#they dont need or want labels

[astralspen]

So my discovery of being aroace really changed my perspective on skk alot, so imma ramble about that.

I'll be honest, I saw those two as like, boyfriends, with an established romantic relationship and stuff. Now I kinda see them as having a queer platonic relationship. Partially because I feel like labels disgust them. They beat them back with a stick. Or gun. Or corruption. ANYWAYS, the point is that they are very close, but I don't think they're boyfriends. They support each other, be honest with one another (sometimes, Chuuya probably forces Dazai a bit), and just do a bunch of random stuff together, of course with a little arguing. So they're so close they have a relationship, but are they dating? No, they'd probably both stare at you in disgust I'd you said that. Then wtf are they? Partners. It's not really romantic, and that's kinda because I feel like at least one of them I'd aromantic. Which one? Who knows. Maybe it's both, maybe it's actually none and I'm just projecting. But also because I just think they aren't into having any romance. Can they have romantic feelings? Yeah, probably. Do they not want them and actively avoid them? Yes. So they're just soukoku, nothing more, nothing less. They are them, and frankly that little look back and a new perspective on them makes me really happy.

[tubbytarchia]

Thinking about them still and always

So I was trying to do a meme redraw and halfway through realised that I mixed two memes up into one so now this is the result lmao. But either way I was thinking of these:

[cosmicredcadet]

I think i just need to express that the culture surrounding QPRs right now made me think that i couldn't have strong bonds with my friends. Society told me i cant have strong bonds with friends because that was only for romantic relationships. Then i went into aro spaces and this idea was reinforced using QPRs instead of romantic relationships. it was "You can still have strong bonds with people without romance! It can just be a QPR instead!" "QPRs are MORE than friendship so you can have STRONGER BONDS than you would with friends."

it made me think that the relationships i wanted with my friends HAD to be something other than friendship for it to be as strong as i wanted. If i wanted to be the first person in someones life i had to enter some sort of committed relationship. if I wanted someone to care about me as strongly as i did them then it would have to be a relationship that was "more" than friendship.

I thought I wanted a QPR because i was told the only way to get that care and security that I wanted was to enter into a relationship that was "more" than friendship. because friends didn't care that much. because friends didn't live together their entire lives. because friends were never the priority relationship wise. and it took me years to realize that i didn't want any partnership and i shouldn't have to be in one to want these things from a friend. these things CAN be something friends can do. but i found that out on my own. because the aro community kept saying "you want a QPR" when i just wanted a friend who finally saw me as a priority in their life.

[stacksattack]

just got a very unsavory follower so obligatory post about this

[justaz]

when he was younger and messing around with his magic, merlin created a spell to be able to shift his form. hunith came inside and was Very confused where her son went and why there was a random girl in her home. she put two and two together when the little girl calls her mom. the spell is somewhat banned as it would raise too many questions why hunith now has a daughter instead of a son one day and then a son and no daughter the next. years later, merlin is excited to finally cast the spell once more after arthur repeals the ban

[k1tty5]

hello :D please tell me more about your mezalian (is that how you spell it??) smalletho I will forever be indebted to you

(they are gorgeous I love them sm)

hey hi !! it would be my pleasure … (and I’ve been spelling it mezalean ??? but i have no idea LOL. there might be a canon spelling but i havent watched joels esmp1 since… probably since it ended. i will have to check sometime)

apologizing in advance because i will probably get very ramble-y!!

ummm. Oh god. How to start. Lets see. WELL. In this silly little au (i guess it has become a bit more than just me doodling designs LOL) in my head they have like this sort of zelink dynamic? obviously without all the zelda lore & stuff, just that kind of … okay forgive me I haven’t brushed up on my zelink lore for a good many years but. Like the princess and her personal knight that doesn’t really talk much sort of thing.

this made more sense in my head. But yeah. They have the vibes of zelink ? At least if i remember zelink right, I have a really bad memory :’) not exactly the same, i do think etho talks to joel (whereas if iirc link never really talks) - especially after getting to know him a bit - but just. they have the Vibes. You know?

I reckon Joel’s definitely very into sculpting in this au, maybe dabbles a little in painting - I imagine mezalea to be very heavy on art and expression in general. think you’d especially see lots of pottery and textiles all around the place. He probably also has an interest in some form of like. um. whats the word. Some sort of … fighting. lmao. Specifically thinking of fencing, i had this idea in my head that he’s watched Etho practice outside the palace at some point and is just absolutely fascinated and enamored. by both the practice and etho himself haha.

and for etho… talented swordsman? he is Not washed. i dont really have many ideas for his character in this au To be completely honest, mostly just of his personality. Although, I alsooo think he’s probably not actually from mezalea? I like to draw him with those pointy elf ears, and i think mezaleans are just humans. I cant remember if thats canon or not but um. mezaleans have human ears, so i’d imagine etho’s probably from like.. rivendelle? Is that. What it’s called. The elf guys? Are they elves??? Goodness I cant remember. Grimlands would make sense too since i THINK they’re kind of like. technical engineer guys? but i dont know what species they are um so ,,, yeah,,,,

i think joel’s probably a bit put off by etho at first, mostly just because he’s not super enthused about the idea of a personal guard, but also because the guys a bit odd, you know? but he’s also probably suuuper intrigued by him. he wants to figure this new guy out, and when they start talking a bit more, i think. They are both incredibly charmed by the other. head over heels? possibly.

most of my ideas of this au are just little scenes that are cute and silly but dont follow any main plot. I would love to write some one-shots of some of the ideas i have in the future, but as of right now im experiencing a bout of creative burnout and am busy with the holidays - spending time with family, so… not right now lol!

hopefully this is what you wanted,,,, i tend to get very ramble-y when talking about literally anything, so i do apologize for that haha, i am Not good at explaining things in simple ways, as i’ve said many a time before.

[bhiik]

my first taste of freedom, how spoiled it was by your blood

[epiphainie]

if bucktommy's conflict, or more specifically buck's spiraling, is about an old relationship/commitment etc. and in some aspect addresses this being buck's first relationship with a man (based on josh's presence in his scene with maddie) i have this tiny tiny tiny hope that we see buck call himself bisexual. it can be anything from a passing comment or him embracing the label within this storyline

[disruptivevoib]

sometimes I do wanna just build an online horror genre taxonomy

[ra1i1nbow]

it's so funny when people who know nothing about queer history try to define bisexuality. "attraction to two or more genders" do we have a gender warden that tallies up and sorts the genders now? Do you have a checklist of which non binary genders you will and won't date? Another important issue is that this definition seems to imply that non binary is a "third gender" which may be true for some nonbinary people but saying that applies to everyone defeats the whole purpose of the identity! not belonging in the binary system doesn't mean just making it into a ternary!! away with that shit!! what the hell even is a gender anyways.

Disclaimer I have nothing against labels such as omnisexual, polysexual, pansexual etc. It's YOUR sexuality, and you don't actually owe anyone an acceptable or understandable definition of it. My issue is when people try to redefine terms such as bisexual, considering the history behind gaining acceptance for multisexuality and fighting stereotypes and such. If bisexual doesn't feel right, and you don't wish to be called bisexual, that's completely valid. I just don't fw rewriting history

[aria0fgold]

caiowe propaganda be upon you!

You would think that Cain would be leaning more on the "Telling anyone who will listen about their partner" metre, but no, it'd be Owen. They aren't even an established thing in canon but once you've read enough stories with him, he just brings up Cain every chance he can get.

Also this is what I wrote on, What are their good traits?

"It's hard to explain so just have this: Owen “Because, O Dashing Knight, I want to hollow you out. I want to lash you with my words— exhaust you— leave you slick with sweat against your body, so pale you look no different than a spectre, unable to move.” and Cain “Come battle, I would become your shield and I would die for you” Knightley." (both lines are from the magazine story!)

[noivern]

after. way too many hours and getting stuck A Lot. and deeply unhelpful cats. finally completed the blender donut tutorial

[yellllowstar]

slowly I'm recovering the beauty of discovery

(creature by half•alive)

(textless + timelapse below cut)

[designtheendless]

[nobodynotbymitski]

no one told me figuring out your gender was way easier when you stopped assuming you were cis.

[i-write-sin-not-tragedy]

Being some flavor of a-ro and also poly means adoring ships but watching fandom be absolutely obsessed with the idea of getting them married and like.

Idk man marriage is one of those things that i personally get massively icked out by. Theres a few times it doesn't bother me but overall the concept is just bleh so seeing 1000 different posts of my favorite ships getting married always feels so ://///

This is why the like. Two aus/fics i have planned that DO involve marriage are basically tearing the enitre concept apart at the seams.

I love love. I am actually kind of obsessed with it. I feel it very strongly. But the traditional takes on it are so boring and limiting bleh