#this venn diagram needs more circles

[incorrect-hs-quotes]

Rose: Poison is a girl’s best friend.

June: I thought that was cocaine.

Jade: if you consult the Venn diagram, you can clear the confusion very quickly!

[swallowtail-ageha]

*video by a self proclaimed historian archeology with mary on a cross dramatic beat in the background fake crying hand on mouth in instagram reels* here is a funeral epigraphy of this young roman lady who got murdered by her husband! People especially men were such beasts right then and haven't changed much! *shows epigraphy where parents of murdered girl both father and mother denounce their daughter's murder as something abominable and either way Very Much Not Uncaring of the girls fate*

[blueberryflavoredfeelings]

Light is the dance, and doubly sweet the lays, When for the dear delight another pays

Telemachus in Book I of the epic poem, The Odyssey, written by Homer, translated by Alexander Pope

Oh, I want all my clothes designer (ooh), I want someone else to buy ‘em (yeah)

Kim Petras in I Don’t Want It At All, debut single of Era 1 by Kim Petras in 2017

[fujistarz]

HYPNOSIS CONFESSION

I feel like I've only truly been dropped into trance once. In that space where you feel like you're asleep but you can still hear everything. Even when I tried to go back to that file it didn't drop me like it did before.

I mean I still feel the effects of reading hypno scripts and listening to audios, but 90% of post-hypnotic suggestions just don't click with me. I've never been able to hallucinate or do anything you see on stage. I'm much better at hypnosis than I was in the past but I think I need to get better at focusing completely and totally and feeling truly open and comfortable with suggestions.

Maybe it's how picky I am with files combined with the triple AAA battery (adhd autism anxiety), but I hope that I can get good enough at focusing and trusting so I can drop like that all the time.

[pankomako]

ever since i learned how bad it is that people have appropriated the term "intrusive thoughts" and especially since i figured out i get them for real every time boat mentions them i just give a side-eye like "do you actually mean that literally or..."

[talentforlying]

SPELL OUT YOUR URL USING SONG TITLES

the well — the crane wives amatz — shanti dope leah — seeing double évidemment — la zarra no return — craig wedren, anna waronker twilight zone — golden earring first light — hozier olive branch — sophie holohan ramalama (bang bang) — róisín murphy love you back — metric you spin me round (like a record) — netta i don't know — ghost quartet no one lives forever — oingo boingo good life — sammy rae & friends

tagged by: @ohsunshine thank you!! tagging: you!

[maybesimon]

please please does anyone have a resource for receipts that are:

tasteful and filling enough that you want to eat them (no lean chicken+brocoli+white rice)

complete meals (not: here's a way of frying potatoes)

not completely unhealthy

easy to make with no weird equipment

don't take more than 30 minutes to prepare for a bad cook

[discworldwitches]

i was looking for an old mutual who became a vet tech and was looking at the vet tech tag and some terf blog came up looking for radfem vet tech. i clicked through the notes and at the op to block them all but ofc i saw glimpses of their bullshit. one of the posts was about trans women wanting to go on “wombyn’s land” (which i guess is what people were talking about with the whole terfs are talking about starting freebleeding colonies of women)

it got me thinking about what i was thinking earlier before i even saw that which was radical feminism + cottagecore-brand eco-fascism and how much they overlap and how it’s worked so effectively as a pipeline to fascism for women esp on sites like tumblr, twitter, and tiktok.

all these women honestly think that they are for women’s liberation even as they work with christofascists. and they go into mommy groups or environmentalist groups and spread grand conspiracies without a second thought. and because they can claim to be environmentalists or feminists, which typically liberals will not associate with fascism, all these centrists and neolibs get radicalised and they don’t see the issue. and then they rationalise genocidal beliefs like setting up separatist colonies of “woman’s land” and “female supremacy” or joking about humans dying off at mass levels.

despite being steeped in fascism, which must have a culture of machismo at its center, these monsters really think that their hate will liberate women (they even call it pinkpilling and think it’s an antidote to being redpilled while terfs collaborate with those same incels). it’s so insidious and democrats and liberals (as in the lpc and their supporters) and all the other centrists don’t realize that the fascist contingency in america and canada has strong roots across the “party line” and their bullshit electoral politics and pigs won’t do shit to stop the fascist violence

[nyx-nyghts]

I’m making my own fic rec list so I don’t need 400 tabs open (also colour-coded spreadsheet?? Hello????)

I am already obsessed. There’s a read and unread section. Word count. Pairings and ships. Ratings. NSFW. The description from the fic.

Everything is filtered it will be so easy to find things omg

[venndiagramfairy]

And so on, and so forth. Heck, you could fairly add more [sets] to this. I'm keeping it simple with three.

I think the big set not pictured in the simple diagram that I see people argue a lot about as if it were a part of the other three is genre adherence. Like, genre is mostly marketing, but it sets expectations on stories marketed as Sitcoms, romcoms, horror, magical girl shojo, and so on that if not adhered to tends to cause fans of [the genre] to get really upset about the story being 'bad' because it's atypical.

I recently watched a horror movie, and people reacting to the movie were mad that the movie didn't kill the characters engaging in the traditional horror no-nos. Like, it's a horror movie in that the main driving force in the plot is building tension to later have gory dramatic catharsis. But, it's not adhering to the genre conventions because the narative isn't interested in pushing the puritanical morals present in other horror films.

The victim selection made diagetic sense, narative sense, and I liked it, but it didn't adhere to the genre conventions of slasher films which it was marketed as, and that upset a non-zero number of people who watched it who then went on rants about how the other three things are one thing.

I sometimes see people argue about one of these circles as though it were all three circles.

Sometimes something can totally make sense in-universe, and fit with the themes of the story, the characters, etc... And you just don't like it for whatever reason. Maybe it wasn't done well in spite of that, or touched a nerve, etc.

Maybe you loved a story, and it was an excellent exploration of a character, but it would be totally fair to call out the technical nonsense, and how, even in-universe, it doesn't add up.

And maybe you thought this episode of a show was GREAT! But it was non-canon, nothing made sense, and, ultimately, it was UTTER NONSENSE.

And so on, and so forth. Heck, you could fairly add more circles to this. I'm keeping it simple with three.

My point is mostly that there's nuance to opinions, and sometimes, someone not liking something in a story has nothing to do with whether it made sense, or complimented the narrative.

Those things can be separate points. Stories doesn't have to be a failure at everything to be disliked, or succeed at everything to be liked, and arguing as though that were the case is silly.

[arctic-hands]

Great now I gotta get friends in order to start a game of VTM

[fiapple]

the tags on this post elaborate, so i deeply encourage reading them, but there has to be more acknowledgment that mental illness can be a disability for some people. Anything from depression to personality disorders to schizophrenia can disable a person insofar as making them unable to function. It does a disservice both to those who are disabled by their mental health & those who feel their physical &/or neurological disabilities are inextricably interlinked to their mental health experientially to pretend otherwise.

[anxietycheesecake]

The lack of media literacy in this fandom is wild.

They basically said 'in your wildest dreams, here's a scenario that could have been the ending. And to highlight just how much this couldn't or didn't happen, here are two other endings that couldn't possibly happen' and people somehow came to the conclusion that this scene was remotely canon when it was the exact opposite.

It was imperative to somebody that the show fully clarifies that Nandor and Guillermo do not and will not fuck. They need the audience to know that and The Guide was once again used as a wedge to drive home that Nandor and Guillermo are platonic and only platonic. Nandor finds The Guide physically attractive and is romantically attracted. Whether his motivations are selfish and would fizzle upon realization is irrelevant because it's canon that he is into her and if you drew a venn diagram with his feelings for The Guide and Guillermo, there would be little overlap. That was the entire purpose of Guidmor this season and nearly the only purpose The Guide served. Friends, best friends, partners, in love with The Guide - they are circling this shit with a bright red marker.

And yeah, much of the direction they've taken on Nandor and Guillermo's relationship and taking jabs at shippers is because the fanart, fanfic, and general shipping made Simms uncomfortable and I'll die on that hill. The 'ick' is palpable in every one of those interviews where he says it wouldn't be profound enough, 'do people really want to see that? Really?' or that it would be problematic. They literally pivoted in the aftermath of season 3 and 4 because of the reception.

Tell me that in a world without social media, in a world where they didn't see how fans reacted, Nandor and Guillermo's relationship would have played out as it did. Tell me that it was in good faith and not damage control. Tell me they didn't want to kill that narrative while not losing viewership.

Tell me that this isn't the very manifestation of queer content being fun until it's more than a joke.

It's actually okay to be hurt if you create fan content and it makes a homophobic person uncomfortable, instead of telling yourself that couldn't possibly be how a showrunner, writer, or company really feels about something you care about and have invested in. It's a hard, shitty thing, especially when they dangled that ship to the point of using 'Nandermo' in promotional material. It's okay for others to be upset by this and have a myriad of personal or impersonal reasons for being offended, sad, angry. Our reaction isn't an attack on fans who are satisfied, and you don't have to rationalize an ugly truth when somebody is in the wrong and hurting real people. Simms is the one in a position of power here, not fans on Tumblr. He can absolutely steamroll the writers and actors on this if he wants to, and it can be seen in interviews, such as the one with Stefani. As I said in my previous ask, Harvey is a real gay person who has to smile and nod while his boss repeatedly uses these talking points to delegitimize gay relationships right in front of him like we're in the early 2000s.

Fuck that shit. This conduct is appalling and you have every right to be disgusted.

Thank you so much, bestie, the gaslighting got me thinking I was insane. Like good for people who are satisfied, but I think you should be able to see the whole picture beyond your own feelings. If nandermo had gone canon and everything else was the exact same, I'd complain about the lack of proper development and closure for everyone else, while being ecstatic for my beloved blorbos. Because you can aknowledge when shitty things happen even if you personally find them gratifying.

[smallpwbbles]

The more sonic fans around the internet i see get official adhd diagnoses, the more i think the venn diagram of 'genuinely enjoys sonic as a character' and 'has add/adhd' are two concentric circles (could not say which of the two the bigger circle is tbh....)

-also a sonic fan with add,,,

(.....anyways im thinking about how that question of what sonic does in his free time is possibly a moot point tbh. all his time is free time, mans does what he wants- what he wants just happens to generally be helping people and blowing up eggman's things. and going fast)

HELPDBDHDN, like I’ve always wondered out of hyperfixation I’ve had Sonic is the one that hasn’t gone away since I was a kid, like I am INSANE for Sonic and anything that has his face on it

I actually wanna make an animatic of that one dude who made a vid after taking his adderall and he just quotes the funniest shit in the funniest way, “Milo get your 📀 in the house” lives rent free in my mind. But it’s Sonic because I need to project my ADHD on him now

I like to think Sonic doing anything that isn’t that is so foreign to anyone who isn’t Tails and they genuinely get bewildered when they see it

[crimson-and-clover-1717]

‘If he's a friend of yours, I'm sure there's something in there I'll like.’

Oh, Stede.

Unfortunately, what Stede means here, and what meaning Ed might give is somewhat different. Stede thinks Jack must have some of Ed’s good qualities in order for Ed to be his friend. However, Ed thinks Stede must see a similarity between Ed and Jack, meaning Stede might accept the ‘Jack’ parts of Ed he believes are a large section of his make-up.

Ed reasons: if Stede can like Jack, it stands that Stede must like Ed. Because they’re ‘the same’. And when Ed suggests Stede and Jack have a lot in common, and if Stede agrees, then Ed and Stede must also have a lot in common. And that’s a good thing.

Because Ed, whether consciously or not, is using Jack as a proxy or cipher to see if Stede will accept all of who he thinks he is. Further to this, if Stede can also see himself in Jack, then that’s more wonderful, because then Stede can see himself in Ed too. And maybe…maybe…that means Ed’s not so bad after all, because Stede’s a pretty stand-up guy.

I can almost see the three-circle Venn diagram in Ed’s head…

But Stede tells Ed he doesn’t like who he is around Jack. And if Ed and Jack are pretty much the same man - ‘This is me’ - Ed needs to leave because Stede cannot accept who Ed truly is.

And more terribly, Stede and Ed are not alike after all.

And of course all of this is a load of bollocks because Ed isn’t like Jack at all; not anymore, not likely ever. Whatever his soul is made of, his and Stede’s are the same. They certainly don’t need Jack as a personality litmus test.

But Ed has to go all around the houses to figure this out such is his distorted self-image. And Stede gets caught in the identity crossfire.

I love though that Ed doesn’t give a backwards glance at the man he allegedly had ‘dalliances’ with, who saved his life, who is ‘practically the same man’, when a canon-ball takes him out. The rejection of Jack, and all thoughts of affinity, is absolute once it comes. The scales fall entirely from Ed’s eyes.

It’s as if before, Ed saw himself through a glass, darkly And now he’s winking into a clear mirror Because, finally, Ed’s starting to get it…

The Venn Diagram is, in fact, two different but equally aligned circles.

[heathersdesk]

Infertility in the LDS Church is such a weird place to occupy because it's the place where so much of the Church's messaging on sex and gender, on complimentarianism and divisions of labor within the Church, completely fall apart.

Being a parent may be the most important thing some people will ever do. I have no issue at all with people saying this about themselves to describe their own journey through the world. But that's not universally true for everyone because of someone's gender or alleged propensity for reproduction. The fact that infertility exists at all is all the evidence you need of that. If it was somehow necessary for a person's salvation or exaltation for everyone to have children, it wouldn't be withheld from anyone.

So why do people, including church leadership, treat having children like it's essential to our salvation, when neither the gospel of Jesus Christ nor any of the covenants we've made present it that way?

Power consolidation. Boundary maintenance. Cultural curation for the kind of person who treats children as an identity marker and avatars for their own influence on the world.

It's how the Church is trying to ignore the problem of dwindling membership, which this exact messaging has caused, instead of addressing the gender disparities reflected in this messaging.

No one is entitled to have children, and to use those children as a means of self-fulfillment, spiritual education, or approximations to the divine experience of being God. Even if you can have children, this is a harmful way of viewing children because it makes having children all about the parents and their needs.

You don't have children to meet your needs. You have children to meet their needs. I didn't need to have children to learn that lesson, or many of the other lessons that people needed to become parents to learn. There is more than one way to approach that kind of selfless love, in all kinds of relationships. Parenting is one of many, not the only kind of selfless love, and certainly not the most important kind of selfless love for many people.

And what kills me in talking to members of the Church who try to push back against this perspective is this: they claim to be the arbiters of the ultimate form of selfless love because they are parents. But these are the same people who will pound on the single piano key about parenthood to such an extreme that it alienates other people. And when they do, and someone tells them it's harmful, they're the first ones to say that what they're doing is more important than anyone else's feelings. They talk of a selfless love they don't actually possess—not for people outside of their family and, I would argue, not for anyone inside of it either.

All this to say: the Venn Diagram overlap between people who don't respect or value people at church with infertility and the people who also enmesh themselves in disturbing ways with their own children is a circle. Catch neither one of us wanting to be at church with them as adults.