#stigmatizing terms

[aspd-culture]

Apologies if this is a weird question, but do you think it's okay for people with ASPD traits to call themselves sociopaths / psychopaths? I have NPD + AvPD and a lot of ASPD traits (though I'm unsure if I qualify for a diagnosis of it) and I'm just wondering if it would be offensive for me to call myself those things since I'm not the "proper" thing?

So those words have no medical definition, they are just stigmatized terms. Just like with stigmatized terms for any other group being targeted, I believe it is the right of the people those terms are used against to choose to reclaim them. The only thing that I think is unacceptable when it comes to reclaiming (which means to me a person choosing to use stigmatized terms that apply to them in a positive or neutral way) is trying to use those terms for others. I don't take issue with any pwASPD or NPD using either of those terms for themselves because both are leveraged against people with both disorders (further proving that they literally mean nothing if they ever did). So in my opinion, you referring to yourself as either of those would be fine, but referring to anyone else besides yourself even if they have ASPD or NPD wouldn't be okay unless they are specifically okay with it. Basically, avoid making those "to all the soci0paths, I love you" posts (to be clear the stigmatized terms used are the only things I take issue with on those posts, the concept is very sweet/gen), at least so far as my opinion on this goes.

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So those words have no medical definition, they are just stigmatized terms. Just like with stigmatized terms for any other group being targeted, I believe it is the right of the people those terms are used against to choose to reclaim them. The only thing that I think is unacceptable when it comes to reclaiming (which means to me a person choosing to use stigmatized terms that apply to them in a positive or neutral way) is trying to use those terms for others. I don't take issue with any pwASPD or NPD using either of those terms for themselves because both are leveraged against people with both disorders (further proving that they literally mean nothing if they ever did). So in my opinion, you referring to yourself as either of those would be fine, but referring to anyone else besides yourself even if they have ASPD or NPD wouldn't be okay unless they are specifically okay with it. Basically, avoid making those "to all the soci0paths, I love you" posts (to be clear the stigmatized terms used are the only things I take issue with on those posts, the concept is very sweet/gen), at least so far as my opinion on this goes.

[npdiyozane]

How do you develop the type of NPD that makes you like negative attention (time sensitive)

[diarylikepurposes]

I think that some people are not so much genuinely concerned with over-medicalization of the human condition, trivialization of serious mental illness, etc. and are actually more just preoccupied with the concept of "posers". Which is lame as fuck if I'm being honest.

[mothmanssweetsucculentass]

I would like a Clockwork who is dangerously obsessive yandere. She will stalk (you) everywhere you go. There is no escape.

Honestly, I don’t think she would be, at least not in my interpretation of her.

She’s just not that kind of person imo.

Clockwork, despite her energetic demeanor and her “stab first questions later” approach to things is probably one of if not the most nonchalant pastas.

She doesn’t feel attachments super easily, and if someone were dating her and told her they were breaking up with her, she’d be like “ah, shame. Anyways”

IDGAF queen

Comes with the territory of being traumatized for years and being one of the oldest residents of the manor. She’s honestly hoping maybe the weird resilience and anti-aging magic (?) will decide to fail one day cause she’s honestly over it. And by it I mean everything in general. She’s constantly chasing multiple different highs to try and feel something again, most of the time it provides a temporary entertainment or relief.

[sickness-stricken]

When I see a cool term coining or flag design I want to repost but their DNI is hot dogshit

[photo ID: a photorealistic depiction of SpongeBob SquarePants looking dishevelled and depressed, smoking a cigarette. END ID]

[silenthillmutual]

there is no hard line between someone who is neurodivergent and someone who is neurotypical. it doesn't exist! there is no person who never experiences depression or anxiety or fear or communication struggles. disorders are a spectrum of symptoms and how disrupting they are to you and your daily life. even within the same label you will find that people fall along a spectrum of how disabling and how often, who struggle differently and cope differently. there is no universal experience. idk where i'm going with this. do you get me?

[theheadlessgroom]

@beatingheart-bride

In turn, Randall squeezed her hand back, as he drew in a deep breath. Despite his best efforts, clinging to the notion that his parents would at the very least be understanding once everything was laid out on the table for them, seeing that Emily really meant him no harm and that they truly were in love, there was no denying that growing cold pit in the bottom of his stomach, worsened only by her suggestion. A part of him sort of wanted to (however lamely) protest, instead suggest they save it for another day, and just enjoy themselves for now...

...he knew, in his heart, she was right. They would have to tell them at some point, and it was better to do it now rather than later; Randall had never been one keen to lie to his parents, and he knew the guilt of keeping such a massive secret from them would eat him up from the inside out. Thus, it was just better to get it out of the way-for both his and Emily's ease of mind.

"You're right," he sighed, as he brought her closer, wrapping his arm around her as he nodded, "They...they do deserve to know. I'll, uh...I'll give them a call in a little while, tell 'em when I'll be home, and that you'll be with me. We'll...we'll tell them together."

He punctuated this with another loving kiss, this one pressed to her cheek as he reassured her, "It'll be alright, Emily."

[thelegendofmrrager]

Gonna get on the stoner soap box for a second here but, I see a lot of ppl who smoke in the tags of those opinion polls saying shit like "in my defense I smoke bc (x)," or "I smoke every day I'm a degenerate ;-;" and that's not cool. Why do you feel like you need to defend yourself for smoking weed? It's not an action or lifestyle that is inherently evil, despite what the media will say, or ppl who are losers when it comes to weed. (To clarify: I don't think you're a loser if you've never smoked weed or have no desire to smoke weed. You're a loser if you think you're better than someone because they smoke weed.)

Like. As someone who has smoked daily before, sometimes multiple times a day, the only person who can determine how much weed is TOO much is YOU. I will say, it's good to monitor patterns when you smoke and take note of whether there are any outside factors that are pushing you to smoke. From experience, frequently smoking to ignore or avoid problems can cause cycles to form. It's also important to take note of how you feel when you smoke. Is it serving its purpose? On average, how do you feel when you smoke? If something has shifted negatively, that's a sign you might need to reflect.

Regardless of why or how often you do it, smoking weed doesn't make you a degenerate. Even if you smoke to cope with a problem, or out of sadness, or dissatisfaction with life.

[ominous-faechild]

so i'm actually going to share something pretty personal here but

in high school, i was an overachiever. i had a weighted 5.3 gpa, i took ap and dual-enrollment classes, and i was set up to “go far in life”, so to speak.

but i had undiagnosed autism and health issues my whole life. i grew up in an extremely emotionally abusive, narcissistic household. and i'd been somehow pushing through burnout for actual years by my senior year.

then my cat was stolen from me, and i broke.

not even died. just taken.

but it was enough.

long story short: i ended up homeless for two years. lucky me (in some ways; in other ways it just gave me different trauma), i was in shelters for most of it, but...

you never know who it can happen to. even the most seemingly-successful people are just one bad thing away from breaking and falling.

[sentientsky]

i’m no longer picking up terms like “narcissism” and “delusional” and “borderline” and putting them up on the shelf. i’m now chucking them as far away from the general populace as possible cause jesus fucking christ

[gloaming-sometimes]

@ all the people who use the term ""delulu"":

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by the way, for people who don't understand what the issue with "delulu" is, let me put it this way. i know a kid who uses delulu in day to day speech to refer to her crushes, or her favorite fictional ships, or other people liking things she doesn't. this is common. one day, she found out from an ex friend of mine that i used to honestly believe i was the second coming of jesus christ. when she asked me about it, i told her it was a delusion. she said "honey, you're not delusional, you're straight up insane." if non-psychotics take "delusional" and make it mean anything less than what it does mean, it leaves us with no word less than insane, or nuts, or crazy.

[autball]

MASKING MYTHS BUSTED: “Masking = Acting NT.”

FALSE.

Autistic masking does not necessarily mean “pretending to be allistic/neurotypical," although you’d definitely be forgiven for thinking it does.

Non-autistic researchers have been referring to it as “camouflaging” for years, framing it as an intentional choice to suppress autistic traits and replace them with allistic ones in order to “blend in.” Doing an internet search on the term will return several similar results.

But now, Autistic researchers are in the game, and their take is much more nuanced and comprehensive than that. (Funny how that happens, isn’t it?)

They’ve found that:

- It CAN be intentional but is often subconscious and involuntary 

- It is a protective response to trauma and feeling unsafe 

- It is often about suppressing more than just autistic traits 

- It is about identity management and being able to predict how people will treat you, not just “blending in”

Some people will lean into being “the bad kid” because they know that’s what people expect of them. Some people will even act “more autistic” because they know that’s what people expect of them. Others still will do things to attract attention in controllable, more “acceptable” ways to avoid attracting attention in unsafe, more stigmatizing ways. Not because they WANT to be that way, but because it lets them predict people’s responses better, which feels safer.

Also, there are Autistic people who can’t “pass” for non-autistic no matter how hard they try. That doesn’t mean they’re not masking. They may actually be working hard to suppress A LOT, they just can’t do everything to neuronormative standards.

None of these people will be accused of “blending in,” yet they are still masking their hearts out. When we assume they are not, we miss all the harm that masking is causing them. But they are suppressing themselves and suffering the consequences of that just as much as any Autistic person whose mask successfully says, “Hey, I’m just like you!”

(For more on this, please see the work of Dr. Amy Pearson and Kieran Rose.)

[junglejim4322]

Putting aside how surreal it is to use these stupid ass terms like unalive and grape and SA in modern vernacular it is actually so evil that things that are already stigmatized enough to even talk about are fully becoming bad words to even speak aloud along with how painful it must be to have your experience referred to in an almost comical way because someone is either so adjusted to internet speak they do it instinctually OR worst case scenario they want to be able to cover their ass when it comes to keeping their stupid fucking internet content monetized and uploaded

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

actually we in the community prefer the term "escape artist." yes that is the preferred terminology. no i get it's not what you grew up with. yes i know you weren't trying to be offensive. going forward maybe just try to avoid stigmatized terms like "escaped fugitive" or "killer at large". we are trying to move beyond that as a community

[nanogono]

generally I do agree with listening to your friends and caring for one another- but then you get those people who think all friendship is, is venting and y'all aren't even close- like i still want to help, but there's a limit. plus, frankly i've gone through so much worse i have a hard time empathizing especially bc she exaggerates to try to elicit sympathy- i don't know how to tell her she'll find more friends if she can just be chill the first few times she meets someone. anyway, personal rant. also, therapists aren't actually for venting at. all y'all whining about your 'stressful' days are why people with actual disabling mental health conditions can't get therapist. thanks y'all've flooded the market and it's much easier to help someone feel better about being nervous about speaking up more than it is someone who is a skitzo or manic and dealing with unmanaged hallucinations. Plus, the pay's the same so who do you think gets the boot? gets the seek help somewhere else? gets the have you tried [mentions the first two obvious resources out of the 40 i've looked into] therapist don't even treat people with "serious" mental health conditions anymore, smh. And it's all thanks to people like you probably.

? where am i

[pocket-mobster]

spent a chunk of last night trying to figure out if there was such thing as a negatively obsessive hyperfixation cuz the demon (my feefees) has been telling me to join the military for the past week (afaik i can not and would not) and i'm actually losing sleep because of it. anyway results inconclusive but the stupid bitch ass fire burns on nonetheless. it's happened multiple times before i started it, but i think it's safe to assume ritalin's bad for the baby (me i'm the baby)