#so much to unpack here friends

[mykashg]

You know for comedians, you're all a little out of touch.

HACKS Season 3, Episode 4 "Join the Club"

[bunnyboy-juice]

you guys know butch =/= taking T right? you guys know dyke masculinity is not correlated to being transmasc right? you guys know that even your silly jokes where you flatten butchness to taking T/being transmasc is extremely transmisogynistic right?

[cangelgifs]

BTVS (2.02) & ATS (3.18)

#GROWTH

[2kinkycubangemini]

Drunkenly insisted he come over, changed his mind 5min from my apartment, ghosts me for a week. I lightheartedly called him out for not rescheduling getting drinks and catching up that he suggested, so he reschedules. He makes heavy handed moves on me all night until he fucks me. Immediately says it was a mistake and promptly leaves without looking at me until he says goodbye. 2 weeks and nothing has been said. He then texts me, no hey how are you, asking if I'd been tested. Was like pulling teeth getting out of him that he'd been experiencing symptoms and suspects trich. I was tested after we slept together last time and was good, but to ease his anxiety I say I'll get tested again. I send him my results 2 days later. He purposefully miscommunicates and says "I'm all good". I voice that while I appreciate him wanting to let me know, that it caused me anxiety and he could've just waited until he knew for sure. He says he misspoke and hasn't actually gotten his results back and assume all clear since we both were negative previously (huh?!). Almost a full week goes by and he finally gets his negative results and sends me only the trich results. I rightfully ask if he got the full panel or just a test for trich. He sends me all the results, but only bc I asked. I reiterate that he could've just waited for the results to tell me because it stressed me out.

He finally admits that someone he slept shortly before me (unclear when) tested positive and he wanted to be on the safe side. I'm not in the mood for a fight so I just said ok that makes more sense.

Like I'm so fucking tired. He's such a fucking manipulative liar with serious communication and emotional immaturity issues. I literally do not give a fuck that you sleep with other people, just don't fucking lie and manipulate me holy shit. And the audacity to get defensive when I neutrally tell you how this whole thing made me feel instead of being passive and soft about it, is fucking WILD. Like I just know he's painted me as the crazy girl in his head because I call him out on his hypocritical and manipulative bullshit even in a neutral way. Like if you had just been honest from the fucking start I wouldn't have to match your fuckass attitude omfg

[mediumtires]

HELLO THREE THINGS A) READING THAT UR A HANNIBAL FAN NEARLY MADE ME FALL OUT OF MY CHAIR IDK WHY. I WASNT EXPECTING IT. B) UR STAR TREK FICS MADE ME GO WATCH IT AND NOW IM OBSESSED C) IVE BEEN STRESSING ABOUT 7YLP FOR YEARS MY IRLS ARE CONVINCED IM INSANE AND I THINK ONE. ACTUALLY BELIEVES IN IN CHRISTAN/TOTO

easily top three asks i’ve ever received anon 👑

[daemonmatthias]

After packing the vast majority of our apartment entirely by myself, and arriving at our new place finally, I am now mostly home by myself bc my husband works 10hr shifts (4 days/week) and I lost my keys in the last minute packing flurry. There’s a whole lot that Can’t Be Done Yet for various reasons, but I want to make progress unpacking…. Decided fuck it, I’m not dumb; I can anchor my own bookshelves to the wall and start unpacking books. They’re not really the most important thing rn but at least it would start getting boxes out of the way since there’s 30 of them.

First I couldn’t figure out why the stud finder wouldn’t turn on— the batteries had been taken out of it.

Then, I couldn’t keep the screw steady enough to get it into the shelf— mostly likely I can’t put enough weight behind the drill at that particular angle.

Now I have to wait for my husband to get home so HE can anchor the bookshelves to the wall for me. Lame. :(

[astradyke]

oh no talking about my own life again? on my blog? i should be stoned

[the-tenth-arcanum]

friend who had baby two months ago disappeared from the face of the earth (whatsapp group chat)

[angorwhosebabyisthis]

one of these days i'll write up a post about the parallels and foils between vivi and hermes and why it fucking kills me. for now all i can say is in hindsight the 'latched onto vivi Hard as a kid' to 'latched onto hermes Hard as an adult' pipeline is Real

[bluemoonsystemrq]

Like, we also hate it when people call us smart (to the point that, when we were in undergraduate, we used to be asked if we were in graduate school instead) because our options were:

debunk the concept of intelligence using our synthetic thinking skills. prove ourselves half-right, half-wrong -- also have other person miss our point entirely and they THINK they were proven right.

literally just ignore or dodge the question which is Rude

say we were undergraduate and then get fawned over. until the "smart" aspect was no longer beneficial, and we started talking about being anti-psychiatry.

#3 was, clearly, the most advantageous to us because, loathe as we are to admit it, breaking peoples' entire world view and giving them cognitive dissonance does something. it's not good for most people though so we usually opted for #1 unless we felt absolutely certain about #3.

All of this to say, what most people call "smart" is literally just getting into really niche bullshit and then having loads of synthetic thinking (which is a specific aspect/subcategory of critical thinking skills iwrc) ability, which is something you can just practice at. We were forced to from second grade (US elementary) onwards because of how much the world hates Autistic people. Did our "some of us are TPN fictionkin" come first or the literal systemic abuse of Autistics? Yes, that is relevant, because (without too much spoilerage) the main characters were essentially playing 4D chess half of first season with the adults in their lives to escape a bad situation. No, this doesn't negate us being an endogenic system. That's literally why we have this chicken/egg question to our fictotypes in the first place, or maybe an emportulum individual in one case?

We can't remember the exact words, but people sure love to quote that one guy about the line between genius and madness being social acceptability. Only as inspiration porn though.

[thenegoteator]

👀please, if you're still doing them?

of course!!

this was an interaction I witnessed on the street that bounced around my head like an early 2000s screensaver. this was november. he had two large bobas and she had the straws. I wonder about them sometimes

[faillen]

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[ssaalexblake]

And people bitching about Yaz’s gay arc or whatever because it doesn’t fit their personal experience need to shut up about it, really, you are not a monolith and you’re just betraying your ignorance. Just because it’s not relatable to Your personal lived experience, doesn’t mean it isn’t to others, and the casually offensive bs that is spouted in some circles is both inherently self centred and most ironically, pretty homophobic. 

[deathxproof]

hm, out of all of the things I was expecting when I slowly started putting myself back in fandom spaces, “unresolved trauma from being an autistic kid/teen who was always perceived as Too Much” wasn’t on the list, to be quite honest.

[skyllion-uwu]

Am I nauseous because I'm hungry or because I triggered myself last night

[boomerang109]

okay i have my fan going fast enough it sounds like it’s going to fly off the ceiling and kill me maybe i still have a chance at life