#thinkin about that dynamic....

[us-ugay]

im thinkin about a rev war AU w young buck soldier alfred and milf alice hmmm hell yeah

[inkskinned]

pay attention to how your partner values your time.

i mean this beyond things like how much time you spend at work or how often you answer their text messages.

if you spend hours getting ready for them, do they value that effort? if you plan a meal and do all the shopping and prep and cooking for it, is it just dinner for them? do they notice the small chores you're always doing, or does it just magically "get done" when they're not looking? do they notice when you've spent time for them, or is it just something that is expected to happen?

my ex understood our relationship as some kind of credit service. he would do something large and nice for me maybe once or twice a season - and then "collect" on that credit for a while. my time was not as valuable as his - i was expected to give up my time for things like the upkeep of our relationship, chores, everything. even though i was in school and employed (and honestly doing more than he was), he assumed my time couldn't be better spent. he used to say i was just "better" at the daily stuff. he was my first longterm boyfriend - i hadn't been taught it. it didn't come naturally. it's just that if i didn't do it, he valued his time too much to do it for me.

recently i saw a video of a man smashing a cake into his new wife's face after she explicitly asked him not to. i'm glad that these days, most people don't find it funny. but still, someone comments: girl, just wipe it off and jump back into the party! but the fact of the matter is - even if it wiped off perfectly, even if the makeup only took a few minutes to reapply, even if the dress wasn't ruined by the oil in the icing - she would have to spend time away from her own wedding in order to do it. her new husband - he gets to laugh and sit around and party. she has to leave her loved ones and go be alone to handle the results of his prank. it might be the only day she gets to see some of these people; but that time spent (the makeup, the dress) is just valued less. it's seen as inconsequential.

just... pay attention. is it normal for you to give up your time, but they wouldn't reciprocate? do they consider their hobbies essential while yours are just "useless ways to fill the day"? is going out with their friends a hallowed event that must not be interrupted - but at the same time, you find that you're punished for or banned from similar events. do you do most of the upkeep? do you trust that if you needed to take a break, they'd absolutely pick up the weight? if you spend time and energy and effort on something, is that valued; or is it just a thursday to them.

[secondbeatsongs]

when you're into the Big Ship™ in a Big Fandom™, you have the luxury of having an OTP - a real One True Pairing, where you can read about just them for ages, and you will never run out of fics, and everything is perfect and beautiful and nothing hurts

but when you go to a smaller fandom, you'd better pray to whatever god you worship that someone else in this room ships the same thing that you do, and that if they do, they're writing more than late-night crackfic, because you're on thin fucking ice!

and how small is your small fandom? is it less than 100 fics? maybe even...less than 20 fics?

welp, then it's time to make peace with that god and either open up a text document or learn how to ship everything, because it's swim or drown babey! and your ship is sinking fast

anyway all of this is to say that after hanging out in small fandoms and shipping less-common pairings for a while, going back into a Big Huge Fandom™ is wild because suddenly it's like...wait, why didn't I ship these people again? I don't remember. why was I only sticking to one ship in this fandom?? boring of me, honestly. these guys should make out.

[nortyourself]

Hurrayyy, a character we know nothing about for me to latch on to :3

Anyway, I’ve decided that Vega and Polaris were best friends and I’m gonna be thinking about her all week 😭

[cherrycoloredphoenix]

Oh shit i forgot i had this document of secunit doodles from [checks file] 2020 apparently. Including the original thumbnail for this one

[violetvulpini]

Fast Forward on the brain

Edit: WAIT IM DUMB I FORGOT TO LINK CREDIT FOR PRESIDENT DAD

[kasper7489]

I kinda hopped into the dc fandom by reading fics (I know I know lmao)

But as I've read more comics and looked into different characterization and analysis I now have a more developed idea as to how I view a lot of the characters and have preferences to how their written. I'm def the type to click out a fic if I find myself thinking 'he would not fucking say that'

Anyway this is just to say it's very funny to me when I go thru some of the fics I bookmarked at the begining of my interest and find myself going Uh Oh! I don't think I can read this anymore!

[eliaswoodt]

Should we have names for, like, platonic relationships?

Like, a dynamic name for Chase and Deacon (CD duo? Hollowbros?)

[thegremlingirl]

"Come on, Darlington...let's give them hell."

(Hell Bent, 2023)

[panhelleniios]

once more thinking about the relationship between herc and wolvie in x-treme x-men and how wolvie's inherent dad instincts are the reason they reunite

[favorskill]

man... random post out of the blue but to my writing partners that allow me to write the collector at a) their absolute worst and then therefore b) their truest self... thank u....... it also like. means a lot to me when people take the time to try to fully understand the way they work rather than simply shoving them off into the 'evil deity thats it done deal' when i've put time and effort into their backstory and very specifically building out the way they operate / their personality and all the complexities within it that maybe don't always show their face.......... idk. i get nervous about writing tc with new people sometimes because it can be very difficult to start out with tc right out of the gate because they're such. a Piece of Work LMFAOGBHFBHG

[echthr0s]

when I see people say things like "tag your shit [insert whatever shit they care about being tagged]" in posts obviously my automatic response is "yeah I'm definitely going to do a thing just because this random tumblr user said so" but it also puts me in mind of a concept -- that while the vast majority of tumblr blogs are technically accessible to everyone, not all of them are meant to be socially accessible to everyone

I don't know if I used the right words there but basically what I mean is that, yes, my tumblr can be accessed by anyone with an account. however, it is not meant for high visibility or a large following. it is a personal space -- not a curation space, not a community space, not a professional portfolio, not a gimmick blog. if you run a blog like that, one that is meant to garner high visibility, then it is in your best interest to adopt certain practices that make your blog more user-friendly for a wider variety of people. like tagging common triggers, using a queue, that sort of thing. whereas if you're just a guy with a blog, people can just leave if they don't like what you're doing. you're not providing a service or establishing a brand or trying to earn a living, you're just hangin out

it's like the difference between running a community Discord server and running a friend server. the community server requires more strict moderation, a higher level of channel organisation, stuff that the friend server could afford to be lax about because it's just people with a certain level of familiarity and comfort who want to hang out in a virtual living room with each other.

like... if I'm going to tag for something that I wouldn't normally tag for, it'd be because someone I'm familiar with or care about asked me to, personally, and I would like to keep their followship. but otherwise whatever I do on this blog is for my pleasure because that's the kind of blog this is. this blog is like if my bedroom was on the internet. you can't tell me how to decorate my bedroom. if you don't like it, you can leave. I don't even mean that in a bitchy way, it's just... the reality of the situation, yknow

this isn't meant to be a safe space unless you just happen to feel safe here, and I am perfectly content to lose out on potential followers if they're not about what I'm about or they have the kind of needs I'm not willing to meet. that's just life, man

[to-the-batcomputer]

a little ashamed to say that i'm thinking about. about. bruce and .. dick

[technofinch]

oh nooooo im thinking about nico again

[roychewtoy]

[trashcreatyre]

The difference between my regular type of mephinite content and the ghost au mephinite content may seem like a jump but you need to consider that I am literally insane