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If you see an intersex person talking about how they were coerced or forced to go onto HRT to make them "normal" and your immediate question is "Do you think trans teens deserve access to HRT?" you're an intersexist
#intersex#intersexuality#actually intersex#intersexism#its an issue with consent not hrt#clearing out my drafts
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i wasn't a fan of the "i don't know means yes" line from today's ep because this is not how consent works and i wish people would understand that
#it's great that shows are talking about consent more#but they keep getting it wrong#like in what world does “i don't know” mean “yes”????#i also had an issue with the way they dealt with consent in hidden agenda#because not answering a consent-related question does not mean the person is giving consent#like what's the point of adding consent-related questions to your script#when you end up giving people a questionable idea of what giving actual consent means at the end of the day#perfect 10 liners#yothagun#sabrina talks
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i posted abt this on my tiktok story but i need to rant more so im putting it here 😭😭 the way a lot of mikosai shippers (on tiktok, pinterest, reddit, etc) are is such a big reminder to me of why i hate the strictly romantic soulmates trope with every fiber of my being 😭😭😭 people who interpret soulmates as "that means theyre canonically together" regardless of how the characters actually feel about each other and if they ACTUALLY get together is so fucking gross to me oh my god its so fucking gross i hate forced romance so bad 😭😭 someone cant just say "hey, we're soulmates so you HAVE to date me and its literally weird and impossible for you to like anyone else because i said so!!" and also aiura WOULDNT do that anyway ???? HELLOOO???
you have no idea how many people ive seen call all saiki ships with anyone other than aiura "problematic ships" just because "theyre soulmates"
#SOULMATES DOES NOT MAKE A COUPLE CANON <333#'she SAID theyre soulmates so that means hes HERS now and its gross for u to think he liked anyone else'#hey thats actually... really bad!! hey she actually cant and wouldnt force him to date her!!! hey what the fuck!!!#not a mikosai hate post#only weird forced romance likers hate post <3#if someone doesnt like someone then they dont like them... them being soulmates doesnt change that...#thats actually just not how it works and the idea that that WOULD be how it works is gross#and a lot of the fics ive read of them end up with aiura being all 'ha i told you so! i knew id break u eventually!'#'i knew id get to u if i just kept calling u my boyfriend without permission and saying we're soulmates!'#which like not only would she not do that... its also just really gross#like u really thought 'he doesnt like her so she wears him down and doesnt leave him alone until he relents' and like... u went with that?#oh...#weird...#idk maybe im crazy and also im having a hard time phrasing any of this#but it just brings up so many consent issues and it makes me really uncomfortable#like according to THOSE shippers it wouldnt be by his own will or feelings if he eventually fell in love with her#it would just be because the universe said so and he never had any choice#mikosai is so cute when u think of it in like the totally opposite way#in MY opinion i love mikosai AFTER aiura accepts that soulmates doesnt mean he HAS to date her#that HAS to happen before they date and THEN theyre really cute#saiki k#tdlosk#the disastrous life of saiki k.#meows post
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the neil gaiman articles so fuckingggg upsetting. the cover of vanity fairs quote being "call me master" is so fucking stupid and irresponsible its infuriating me
#the issue is the consent they did not want that#literally groomed into it bc of his status#and the bits about doing it around his KID?#until his KID WAS CALLING THE BABYSITTER SLAVE?????#ohhhhhhh ur going to HELLLL hell#boyposting#and once again im so wary of cishet polys like they openly were#everything abt his son made me actually sick
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Like Steph was a little annoying and she got beat to death after having an ally killed in front of her after being belittled by her partner and mentor. Tim was fucking annoying and y’all think the narrative hates him bc he’s not being put it the direct searing spotlight anymore.
#I’ve said this a million times#tim being ignored is actually very loving of dc#the way he’s being ignored. by being a background character everyone fucking loves after decades of runs on how awesome he is?#and how nobody will ever be like him?#I wish dc hated Duke the way y’all think they hate tim#and also. like I’ve been saying#dc hates tim but y’all would never swap the way he’s treated with any other character 😭#tim Drake#Stephanie brown#dc fandom misogyny#bc that’s what the fuck it is#even from you ppl therapy speeching em to death and chalking ur issues with Stephanie down to consent#bc if that was really the case y’all’d hate tim for not taking no from Bruce for an answer#but he gets a grace that nobody else gets#really like even along the vein of other white men he’s put on a pedestal#it’s smth about him being pathetic#I promise there’s more but I’m tired
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Please never assume consent. Touching people without asking is so fucking disrespectful.
#my text#its also a trauma issue for some people so don’t touch their body bc ITS THEIRS#okay to reblog#consent matters#consensual#touch sensitive#touch sensitivity#actually cptsd#trauma issues#actually abused
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it's not lost on me that top shoves mew against a wall and tries to kiss him but when mew stops him he backs off in the same episode that boston shoves top against a wall and gropes him but doesn't stop when top tells him to stop
seems to be lost on a lot of other people though😒
#you might also notice that when mew retracted consent top said he accepted it regardless of his reason#(inb4 after initially misunderstanding what he wanted)#because (despite what a disturbing number of ppl in the fandom think) no one needs a reason for not consenting to sex#it is also not lost on me that mew feels comfortable physically stopping top despite him being bigger and stronger than him#and top doesn't despite being bigger and stronger than boston#which (again despite what the fandom thinks) isn't consent and it's not because he ''actually wanted it''#(DO U REALLY NOT HEAR THE RAPE CULTURE IN UR VOICE WHEN U SAY SHIT LIKE THAT???? RETHINK UR LIFE)#it's because he was uncomfortable IN PUBLIC and probably something even darker given we know he has issues with sex#anyway#only friends the series#just in case some top haters haven't blocked me yet#ofs liveblog
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#dies dies dies dies die-#mushimizo#fukufuku#GOD YOKOMIZO’S ACTUALLY FUCKING INSANE LIKE BRO WHYYY#also fukuchi my man YOUR mental health is NAWT fukuzawa’s issue#and before someone comes at me with fukuzawa not going to war-no.no. he assassined. he has one order.#fukuchi violently killed himself infront of fukuzawa to change the trajectory of his life.#mister ‘all men are equal’ is gonna have to do a facism against his consent now#bungou gay dogs#bungou stray dogs#bsd#web weave#bsd yokomizo#bsd mushitaro#bsd fukuchi#bsd fukuzawa#fukuzawa yukichi#fukuchi ouchi#fukuchi genichirou#mushitaro oguri#president fukuzawa#zskk#zenki soukoku#toxic old man yaoi
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every day i have to hold my tongue when m-cd-nnis shippers start sounding like frat guys with the way they talk about dennis' Secret Feelings toward mac. hey man. i don't actually think you get it. i don't think you understand what's going on between them.
#HEY MAN. I DONT THINK DENNIS ~SECRETLY WANTS IT~ AND TJAT ITS GOOD ACTUALLY WHEN HE ASSAULTS HIM. CAN YOU BE NORMAL.#ada speaks#guyssss dennis is just secretly gayyyy its fiiiine mac is making him come to terms with itttt#he actually really wants all this despite his verbal protests you guysssss#fuck taking him at his word obviously dennis doesn't know what he wants !!!#like my brother in christ. when dennis says. It's Never Gonna Happen. Not Willingly.#he means it. the willingly part IS the important part#when dennis HAS a choice and when mac is not actively REMOVING that choice#THEN he is like. fine with it#but you people don't seem to understand what it is that mac is doing that dennis is opposed to#is it rlly that hard to understand that mac putting dennis into these situations like in ddl and gets romantic is intentional on mac's part#dennis' issue is. Always. he doesn't like being TRAPPED. key word.#this is why he resists time and time again not just with mac but with everything else he fights against#he doesnt like being out of control. he doesn't like being controlled. its not even that he wants to be the one in control#it's for protection#so when mac traps him. intentionally. in a way that is premeditated. when he knows he cant trust mac#why in gods name would he WILLINGLY consent to literally anything#like you look at the implication and the obvious parallels there#where he is recreating how he was made to feel#and its specifically about being trapped. PHYSICALLY in this sense#and you look at the fucking scripts and you see how many goddamn times the word TRAPPED is used#[GESTURES BROADLY]#like for the last time. dennis is not resistant to mac bc he has these latent desires he is in denial about.#he's resistant to mac because he doesn't trust him and doesn't want to be assaulted.#its about power. but consistently we see that dennis Doesnt Want Real Power he just wants enough to protect himself#like for fucks sake. yes. if dennis consents then obviously he's going to be fine with it#the problem is that mac doesn't care enough to get consent#and very specifically circumvents it instead. den isn't like. overreacting. he's right djskdjfkkf
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Thinking about Jam again and how angsty I can make the next fic after My Girl
Found this on a discord server I'm on lol and immediately went "me and the urge to make angst as angsty as possible"
#i could make it mildly angsty but overall fine#OR i could rip tim to shreds and force him to put himself back together only to kill jay and rip tim to shreds again because “its his fault#that post about the dangers of choking has me THINKING#like. ive already set up jays consent issues. i can go HAM with them if i want. i can make tim thunk hes getting the basics of consent#through Jays thick skull and then force him to realise that no. no jays still incredibly fucked in the head and does not understand his own#ability to say no or anyone elses. i can make him need several days to come to terms with what happened. i can make his system go crazy#trying to protect themselves from the emotional fallout of what happened and split a whole new person just to handle it because jesus#fucking christ literally no one they already have can properly handle dealing with Jay. and then i can make it so that they HAVE to go to#benedict hall together. and I can make entry 80 happen. i can make Jay die because Tim insisted they split up because he still cant handle#being around Jay again yet (which. fair im not gonna blame him i dont think anyone would wanna be near Jay after that lmfao. Alex certainly#didnt did he?)#just AAA i have so many thoughts!!!!!!!#how many of these thoughts will i actually write into SIL canon in the end? god only knows :D#marble hornets#mh sorry its locked#fic/series rated e on ao3#in case anyone would prefer not to read that#mh jam
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the fact that medical malpractice is just an accepted part of nhl player management is insane btw
#tz is expected to miss six weeks with a meniscus tear. the six weeks part is concerning because that implies they’re going to trim it#rather than repair it. which may be better in the short term but is far more likely to cause issues in the long term (e.g. knee arthritis)#i know this because this same debate happened with nba player joel embiid last season#and the truth is the biggest reason people opt for a trim over a repair is because recovery for a repair takes 3-6 months#and sorry but the fact that ducks org has agreed to green light this procedure for a TWENTY THREE YEAR OLD is insane and irresponsible#you already suck for the love of god let the kid take the surgical route that is more likely to preserve his quality of life as he ages#(but the org doesn't care because ownership doesn’t actually give a fuck about the health of their players and never has.#the eichel situation. mtkachuk being cleared to play with a broken collarbone. the list goes on.#why would they care if tz decides on a surgery that could harm him long term. which btw hopefully this is a case of informed consent and#they're not trying to rush him back against best medical practice)#note: i am not a medical doctor but seemingly neither are the medical staff employed by these teams#anyways. genuinely wishing him all the best and i hope for his sake that he makes a full and complete recovery without future complications#m speaks
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If Asmodeus was supposedly "connected" to Gabriel through his grace and was able to feel him, then couldn't this go the other way around? Just imagine Gabriel having a breakdown because he can feel Asmodeus pushing, and his own grace inside of him feels like an invasive force. Imagine if the grace somehow opened up a line of communication between them and Sam and Cas only got half of their exchange--which would basically boil down to Gabriel saying "no no no no" over and over again.
And then Gabriel finally regaining his resolve with the realization that Asmodeus isn't inside him. He's inside Asmodeus. Gabriel not even lifting a finger to kill him, but turning away and walked leisurely down the stairs while burning Asmodeus alive with his grace that was already inside him.
#rotating the concept of grace taking in my mind. it's actually so interesting to me and it couldve been explored a lot more#supernatural#gabriel spn#asmodeus spn#tw consent issues
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ALSO ive been rereading the comics again and its giving me so much winx/specialists and specialists/specialists friendship dynamics psychic attacks again
#brandon and helia keep standing next to each other and talking in the background during missions and its making my head explode#LISTEN ik 'omg theyre standing next to each other!!' is very fandom funny business HOWEVER#we all know background close proximity is extremely important in the winx verse the Besties are always paired together#listen aljdhglhdaglhgda#im just having so many thoughts about their literally nonexistent dynamic...#its all in my head </3#theyve only talked to each other on screen like once </3#ladkgljhgda#still obsessed though i think their personal skills match up really well!!#like specialist mission military wise#like helia in charge of holding enemies back while brandon goes in with the punch like ooo i know theyre practicing attack patterns togethe#aljdhgljdag#ALSO thinking about aisha helia friendship dynamics again im actually sick aljhgd#there's this one line where she says something along the lines of 'sky helia and the others' (others in reference to the other guys)#and its just... such a weird way to word that ajlhgdlga#usually they refer to them as 'the boys/guys/specialists' or 'their respective s/o and the others'#and i get that aisha isnt Really dating anyone in the comics so she cant call out her boy specifically#but even saying sky helia and the others like baby girl just say the boys...#its SO interesting to me that sky and helia are aisha's boy besties (in the comics specifically) like that's so.... OUGH#a prince who understands the feeling of having no freedom and issues of consent and her girlfriend's boyfriend#its so funny (and sad) to me how often aisha is florelia's third wheel in the comics#like i Really do think the aisha helia dynamic started because they just kept hanging out because of flora#its literally: would die for flora 🤝 would die for flora and i love that for them#thinking about that one aishlia cuddling panel again... sick in the head !!!!!#also bloom and timmy being besties i just :') i wish more people talked about them THEYRE SO CUTE#me rereading the comics for the hundredth time: ohmygod the blorbos... revolutionary...
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"So neurodivergent means rude? Is that it?" - my mother, 3 minutes ago, in the most condescending tone you could possibly fucking imagine, talking to my dad, assuming I can't hear her, after I was trying to tell her not to touch me without my consent (for the 1000000th fucking time) and asking her not to compare me to other kids my age, ending in yet another full-scale argument/screaming match
#she knows full well that my self-esteem is non existent and she wonders why#i'm so fucking tired of this shit#i'm so fucking tired#consent 101#is don't touch other people without their permission#it's so fucking simple and she doesn't fucking get it#she knows I hate being touched and she does it anyways#like just because she's my mother doesn't make her an exception#my brain isn't going “parental figure recognized sensory issues deactivated”#sensory issues#sensory processing#sensory processing disorder#adhd#actually mentally ill#actuallydepressed#actuallymentallyill#actually adhd#neurodiversity#neurodivergency#actually neurodiverse#neurodivergent#neurodivergence#mommy issues#fucking frustrating#fuck
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What do you think of George and carmen? Because I think they’re so fake I’m seriously wondering what George sees in her because she’s such a fucking fraud she lies about everything deletes stuff what she gets called out and seems so disingenuous. Can’t wait for them to break up and her to stop profiting off him
My brother in Christ go outside and touch grass good lord.
He is a grown ass man who has been dating her longer than you knew he existed, he’s fine, great even!
#asks#anonymous#wank/rants#tw sexism#not entertaining this for even a second#not to be rude anon but holy god- no.#precieving a private relationship based on mutually consented to IG CONTENT#is not even close to what their relationship will actually be like#there are issues the Carmen I do not feel equipped to discuss the same way I do the issues around gerorge#BECAUSE she is a private person I do not dig for more on#so I simply do not discuss her outside of her content with George and that’s it#and frankly her problems are no worse than the regular issues drivers create#I’m just aware of those
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i am actually really, really glad to see Ed setting himself some boundaries and then sticking to them. he said he wanted to go slow, to take it easy, and when Stede ended up not respecting that, he took the initiative to set some distance between them.
i don't think running away to become a fisherman is the answer, but i do think its important that Ed is removing himself from that situation at the moment. if Stede didn't respect his boundaries once, who's to say he wont do it again? Ed's got enough on his plate, and as they've said before, they're both impulsive! in the moment Ed's gonna keep agreeing with Stede, and then realising later that it wasn't the best thing for him to do. removing himself from that situation, taking away the temptation is a good thing!
#i got a lotta issues with parts of eds arc#but i liked this#i am in no way implying ed didnt consent to sex but that stede shouldnt have pushed#and that it does get a little into consent issues territory. we often see ed trying to please people; that he doesnt like to say no#and having set that boundary; having made himself clear; he shouldnt have to keep restating it!#its stedes responsibility to not suggest sex; not eds to keep saying he wants to take it slow#maybe when eds had done time; gained some distance and some perspective they can try again but i am actually glad for the split right now#ed was obviously thinking about how not ok with it he was all day and sometimes you have to do things you dont want to for your own good#nyxtalks#ofmd#ofmd s2 spoilers#ed teach#edward teach#stede bonnet#blackbonnet#gentlebeard#ready to get dragged over the coals for this take tbh. im sorry i have negative opinions about your innocent precious babies#its not 'gay speed slow' its crossing his boundaries#(also cant wait (sarcasm) to see all the posts about how izzy did this to them and its all his fault for suggesting ed does what hes#been thinking about all day or whatever#idk
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