#social decorum

[ivygorgon]

i'm literally begging people to relearn how to use earbuds and headphones. i don't wanna hear your fucking tiktok while im waiting for my flight.

[dailymanners]

When planning hang outs with your friends or acquaintances, try to be considerate of other's budgets. Unless you're positive someone can comfortably afford something, don't invite friends and acquaintances to expensive places or events unless you're offering to pay for them.

Often if someone is struggling financially, they already feel self conscious about it, and inviting them to places and events they can't afford can be embarrassing and make them feel worse about their financial situation.

It's also not a good feeling to be excluded from hanging out with your friends because you can't afford to.

So if you know your friend or acquaintance is struggling, invite them to places that are cheap or free, or offer to pay for them.

In some places, social decorum used to dictate that whoever invited is supposed to pay, so if you invited friends to go to a cafe or bar you were supposed to pay for their drinks. That's typically not expected anymore in most places, so depending on where you live, you don't have to stress about not being able to invite friends out for coffee or drinks if you're unable to afford paying for someone else.

However, if you can afford it, it's still a kind and polite gesture to offer to pay for your friends if you were the one who invited them out. Especially because you're less likely to hurt the pride of a financially struggling friend if you insist you're only paying for them because it's good social decorum that whoever invited is the one who should pay.

[flufflecat]

Today I got to have an entire 3 message long dm convo with Alex Hirsch. I am never getting over this high.

[shjapologist]

kabru/laios is like...medieval fantasy johnkat

[microwaving-tesilid-argente]

tiny tesilid & ailette that the artist Grrr doodled (source)

"Have a great Chuseok!!"

(For context, Chuseok is a holiday from next Mon-Wed. There wasn't supposed to be a chapter this week but the hiatus got cancelled)

[lotus-pear]

op what if you didnt share any skk fanart. Out of spite. But also thats so stupid!!! Learn some basic human decency ffs

NOW THIS IS A CONCEPT ANON…..no more skk art until some of you learn how to fucking behave. prove to me you know how to respect someone’s boundaries and i’ll think about sharing skk art again /hj

[cautiousconfidence]

@devkanya sent a meme:

❝  you haven’t heard of me?  how refreshing.  ❞

"Don't flatter yourself. I don't do anything more than I need to." He glanced up at the woman who'd joined him at the table he was sitting at in the House of Daena. "Unlike some of the scholars you'll find here, I place value in learning facts, not spending my time socializing and making idle chit-chat."

And then he turned his gaze back to his book.

"Speaking of that, idle chit-chat is boring. Either tell me what you want or find someone else."

[vxctorx]

@consvlting​​​

  ❝—Here comes your favourite person in the world—oh!❞ Her resounding entrance comes to a halt as she takes note of the unfamiliar young man occupying her brother’s rooms. ❝—Who are you? Are you Vic’s roommate? I didn’t know you could get roommates here.❞    

[banana-split-bitch-club]

Virtue calling elitism legitimately makes me want to blow my brains out. You can generate such cheap faux authority by spewing out a bunch of hot trash GIBBERISH and complain about shit not being to your “liking” and still have equally brain dead idiots back you up. My brother in ever loving FUCK you are on a FREE app with FREE content, PEOPLE ARE DIFFERENT! Yet people just can’t help but complain about free content/art/work not being exactly how they like it even though they have contributed absolutely nothing in the creative/thought process. Y’all need reality checks, your ego is showing

[insightfultake]

The Paradox of Public Space

It was a blistering afternoon in Varanasi, the kind of heat that made the air shimmer in waves and the asphalt buckle beneath the weight of the sun. Vikram stepped off the crowded bus, wiped his brow with the sleeve of his shirt, and set out toward the Ganges, hoping for a breath of cool air by the riverbanks. The streets were thick with the scent of curry, incense, and the occasional cloud of diesel exhaust.

As he walked, he couldn’t help but notice the familiar scene: a group of men casually urinating against a wall near the market. They didn’t look up, didn’t seem to care. No one bothered them. A few women avoided the alley with a polite turn of their heads, but most people pretended not to see. The men’s backs were to the world, their faces turned toward an invisible horizon, lost in their own private moment of release....read more

[foldingfittedsheets]

For reasons known only to adolescent girls my friend Kate and I started communicating with extremely loud calls of, “Ka-kaw!” at some point during high school.

When trying to locate each other on the quad in lieu of cell phones we made do with good old fashioned screeching. The first call was always a lower tone. When one of us heard the cry we’d immediately echo it back at a higher pitch like dinosaurs playing Marco Polo.

This was probably obnoxious for all our classmates but man did we zero in on each other right quick. It was great. I never had to look for her in a huge crowd I just had to unleash my lack of social decorum in sonic waves. My only defense was that we only used it for out of doors. We weren’t monsters.

It served us extremely well the one time we went skiing together. She was a newer skier and got off the ski lift before I did after a stroke of bad luck and poor planning on our parts. By the time I had my skis on the snow I couldn’t see her. Worried, I took off down the mountain, not spotting her.

I planted my skis when I realized I must have passed her somehow. She couldn’t have made the same time as me. I threw my head back and shrieked, “Ka-kaw!!”

The sound cut across the cold thin air, sharp and carrying. To my delight and the surprise of several snowboarders going past me there was an answering “Ka-kaw!!!” from further up the mountain, reverberating joyously.

I’ve had this turkey post pinged several times, I can only say that I’m glad my friend and I aren’t the only bird girls out there.

[breakbreadwithme]

how am i failing to connection the dots. there are At Most five dots. very embarrassing.

[whining-ylthin]

Also telling the "trusted adults" either does nothing, makes the bullying worse in retaliation or has them turn against you and take the side of the bullies because they also think you're a "problematic weirdo" or get pressured by the bullies' parents to stand up for their "precious little innocent child being slandered".

Nothing like the teachers, guardians and even psychologists treating you like a hot potato to juggle, or a "broken thing" that has to be cobbled together with ductape because addressing the deeper issues would require listening to you and digging deeper into the situation, and that takes too much time, effort and also why would you listen to the dumb problematic child/adolescent if you can just psychologically beat them into superficial "normalcy" and fearful compliance - or write them off as societal lost cause otherwise.

no piece of teen media has ever accurately depicted the quiet psychological warfare of bullying. bullies on TV are always dumb brutes and not the evil geniuses of emotional manipulation that they are in real life. being given a wedgie and having your lunch money stolen is nothing in comparison to a classmate quietly creating a taboo against speaking to you that they intend to enforce against all the other kids. it’s nothing like continuous cutting comments from people you thought were being nice to you. that way that the work of one kid can make you feel like every person on earth silently hates you and that you are dirty, disgusting, worthless, creepy and useless. that you can have friends but many of them will not speak to you at school for fear of the social consequences on their end. how that damage lasts in any social setting for the rest of your life

[chiarrara]

Hey just a little information, the person @/darkeliite you just reblogged "grumpy toji" from is reposting AI art massively with their watermark on it and pretending it's their real art. It's a disgrace to all actual artists. I'd avdise you to blog them and maybe post about it so others now.

I don't know how y'all come on here and have the audacity to talk to other people like this.

How are you gonna come on anon and "advise" me to do anything. I reblog some random shit on my dash (like yesterday, by the way, not anytime in the last few hours so I don't know what you mean "just") and now it's my responsibility to inform the public about some random ass art scam blog?

Y'all need some fucking home training and some social skills for real. Here's your damn post anon. Never talk to me like this again.

[jackienatist]

I may be a cunt

[alabasterandpitch]

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

Fucks sakes why is the girl crushing on me asking me to play board games with her friends at her parents house I barely even know you AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

More to the point why do I always feel like a giant bag of shit whenever someone makes a move and expresses interest in me just like I'm always pining for???

Whoever said dating is fun was a fucking masochist I actually hate this