeply into the complexities of gods far older and dangerous then she can truly fathom.

On the otherhand, Celestia “Lest” Sol is having a terrible millenium. Her sister is no longer her sister, her student teleported herself halfway across the continent, and she got herself kidnapped by an old rival trying to attune with the elements of harmony to overthrow the current ruler of Equestria.

At least she gets a toxic yuri moment.

Meanwhile, Chrysalis is having a great time. She’s got kingdoms to conquer and people to feed and a waning god to taunt.

(The Selene Grace hates the sun monarch they deposed five centuries ago as they stay chained to their post, keeping the lunar and solar bodies from crashing into each other. Luna misses her sister, and the easier world where they haven’t hurt each other beyond reparation. Nightmare Moon misses their monstrosity, trapped in a host who’s grief has poisoned them with empathy.

Things are bound to tip. The celestial bodies are not bodies, but prisons, and the amalgamations we call alicorns the key. And something desperately wants to be freed…)

Anyways:

My mane 6 redesign here!

And my luna and celestia redesigns here!

[arrakisser]

with everything vi’s new leaks have been saying… these doomed sisters can relate to each other so much they just gotta sit down and talk it out fr (i’m not delusional at ALL)

[lyshasgf]

I need more of the Brozone being SO protective of Branch pls

Someone even look at him the wrong way? His brothers will start throwing hands.

I love this kind of sibling relationship sm, it's so cute.

Branch who would usually fight back but doesn't do it anymore after getting his colours and his brothers who will do the fighting for him!!

When anything bad happens/there's a threat, the Brozone is always infront of Branch to protect/shield him or smt

I've seen a few fics of this idea and it's so adorable 😭

"Why is there blood on you?"

"Remember that guy that insulted you?"

I like to think there's an internal club of just "Protect Baby. Protect. Baby"

(Off-topic but does anyone have good trolls fics recommendations??)

[exaltedfuzz]

Ema, Franziska and friends

Office buddy

Most irritating siblings ever

Blue Skyes

Lana (and Angel)

In charge

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

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[mickeym4ndy]

Even if Mickey had never come back, none of Ian’s relationships in the show or even after would’ve worked out long term because Mickey is the only person that truly knows Ian and he’s the only one that Ian could ever truly be himself around.

Ian changed himself to fit into a mold of what he felt Caleb & Trevor wanted. He wanted to hide the ugly parts of his life from them. To Ian, these shiny new relationships that were separated from the South Side and his past, were a way to hide those ugly parts of his life from himself. He wanted to move on from his past and every thing that happened in seasons 4 and 5. And he also wanted a better life for himself than what he’d had, because Ian’s always been ambitious and always wanted a way out from where he was. To Ian, a relationship with a “normal” guy who didn’t grow up like him was a way to do that.

But because of this he was never his full true self around them. He was always just playing a part for them (and himself) and keeping the things he wanted hidden, hidden. Through that he was able to hide things from himself too.

But Mickey grew up with him. Mickey’s life was just as messy, if not more so, than Ian’s. He understands Ian better than anyone. He saw first hand all the messy parts of Ian and still loved him. Even with all his insecurities that stemmed from his diagnosis, Ian never felt like he had to hide himself or change himself around Mickey. He was always just himself.

Even though it’s Mickey who says “I don’t do normal, Gallagher,” the truth is - neither does Ian. A “normal” relationship never would’ve satisfied Ian long term.

If Mickey had never come back Ian would’ve continued to do this with every new guy he dated and they all eventually would’ve ended because of this. Mickey is the only person that he doesn’t have to act with. He’s always able to just be himself.

[starry-bi-sky]

"Stillborn? No, still born" Danyal au -- VLAD MASTERS THE BITCH HIMSELF

*Points at Vlad* THIS MFER GOT SOME TEEFS TO HIM. !! Okay okay, Vlad Masters in the stillborn au is different compared to most of my other aus in the fact that I am far more heavily leaning into his original ambitions of wanting a family and being desperately lonely. Because you know what wanting a family implies? Wanting to be a parent.

Fucked up father figure that could've been Vlad. Complicated love-hate relationship between the only two halfas in existence.

Danny hates Vlad, but he hates even more that he's genuinely considered his offers of mentorship. Vlad is the only halfa around, and they both have fire cores. Danny has these powers he doesn't understand, can barely comprehend some days, and can't control. But Vlad does. Vlad can. And Vlad wants to help him. He's the only other person who can get close whenever Danny runs too hot. Whenever his igneous hair cracks, splits, and spits back out into magma and his friends can't get close, Vlad can.

His hair is made of magma, which runs so hot that people need specialized suits in order to get near it. He physically cannot get close to the living as a ghost unless he's calm enough for his hair to cool into igneous rock. Which isn't as often as he would like. And sometimes he's too hot for other ghosts to get near unless they have fire cores -- which Vlad has.

There have been many times when Danny's having a meltdown (literally) and gone somewhere to be alone, to let his anger and hurt and loneliness overflow and spill out, that when he's come back to, Vlad's right there with him as an anchor. It's desperately frustrating, it's the only time they can get along. They don't say anything, Danny just turns and clings onto the only person he can touch as a ghost.

Its not fair. Vlad wants to kill his foster dad, and Danny can't let him do that. But he wants to be trained by the man, he wants his help and wants what he can offer. But Vlad can't step away from his revenge long enough to let him. It's just not fair. He thinks for a moment that maybe it could work, and then Vlad does something to remind him that no, it can't.

Vlad Masters sees too much of himself in Daniel Brown -- from the way he holds himself, to the defenses he puts up, his quiet anger that builds and builds and builds until it explodes. That simmers beneath his skin. All the way down to the fact that they have matching cores. This boy is cut from the same cloth as him, and by god does he want to help him. He's always wanted to be a father, and Daniel Brown is too much like him for him to ignore. He genuinely, truly cares about Danny and his wellbeing.

He wants to help him, child just let him help you. Let him kill your foster dad so he can adopt you himself and help with these powers that terrify and intrigue you -- he knows what that's like to have something that you can't control, to have a heat that you can't cool down from. "We're in the same boat you and I, let him help you please."

But his methods are all wrong, and Danny is too much like him -- stubbornness and all -- for him to agree when they oppose each other so greatly. But again, Danny is much like him -- which means that Vlad is equally stubborn, and in every single one of their fights he's parental. He's annoyingly parental. He drops his interest in Maddie to focus his efforts in trying to coax Danny onto his side. It's like trying to get a traumatized cat to trust you, and on some levels it works. It's like he makes some progress, and then moves too quickly and the cat immediately runs off and you have to start back from square one.

TL:DR; Vlad and Danny both want to find family in each other but they're too different to get along and ultimately they are doomed by the narrative to be at constant odds with one another unless one of them is changes, and it doesn't matter who.

[sk-yay-sk]

The "You don't have to forgive people even if they're family" sentiment leaving people's bodies the moment it's about siblings: