#they 'feel like a burden' and such

[noperopesaredope]

There was one moment in the episode that I really liked, and I couldn’t articulate why until I saw this post. There was a moment where Frank was having a difficult time opening the bottle of pills, and Bill noticed Frank was struggling a bit, so he just took a sec to help him out with that. It was such a short exchange, and I didn’t know why I just really liked it. But now I know what it was that made that little moment so nice for me.

Neither of them seemed frustrated or impatient.

In many shows, Frank would likely get very frustrated at not being able to open the pill bottle, and not just in your typical ‘I can’t open this stupid lid’ kinda way that both able-bodied and disabled folks alike experience when opening shit like water bottles and pickle jars. In many shows, he’d get mad at himself and say something like “I’m tired of this” or something, and might also even refuse help out of pride or something.

In many shows, Bill might act annoyed or something, maybe snatched it from Frank and opened the pill bottle in a huffy way. He also would likely have just done it without some kind of permission type thing, not asking if Frank needs help/giving him the chance to say “no, I’m fine.” In many shows, he would basically have just taken them and done it.

But instead of all that, Bill just notices Frank is struggling, (non-verbally) says “oh, let me help you out,” politely reaches out as a silent way of asking for it, and casually opens it before placing the pills in Frank’s open, waiting palm, whilst also verbally confirming which pills he’s handing him. You can clearly see a form of silent communication between the two as well. They just known what they other is asking and/or answering, which is cute on its own.

But it’s also nice that there’s no “drama” add to this moment. It’s shown as simple and obvious, but also not insistent. It’s practically shown as easy, and by that I don’t mean that opening the bottle is easy, I mean that Bill helping out Frank is easy. It’s easy and simple to help out a disabled loved-one when they need assistance with something “small”, and it’s just an obvious thing to do. Like, obviously Bill would help Frank out with things like these, because he loves Frank, and neither of them mind the fact that Frank needs assistance in certain areas. 

In media and even in real life, characters and people act like doing little things like this are so time consuming and annoying and whatnot, but it literally doesn’t have to be. Sure, some things can be more difficult, like helping someone with things like the bathroom and such, but things like handing them something? Letting them lean a bit on you whilst walking up some stair? Helping them move seats? Pushing their chair somewhere if they ask (when something like this won’t actually negatively affect or significantly inconvenience you in any way and can majorly help them out)? Holding the door? Helping them cut some food? If you are an able-bodied person who can do this with ease, what the harm in helping out a bit?

I don’t know how to articulate it, but I just really like seeing this casual example of making a disabled loved-one’s life easier by just helping them out sometimes. There’s no impatience, it’s not presented as inconvenient, it just is was it is. It’s just another little way of showing love.

thinking about how frank didn’t just become disabled over night, he must’ve had a slow decline over those 10 years. bill had been taking care of him for a long time. tess and joel probably spent months tracking down all the right medications for his condition and smuggling them to him whenever he ran out. bill probably raided the local nursing home for his wheelchair when they realized frank wasn’t going to get better. and i bet he spent days fixing it to make it as comfortable for frank as possible. i bet bill took care of franks strawberry patch, so they could eat some after dinner when they are in season and make frank smile. frank lived a happy and comfortable life. he wasn’t miserable and wanted to end it all. he passed peacefully and old, after living a fulfilling life with his partner. he had people looking after him. they didn’t view his life as a useless or unworthy or a burden because he couldn’t contribute the way he used to. they loved him and cared for him and gave him everything he needed to survive. sometimes it feels too hard to even survive in this world as a disabled person, and he survived in the fucking apocalypse. he just needed a little help. look out for your disabled friends. please.

[ambrosiagourmet]

I think one of the biggest tragedies of Laios & Falin and their relationship is how much his actions impact her life. But like. Specifically how much they WOULDN’T impact her life as much if they weren’t both stuck in such a shitty abusive situation.

This part of the Falin-tries-makeup daydream hour comic is what got me thinking about it again because truly it just... it seems like such a like an offhand comment that I'm sure Laios didn't mean to be cruel or anything. That's just like. A little kid not thinking about what they are saying. ESPECIALLY when the kid in question is Laios.

But man they depended on each other SO much as kids. Too much. It really feels like they didn't have any other source of positive reinforcement, or anyone else to share themselves with. So of course an offhand comment like that has a huge impact on Falin.

Or this little bit from one of the flashbacks:

This tears me apart. Do you think it tears him apart to think about? I think it does. I think Laios holds every small failure to care for Falin against himself.

And then there's the Bigger stuff. The way that him coping with his own trauma ended up impacting her.

Like his interest in monsters. Like him going to find a ghost, and accidentally revealing Falin's magic to the whole village in the process.

Like him needing to leave. And leaving her behind.

He shaped her life so much, and he carries so much guilt for it. And again, there should have been other people there to help. The same things that made Laios need to leave home are the things that made his leaving so hard on Falin. She ate alone after that. She shouldn't have had to eat alone just because Laios wasn't there.

She was 9 when he left for school, and he was 11.

Nine. And Laios feels like he failed her because he didn't stand by her through this better. As an eleven year old.

Both of these kids deserved so much better from the world.

[kooldewd123]

there's something to be said about the choice to use "prince" as the main signifier of military rank for the andalites. because it kinda obscures the truth of the situation, doesn't it? a group of kids getting magic powers from an alien prince sounds whimsical and delightful. a group of kids getting pulled into a war by an alien colonel sounds tragic and horrible. the slow reveal of what "prince" actually means over the course of the early books is perhaps the most underrated twist of the entire series, because it fundamentally recontextualizes the entire premise of the series without the reader even consciously realizing it.

[drunk-werewolf]

[somnimagus]

My page for @sheikahzine; about Impaz's duty to her village, empty of people and full of memories.

[id in alt text]

[yogurthoopsart]

The concept of "the lamb actually legitimately hates the bishops" and "the lamb didn't know that saving them from purgatory meant they'd be joining their cult" is really funny to me. What do you mean I'm suddenly the boss of the guy who killed my family.

[ryllen]

i have no other reason of drawing this, other than i just want to

[rawrsatthetree]

Tired: Tav that’s good for Astarion cause they play therapist and give him support and space to heal

Wired: Tav that’s good for Astarion cause they’re such a disaster he has to get his shit together cause gods above one of them needs to be a functional adult

[icewindandboringhorror]

On average, what is the total MONTHLY amount that you spend on dining out*?

*(This doesn't only count going out to restaurants, but also stuff like picking up fast food to bring home, getting a coffee on the way to work, getting a premade sandwich from a grocery store deli during lunch, buying a quick snack from a convenience store or food cart whilst walking somewhere, ordering a pizza or any other food to be delivered to your home, etc.)

*(If you often dine out in groups/as a household: calculate and divide the costs so that you get a Per Person average. This is for YOU individually, NOT the total household/group costs)

(I'm sure polls similar to this have been made before (very common topic), I just haven't personally seen one that I can remember, so, I was curious to do my own! I was discussing this with a group of people today and it was very interesting to see how widely the number varied between individuals. :0c )

(Reblog for bigger sample size if you can, and feel free to explain your answer in tags if there's anything extra to add!)

[hoofpeet]

Cleanup <3

[sunlit-mess]

consumed by the inevitable

[citrusai]

taash said "they were doing it" and people ran with the interpretation of an npc that doesn't know solas or the history of the elvhenan even when bellara interjected and said, no, that's not right. that's not how it was for the elvhenan. they formed bonds before they had physical bodies. and people ran to doompost or create weird anti-solavellan shit even though mythal & solas refer to each other as old friends and when she releases him there is no tenderness or love in it. it is the act of unchaining a dog from his post, the stepping down of a general. but to each their own ig.

[bromantically]

some of u are very mean about things u think every person should know. if u really want to make a difference in what a person knows maybe u can just tell them instead of shaming and guilting them for not knowing what u assume they "should"

[saturnvs]

am overcome with nostalgia and i must draw her

[ruporas]

can’t talk about it

[ID: Black and white comic of Vash and Wolfwood from Trigun Maximum. The comic starts with the sounds "thud, thud, click". Vash, mid-action of peeling an apple, turns to the sound, noticing who it was that entered, and says, "Oh, Wolfwood, you're back." He resumes back to his apple in the next panel as he speaks, "Where'd you go? You snuck out of bed quickly this morning..." Wolfwood's hand then enters the panel, hovering over Vash's cheek and Vash looks up as Wolfwood asks, "Can I?" Vash responds, "Not going to talk about it?" while using a hand to gently hold Wolfwood's hovering hand and presses a kiss to his inner palm.

Vash then gets up fully, setting down the knife down on the table and the apple onto a plate, He leans into Wolfwood as Wolfwood explains, "Had to meet someone. Nothing interesting to talk about." Vash kisses Wolfwood's left cheek and a hand moves to cup his other cheek while muttering, "You're being vague." Wolfwood says neutrally, "If yer really that curious, keep askin'. We  can talk about that instead of doing this." Vash leans back and responds, "Let's talk after, since... You look so tired."

The panel pans to a close up of Wolfwood's downcast eyes, bags heavy underneath his eyes. He doesn't allow Vash to sit in that moment for long though, then saying, "Yer not helping, Spikey. Being all slow with it... I could fall asleep right now." He moves his hand to start unclasping Vash's coat, starting from his collar. Vash with red cheeks, responds briskly, "Oh, shut up. I'm worried about you. I can't be worried?"

The final shot shows Wolfwood's back to the viewer while Vash's softened expression can be seen as he holds gently onto the side of Wolfwood's face and a hand firm on his waist. Wolfwood responds, "I'm fine, seriously," pausing for a moment before continuing, "Is it okay to still..?" Vash responds, "Yeah, it's okay."

The next image is a shot from later that night after the previous comic. Vash and Wolfwood are now in bed, half naked. Wolfwood's buries his face into Vash's chest, his arms wrapped around him, while Vash is petting at his hair. Vash reminds him, "Hey. You said we'd talk about it." Wolfwood pauses for a moment before piping up, "In the morning? I'm sleepy." Vash says, "Okay..."

The next two pages start from the morning after. Wolfwood is already fully awake, pulling on his outer jacket as he says to Vash, whos' still bundled in his blankets, "Breakfast is on the table. Make sure to eat it. I'm going to grab some things in town and then we're leavin'. Got it?" Vash says, "Mh." Wolfwood responds, "Good. See ya in a bit." The dialogue starts to shift into Vash's inner thoughts now, as he gets up and eats toast, thinking, "Wait. Weren't we supposed to... talk about it?" The next shot then shows him fully up, meeting Wolfwood in town. He carries a half worried expression with him while Wolfwood slides on his glasses for him. A quick panel shows Wolfwood's tired expression from the night before and quickly juxtaposes with Wolfwood in front of him who's smiling gently, the shades covering his eye bags. Wolfwood asks him, "Still not awake yet?" Vash pauses, his thoughts stirring, thinking, "Oh. I guess I was getting ahead of myself... thinking you owe me that kind of honesty." He smiles at Wolfwood and responds, "I'm awake!" His thoughts continue, "Maybe one day, you'd trust me enough to share your burdens."

The final image shows Wolfwood pulling at Vash's cheek and Vash complains, "Owwwww why..." Wolfwood quickly says, "You were thinking something stupid, right? It's all over yer face." Vash mutters, "Nooo, I wasn't..." END ID]

[rayhantochtli]

Stressed out