#the autism best the adhd this time

[stagefoureddiediaz]

For one horrible moment I thought I’d deleted my character costumes spreadsheet and I was about to ugly cry for the next year

Thankfully I remembered saved a copy on my Cloud storage so I was able to get it back 😮‍💨

[maxgicalgirl]

Being a “Fun Fact !” kind of autistic is all fun and games until you get halfway through sharing an interesting tidbit and realize that it probably wasn’t appropriate to share in polite company and now you have to deal with the consequences :(

[geek-22]

[cathalbravecog]

A very self indulgent drawing of Misty I've been working on for a few weeks... On and off. But now it's here! :]

[a-concert-just-for-me]

QB ADHD test is crazy for autists bc tell me why you’re gonna strap this super uncomfortable headband to my head and also have the lights bright in the room bright af and then have the laptop flash images at me too

Like????????

[batfamfucker]

There are four main types of Batfam fans in regard to how people interpret Bruce Wayne as a dad (/Joking. This is mostly satire and should not be taken seriously):

Fans that think Bruce is emotionally constipated and isn't the best at being a parent but still tries (Differs per person). Don't necessarily think he's absuive but thinks he can be toxic or have unhealthy expectations for the Robins. Can smell the Oldest Daughter Syndrome coming from Dick and have Family Line (By Conan Gray) as their top song on their Dick inspired playlist and Daddy Issues (By The Neighbourhood) for Jason.

Fans that choose to believe Bruce goes to therapy in their own canon. Love B:WFA. Thinks the comic can be cheesy at times and so find a balance between B:WFA Bruce and Please Go To Therapy BruceTM as their middle ground. He struggles. They advocate that Bruce is not a bad parent, he just has bad writers that seem to forget Bruce wouldn't hurt kids, especially not his own. Love the humane moments and scenes he has in BTAS and the early JL cartoons. He may not be perfect but he's not literally abusive. Whores for Bruce being able to admit when he is wrong and for Jason and Bruce reconciling. I recommend Grow As We Go by Ben Platt for this one.

A mix between the first two. Was fine-ish when Dick was younger. Didn't help him in the healthiest way but eh. Still emotionally constipated but that happened more so after Dick left and Jason died. Started getting better when Tim came back but was still closed off. Should probably go to therapy with the kids so they can drag his ass about all the things he's done that have actually affected them negatively. Understands his mistakes and is also able to admit when he's wrong, eventually. It's not easy but he starts to do better and learns to be more emotionally available. Still has to get chewed out by Alfred sometimes but definitely better than he used to be and it shows. Reconciliation is slow and gradual but progress is made for everyone involved.

The one's I personally avoid for my own sanity and wellbeing:

Think Bruce is a complete bastard and abuser. Want him to choke. Hate any and all interpretations of him. Some of which will refuse to understand how anyone could have a different interpretation. Will point out comics where, in all fairness, he is a dick but forget that characterisation can significantly differ from one series to the next, as comic characters are constantly passed around to different writers and have been for decades. Not to mention movies, shows, etc.

[autisticlee]

no one knows just how hard I work at things. how I have to work 1000000x more than the average person to compensate for being autistic and adhd and probably other things i'm working out with therapist, and having a sort of physical disability i've not received any help or treatment for. everyone assumes I don't try or give up too soon. they think I just started, need more practice. they think I expect everything handed to me immediately with no work or effort and don't acknowledge the multiple years i've put into things. they think I have no right to be upset about still failing to get where I want even after working my entire life to get there, while watching people around me surpass even my meager goals within a fraction of the time and work i've out into the same thing. constantly getting surpassed by everyone around me who seem to barely do any work to get there compared to me. it's all handed to them and falls into their lap so easily. all because they don't have the extra obstacles to overcome and work around that I do. while they go from point A to Z immediately with no major stops in between, I have to go through every single letter and then some, often getting sent back to the start. but it's always *my* fault, according to everyone. it's not the fault of those around me who ignore me, don't support me, don't help me, don't believe in me, etc. it's my fault they don't do those things. because doing the work of 10 people in one isn't enough, just because it's me. and not reaching Z as fast as everyone else means I don't deserve any of the support or help or anything else and means i'm not trying hard enough. it doesn't matter that I *need* to work harder than 100 "normal" people combined to get even half the result! Just because I can't reach what they do means i'm not trying hard enough! ugh.

[wprowers]

CANT STOP THINKING ABOUT PRIME SONADOW like what are we guys doing...

me everytime they were together: what the fuck is going on

[koraesrambles]

Let’s talk about Camilla Noceda

Everyone’s talking about what a great mom she is and how wonderful she is and yes, all of that is true, but she is also so much more than that. She’s barely been in the show, but the last two episodes have made her my absolute favorite character. 

Camilla is a neurodivergent parent to a neurodivergent child. I am a neurodivergent parent of a neurodivergent child. I have felt the pressure that Camilla was under to try and make Luz conform to the standard. I’ve felt the fear tactics people use to try and get you to doubt your instincts and instead try to change your child, and seeing that on screen and seeing Camilla reject that means the absolute world to me. 

I am so scared, all of the time. I’m constantly worried about how I’m messing them up. I’ve been entrusted with teaching them how to function in this world, but I don’t feel like I function in it well most of the time. And then I have all of these people constantly telling me that there’s something wrong with my child. That want him to stop bouncing, stop singing, stop clicking, stop yelling (in excitement, but also sometimes in rage), stop the task he’s doing, do a different task, do what they say, not what he wants. I have to somehow help him navigate the demands of the world without forcing him to just accept mindless compliance, but whenever I try it feels like everyone in the world is telling me I’m doing it wrong. That what I’m doing will make their lives only more difficult.  And I’m so afraid that they’re right. What if my kid is struggling not becacuse of something intrinsic about them, but because I’m not doing a good job parenting them and teaching them the skills they need? 

Camilla has made mistakes. I know everyone is talking about how she’s the perfect mom, but what I love the most about her is that she isn’t perfect. She made poor choices that negatively affected Luz. Luz felt accepted at home but pressured to be someone else by her mother at school and in public. She’s afraid of other children her age, she was constantly getting reprimanded for being her overthetop self.

Camilla made choices that resulted in Luz having trauma.

But Luz loves her anyway. and Luz FEELS loved by her anyway. She knows how much her mother loves and adores her, how much she wants Luz to be accepted, and she never blames Camilla for any of it. 

Camilla Noeda said to me, “It’s okay that this is hard, and that you’re still learning. Keep trying, keep learning, you will figure it out.” And I needed to hear that message. I needed someone to say, “It’s okay if you don’t do everything perfect. Just listen and keep giong.” I needed someone to say it’s okay that I don’t want to change my neurodivergent child. I needed someone to say that they saw me and saw how hard I was trying and that effort is appreciated EVEN IF it won’t be enough to stop the world from making life hard for my child. We’re in it together. We’re a team. 

Thank you Dana, for including a mom who loves her kid so much. Who wants what’s best for her, who wanted her to be able to navigate the real world, and learns that Luz can navigate the world in whatever way she pleases. Thank you for showing a parent who messed up but isn’t evil. Who listens, and learns, and keeps trying. I needed that. I cannot tell you how much I needed that. 

[bleeding-hart]

God I can't fuckin catch a break my adhd keeps pelting me with so many things to be obsessive about and my autism makes sure that if I don't interact with them I'm gonna feel like my chest is being torn out and I'm dying slowly but my adhd doesn't let me actually choose one to interact with cause it keeps bringing up the others but my autism is panicking about that because I need to have a Thing to do

I just want to like. Read, write or draw in peace. Is that too much to ask for. Five minutes

I missed having a hyperfixation when I didn't for a month or so but I forgot how extreme my brain gets about them ig they're called hyper for a reason

[always-a-slut-4-ghouls]

Meeting someone else with a shared special interest is wild because you’re either going to spend hours talking or you’re going to get into a fight

[castielafflicted]

therapy review: apparently the combination of my fear of praise and my need for praise to feel like what I've done matters does actually come from the same chronic trauma. also the fact that praise when I don't think I deserve it making me nauseous is in fact a fear of praise.

[casual-eumetazoa]

complained to my psychiatrist that some of my meds are making it harder to focus and she started asking me questions about my functioning before I started any meds. well long story short, now I'm getting evaluated for ADHD,,,

[thelittlecoughsomewhere]

I was engaged in cringe social media behavior but I don't feel bad about it.

Okay I feel kinda bad about it. But more confused and frustrated and misunderstood.

[lavender-tea-fling]

Legitimately nothing better than watching someone’s favorite movie with them. Even better if they’re extremely knowledgeable about the subject matter. Like… don’t apologize for being brilliant and clever???? I wanna hear every single fact people got annoyed with hearing???? Who told you they didn’t want to hear it?????? bc it’s their loss to miss something so beautiful as someone being passionate about the things they love—

[goldiipond]

don and emma best friends. one of my greatest truths