#things that make me go hmm

[immortalsarcasm]

Why are the default settings for making non-trans men characters trans men in fan fiction so often:

- IDs as male but is either non-transitioning with no plans to, or ONLY has top surgery

- has to wear girly clothes/present fem, if not all the time then especially in sex scenes and it HAS to be in lingerie and heels or Lolita

- a twee tiny bottom with tits out and definitely wants the sex in the vagina

- has infantilization masquerading as age play

- doesn’t get tagged as the kink or self-insert by non-trans people that it pretty often clearly is

And why does fan fiction and other creative work by trans men about non-trans characters being trans men so often get poo-pooed or critiqued into the ground?

Like why is that?

By all means this isn’t a call for censorship, I just think an honest conversation needs to be had. ☕️

[infinitelyweary]

Does anyone else think its interesting that Louis’s rat diet lessened his libido so much he couldn’t have sex with his husband Lestat but he miraculously got it up when Jonah did him some face in the moonlight? 🤔

[throatgina-sausage]

[theseshipsshallsail]

Random musing of the day: I know I've only posted 2 Charmie fics (and one of them was me being a spiteful asshole so 🤷‍♀️) but I always assumed the venn diagram of kudos givers would be the same as for my CMBYN fics. Like, a 'came for the peaches, stayed for the UST' type of thing, and it just... isn't.

I guess I'm just kinda amused at the thought someone might have fallen for the boys first, and come to Elio and Oliver second ❤️

[littlearmadillos]

do you think dogs get jealous of opposable thumbs? bc my pup was liking the cheese sauce out of my easy mac and the cup mept moving when she liked until i had to help. so like do you think she cursed me for showing off or

[suppresseddramatic]

i’ve noticed that when i process the things that are rolling around in my brain and i write it all down in my notes app, it’s like i’m extracting stuff from my head and putting it in a plate so i can examine it more clearly. like Dumbledore and the Pensieve.

[imaginarianisms]

so there's this theory that baelor wasn't just a pious zealot but someone who took very calculated steps, even taking dorne into the fold & plotting to hatch dragons (for someone who's supposed to be super pacifist that doesn't sound very peaceful to me) & the construction of the maidenvault was a political move on his part to imprison & weaken his sisters & female cousins because it's noteworthy that because they stayed in the maidenvault for a literal decade, the princesses had little support for their claims, especially in daena's case & viserys ii became the next king & eventually daeron ii became king with a dornish queen, myriah martell & the theory goes further that this was a secret plot with the martells which ensured peace for all of westeros & led to the release of aemon the dragonkight). now. do i& think the last part is true, with the plot to make daeron & myriah the future king & queen of westeros? personally, no. because dorne supports equal primogeniture & just as they would have supported rhaenyra because she was viserys' eldest daughter had they been involved in the dance of the dragons, they undoubtedly would've supported daena after baelor died, because she's the eldest daughter of aegon iii & daenaera velaryon & thus after daeron & baelor died the throne would pass to her because neither of them had any children & not to mention they'd likely be horrified of locking up & imprisoning women like that. but everything else i& genuinely wouldn't be surprised if that was part of his motives.

[dagneyrobertson]

My parents used to play that game, let's call it Dead or Alive. ("Honey, is Carol Channing still alive?") While I'm disappointed that I don't have a person to pester with the life status of elder celebrities, I did just see a meme that had me asking Google if Charles Manson is dead or alive. He's dead...not looking for a cell mate, in case you were wondering.

[swampybogg]

[rahma-djebbari]

"It's not your job to save people from themselves. You can't expect them to change for YOU. Unless they decide to change for their own sake, you'll be stuck in a whirlpool.

It's human nature to be there for one another but not to the point where we let people become dependent on us for their own happiness or well-being.

If you want to change your partner, chances are they're not the one for you. If they don't want to change, they won't change.

People won't change for you or me. They change for themselves.

That's why, don't feel guilty for wanting your loved ones to change and then you take the responsibility to change them. This will drain you and lead you to disappointment and heartbreak.

You can't save them. You are not responsible for where their actions may lead.. But you can still show support and encouragement. You can still love them anyways."

—Rahma Djebbari

[brainrotisseriechicken]

pirate au design dump,,,some r more fleshed out than others

(she/her for abel in this au) the biblings.....very happy with abel but cain is. ehhhhh,,you can tell with how indecisive i was with him.

i mostly just tried to translate my messy ass concept doodles from last time into something readable,, technically a final but not like Final final i might do a turnaround if im feeling ambitious

developing last years allison concepts a bit more ermmmm yeah. im still conflicted between these three but the middle one is what people prefer from what ive seen. mapping the colors for that one first. but im feeling democratic so im open to other peoples thoughts

stupid little clef scribble. ft. unreadable sleepy handwriting

[reasonsforhope]

Hey adults: Why do you like being an adult? What do you like about your life?

A couple weeks ago I told the kids at my work that "Being an adult is pretty nice, actually," and they looked shocked, laughed incredulously, and told me I was the first person they'd ever heard say that

So clearly we adults need to talk about this way more often

The past few years have been hard for a lot of people, me included. Covid sucked. I lost three relatives and three pets in one year. Right after lockdown ended, I got badly injured, and ended up housebound for six months and (much more) disabled for two years, and that sucked too.

And you know what? Literally all of that was easier and better than being a teenager.

I like being an adult. I like my life. Even when it's hard, it's mine, and I am building to the best of my ability the a life that I want to live.

I talked about a lot of why being an adult is something worth looking forward to in my last post, so right now I'll simply say this:

I love actually knowing who I am now. I love that I learned and am learning what I want and need. I love that I have independence and autonomy and don't get treated like a kid. I love the fact that I'm the one who gets to decide want I want to do and what I need. I also love that I'm learning to sew. I love that I've had pet rats, and next will have a pet cat. I love that I got top surgery. I love the way I've decorated my room. I love traveling to visit and crash and even just hang out and do work with my friends, when I can. I love that I started reading good news every day, and that I actually have hope for the future, and that I started this blog and have been able to help give so many other people hope, too.

So, here's a call to action for my fellow adults: comment or reply or tag what you like about being an adult. What you love about your life.

Let's give some kids some reasons for hope.

[icewindandboringhorror]

I made a few new wax seal stamps out of clay (like the ones I did for my worldbuilding stuff forever ago), this time just of random symbols that I thought might look good done in the style of painting over the raised part of the wax or etc. :0c Some of them aren't carved deep enough to really show up that well, but overall they worked okay for being clay lol

[iknowwhereyousnoozeatnight]

tennis

[willowser]

not to be so disgusting and gross about gojo on the dash but i think he's such a flirty, teasing idiot that, when you show him genuine and true affection, he goes all somber and quiet.

like you come up to him after dinner and stand on your tip-toes and hug him for no reason, give him a fat kiss on the cheek for no reason, and he just — lets you. doesn't say anything, just kind of hums and lightly places his hands on your hips, so gently you might not even know they're there. you tell him, "i love you, thank you for eating with me," and he presses his mouth to the top of your head, lips squished, and says it back, but there's no jokes, no teasing remarks. he just allows himself to be weak and to bask in it, for as long as he can.

[feng-shui71]

World’s best matchmaker and brother-in-law, everyone.