#someone with more experience please

[astrologicaldreamin]

Out of all the persona charts, I think it is quite a shame that Neptune and Saturn are rarely touched upon - especially Saturn.

[lavenderprose]

'He would not fucking say that' only it's 'That child would not speak in full fucking sentences.'

[danielnelsen]

while i get where this comes from and it’s true to an extent, i reeeaaaally don’t like how people try to explain “trans men don’t [necessarily] have male privilege” with things like “some trans men don’t pass”.

like sure that’s the most obvious example (someone who is seen as a woman won’t have the privilege that comes with being seen a man) but you’re still acting like being a passing trans man is just a free opt-in to male privilege which is………kinda the issue.

[harmonysanreads]

I just finished reading the Phainon where reader is sick. And woahh it's so well-written?? I LOVE IT. like an insanely devoted yandere like Phainon?? he's so delulu... Poor reader, THEY SOUND SO DONE OMG I can just imagine them doing this when Phainon started yapping how much he loves them::

Like I can already feel their frustration when some1 so delusional it makes you irritated sm, ESPECIALLY WHEN HE KEEPS BREAKING INTO YOUR HOUSE

Reader when Phainon breaks into their house for the 6th time::

LMAO I LOVE THIS

You gave me ideas to make more memes for the interaction ehe

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Teehee! (Spritesheets your Wangxian)

[sensiblereblogifposts]

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[waterfallofspace]

is anyone else with this kink not into nose blowing, either actively turns you off or just kinda neutral on it, willing to put up with it in situations where you have to (like a wav or someone inducing for you, it's gonna happen so it's whatever)—

but if it's outside of wavs/active inducing, just naturally in the wild, from someone you find attractive (in whatever way, platonic, romantic, fully just snz-focused) you can kinda find yourself getting a bit 👀👀 about it, just purely because oh? your nose is bothering you, is it?

even though the noise itself still does nothing, or even makes you uncomfortable, the connotations... 🔥

[dramas-vs-novels]

"dom-drop"? For those of us who are slow?

You are not slow at all! I think it's one of those things where, unless you engage in D/s play above a toe-in level or make a study of it, you wouldn't have come across the concept. It really isn't represented in media.

I ended up explaining the gamut of D/s states during a session as a way to kind of answer really solidly what a Dom-drop is, so I'm going to put a cut on this just because it's a long answer.

I say it repeatedly throughout the ask, but just again to be very clear-- Everything is unique to individual people and their psychology, desires- anything you can imagine as a factor goes into how they experience BDSM play and D/s dynamics.

This might be exactly dead-on for someone, or it could be completely different from their personal experience. I'm writing the answer to averages. If it isn't your experience, that doesn't mean you are doing anything "right" or "wrong", you're just doing it how you do it. No qualifier needed.

So, BDSM play, D/s play, leads two directions if it's done to a strong enough degree. For some, it's the goal of the session. For others, a perk. For others, they don't even want it to get that far.

Sub-Space: Where the submissive partner goes. Falling into that cycle of obedience and reward and torment (good or bad, delayed orgasm or flogging or whatever you're into). It breaks a person down to a zone called sub-space. It's a kind of trance, where you're not quite conscious, and absolutely cannot give proper consent (it's WHY you have to set the limits and agreements before BDSM sessions- a sub in subspace might agree to anything, even if it's a hard limit normally).

It's like being drunk, so it's different for everyone. Usually warm, floaty, extra sensitive, some cry, some laugh, it's a world in and of itself. Pure instinct. Some subs are wholly non-verbal in sub-space. They literally are not there enough to even form words (I call this the best level).

Dom-Space: The opposite side of the spectrum. Still instinct-based, but... I don't want to say it's more "intense", because sub-space is extremely intense in a very different way, but intense in the sense of having power and control to do whatever you want and take whatever you want.

It's power, it's control, it's wanting something and taking it by force (as allowed by the restrictions around the session agreed to beforehand). It overwhelms and consumes because YOU control everything, YOU have all the power, especially if the sub has gone into sub-space.

But the Dom is also responsible for any limits agreed before the session. A sub in sub-space cannot be trusted to consent to new stuff. Again- think of them as someone just about blackout drunk or high as a kite. A Dom can go into Dom-space, but HAS to keep an eye out for their sub and make sure the limits are there still.

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Dom-drop (and sub-drop) is what comes next. Once the session is over and the sex is done.

All of that power and control and primal lust has to end eventually, and that's where aftercare happens USUALLY. Obviously in a scene like The Next Prince, where Ramil suffers a Dom-drop in the middle of a session- that's going to be different.

The Dom has to bring the sub around again, pull them up and out of sub-space. I've seen everything from wrapping a sub in a heated blanket and putting on a disney movie to taking a bath together.

Subs coming out of sub-space tend to be shaking, either sensitive or numb, and the type of play can make them sore and aching. Heat is always a good choice. The Dom usually holds them through it, or at the very least stays close enough for contact if they need it. If the sub just falls asleep, that's fine, clean them up and tuck them in.

But a Dom needs it too. They might feel unsure about what they did during the session, feel guilty about the Dominance and power they showed, be physically and psychologically exhausted. If they're working through stress or tension (like Ramil is during that scene), they could fall into tears even.

They need their sub as much as the sub needs them. Again, sub-space is such an uncertainty that there has to be some grace as to if the sub is even conscious at the end, but if possible, they need to hold their Dom, reassure them, and express their thanks for what they experienced.

The Dom has to express thanks to the sub for trusting them and submitting to them during the session as a way to kind of- this is me, and that is a different me. To put a line between session-Dom and themselves in real life, even if it's a 24/7 D/s dynamic.

And a way the sub can help is by accepting that care.

Like you saw in The Next Prince, when Ramil crashes out of Dom-space and has an unexpected Dom-drop mid-session, Paytai kisses the hands that delivered the violence. He showed Ramil he accepts him, trusts him, and loves him.

I also want to mention somewhere that there are physical triggers you can use as an exit hatch from Dom-space or sub-space. Eating some food, turning up the air conditioning, that heated blanket or bath mentioned before, opening a window to let in fresh air- environmental changes are kind of the easiest way to trigger it, because D/s play might include any wide range of sensations and sounds and sensory deprivation. Creating a ritual element to mark the end of play can help Dom-drop and sub-drop be gentle and natural.

Ideally, no one has an unexpected drop and crashes out of their space. That, hopefully, is a very unique-to-stress situation.

[leafdragon16]

* slams head through the wall *

Ok so - stop screaming it's just me - so we know Experiment!Wheeljack can growl and hiss and stuff, but can he purr? And/or does he act animalistic in other ways (territorial, gets the zoomies, etc)? (You explored some of this in the chapter where he's staying at the original Autobot outpost, but I keep having Thoughts™ about our favorite gremlin Wrecker so I came here to chat about him😅) Ok that's all, I'll just be going now

* awkwardly pulls head back out of the wall, leaving a hole behind *

[sticks head through the hole you left behind]

Good question! I don’t think he can purr exactly the same way that a cat does, but he definitely can! Much in the same way he growls via grinding the sections of his throat together + engine noise he could probably also purr. So kinda weird sounding but recognizably purring

He also ABSOLUTELY gets the zoomies. He learned how to control it when he was with the Wreckers back on Cybertron, but it still slips out sometimes (like when June found him on the ceiling). Lights and sharp movements attract him, so he would in fact chase a laser pointer. Shockwave probably figured that one out the hard way while making calculations. He naturally walks very quietly and has a tendency to freeze up and try to stalk anything perceived as prey. He also sometimes has the urge to just get up and walk around randomly (which Ratchet also got to see when he caught him sneaking out to check on Bulkhead)

He’s learned to suppress most of the more animalistic urges around other bots. Back when he was on the Jackhammer alone he was quite literally bouncing off the walls, crawling around on the ceiling, biting the leg of his berth, etc.

Personally I think if he cut loose in the Autobot base it would go something like this

[bvrialatsea]

sometimes i catch myself saying (in real life to real people—like my family) how sam (his little brother) is the best man for dean out of all his other ships, and that's including john (his father) because that he's the only one who's ever loved him "right" and because of so and so (all the reasons are also unhinged by the way) and then I pause and I'm like yeah, alright, maybe i got a bit too comfortable being publicly into incest.

and that's why i like to come on here.

[faerabbit]

listen i love snufmin as much as the next fella but most people i've encountered who ship it are like "ooh! aah! snufkin is so cool and mysterious, he must be dangerous (but in like a sexy way) and knows all the ways to woo someone-"

listen. listen. if snorkmaiden is anything to go by, then moomin would canonically be the more experienced with relationships. i bet snufkin doesn't even know how to hold hands /hj

[brettaking]

i am trying to focus on watching "the wrath of khan," but i am really struggling with khan's beautiful man tits constantly being in the way

[magpie-trove]

If Hunger Games is about the innateness of human dignity and what happens when you try to strip people of their humanity, BoSaS says an innate part of human dignity is responsibility for others and for your choices and is about the dehumanization that happens when you lose that

[buddietommys]

"Do you think we're soulmates in every universe?"

"Are we even soulmates in this one?"

[deoidesign]

I'll either succeed or I'll learn trying

[chussyracing]

He's not a Lando fan. He hates him and McLaren which is why we became friends in the first place. But he's a Max fan which well. Ofc Max is good, but I guarantee you he wouldn't survive the Ferrari experience from 2021-24 and come out with 4 titles at the end of it

to be fair, nobody survives that - hence why the drivers changes left and right in that seat. oh but wait, one driver survived through all that and you will never guess who it is 😁