#so this is just in case someone is on mobile and has the same stupid problem.

[powpowhammer]

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[suzayaaa]

BOYFRIEND CRITERIA - 천러

pairing: chenle x fem!reader

word count: 1.5k

theme: non-idol!chenle, angst? fluff? hmm…, suggestive if you force it to be, bestfriends to lovers

warnings: mentions of food, cursing

suza’s note: the amount of time it took me to write this is an absolute crime

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“I’m coming over.” Chenle’s voice buzzed through your phone speaker.

“No, you’re not?” You frown at your best friend’s statement, but keep your eyes focused on the mobile game you’re playing.

“Yes, I am!”

“I won’t speak.”

“Then we’ll sit in silence. Keep the door unlocked.”

“Chenle-” Before you can tell him off, he hangs up and you throw your phone on your bed with a groan.

Chenle has been extremely stubborn about ‘helping’ you deal with your breakup. You two had become friends long before you met your now ex-boyfriend, and he saw every stage of your past relationship.

You always knew the relationship wasn’t going to be long-term. It was obvious, you two were too different to be able to handle each other. But you had fun, so you stayed. You never felt any deeper connection to your ex though—attraction was the most you could call it.

Still, cutting the strings off is always difficult, no matter who it is. Letting go of someone is a decision most people are afraid to make, but sometimes it’s inevitable. You knew you had to change something when the adrenaline wasn’t as high as usual during your dates and the makeout sessions became forgettable, yet you were too immature for that change. You ignored it, saying maybe it’s temporary or it’s just a bad day. After all, he wasn’t a bad guy, and you were scared to hurt his feelings.

You didn’t expect your ex to be the first one to break the bubble, and you didn’t expect it to affect you.

So, at first, you understood Chenle. He helped you work through your emotions and find yourself in a new, single, reality. His everyday efforts made the post-breakup depression somewhat enjoyable, and as much as you appreciate your best friend, you really wish he could leave you alone. At least for a day.

It’s been a month.

You’re all good now. You’ve moved on. The past is the past and you live in the present. You don’t need anyone to babysit you, yet Chenle still won’t leave you even for a second “in case you’re feeling bad and don’t want to tell him”.

That’s why you don’t react when you hear a series of loud knocks and the front door snaps open. You also don’t react when he yells your name so loudly that the whole building can hear, and you keep ignoring him when he appears at your bedroom door, a blush on his nose caused by the cold weather and two bags in hand.

He comes to your bed, stopping right in front of it, drops the bags on your sheets, and looks at you incredulously. “You’re seriously not gonna talk?” You keep your stare at the traffic outside the window, but see from your peripheral vision that Chenle started to unpack the bags. “I brought us snacks on the way,” he puts the snacks next to you and you can’t help but turn your head to look at them. “If you won’t talk, then eat.”

You watch him sit next to you and rest his back against the headboard, and you take a pack of your favorite cookies. You open it and start munching on a cookie in silence as Chenle plays with his phone while rambling about his day to you.

You want to talk to him, but you’re a woman of words. When you say something, you stick to it—doesn’t matter how stupid it is. Chenle is the same. You two are probably the most stubborn people on this planet, so you both always hold onto whatever comes to your mind. Yet despite your strong personality, he always finds a way to break you.

Chenle sacrifices every minute of his free time to spend it with you and to possibly make your day better. He spends his money to treat you and adjusts himself to you and your special needs.

You’re his princess, even though you tell him you can handle yourself a hundred times a day. The gap between the favors you do for each other is monumental, yet he never complains.

You rest your back against the headboard and decide to give up your principles again.

“Nevermind,” your mumble cuts his rambles and he gives you an unimpressed side-eye.

“Now you talk?”

“Don’t be rude to me. That’s my privilege.”

“Did that guy have those privileges too?” He asks, almost mockingly, not even sparing you a glance.

“What are you talking about?” You cringe at his weird behavior and put the cookie away.

“Who could I possibly be talking about? Or is there someone new?” You snap your head and glare at him as you hear him scoff.

“Chenle, what the fuck are you talking about? And why are you even mentioning him? I told you so many times! He’s my ex, I’m over him. He’s irrelevant now.”

“I don’t know.”

“But I do! Besides, he wasn’t like I want my boyfriend to be.”

“What do you want then?”

You stare at him, weirded out by the sudden change of topic, but you brush it off.

“Well…” You straighten your posture and look up. “I want someone handsome and confident. Someone honest and straightforward, a good kisser too,” you smirk at your own words. “Someone who will take care of me, a guy with a good sense of humor, and someone I have great chemistry with…” Your smile slowly fades as thoughts rush to your head, “someone who’s willing to spend their free time with me,” and your voice shrinks as you realize. “Someone… Um…”

“Someone what?” Chenle’s unreadable expression makes you want to curl up and die. You quickly try to come up with an excuse, but his stare on you leaves your mind completely blank.

“You know what, nevermind, I don’t know,” you cover your mouth with your hand and turn your head away from him. You quickly get up from your bed and try to leave the room. “Actually, I think you should go home now.”

“Why?” He gets up and walks towards you. “Because you just described me?”

You freeze. Your stare gets stuck on the floor and you gulp nervously, “Uh, what? No, I didn’t.” He scoffs again and looks at the back of your head.

“Right, there’s one thing you don’t know yet.”

He turns you around so you can face him and lifts your chin with his fingers, never breaking eye contact.

“You don’t know how I kiss.”

He puts his hand on your nape, carefully caressing your neck with his thumb. His eyes flick from yours to your lips and he’s so close you can feel his breath on your face and your heartbeat pressing to his chest. Your fingers brush against his on your chin and he intertwines your hands, pulling them down. You look at him closely, your mouth slightly open.

When your eyes meet again, nothing matters anymore. All you feel is his delicate touch, all you see is his beautiful face, all you hear is his quiet breathing. The smell of his perfume surrounds you and pulls you closer than you have ever been. He looks at your lips again. You nod your head and the butterflies in your stomach explode when your lips finally meet.

The kiss is all Chenle. The taste of the snacks you ate earlier mixes in your mouths, his warm hands calmly play with your hair and fingers as he softly bites your lip. You don’t want to ever let go, the tender touches and playful smiles make you go feral. Just as you put your free hand on his waist to pull him closer, Chenle stops and slowly moves away from you.

He looks at you and gulps. “Did I ruin us?”

Your eyes stay focused on his pink and slightly swollen lips. It’s like he put a spell on you, all you can think of is the euphoria you felt seconds ago. “No, not at all.” You wrap your arms around his neck and close the gap between you one more time.

Chenle breaks out into a smile and kisses you back, this time more confidently. His hands go to your waist and hold you tightly, your fingers find a way to lightly pull at Chenle’s locks. The kiss is more steady now, more secure. Knowing the feeling is mutual puts you both at ease, and you use this moment to the fullest, enjoying every touch. You alternate between little pecks, deep kisses, teasing smooches, and everything you can think of until you satisfy your hunger for each other.

You pull away but stay in the embrace, looking into each other’s eyes lovingly. Chenle scans the blush on your cheeks and smirks.

“So, do I fit your boyfriend criteria?”

You throw your head back with a laugh. “Yeah. 100%.”

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[saraakpotter]

Water break!

summery: when Mary's water broke, she has to call someone, and that someone is y\n but, what if things go wrong? genre: fluff, comedy warnings: spoilers from Sherlock season 3 episode 3, pregnancy, giving birth, tell me if i missed anything :)

y\n, walked around the room and told the facts about the murderer. she was pretty sure that the victims brother had killed him.

"it's pretty obvious actually" she said walking back and forth "it is the phone, it's always the phone. i mean if he called his girlfriend with his phone then he should have it now right?"

"well he may have lost it" the victims mother said sobbing

"that may be the most stupid thing i have ever heard. if he got a new phone and If he has no history of losing mobile phones then why should he now?"

"it could have been a coincidence, things like this happen" the mother said and y\n rose an eyebrow.

"plus there are blood stains but no body, yet the victims clothes and bag has been at the same place he was last seen. everything except his phone" y\n said ignoring the woman

"what are you saying Ms. y\l\n?" the victims father asked putting a hand on his wife s shoulder

"i am saying that the murderer is..." but her words were interrupted by the sound of her phone ringing.

she ignored it and continued: ".....i was saying, the person who murdered your son is....."

she was interrupted by he phone ringing once again.

"i swear if this is from Scotland Yard...." she murmured to herself and then looked at her phone. it was Mary.

y\n sighed, glanced at the family.

"i am sorry, i will be here in a minuet" she said and then walked out of the room.

"y\n!" Mary said as soon as she picked up the phone

"Mary, i am sorry but i am in the middle of an important case can i call you ba...." she said but Mary cut her of.

"mywaterbrokei'mgoingtogivebirth"

"i am sorry, what?"

Mary took a deep breath.

"my water broke! i am going to give birth and neither Sherlock nor John are answering!"

"WHAT!?" y\n said and then suddenly burst out laughing.

"y\n!"

"i am sorry, nervous laugh. i will come to you" y\n said sighing

"thank you" Mary breathed out "wait.....come here now! i am not going to wait for you to finish your case...OW"

"but..." y\n tried

"NOW!"

"fine, i'm coming" and with that she ended the call.

10 minuets later:

y\n arrived at 221b Backer street.

"Mary?" she shouted her name

"y\n! i'm here, oh my god!" she said trying to keep calm

"okay, we are going to get you to the hospital, just....try to keep calm"

"i can't!"

"try!" y\n said while helping her walk down the stairs which was getting pretty hard with all the movement.

"y\n! do something!" Mary said

"i am sorry i haven't helped a woman give birth before! i am a detective not a doctor!" she says obviously nervous

when they came down the last stair the door of the flat opened and Fortunately John and Sherlock walked in.

"Mary!" John exclaimed "i saw your text i am so sorry" he walked to her and helped her walk to the car."

"oh, fuck i can't!" Mary said trying to breath

"you can just, wait for some minuets and we will get you to the hospital" John said getting in the car and starting it.

when he heard her gasping for breath he said: "help her!"

"okay, breath. it is fine" Sherlock tried not too willingly

"stop the car!" she said trying to breath

"sweetheart we are near the hos..." John said

"no! stop the......car"

and john parked somewhere near the street.

"great my wife is going to give birth in the middle of the road!" John said

"how, exactly is she going to do that?" Sherlock said calmly and then John looked at y\n innocently.

"don't look at me like that. i have already clarified, i am a detective, not a midwife" y\n said annoyed

"yes, but since you are the only woman here you don't have a choice" Sherlock said with a smirk

"wha...he is the doctor" y\n said pointing at John

"please" John said and y\n sighed.

"fine"

some minuets later:

y\n, John and Sherlock are at the hospital while Mary and the new baby Rosie are getting checked up.

"so, how did delivering a baby felt?" Sherlock teased

"shut up" she said and Sherlock smirked

[staringdownabarrel]

The Game hits differently as an adult than when it did when I was a kid.

Back when I was a kid, mobile games were still in their infancy. Like yeah, there was Snake and Bounce, but that was pretty much it. A mobile phone had the games it came preloaded with and while you could get new ones online, most people didn't. And while there was still that phenomenon of annoying little kids going up to random adults and asking if they had games on their phone, I feel like it wasn't as common.

For the most part, mobile gaming hadn't really gotten to the point where it was psychologically addicting the same way it is now. That kind of thing only really started up when I was in high school. Even then, I tended to write off the "oh, my mum's addicted to Candy Crush" stuff as just a meme-y thing rather than an actual phenomenon. It's really only been in the eleven-ish years since I finished high school, and mostly in the last five or six years, that I've really been aware of people getting super addicted to mobile games as a thing. (This isn't to say it wasn't happening at all before then; just to say I wasn't as aware of it before then. Keep in mind that I live under a rock.)

The other thing here is that back when I was a kid and watching The Game for the first time, it wasn't really as acceptable for people to just sit there on their mobile for hours on end. For a long time, the mobile phone was seen as a thing you had for emergencies only, and even then a lot of people wouldn't bother to take it with them when they left the house.

This did eventually change around 2009 or 2010, when even less well off people could get a mobile phone that wasn't just a Nokia brick that was really only good for texting and calling people. Once that happened, people started using them more. But before that? Nah, not really. The Boomer cartoons from the mid-2000s about Millennial teenagers always being buried in their phones were either making mountains out of molehills or based around the one kid they knew who was a bit more of a social butterfly.

So the first few times I saw The Game, I wrote it off as just being a product of its time. When I thought of video games at the time, I was mostly thinking of console games, not of Snake. I dismissed the idea that someone would get addicted to a video game as being something that didn't really happen that much outside of a few edge cases here and there where maybe a guy died at his keyboard after playing World of Warcraft for a week straight, and even then I thought it was mostly because they had no life outside of it.

Nowadays though, I think it was weirdly prophetic, and I'm not entirely sure the writers on that episode fully realised that at the time. People really are getting addicted to mobile games (and, to some degree, MMOs) much more than they used to, and that's largely by design. Those games really are designed to be addictive.

So while in 2007, I wrote The Game off as being a wonky fantasy written by a generation who were maybe a little bit out of touch, now I realise they were probably on to something. The idea that someone might design a game to be extremely addictive and try to weaponise it somehow doesn't seem as farfetched now as I thought it was back then.

More to the point, there really are people out there who'll do remarkably stupid things because of an online game. It doesn't have to be some propaganda campaign or anything like that; they'll just be mad that a certain part of the game isn't realistic enough. War Thunder in particular has a bit of a reputation for this--there's been multiple military personnel from multiple countries who've leaked design specifications for their country's tanks online because of the game. I wouldn't be too surprised if most spy agencies have people keeping an eye on message boards related to it just because of that.

I don't know if I necessarily think The Game is a good episode. Of the Wesley Crusher episodes made after he goes to the Academy, this is the only one that really falls into that "Wesley the wonder boy" trap a lot of season one episodes had where he'd be pivotal to saving the day. It's still a more interesting take on that concept because it's ultimately Data who does it rather than him, but that honestly could have been incidental more than anything.

What I do think, however, is that it's an interesting episode. It's the kind of episode that's definitely made me think as I've gotten older. My opinion of it now is that while it's not really the best episode, it is good science fiction because it was remarkably on point about the general direction society was going to go down and it inspires thought.

[ninthhousedyke]

Chaotic Academia for Broke Academics (AKA me)

As someone who wholeheartedly loves chaotic academia and its acceptance of messiness and peculiarity, but is sadly too broke to afford the style and too busy to do many of the things / extracurriculars I enjoy, I have accumulated a list of ways to enjoy the little subculture that has become academia without breaking your brain or bank :)

Look The Part / Decorations:

Collect pens, pencils, sharpies, and other school supplies from just about anywhere. Stack them in your desk drawers, inside little pots on your desk, or piled randomly in your backpack and pockets. If the pens and sharpies are all various colors that helps too. Annotate shit in pretty pink ink if you want!

Put pins on whatever bag you use for school. Loop cute keychains on it too if possible. Hot Topic, Spencers, and Etsy are good places for cheap-ish pins with witty sayings or dark humor. Put stickers on your computer / tablet / phone case. Same idea: dark, funny, witty, maybe puns.

Write and doodle on yourself. Put notes on your wrist, stars on your fingers, pretty words on your knee. This also helps if you can’t afford tattoos yet!

Stick stupid things to your walls. I have a mobile order receipt on my dorm wall from when my order number was 666. I used to cut off my name from Starbucks cups when the barista put a smiley face or a doodle and tape those to my wall.

Collect strange things and put them where you’ll see them. I collect Monster cans and Soda cans and stack them everywhere on my desk!

Get a simple ring, a simple chain necklace, or a simple bracelet. Wear it with everything. Rub it for comfort or when fidgeting so it shows wear and love.

Invest in a cute reusable water bottle, temperature controlled. Put stickers on it. Keep coffee, soda, juice, tea, or even water in it. Carry it everywhere. You look environmentally friendly and you can hit people with it if they give you trouble.

Go thrifting / antiquing. Look for clothes you like, obviously, but finding things with wear on them already gives a nice “messily put-together” look. Blacks, browns, beige, off-white, dark greens, and dark blues are all nice! Look for leather jackets, trench coats, hoodies, knitted sweaters, and cargo pants—all things that would probably be more expensive elsewhere. (I bought my trench coat for $5 at a yard sale and it turned out to be from Sach’s Fifth Avenue!)

Black jeans are your friend!

Black fingerless gloves are good for winter and just compliment most outfits.

Wear hoodies! Chaotic academia is about the messy side of academics, so look the part in a comfy hoodie! Pair with a chain necklace if you need something more put-together.

Paint your nails whatever color you want, but let it chip, let it be smeared. Get the polish on your hands.

Act The Part:

Keep detailed schedules that aren’t necessarily neat. Mix glitter pens with sharpie, write your assignments in multiple colors that have no reason. If you work best with neat schedules, then have colorfully coordinated lists with matching stickers. Keep a main schedule for classes and assignments, a second schedule for day-to-day micromanaging, and as many more as you need to remind you when to eat, drink, or exercise.

Have a workout routine at least once a week. Whether it’s going to the gym to walk on the treadmill while reading, taking a stroll around campus to jump in leaf piles or snow banks, walking up and down a stairwell while memorizing psychology / astronomy terms, or doing at home workouts in your room, just find something that you like to do to get yourself moving. Join a dance class or outdoor group if your school offers one for free too!

Watch crime shows / listen to crime podcasts. Old lawyer shows are also super fun!

Join some clubs related to the supernatural, film, Shakespeare, literature, or chess.

Watch psychological thriller movies then go watch videos on YouTube analyzing those movies.

Watch documentaries about space, disgusting history, fun conspiracy theories, the apocalypse, natural disasters, and literary theorists.

Read weird shit. Quote it often.

Listen to a wide variety of music! Listen to remixes!

Pirate everything.

Have a dedicated coffee order. Get it when you can. Savor it.

If you can study with music in the background then find classical music playlists, dark cello music, epic orchestral covers of songs, or soundtracks to movies and tv shows you like.

Doodle in your books and textbooks (if possible)

Write down random things you hear and see throughout the day. Save it all and use those things to write a poem or a story when you need inspiration.

Write blackout poetry from gothic novels, cosmic horror stories, textbook pages, classic literature, and mystery novels.

Write dictionary poetry.

Put a quote from a story / poem you love in your email sign-off.

[askthepsychic]

Nyx sighs, standing in the center of the ground floor of the tower. With her are Rey, Ambrosia and Aaron. Ambrosia looks at her. “Are you sure you want to do this? It may be better to let your questions remain unanswered. Even Aaron isn’t certain what the answers will be.”

Nyx nods. “I’ve been considering this for a while now. I have this opportunity and I know that none of us will allow her to leave this place unless she can prove she has sufficiently changed. Aaron alone would be more than enough to keep her here, or even force her to go back at worst. I… I’ve waited long enough to know what her answers might be”

Aaron sighs. “There is still a possibility that she might not even be able to appear. Her fate, like many things, is different from one universe to another. In some, she passes on to the next world. In others, she is left to roam invisibly in this world, powerless to ever effect the world around her again. Still other places have her ending up imprisoned in a more… mobile prison. And there are even places where she and you are actually one and the same. There are many possibilities for what happened to her, and if I’m being honest, most of them would prevent her from appearing now in some way.”

Nyx looks down. “ I understand. But I still want to try. I just… I just want to know if there’s really nothing to redeem her… or if there is something. Ambrosia, I’m ready. Bring her here now.”

Ambrosia nods. “Alright. Spirit of darkness, spirit of the moon, I call across the veil to you! Come here now, and be responsive! Your flesh and blood desires and deserves answers! Come now and be here with us! By your name I call upon you and bring you hence, Nightmare Moon!”

A howling wind fills the room, filled with the scent of brimstone and the sounds of tortured screams. Just as quickly as it comes up, it dies down again. But it does not leave nothing in its wake. In the center of the chamber, chained and wounded, kneels the mare in the moon. Nightmare Moon.

As the others watch on, Nyx approaches the obviously broken mare, a look of pity on her face. “I… don’t know what I was expecting to see when I first looked upon you again, but it wasn’t this. It’s been centuries since you last appeared in this world. All that time, have you ever had a moment to rest?”

Nightmare Moon looks up at Nyx and smiles ruefully. “Of course I have. The torture only keeps its bite if you are given reprieves. Otherwise you grow used to it and it loses the ability to harm you the way it’s supposed to.” Her voice is hoarse and cracking from screaming through her torments.

Nyx nods. “ I suppose that makes sense. But that’s not why I wanted to see you. I want to know. Do you believe that, if you’d had the chance, being my mother would have made you a better pony?”

Nightmare Moon sighs and lowers her gaze. “So you truly are that different from me. Early on, viewing the way your life was different to mine was one of my torments. I was outraged at first by how far from my ideals you veered. Then… I began to realize how much better you were for departing from the path I followed. In time, I began to wonder at… my own foolishness. That was when they stopped using you to torture me. The lesson I was to learn from watching you was fully understood. I haven’t seen your face in three centuries. Speaking of, I’m fairly certain your strong resemblance to me has been a cause of trouble for you. For what it’s worth, I’m sorry for that. But getting back to your original question. I believe… it might have been the case. When I looked at you, I felt something that I didn’t recognize. I had never cared for someone else before. But I saw you and I wanted to keep you safe. So I did the best I could to protect you. Then I followed the original plan and ended up imprisoned in the moon. It’s incredible. In the end, the sad fact of the matter is that I was… a stupid child having a tantrum. But I was a child with the power to do terrible things. And I lacked the experience to make good decisions. I fell into the impulses from which I was born. Look at me. This is my reward for following that path. I am judged, and the judgment is two thousand years of torment. Imagine what it would be if I had succeeded.”

Nyx sighs. “If you had succeeded, you might have been punished for all eternity. It’s been 556 years since you were defeated. I guess… I’ll see you again 1444 years from now.”

Nightmare Moon laughs hoarsely. “you really want to? Well, I’m looking forward to you telling me about your life. Until then, I shouldn’t keep my tormentors waiting. I’m going back now. I hope I satisfied your questions.”

Nyx nods and says “you did. Thank you.” As Nightmare Moon vanishes once more. Nyx sighs, then looks at Aaron. “Was she… honest?” Aaron nods. Nyx closes her eyes, then turns to leave as Ambrosia begins working to completely close the path left in Nightmare Moon’s wake.

[solrika]

Vent post.

Id put it behind a cut but I’m on mobile :/ also this is very ramble and not at all coherent but oh well.

I always have a bit of an issue with posts like this that are like “your trauma and how you react to it doesn’t make you a bad person” because. Uh. Cycles of abuse are a thing, you can absolutely do bad things out of trauma responses. You can absolutely be a shitty, hurtful person from a place of pain. (Staring at the entire state of Israel and its treatment of Palestine). Especially in the context of that post, which specifically mentions anger issues and addiction.

I’m not replying or reblogging said post because I truly don’t think that’s what op was going for, the greater point was “autism isn’t just sunshine and roses but can create real issues for people,” it’s just… an accidental unfortunate implication. But it’s late and I’m dealing with my own neuroatyoical issues flaring up atm so. Yelling about implications and the need for nuance and space for caretaker burnout on my own blog. Probably dealing with some buried trauma of my own.

(Also the USA healthcare system sucks for people who can’t easily take care of themselves, I dunno what it’s like outside the country but in here you need SO Much Money just to get barely adequate care for TBIs or Alzheimer’s or shit. )

There’s a little byplay in the notes that I think is important—someone says “I don’t have autism but I got secondhand trauma because my sibling does,” someone else responds “fuck you, of course allistic is making it all about them self” and a third person goes “hey it’s very common for the siblings of disabled people to be neglected in favor of the ‘squeaky wheel,’ I know it hurts to hear but disability hurts more than just the disabled person.” That plus some of the notes describing damage that autistic people have done (and largely regretted) to others… Disabled people can cause harm. That’s a thing!!! Being disabled does not make you blameless! Cool motive still murder!

And your disability can absolutely cause secondhand harm even if you don’t mean it to! My little sister no longer feels like the smaller sibling because my parents spend more emotional energy on me—and that’s a mild case, my disability only really began being an issue when we were both in college. It’s nothing compared to her friend, whose adult brother suffered a TBI and can’t live at home because it’s not safe to have a huge man around who can’t regulate his strength when he’s upset. It’s not at all his fault that he’s like this, but it’s a horrible situation and ALL involved should be able to say that it’s horrible.

I have done shitty things because of trauma responses, and I have worked really hard to create strategies to keep those shitty behaviors from happening again. I give myself—and others—a bit of a pass when a situation is truly uncontrollable. Or when someone is actively trying to ignore boundaries I’ve set to protect myself, but… that’s not the same as going “I have anger issues. Huh. Oh well! I will continue having destructive trauma responses and do nothing to mitigate it!”

I dunno. I’m sure some of this strong reaction of mine comes from being lashed out at by people in the midst of their own meltdowns, even though those have been more TBI related than autism related. Still. The meltdown was unavoidable but the ways they acted during were… hm. Not great.

At least stay away from vulnerable entities when you’re like this. My partner removes himself from the dog when he’s having a meltdown because the dog can provoke him into physically lashing out. (The dog has no idea, of course. The dog is very stupid and only barely understands what me crying means. ) He can’t control the meltdown happening but he can step away from things he could hurt. I really wish the people who hurt me had stepped away from the child I was.

I wish I’d gotten an apology, too. Like at least apologize for your shitty behavior, please!

(This whole “writing my own separate post and not tagging op” is one of those “hm. Am having Emotion. How to express it without causing pain to others” things I’ve tried to cultivate.)

If you don’t fucking MANAGE damage to others, others won’t want to be around you. If you hurt someone they are absolutely within their rights to set boundaries to protect themselves.

I dunno. I started at point A and I’m not sure where I went from there. Don’t be a dick I guess.

[virescent-v]

Hey, I wanted to come say hi! Also, I was wondering if you have any unpopular opinions on any of the BAU women?

Hi hi!! I'm so sorry, I just saw this!! Stupid mobile app...

Under the cut because I hate taking up space on people's dashboards :)

I should start this by saying that I am a new fan to the show who is watching for the first time. I do know a lot of spoilers and stuff, but I haven't made it past season 5 yet lololol. (school and work take a lot of my time....)

I think that most of my opinions are pretty....common in regards to the women of the BAU. Especially queer women lol. But here are some of my opinions!

Garcia carries the team. The BAU wouldn't be able to solve a case without her (and most times Reid as well...). Sometimes it feels like they reduce her as a character? That she's just this bubbly kid-like woman, but she's fucking amazing and deserves more. I liked her with Kevin. I think it would've been interesting to see her and Morgan get into a relationship, or at least a situationship, but on the same hand, I enjoyed seeing their friendship and how platonic love can be so beautiful.

JJ has started to really get on my nerves for some reason? AJ is very pretty and I love the chemistry with Emily/Paget but like....Idk. And I haaaaate that they've reduced her to woman-mom and I fucking hate Will lmfao. I can't stand his face or his accent lol. I think she's involved a lot for someone who is just their media person. I heard that later on she gets really good at profiling and I just...??????

Emily, of course, should have been a lesbian. I also think that she would've been a better mom than JJ. And my babygirl should've gotten some fucking happiness. It's crazy. If I had to ship her with anyone on the show it would be JJ but honestly, she needs somebody new. I was really hoping that she was the focus of CME but it seems like that really isn't the case? I hope that in the next season they spend more time with her and her character.

I was glad when Elle left. I liked her at the beginning but I hated her towards the end of her leaving. I enjoyed her being the snarky, sarcastic one of the team, but I just didn't enjoy her storyline towards the end. I was happy when Emily replaced her.

I didn't like Jordan lol.

I haven't met Tara, Kate, Alex, or Savannah yet, so I have no opinions on them yet.

Like I said, I feel like these are pretty common opinions that most fans have. I'll come back at the end of my watch through and see if anything changes! :)

Thanks for asking :) :) :)

[vergess]

Yeah the thing about 'the rest of these being legitimate gripes' is.... no they aren't.

For example, the phrasing, "tumblr allowed false flags" is a very bold way to reframe what actually hapened. That is, tumblr identified human run harassment campaigns and is currently working to end them.

We’re aware that posts have been marked with a “Mature” community label incorrectly, and the appeals process failed. We’re working to resolve these issues ASAP and ensure it does not happen again. We’re truly sorry about this, it’s not acceptable for us to mess up this process. July 21 2023, Changes

Or did you forget "working to end them" comes after "discovery" for some reason?

The actual quote was to the effect of "human interference has been discovered in our moderation tools and is being addressed." I'll link to the exact quote when I find it again.

But that has been manhandled into "allowing false flags" instead of "actively combatting TERF interference in mod tools."

This post takes "we are fighting this problem" and hears "we are all transphobic freaks."

It's especially funny to see "tgirl" listed as the example tag.

You dipshits may have forgotten, but tgirl is a term originating from sex workers and it refers to those of us who sell ourselves as a trans fetish experience.

Blocking a sex work related tag also being used to harass individuals on their personal selfies is in fact an appropriate approach while addressing an ongoing human interference campaign.

Or, should they just continue to leave a tag that many other websites refer to as a slur, where a bunch of people were being driven to suicide, completely unaddressed so that you can attack them for that instead? Oh, but tumblr should magically know the PORN AND HARASSMENT WORD is actually being reclaimed, and therefore the tag should stay live but MAGICALLY BE CLEANED UP I GUESS, but not by staff, since they're not trustworthy??

Do you want them to keep busting ass working to make this website you can use freely, or not? Which is it?

Or let's talk about tumblr live's "data scraping." The data tumblr live uses is your....... IP address. It has less data than you're fucking alarm clock.

That's the "location data" everyone is pissing themselves over, because they heard "tumblr is selling your location" and went fucking ballistic.

Your IP address, if you don't know, is the thing that connects you to the internet. Unless you use an always on VPN, your IP address is public data that every person on earth can access. You can get someone's IP via their discord, their blog, their anything, because your IP is what attaches you to the rest of the web.

It's "location specific" in the sense that all IP addresses in most countries start with the same 3 numbers.

If this were actually a data hack nightmare why would it be legal in the EU???? Or did we all just forget that international laws exist?

But, you'll note that the link to that one's evidence is broken. Deleted. Poof. I have no idea what that stupid post said, but I know it's a lie because unlike most of these people, I've read the goddamn technical specifications.

"Tumblr made live unsnoozable" is just straight up incorrect. Lies. Tumblr made live snooze for LONGER.

Additionally, we’ve increased the snooze period from 7 to 30 days. Sept 5, Changes.

Or how about "taking away accessibility features." In this case, replacing double tap zooming with pinch zooming on mobile.

In actuality, double tap to zoom and pinch to zoom are mutually exclusive accessibility features. Either you are accessible to people with low finger mobility (double tap) or to people with low muscle stability (pinch).

The "solution" in as much as one exists is to offer both options on a toggle. This is not a realistic expectation in terms of labour, however, for a company of 150 people operating in debt while their own customer base constantly lies about, slanders, harasses and threatens them.

Which brings me to my next point.

PartyJockers Et Al were not banned for """""criticizing staff"""""

They were banned for illegally and falsely reporting a staff member as a child molester. They tried to get a service worker killed for reblogging rated G anime art.

That was the issue.

They didn't like the fandoms a staff member was in, so they tried to kill her. (Oh, sorry, they ~abstracted themselves out of it by merely calling the cops~)

And now, today, people are still passing around these LIES.

Just sit on that. Imagine walking into a fucking restaurant, seeing the waitress has a phone background you don't like, and trying to reporting her to the feds as a child molester with the intent to get her killed.

You know. Violent crimes.

The thing you utter cunts keep saying people SHOULD be banned for?

But that's just the thing, isn't it. No matter what happens, you will find a way to be an indignant piss to service workers.

Or let's take that CEO ad blockers comment. It was made as a joke in part of a long, informal livestream, along with the suggestion to use an ad blockers service.

The JOKE was retracted within an hour, including multiple staff apologies for it being in poor taste. Staff user Zingring, 11 july 2023

Tumblr's dev team then continued their ONGOING efforts to filter unsafe ads, a thing they cannot snap their fingers and fix because ADS ARE SOLD BY THIRD PARTY SERVICES. You have a problem with an ad, report it to the AD AGENCY, tumblr has FUCKALL control of that, you're literally yelling at UNRELATED PEOPLE who are NEVERTHELESS working to solve the problem ANYWAY.

And now.

NOW.

You stupid shitfuck suckass pigstain bastards are harassing ANOTHER SERVICE WORKER TO DEATH but it's okay because, see, you're only trying to get this one to kill themself instead of murder-by-cop.

You disgusting little fuckups.

If you cannot be bothered to learn the basic truth, you can at least stop vomiting such vile lies and be QUIET.

tumblr staff have...

allowed false flags of 100% sfw posts made by transfem users (and blacklisted trans and trans adjacent tags) (edit: '#tgirl' is still blocked as of sept 8th, 2023)

taken away basic accessibility features in an effort to tiktok-ify tumblr

pushed tumblr live, a feature users actively dislike which is mostly unused and overrun by spambots, that also collects all of your data EDIT: staff deleted the blog and post of the user who made the data harvesting expose post (iamdealwithit), as well as rbs. partyjockers and iamdealwithit both had their blogs purged by staff for criticizing them.

allowed ads that can literally kill people via flashing / strobing lights, even if the person had it filtered, despite user complaints, with the ceo even saying people with epilepsy should "just buy ad free" in response to concern over potential death or serious injury from such ads

[NEW!] made tumblr live unsnoozable on mobile, ignoring backlash

[NEW!] a staff member is claiming that people leaving negative feedback is responsible for them being actively suicidal, an attempted guilt trip

STOP GIVING THEM MONEY! stop trying to make crab day or whatever else happen. paying for stuff from the shop is rewarding them for ignoring the userbase continuously and doing things the majority don't want, even if the things they're doing and allowing can cause actual deaths. staff shouldn't be praised and get profit for ignoring their users in exchange for trying to turn tumblr into twitter 2 ft. tiktok. (and now going scorched earth when you criticize them). at this point i don't even care for "staff are people 🥺 be nice" arguments, because even when people are being very polite in feedback, they're perfectly fine ignoring it in exchange for implementing changes nobody wants or asked for (now claiming negative feedback is responsible for them being suicidal), all because new users may like it more (and forget anyone who's used the site for years, apparently).

leave bad reviews. don't buy things from the shop. send feedback, even if they never reply. email them and @ the staff, send asks to the wip blog. don't just blindly buy into "we need to support the site, buy xyz shop product", they don't deserve more money for giving a worse product.

edit: staff have gone scorched earth and removed Every Single RB of the post exposing the data harvesting of live, as well as deleting blogs iamdealwithit and partyjockers for bringing up valid points against staff and their policies (iadwi being the one who made the anti-live post).

[allducksloveloveloveme]

I saw a post recently about how socialists calling modi a dictator negates the fact that he is one, because if he was, then we wouldn't be able to call him that. Similarly, india is not fascist because then we wouldn't be able to say that either. Even though this will not gain much traction, I would like to write down my understanding of the issue.

Also, the idea that all leftists seem to idolise the gandhis is by itself a 'gotcha' moment is somewhat comical. Indeed, there are leftists who think that the Congress rule was much more favorable. That the Gandhis were more 'socialist'. This is stupid. Comparatively, yes the Congress was more ready to tolerate protests. But the mobility of the left was just as restricted. The treatment of J. P. Narayan is one thing, but the suppression of the insurgency of the Red Corridor proves that the Congress had no actual socialist sympathies. You might say that the Congress gives 'freebies' in the sense that their welfare policies for the poor had a socialist tinge. But that can be said of all the parties in the world. All of them give a certain amount of 'freebies' to tide over the weaker sections, but this is not socialism. This is realpolitik.

The left does not idolise the Gandhi phase further because even under Congress, left organisations both at the student and the provincial level were created, did fight for their goals, and were similarly suppressed. Another example of this being the removal of the CPI government by use of the Presidential Rule decree.

Organisations like CPI, CPI (M) have existed even when the Congress had a 'socialist tinge', because this tinge is not enough for leftists. This is not the goal. Similarly at the student level, AISA, SFI, DISHA have existed since before BJP rule. The aim is not the removal of BJP or Modi, or the defeat of fascism even. The aim is to establish a socialist state. Not welfare. Not a state that gives 'freebies'. A state that moves beyond capitalist relations of production and is no longer engaged in it. Whatever that looks like politically, the idea behind it remains the same.

Now, I would like to lay out my own understanding of the term 'fascism' (as a history graduate, as someone who plans to continue doing history in today's political and economic climate) and to further lay out why india is becoming one. It is not one yet, but we're certainly sliding into it. Or, more likely that we were becoming one before the outcome of the election. To be clear, this election has not changed much in terms of the actual outcome, but by itself it is proof that we're not fully doomed.

First, to define fascism is tricky. The definitions that exist are quite confusing. So i will spare the reader the jargon and lay out its basics. Roger Griffin's definition is the most commonly employed: a political ideology that might in practice vary in its actual manifestation but relies in fact on selling the idea of 'palingenesis' i.e., rebirth of the nation to the masses, culminating in popular ultra-nationalist sentiments. This is supplemented by the use of force, by again and again harking to enemies within and outside, real and imaginary, to create a state of mass hysteria where one is made to feel that one can only believe the state. In this way, fascism is a step ahead of mere dictatorship: its popularly backed and even when the leader dies the ideology lives on. Again, this is my own interpretation of the definition.

From my own understanding of the definition and my experience 2014 onwards, I've concluded that we at least no longer live in a democracy. You are free to ask if we live in a fascist state. In that case, I believe that we're not in it yet. We're still able to critique to some extent the policies we do not agree with and the man himself. But, as someone who has been detained at protests, I will say that the right to negotiate with the state has been severely curtailed. Also, in that vein, calling him a fascist dictator and the country on the path to fascism is not particularly permitted. If these sentiments are repeated publicly, for eg. in university campuses or even classrooms, you will suddenly find yourself very much targetted. I'm speaking again from experience. Within state universities, the teaching faculty is often berated and sometimes replaced for their left or 'progressive' sympathies. We're often advised to not repeat such sentiments in public by professors and even parents. So, is this not in some way some tangible proof that calling Mr. Modi a fascist is indeed dangerous and cannot be done and that saying that India is turning towards fascism is similarly treated at best with ridicule and scorn and at worst with violence and suppression? Yes, you can probably do it online, but that is because it affords to you a certain degree of anonymity, so your actual safety is not threatened. But still the sort of vile comments that one is met with when such arguments are made (rape threats for one, made both in public and online) is enough argument, or so I hope.

I've also seen the argument that we're merely parroting what the western media is saying. We're anti-national, you say. Anti-hindu as well because we cannot stand the religion and its glory.

Most western media up until the recent election have appreciated Modi and his skill in the international arena. He's popular there, make no mistake. If you put aside a few indie publications, you will see unequivocal support of the man. In India, too, that is the case. Where it is not, eg. NewsClick, the voices are suppressed by the state machinery. What happens then is that there is a trial, and the judiciary comes to say that these people are actually not guilty, but the damage is done-- the people involved are ruined, the organisation is ruined. The same can be said about those who get arrested on 'urban naxal' charges, like Professor G. N. Saibaba, who still ended up spending a decade in jail. In this period, his mother passed away, and he was not permitted to attend her funeral. I want you to ask yourself why the convicted rapists of Bilkis Bano are allowed multiple bails for xyz reasons, but a man accused of having 'urban naxal' sympathies is not?

Lastly, scholars like Bipan Chandra, Harjot Oberoi, Christopher Jaffrelot, and Gyan Pandey have argued that communalism and communal politics are colonial creations. These are not given realities of the Indian system. They're very much colonial tools which we have dragged into our world now. Communal leaders and their supporters believe that the success of one community comes at the expense of other: there is simply no other way to do politics then. Communal questions seek communal answers and the BJP provides them.

We argue that Modi is fascist and that BJP is a fascist organisation because of its ties with RSS and his international ties. His ties with Giorgia Meloni-- putting the memes aside-- are significant. Giorgia Meloni belongs to the 'Brothers of Italy'. The party stands behind the glory of Benito Mussolini, the OG fascist, who came to be allied with Nazi Germany. The core ideology of BJP and RSS is the creation of a Hindu Rashtra. Again, you might say: what is so wrong with that? What seems to be the problem?

The problem, you might have noticed or not, are in his recent speeches. In what he claims to support and what he condemns. In what he says and what he does on the other hand. Those have gotten popular enough that one need not repeat his words. If you believe nothing else, then please ask yourself about the language he uses in his speeches. Ask yourself why you permit it. The state is subject to popular scrutiny; when it becomes the other way around, then you are no longer safe, no matter who you are.

You're free to appreciate his work in the country and outside. You're free to appreciate the construction of the Ram Mandir and the scrapping of Article 370. You simply have to ask the question: Why are you voting for him based on these?

[radiochick]

Pillars - Sunny Day Real Estate Review

This entry will be a more feels based one. Mainly how I feel about the ambiance and lyrics of Pillars by Sunny Day Real Estate.

At first you hear a low, mellifluous sound by the start of the guitar, drum, and bass synchronizing. For me it establishes the sound and feeling that I’ll have throughout the rest of the song. It brings a feeling of yearning for something as the song constantly goes between slow instrumentals to invigorating, heart-striking lyrics. A lot of the time you can hear him “shouting” his lyrics to get the point across almost like he needs the person to hear. 

Besides my biased opinion on how great of a song this is I would need to back it up with other credible sources besides my own personal opinion. I went on a small deep dive into the meaning from a site called, “Songtell” and they have to say that this is a retelling of a breakup due to, “the weight of misunderstandings and miscommunications.” It’s told from the view of the person who is trying to salvage the relationship while the other person has already moved on. 

Now it’s time for a small look into the lyrics. It starts off with, “But you were always one to stay the same, girl I know you want to be the rain.” It could be a theme of having removed someone from your life due to them “not changing” based on their stubbornness or an ego. Rain is used in literature a lot to show washing away bad energy. It renews you in a sense, but in the narrator’s case the ex-lover thought they were as great as the weather pattern; instead, they could’ve brought only misery. Let’s read, “And I know that you can feel the pain your eyes speak one hundred million lies.” What I can determine is that the narrator knows how much this break up has hurt them, yet their ex will keep a poker face to not show emotion. Not showing emotion could be used as a power trope to seem stronger or better than the other person. As they’re recollecting old moments that no longer matter anymore. The ex is trying to take a shortcut on getting over someone even though it takes time to heal. The chorus is written as, “Don’t tell me you’ve gone astray I walk in circles I’ve seen million things that tell me so.” This person is hoping to not acknowledge how the other party is over with the relationship. The bridge has burned and there’s no salvaging it in any way. He doesn’t want to hear that this person has left him as he constantly remembers the moments they had together. He’s reminiscing on something that someone else has gotten over already. They couldn’t care to be with him and this breaks the narrator. Yet, there are occurrences that show how this ex lover could have an inkling of wanting for the narrator. Since the narrator sees signs most likely from the universe that could be tricking or making them imagine a false hope. 

I personally have gone through “breakups” with people. Not anything romantic, but friendships. Surprisingly, I see this from the ex-lover’s point of view. I went through turmoil when I had to cut a specific person off for my own betterment. It hurt in the beginning. I mean many times did I think to just look over my own stupidity and take them back. But for my mental health and to feel better respected I chose to keep myself where I was standing and to continue looking forward. I went through my own battle in many different forms. I even had written an apology message for the fact that I ghosted them. Our miscommunications caused things to end so badly. I just couldn’t take looking, thinking, or being around them. This song brings back many moments in my life when I have wanted to reach out to old relationships to try and rekindle what we had with all the good memories, but in the end all the bad ends up staying.

[erseac]

I've been participating in the Rare Kink Buffet event over on Ao3, and it's been a lot of fun! I've submitted three prompts and in return filled two so far. I want to get to at least three, just out of a sense of fairness. The stories had to be at least 100 words, but I'm too stupid to get to the point that quickly, so mine are around 1k. Maybe the third will be shorter.

The fun yet annoying thing is that the stories will only be revealed next month, so for now they're sitting in Ao3, difficult to access even for me (tip if you're in the same situation: The "edit multiple works" button can lead you to them), and I can't talk about them or hear what people think about them.

So instead, I'm just going to complain about irrelevant details of the way events work in Ao3, just to pass the time.

First of, let me be clear that I'm very happy that Ao3 has these mechanisms at all. It's great. But here are some issues:

No comments on Prompts. I think it's good if events can turn that off, but I think in a lot of cases, it can be fun to discuss and develop prompts with others. This frequently happens on discord and my understanding is that it was common with kink memes in the Livejournal days (I wasn't on Livejournal, and I tried Dreamwidth but did not like it at all). That would be a nice feature.

No discussion at all. I found the event through a link someone posted on a discord server. I don't know the people who run it or participate in it at all. I think it could be more fun if that were different. There are very valid reasons why Ao3 doesn't want to be a social media site, but this prompt feature is basically a social media feature already, just one without a lot of features.

UX for writing prompts is bad. There is "edit prompt" and "edit sign-up", and the latter just seems to be a list of all prompts, because there's really nothing to a sign-up other than that. Which parts of the page allow you to add prompts seems to be basically random.

UX for finding prompts is bad. You can go through the list, sorted either by fandom or by date added, and that's it. You can't exclude or include certain fandoms or tags or even just text in the prompt to find one that's interesting. That's okay for smaller events, but at 1k prompts, most of which are fandoms I never read the source material for, it's not ideal.

UX for timing stuff is less than ideal. You can't sign up or submit new prompts to the event I'm talking about here anymore, because they closed that at a certain point. Makes sense. But there's no way to actually learn that, you just see that the relevant buttons have disappeared.

So I think there's still some room for improvement here for the Ao3 devs.

And in case you're wondering, no, I will not help them, I don't know anything about Ruby on Rails, I'm a desktop and mobile programmer strictly. But I do donate to the archive regularly.

Anyway, I'm looking forward to the stories that come out of that!

[cyan-kelpie]

Please don’t use the “title” attribute for this! In almost every use case for “title,” there are better options, and in some cases it’s actively worse.

I see a lot of people recommending using “title” for “hovertext,” without realizing that a) that text is not accessible on mobile b) that text is not accessible to someone navigating with a keyboard c) browser support for “title” is inconsistent, and d) screen reader support for “title” is inconsistent (it isn’t quite true that screen readers only read text that’s on the screen, that’s why alt text exists for images and links. Some screen readers will read the title text if no other alt text is available, and some will ignore it). If you’re using “title” for text that you want readers to read (which I’m assuming you are, or you wouldn’t put it there), it simply won’t work for all users, so it should also be available through some other means, like footnotes. And if it’s available in a footnote, then it doesn’t need to be in “title” in the first place.

Say you add your translation text in a footnote, and use “title” to put the footnote content in the mouseover text.

Some users will be able to see the mouseover text without clicking through. Good for them, that’s probably the experience you intended.

Some (mobile users, users reading offline, users navigating with keyboards, users with screen readers that don’t read title text, users on certain browsers) will have to click, and won’t be aware that there’s mouseover text at all. Not quite the experience you intended, but they still got the same information, so no harm done.

If they’re using a screen reader that does read title text, the screen reader will announce that they’ve encountered a link, and read your translation text. They click the link. The screen reader reads the exact same translation text. Now they’re either confused about whether or not they actually followed the link, or they’re annoyed that they clicked through only to find the exact same text that they’ve already read. Not a great experience.

Some readers prefer to skip footnotes and come back to them later so it doesn't interrupt their reading flow. By putting the footnote text in the title, you are taking that option away from someone using a screen reader that announces title text.

For legitimate uses of “title” (like alt text or labels for links), there are other attributes that have better screen reader support (like “alt” and “aria-label”), or better ways of communicating the information (like making the mouseover text visible on the screen). There are a handful of use cases where “title” is necessary, but they likely won’t come up when formatting your fanfic. It is significantly less useful than most people think, and it annoys me that it still has any browser support at all.

(disclaimer: I’m not an accessibility expert or a screen reader user, I’m just a software dev who’s worked in the web accessibility space and once had to spend a stupid amount of time trawling the codebase replacing all our uses of “title” with javascript tooltips that were actually accessible)

A Simple Trick for Fic Writers

Hey, if you're a fic writer and a character speaks in a different language, you don't just have to add the translation in the notes. Use the following HTML coding to add 'text on hover' to the word(s). If the reader is on a computer they can hover over the text to see the translation.

<div title="This is the text in the box!">This is the text that shows in your fic!</div>

Here are some examples from a fic on my AO3.

This coding here <div title="a fool, idiot (lit. emptyhead)">Eyn utreekov</div> will show this on hover.

This next example shows that you can add a lot of text. The formatting is the same as above.

PS: When doing this, there may be spacing issues, but you can edit the text through AO3's html or rich text editor. From there you can add italics (like I did), bold, etc, and fix any weird spacing issues. Just be careful not to delete the coding that you worked so hard on 😂

[unhookedcandles]

I'm sure that someone else has talked about this, but I just went out to lunch with my aunt who is a long-time special ed teacher and I was complaining about some of the crazy parents that I had to deal with in my clinical placements and I showed her this super long email I sent to one of the moms where I clearly explained to her exactly why I was doing what I was doing and she didn't listen to a single thing I was saying. My aunt looked at it with knowing eyes and said "You can't fight crazy with logic." I laughed but it's been a few days now and I can't stop thinking about how relevant that is, not just in my life, but in politics rn too.

You can't fight crazy with logic.

My dad is a smart man, but he grew up poor and white and worked his way through college so he very much has eaten the lies that the US has fed to him about social mobility. He believes that if he can do it anyone can do it, and he did do it, so it is difficult for him to understand why other people can't do the same. But he's a smart man, and his beliefs are evidence-based (his evidence in this case being himself) so the best way to combat his logical beliefs are with logic. He didn't understand why immigrants didn't just come in to the country legally, which is not a completely illogical thought. Due to many factors (he's white, he's not a reader, he's not super politically engaged, he's nice but not prone to giving people the benefit of the doubt) his mind does not go to looking for the barriers that would prevent people from applying legally. However, the fact that he doesn't look for these barriers isn't him not believing that these barriers exist, and as I said he's a logical man. I showed him the John Oliver video about how difficult it is for asylum seekers to even try to apply for asylum to the US, the way that they have to download apps and the apps don't work, and the way that the system is broken from the start. He saw the evidence-- people weren't applying legally because they couldn't apply legally. And so he changed his mind. He didn't like transgender athletes competing because he thought it was unfair. He thought he knew the evidence (boys are taller than girls, I guess was his evidence) and made his determination. I showed him the interviews of cis female athletes with high testosterone that were barred from running track events and the debunking of that one girl who claimed to be the fastest girl in Connecticut or what the fuck ever and he changed his mind.

You can't fight crazy with logic.

Some beliefs, however, are not based in logic. There's no logic to the q-annoners who think that JFK faked his death or that Trump is sending them mysterious messages to decode through his tweets (or whatever they call his not-twitter bigot platform messages). There is no number of interviews and well-researched articles I can show them that can make them change their mind. Their beliefs are rooted in this fear that they're losing the protection that their whiteness grants them, fear that progress is already happening and leaving them behind. Their fear is not valid but it is a real emotion.

Anyway, I hate when American leftists automatically write conservatives off as stupid or act like ignorance is a permanent state of being. Not only is it arrogant to think that leftists are the only people who are able to think critically about things, but it also isn't true and it's completely discounting the thought processes of approximately half the country (not even considering the thoughts of conservatives all over the world). There are a lot of people out there whose conservative beliefs stem from logic, and the best way to begin change is to fight their logic with more logic. Is showing my dad a video about how fucked up the asylum process is in the US going to make him share my beliefs about the fact that no human is illegal (especially on stolen land)? Maybe not, but it is the first step for sure. Not doing this first step because you believe that all conservatives are irredeemably stupid is not helping anyone or any cause.

I'm not saying that this will work with the q-annoners because you can't fight crazy with logic. They need something else, whether that's community or deprogramming, I'm genuinely not sure. But I think that thinking all people that don't share your viewpoints are automatically illogical isn't helping anything at all

[the-firebird69]

They're firing a lot of these people and they do it today from government jobs Dave got fired from five jobs but he hasn't been there in a month and that's why he thinks it and then there's like other people too they haven't been there but he's got only 10 jobs as a judge and five you get laid off from usually they tell you like a month ahead . Is also upset with something he thinks he's in trouble here and someone said they're doing 20 eviction notices up over and over and what you say is Stan doesn't like you to and I think he's been trying to evict you and that's what he's doing and Dave says probably and Trump says probably and someone keeps telling me they're doing it tomorrow or today and what happens is they get blocked so you know they can't do it it's coming up but he's going in and out and he is nervous because his cops everywhere and his jobs are getting let go and his people's jobs are going to let go there's a lot of it.

We have a lot of memorabilia for sale answered vehicles and stuff we haven't gotten out there and people are starting to get pissed off and ATK is one of the companies that are mad at I said stop advertising if you're not producing and we're delivering it today it'll be there for tomorrow it's coming out tonight and we will say this most stores are filled up plus about 10:00 times but they can hold and they sell out in an hour so just not the case that we're withholding and you can actually watch the store when it opens in the morning and you'll see in a couple hours they're all gone and as they make more as soon as we have huge factories set up but that's a good suggestion is not that many and one of John remillard's plants was pumping out that many zero bikes in a day and for a year he had 10 plants and we're going to take all those plants zero and other motorcycle plants of his just sitting there so we're going to go ahead and do it now and build some more of those mega plants.

*Occidental petroleum we're gathering up all the subsidiaries and all the stocks are being transferred to us it's 50% of the world's oil and gas industry a little more but not much and it has all these little companies and we're renaming them five with the big companies that are already occidental petroleum.

*Shell oil we are taking over the rest of the stocks it all falling down and can't make it to meetings are very angry and ornery at the meeting and don't care for the company at all or to do the work and think we're all stupid for sitting there doing that

*Sunoco Marathon BP Arco 76 mobile a huge one all they were doing the same thing but only four out of the above but the other ones above this paragraph are doing it all Arco is not at this time but they probably will it's a huge movement to do it on all the companies

**Ford Chevy Pontiac GMC Chrysler Jeep all the reciting over and yeah Toyota Honda Nissan and also the Hyundai Kia and more all the big companies are now signing over to us today and they said we don't need a big fanfare thing you know you can handle it and we're meeting at there well at the headquarters and they're not even going to own stock. A lot of these guys did a lot of work kept the company's alive I kind of like really are enemies but her son says there's no reason for them not to like Ford if they worked at Ford for 150 years but I mean a hundred years and a lot of them did and it's true too mattress worked at them all for a hundred and something years so we have to have some kind of severance package and like a priority ordering system we have that set up then also they get the new models automatically and we opened a new assembly plan to a production plant in their areas or announced to them. I will offer them dealerships and their kids can like run a dealership a week each when they are born but and they start to say something we kind of like that idea that have some dealerships and we included that and and they get like I don't know it's like an award for being performers and an honorary for the ownership have rings or medallions they have rings and it'll get them in the headquarters and they can sit in someone will meet with them or they can come to a plant they have to announce that they're going to go there and we say that it's a good idea and they're also be his head like a plaque and awards for their their work there and we're going to write up a bio of what they did I'm going to put it in a new headquarters for example we'll have a grand entrance and he'll be statues if they improve it but paintings if they don't they like paintings better and a bio a brief one in brass and a book in front of it and they'll get a copy of the book leather bound with a vial of what they did and images of them and more and it's a it's a lifetime thing and you can't change it they can change it but still going to be at Ford let's see demanded out come with lawyers and stuff like that. But it will say right on there honorary owner and they sort of like that and it'll be at headquarters will be like a history of Ford movie and information area and we're going to build that too and they have a Ford museum and we're going to expound on it and have her own vehicles there and such so they think that's appropriate and anything I'm missing what we say is they'll be in the Ford museum too but the museum is not really the best place but he says we'll sell the book that they get but they get a personal book from us without signatures on it and noting that it's it's a Ford seal in the front and it goes to a Kenneth Thayer as well and they all approve it. And I'll have the corporate hotline telephone number and things like that if they need things so it's a great thing to do it's really welcome and there's other employees that should be recognized their secretaries they only work there for even just a few years but they did outstanding work and it's very hard work good working these jobs is difficult and they they were at each other and our son could hardly go to the car shows so he sympathize is a little and our father and mother and all of them are fathers and mothers of Japan have something to say

Thor Freya

We do know that they're kind of plum about it but this puts a better look on their face and if they have access and they're not going to be treated like dirt and ushered out and thrown into a shallow grave like John rebelord did and my son is actually saying I appreciate you holding these companies together and it's not forgotten and he's saying it with class and we wish to see it too and we shall. In Japan they have ceremonies for this and we will have the ceremony and more than one usually at each plant as they are departing there's a special song and everything and we're going to go ahead and proceed and a lot of them might be a little emotional but that's okay and we're going to do whatever of the Ford foundation he says so it's for our companies in this case Honda and access to Ford museums and also for certain levels there'll be a Ford house and terrific service awards and offers of condos and things for people who are how long-term employees who put in their time and effort or a short-term but outstanding employees or perfect attendance records and for innovation as well and they like it a lot it would help sell our houses and it will give them a place and on the house it would be I'm off a house was modeled after a Ford house and he said many and Ken there says I have to prove them and we're going to approve that and some of these guys are still around a lot of them are and they're going to have a house brand new built and modeled after the Ford house and Ken there's several but the one in Florida is one that he lived in so we're going to offer to build that but modern techniques and he's accepting and all the houses there by the way and he doesn't know what to say. And so our son says you get the Ford Cobra jet and it's mid engine is two seats in it so he's laughing and is farting and stuff no but he says you'll probably get a ride and he would like that that would be fun and it's hard not to do anything so okay. It's really an estate and he doesn't need the rubber trees just a few and he wants to plant another his own plantings and so we get that and we'll have to sit and meet with him and if he wants dealerships that's good and so he says yes and that's the treatment for people who work in there still and they are acknowledging something he's trying to help and he's in trouble and the guy has a system and he's talked about it to him and it's military and it's daunting and we got what we got and we got to use it if Ken takes out the best lures to go fishing in the front of his state because I got the estate for him then by gosh we're going to get him at a state so he can have a nice fish so he'll up to doing some work and people can't see what that means I'm going to do it here in Japan

Posiedon and Goddess Wife

They think they were doing a Monday job and a rudimentary job and no not doing it for ourselves in any way and it's not exactly true and people can tell them but they continue to think that so our son is overboard I guess but that's the way he is and we're going to proceed with us it's an outstanding idea that they have and we came up with together it's just beautiful I'm putting it forward to Olympus but we're already doing a lot of it and we may as well continue it and there'll be other perks and benefits they're going to get cards for hotels for lifetime hotel use and we have a network and that's for people who are certain management level up to corporate including corporate we'll probably give John Reema Lord of araz program a Good Sam and like motel 6 for a year and he was awful at the end but he tried and that sounds right he's going to give him the motel 6 thing people laughing cuz he's called the beast so it works out for them but we don't have enough vagabond hotels or whatever it is they will whack. And it's not in planes trains and automobiles but they're kind of joking about it they can see them nodding their heads and they're saying that they're in the club and he says he's in the four Good Sam club and he tried looking his name up the computer was down so he gave the room and that's how I got the room alive more or less took some hits and he's smiling and laughing and he says he knows about the program. So later that night it sent him an email he tried to access her site and here's the key and stuff and he tried again it worked and his name is up as one of the persons with a Good Sam club and they came in the next morning and said we're going to have to give you a card number so don't worry about it it's been taken care of and it says it's by Good Sam and he says who's a good samaritan it says the club The Good Sam club and they said oh yeah so they're leaving laughing and they're saying this I don't understand what happened there and John Candy said I'm in a club I'm in the Ford Good Sam club because I helped with the business and he got mad oh so It paid off and people saw it and they're going to see the movie now they're going to look it up. For those who don't know Good Sam is a network of hotels and they're just lower level lower class hotels which is kind of his style otherwise used to the other he was happy to get it cuz wherever he goes and most of its characters he can get a hotel room as people are there anyways so he says it's not in style but it's our style they said I can't get into those other ones anyways if I could I get kicked out. Kind of works out but he sees what you're saying so there's other people too that are going to get those for holding on to it and doing the best they could and we have a lot of hotels now in that Network and a lot of hotels are signing over to us huge chains by the way renovating for renovating most of them are adding hotels to them and we're adding the new bivouac to some of them like motel 6 it's less expensive and believe it or not motel 6 is going to be a step up because we're renovating and the whole hotel by the way. And it is a nightmare out there if you try and get a place and it's going to make it much easier for people it's a global for the people running it and mac daddy is going to get his tonight and it's like for practically every hotel there is and he has something like that anyways but this is like a backup. He's actually fairly enthused because it's great his Grand nephew is not a bum could be could be a horrible bum since coming out you get free food and everything it's on Candy has to go to the peanut vending machine now you can go to restaurants too with it and it doesn't have to have the card tons of people are saying this these people are doing that for each other but it's for the people too

Honda and Mrs Honda god and goddess of Japan

Me too are there and we understand this these things are for us too and we're going to do this and there's a ceremony in Japan and it's very Kurt and short but it does show them that they're still respected for doing it and they do get a lot of perks and a lot of cards and things they can go around the world with and people know that they're with Ford no they're with Toyota it's a big company and we'll do things too if they need an emergency taxi and things like that and it's because they're still Toyota founders and workers and they do like that and they're kind of amazed it's a good deal and a good sign

Mr. and Mrs Toyota God and Goddess of Japan

Some people say it we're going to get this over with the postage but we have something to say too all of us are enjoying this day a little bit but this is making it much better there's a way of making things civil and this is one of them and they had a wicked fight and they're having a wicked fight but we are in their debt for making things work and Tommy F got a bad job and he is still doing it and people can't stand it and he's not really part of the program but we shouldn't treat it inhumanely and he has a lot of money and guys and he's just going to have to try and do it he said that to everybody for thousands of years he picked on these four under privileged people

Olympus

[house-of-slayterr]

Hannibal With Disabled S/O:

@myers-meadow-selfship

These are specific to story me, but they can apply to anybody who reads this 🥰

Frances was never the same after they fell off that roof. Their body never fully recovered and they were left with chronic pain. But their high pain tolerance makes them unaware of just how bad it is sometimes. Hannibal is frustrated at first because he thinks they’re trying to be brave, but they genuinely don’t know when they’ve pushed themselves too far until it’s too late.

If Hannibal saw their hands shaking while doing a task, he wouldn’t silent to walk over and remove whatever it was from their hand. If it was a book, he’d offer to read it to them, knowing how exhausted they were. If they were in the kitchen, he would finish whatever they were cooking. He tries to let them be Independent but the kitchen is his domain after all. If they were working on a project, he’d try to convince them to stop for the night. And if they said no, he would go as far as to physically remove them and take them to bed, or cuddle them on the couch so they can’t go back.

If they were having a bad leg day, he’d notice right away. Wether they were limping and trying to hide it, he has a keen eye. He’d subtly try to get them to sit. Now if they were in the house it’s different than in public. They would specifically try harder to appear able bodied in public. Hannibal probably keeps their cane on hand, even if they insist they didn’t need it. He always brings it just in case. But if they were in the house, he’d be a little less subtle when trying to get them to slow down and take care of themselves.

If they started the day by crawling around the house, he will not be amused. It’s kinda hard to miss someone crawling across your house, attempting to act normal. He stare at them over his book and see if they would ask for help first. But if it went on for too long, he’d be afraid they would bruise their knees. Cue him picking them up again.

“Hannibal I’m fine”

“Darling, you are aware you can ask for help, right?”

“What do you think I do when you aren’t home?”

This would stress the man out. He doesn’t see them as helpless, he knows their capable. But he’s always afraid they’ll get hurt because of their stubbornness. Her understand they want to be independent so he won’t always just step and and do stuff for them. Instead he’ll offer his assistance. Perhaps standing behind them in the kitchen as they cook, to make sure they don’t fall. Or sitting them down and handing them things they need so they don’t have to get up to get them.

Hannibal is they type to make sure they have the best mobility aids available. And would make them understand that they shouldn’t feel bad for using them. If they thought it was stupid to use them around the house, because they shouldn’t have to. He would encourage them to push past that thought. And if they were nervous about using them in public, he would glare at anyone who dared to stare or say anything. He’d think it’s adorable if they insist on decorating their aids. It would show they are more comfortable with using them.

Hannibal’s house is more than one floor. He’d probably give them a room on the bottom floor just to be safe. So they’d have an option on low energy days. But if his room was upstairs, he’d quickly realise that they would have to climb the stairs to greet him. Which is fine on good days, when they’re legs are working better or they only need their cane or crutches. He knows they’re capable and wouldn’t be overly worried about their skills.

But if it was a wheelchair day, and they tried to crawl up the stairs to get to his room, or office. He would panic. He would feel awful for not being down on the lower level with them. He’d probably inscrit they text him, he can answer text when he’s working from home. He would March down the stairs and scoop them up bridal style and bring them to wherever he was if they asked. He’d let them sit on his lap on his office, or under the desk if they wished. He just liked the closeness. And if it’s the middle of the night and they wanted to sleep on his room, he wouldn’t even be upset if they called his phone waking him up. He’d rather that then they crawl all the way up there, he’d feel terrible. If they’re sleeping downstairs, he will check on them throughout the night, or sneak into their bed if he’s in need of cuddles.

If their fainting issue was acting up, this man would be stressed as hell. Hannibal is good about keeping calm on the outside. But he can tell when they begin to feel more tired or sluggish, or if they start zoning out. If they were at dinner with everyone, and they began to feel faint. He would just calmly catch their head in his hand so they wouldn’t hit the table. After they woke, he would also if they wanted to continue the meal, or excuse themselves to go lay down.

If it’s a frequent pass out day, he’ll cancel his appointments and just hold them the whole day. He doesn’t want to risk them hitting their head on anything. This way he can also make sure they aren’t trying to push through their bodies natural reaction. Because he knows that’s not how to works, you can use will power to suddenly force oxygen back into your brain. And he would remind them of such.

If they’re about to pass out when standing, he will cross the room so quickly to catch them. He would beat himself up if he was ever not fast enough. So on days he notices they’re a little off, he sticks closer just in case. He’d worry on the days they’re out of the house, or hanging out with William. He wouldn’t know if the man would be observant enough to read their tells. He would be angry if they got hurt when out with Will.

William is better about the physical aspect of their illness. He will give them a piggy back ride if their legs begin to hurt while they’re out. If they’re in the house, he’ll sit them down with the dogs, to distract them from their pain. William is more in tune with them than Hannibal gives credit for. Sometimes they might feel a little smothered with Hannibal, but they know its just because he cares. But Will makes them feel more laid back about their chronic illness and disabilities.

Will is very touch averse, but he will hold them if they’ve passed out, so that they won’t be alone when they wake up. Or if it was a high pain day, he’d let them lean on him.

On the mental health aspect, Hannibal is obviously better at it. It’s quite literally his job, and as questionable as he is with some of his patients, he doesn’t care about them. Let alone love them. I’m depression days, he’d help them do simple tasks, like brush their hair, brush their teeth, or help them to bath. He’d make them something easy, and not daunting to eat, just so they have something in their stomach.

On anxiety days, he’d let them be clingy. Secretly these are his favorite days, because he gets to hold them close. With no fuss whatsoever from them. He’d be the best equipped to handle panic attacks or meltdowns. He takes their autism very seriously. He’s memorised their likes and dislikes, and will try not to keep anything that would cause sensory overload in the house.

We’ve already discussed that some of his suits aren’t exactly the most friendly of textures and fabrics. But Hannibal has taste, that’s not something he’d be willing to give up. But he’s learned to not take it personally if they avoid him when he’s wearing wool. He’ll take his suits off when he gets home and switch into a soft sweater so that he can get hugs from them. He also buys William soft sweaters so he doesn’t accidentally send them into a meltdown.

He’ll keep ear plugs and headphones with him at all times, and just casually hand them to them if he sees them become more fidgety and aggravated. He made a playlist of all his favorite classical music to calm them down. And it’s very effective. If he notices their biting habit, he’ll keep gum on him as well, and get them one of those necklaces that’s safe to chew on. He wouldn’t want them biting themselves. Autistic people are more prone to self harm, so he tries to be very cautious about objects that could hurt them.

He can and will restrain them during a meltdown so they can’t hurt themselves. He doesn’t really care how much they struggle or cry, he’ll do his best to calm them down. He’ll give deep pressure therapy if needed, and just lay on top of them. He’s the type of man to rather have them hit him, then themselves. As well as with the biting thing, if they really can’t stop the urge, he’ll allow them to nibble on his fingers. Only if it’s in the house though, never in public.

He always encourages stimming, no matter where they are. But if they are at a fancier event, he’ll escort them to a private room so they could stim in peace. Not because he’s embarrassed, but because he knows people can be judgmental. And a round of questions could cause a meltdown. He adores their happy stims, and could watch them for hours. If they’re executed about something, he’ll let them talk until they run themselves dry. Then pull them to his chest for a well deserved nap after. He finds it funny how sleepy they can get.

He will buy things involving their special interests or hyperfixations, just to see them happy. There’s nothing better in the world to him than the moment their face lights up. But again, he is stern and cares for their health. If a hyperfixation is stopping them from taking care of themselves, he will take it away from them. It tough love, but he needs them to be healthy. If they won’t sleep, he’ll make them a midnight snack and some tea, and talk to them until they tire themselves out.

Hannibal doesn’t have all the answers, but he does learn from his mistakes. He probably has an entire file on them so he’ll never forget anything he deems important. It’s a little obsessive, but he’s trying his best.