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robinyourcreator · 1 month ago

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mentors! teachers! librarians! old ladies you see at the grocery or the knitting shop once in a while! middle aged men who are regulars at the same hardware store! the teenagers who come to the local game shops board game events and THEIR little siblings!

do you believe you dont share common humanity with any of these people?????

or do you have bizarre ideas gatekeeping the "sanctity" of friendship limiting it to only people you could have gone to high school with???

"what do a 19 and a 28 year old even have in common"

WE ARE ON THIS BIG BEAUTIFUL BLUE EARTH AT THE SAME TIME, ENJOYING THE GLORIOUS EXPERIMENT THAT IS HUMANITY, GOOD SIR!!!!!

this isnt even about dating-- like fuck no you couldnt PAY me to date someone in their early twenties NOW!!! but this is how we're being about FRIENDSHIP??????

#when i was fifteen and Going Through It bc i was a Fifteen Year Old Lesbian (though i didnt KNOW that last bit)#one of my truest friendships was with the thirty five year old mother of three at church #she was the mia maids counselor in YW and she is STILL one of the coolest and most charismatic people i know #though we lost touch when their family moved out of state #her oldest is a hs senior now!! im so proud!! but to Me she's still going to be four years old forever #like. when i am Friends with a significantly younger person its not the Same as Friends with age peer #older friends tend to give more to younger friends than they take and vice versa. you dont burden a teenager with the messy details #but you listen to theirs! you give them perspective and a shoulder to cry on and they give you perspective and hope for their bright future #god.#as an Autist who really struggled getting along with my peers as a teenager i was often #relegated to babysitting (which i loved!) bc i Get kids theyre much more straightforward #or to being The Good Kid hanging at the adult table bc i was polite and thought i was So clever #i would not be Me without community #and community is just a web of people supporting each other #what is friendship if not that?

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