#theyre autistic to autistic communication. to me

[arsenicflame]

silly Izzy situation: he gets a parrot.

HE GETS A PARROT OH THIS GAVE ME BRAIN WORMS

-Stede is the one to get him the parrot- something about how hes got the wooden leg he has to complete the look? honestly izzy wasnt listening, stede was using his excited voice and izzys learnt he can zone out a bit when he gets like that. there was a hat too but that went to someone else Real quick (the parrot was trying to eat it anyway)

-i know nothing about parrots but im gonna say stede gets him an African grey. it's the goth-est parrot and they're Friends Now, hes got to give a gift that fits in with izzys Look

-when stede gives it him he protests LOUDLY but when stede gets all sad and says he will return him izzy draws a knife. wtf you can't return my gift Stede

- the parrot learns to say fuck REAL quick

-izzy learns bird care from buttons, obviously- izzy is Rules autistic he needs to know How you look after his pet. he is super rigorous with following the rules and at least one crew member has faced a tirade for feeding him something bad

-the bird rides everywhere on his shoulder. frenchie makes him a little pad so his claws don't scratch izzys leathers and so he can grip better

-he starts stroking the bird as a comfort (in Correct places, thank u buttons) he doesn't notice hes doing it but everyone else does. lucius has a sketch

-you know how some pets are like? exactly like their owners? yeah. this is the grumpiest fucking parrot and they are perfect together. he only likes izzy. after a while he mimicks izzy yelling at the crew and nobody knows what to do they all just. stare. izzy laughs.

- the parrot spends a little too much time with the swede somehow (jackies? izzy & jackie friendship my beloved i will force you in anywhere) and picks up his singing. its. something. they end up using it on raids as part of a fuckery. two haunting tones to create a sense of unreality, of being surrounded.

-i didn't give the parrot a name here because i genuinely believe izzy wouldnt give it a name, hed just call it 'the parrot', occasionally 'my parrot' when drunk. the crew call it mini Izzy.

(buttons asked the parrot its name)

-someone once gave the parrot a knife because they thought itd be funny. we do not talk about the parrot knife incident.

[mosstrades]

im having an absolute unadulterated blast with the Ethersea prologue for many many reasons, it's beautiful and exceeds all my expectations.. but also. there's many moments here that genuinely make me go "oh god damn, these people are Americans." the Quiet Year system is a profoundly fascinating and revealing game - nothing tells you quite as much about how somebody sees the world than asking them to imagine a new one.

[casperth3ghost]

"adhd x autism!!" NO, i want autistic girlfriend x autistic boyfriend RIGHT NOW

i want a french autistic man x his canadian autistic girlfriend and they fell in love because they both had on garfield shirts when they first met

but the boy loves garfield to draw in the funkiest fun colorful outfits ever and the girl loves garfield because of the comics from idk when garfield was made HELP

[robinyourcreator]

mentors! teachers! librarians! old ladies you see at the grocery or the knitting shop once in a while! middle aged men who are regulars at the same hardware store! the teenagers who come to the local game shops board game events and THEIR little siblings!

do you believe you dont share common humanity with any of these people?????

or do you have bizarre ideas gatekeeping the "sanctity" of friendship limiting it to only people you could have gone to high school with???

"what do a 19 and a 28 year old even have in common"

WE ARE ON THIS BIG BEAUTIFUL BLUE EARTH AT THE SAME TIME, ENJOYING THE GLORIOUS EXPERIMENT THAT IS HUMANITY, GOOD SIR!!!!!

this isnt even about dating-- like fuck no you couldnt PAY me to date someone in their early twenties NOW!!! but this is how we're being about FRIENDSHIP??????

[k16is]

rosemary kissing and domestic. GRERRRRRR. WHATEVA. … they go thrifting and have dates and tour coffee shops and kiss at sunset 😒😒😒😒

[champagnesupernoel]

Was talking to my partner about this yesterday, but I often feel like the odd one out in circles with other trans people. The exception is other trans people who are also autistic. I know two other autistic trans people and I relate to them significantly more than other trans people.

I'm not trans to make friends with other trans people in the same way i don't go to work to make friends. We happen to co exist in the same spaces, but I am still an outcast. I think the only time I really think about it is when I'm judged by someone for not fulfilling some kind of stereotype or what they envision me to be. I have a severe mental illness and am autistic and both of which mean I do not behave in a way that is expected. I am (accidentally) off putting and sometimes overstep boundaries I'm not aware of and often distant.

I frequently have to tell cis people that while you can say or do certain things with me, most trans people would not appreciate that. And its nothing disrespectful in my world. I just don't always think of things the same way other trans people seem to.

Sometimes it's an odd feeling being the outcast in a group of outcasts but having something ive dealt with my whole life like autism it's not an unfamiliar feeling.

I highly value friendships that seem to understand how autism affects me. Being trans is so personal to me. I'm also very reserved in a lot of ways and don't view a lot of things other people's business. I know people who are more out spoken than me. Not just in a pride way. I'm openly trans, not stealth, I just don't feel a need to explain myself. I'm not trans for other people I'm trans for myself.

[barkbarkyapyap]

every one of my favorite characters is now alterhuman. thank you and goodnight.

[wormworker]

(No judgement zone.)

My fellow Autistic people, do you tend to struggle getting along with your fellow Autistics?

I wish I didn't, but there are definitely some Autistic people whose traits just seem to clash very harshly with mine. I will often feel smothered, "love-bombed," and most of all, deeply misunderstood by some fellow Autistic people.

[smilepilled]

By the way. What does it mean to dream of going to a big house of cultures in south america (or a restaurant + culture place?? i cant recall decently) and finding a basement filled with zombified bodies whos souls contain an ancient Astec curse which turned them living daemons. Not asking for a friend but im extremely concerned anywYs

[lilac-set]

Why are communication cards always so information dense? And the default images on all the aac apps. Dont get me wrong im glad the resources exist, and im glad they work for some people, and im glad the people that need and like them have tools that are pretty. However. As someone that loses speech when i get overwhelmed (and i get overwhelmed a lot). I CANT have my tools be contributing to overwhelm. If im on the verge of a meltdown and i need to ask someone to help me get somewhere quiet, i need to find a card that simply has the word “quiet”, maybe color coded so i dont have to read the words on every card, and thats it. I dont wanna have to process an anthropomorphic animal looking distressed on top of a busy multicolored background with text in a speech bubble that has the entire sentence “can you help me get somewhere quiet please?” In a stack of cards that all have the same rainbow background and anthropomorphic animal with various complex facial expressions and sentences. Im not mad those cards exist. Im just surprised theyre *all* that exist. I dont imagine my needs are particularly unique

[freezi-drink]

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[void-thegod]

I hate it when people misunderstand me and instead of asking what I meant they just...

Assume whatever they thought I meant

:/

[apple-os]

ppl who like making friends solely with one-note cardboard boxes who will hang out with them when it's convenient and never open up about who they are as people and what their lives are like dni

[bungusofficial]

mutual how are you so good at getting into arguments with people who agree with you

probably bc i only respond to people who cant write or read

"rape play can be consented to" and "rape can be consented to" are VERY different sentences. n like honestly i shouldnt even have bothered.

if you have such a fundamental misunderstanding of the english language i wont waste my time trying to communicate with you. when every word means something different its not really english anymore is it. if everything u say is so divorced from the english language that i need to ask you to repeat and translate everything i dont think im at fault here

i might just cut contact w anyone in the community because everything i say is misunderstood and misrepresented and not taken seriously if im not sucking up to people.

and so many words have new double-meanings and im led to think i disagree with ppl because theyre fucking incapable of writing a coherent sentence. and then its my fault somehow.

and its not like 'transid' or paraphilia dont exist outside of the radqueer community. everyone wants to change things about themselves. everyone changes. people are into weird shit and have mental disorders. i dont have a problem with peoples experiences.

n if rqs put any effort into what they say (or even didnt blame me for assuming that a word doesnt have any new secret meaning) id treat it the same as the mogai or liom community. whatever. kinda fun. sometimes theres a relatable label

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[demento]

do u want to talk abt ur captain hcs

explodes all over you

[symptoms-syndrome]

10, 19, & 36 💜

10. What are your most common stims?

I'm going to leave out self harmful stims for this, in which case it would probably be rubbing my nail against my lip (sometimes also tapping my teeth with a nail,) tapping on things (incl like. My arms n stuff if I need to be quiet) and rocking. I've been sort of ABA-ed out of a lot of more visible stims apart from the rocking. If I'm a little stressed out but grounded I squeeze my forearm repeatedly or stroke a lock of hair. But my most common stim growing up/the one I often default to if I'm rly rly stressed out and not totally grounded is biting things (not counting this as self harmful bc there are non harmful things to bite, like rubber stim tools, a sleeve, etc.)

19 I answered!

36. Do you have routines that you have to follow? What's in your routine?

I follow a lot of little routines I think. It's hard to tell always bc they're just integrated into my life now. I think it's more noticable that I need routines when interacting with others. I need to know where we're going and for how long and can get thrown off if things change, and get really really stressed if I don't know the schedule even if it's smth I enjoy doing.

I definitely have routines when eating though. Like eating the least favorite thing first and the most favorite last. I have a fun little routine with Skittles too that I was talking about with a friend the other day

Dump out Skittles and make a little graph of colors in color order

Starting with the color that has the most Skittles, eat extra in color order until I have the same amount of each color

Once I have an even number of each color, eat in preference order (purple -> orange -> red -> yellow -> green, repeat)