#so disingenuous

[bilboyagathechickenfootedhobbit]

And now the troll that originally started this nonsense is trying to disguise his public sex kink as “if you don’t educate kids about sex you are making them vulnerable to predators.”

For fucks fucking sake.

I refuse to engage directly with his posts because I’m 99% certain he has an abuse kink and I will not participate in it. But like….this is just so fucking dumb. So dumb.

OBVIOUSLY you need to educate kids about sex and consent. I do that every day in little ways with my kid, starting in infancy when we only ever used correct and accurate words for anatomy. This removes the shame around genitals and gives them the vocabulary to speak up if anything ever happens. Instead of “someone touched my no-no” they can clearly describe what happened: “an adult touched my penis.” No vagueness, no room for misunderstanding. He used to follow me into the bathroom and that naturally raised some questions, which I answered matter-of-factly and in an age-appropriate manner. “Mommy doesn’t have a penis because women have vulvas.” Boom, that’s it. There was no need to explain to him what the parts are for; he was three. But you lay the groundwork by talking about bodies and genitals without shame, so that when it does come time to start discussing sex (there is no such thing as one sex talk, it should be an ongoing and open conversation that addresses whatever issue is concerning the involved parties) you can do so without shame and embarrassment.

I model consent all day every day. Playing around and tickling and he tells me to stop? Immediate full stop. He’s feeling upset and says he’s going to his room to get his feelings under control? I don’t barge in demanding to talk. Likewise, when I tell him I need ten minutes alone, I expect that boundary to be honored, and it is. He knows that when someone says ‘no’ it means exactly that. When he and Daddy are wrestling and Daddy tells him he needs a break, he knows it means no surprise flying kicks. Because the adults around him model consent to teach him consent.

You do not need to expose children to adults having sex to teach them about sex and consent.

The idea that exposing children to adults having sex will somehow safeguard them against sexual abuse is the absolute pinnacle of stupidity.

The fact that this nitwit vehemently argued for people having the right to have sex where children could see it and is now pulling the “but this is to HELP the children!!” card is so predictable and unimaginative that I can’t even be mad, just TIRED. Sure, bud, make your post about how you’re just trying to safely educate kids about sex to protect them in order to make everyone else seem like rabid screaming lunatics who don’t actually care about kids safety. It’s so transparent I could make a greenhouse out of it. But I do truly worry about the younger kids (there I go again, looking out for the pesky youth) who are taking all this in and going “Yeah!! Show kids porn, it will HELP THEM!!”

There’s a big fucking difference between a kid growing up seeing casually naked family members about the home, being naked in the changing room at a gym/spa, or going to a public bathhouse with the family, and seeing strangers openly fucking in public, and you know this.

The whole public sex discourse is insane. But what goes beyond insane into heart-dropping, what the fuck where did we go wrong territory is this attitude of ‘who cares if kids see? They’ll be having sex one day eventually.’ Like???? Yeah, most likely they will. My six year old kid will one day drive an automobile. Does that mean I should just give him the keys this morning and let him drive himself to school? I mean, he’s going to drive EVENTUALLY, right? By that same token, I should also just give him a tumbler of whiskey and let him take a drag off a cigarette; I mean, he’ll probably try these things one day ANYWAY, may as well be today, right? And since he’s going to learn what sex is, why not invite one of his little friends over and show them how to fuck one another?

Oh wait, does that make you uncomfortable now? The idea of two six year olds being encouraged to have sexual intercourse? DOES THAT SEEM WEIRD??? Why?? I mean, they’re going to do it one day anyway, WHY NOT NOW??? Why NOT get your six year old wasted and zooted and teach them how to properly fuck?? Does that make you feel weird? What are you? Some lame-o virgin who doesn’t know how to party? Weak sauce. See, I happen to be a super cool edge-lord sex god who has had ALL THE SEX and therefore don’t care if anyone sees anyone having sex. Since I, the ultimate Sex Lord, have definitely already had sex it is now appropriate for every single human on earth, regardless of age or anything, to witness anyone else having sex. I mean, I’M okay with it, so therefore everyone else has to be okay with it.

I cannot believe that at the exact same time on this hell site, we have a post going around threatening to kill adults for listening to TikTok’s on full volume in public and a post going around saying everyone is SUPES COOL with people just fucking wherever they feel like in public. So this site is more offended by auditory disruption than literal sex crimes being perpetrated against them.

Make it make sense.

[sheher-gayboy]

Oh no! I'm going to be viscerally upset!

[khaopybara]

this gifset was brought to you just because i wanted to gif the second one.

[trashcatsnark]

Rejecting Lae'zel: yeah sorry not interested in you tasting my flesh lol- yeah you can go fuck astarion instead i don't care Rejecting Astarion: Say please.... ha, yeah, it's still a no, but that was funny, anyway... Rejecting Shadowheart: *didn't even realize i did it* Rejecting Gale, Wyll, or Karlach: Oh god, oh god, oh no I'm so so so so so so sorry, I, I really hope I didn't like lead you on- please don't look at me with those eyes, please, oh no, I'm so sorry I'm just doing a different romance right now, I still care about you so so so so so so so much, I'm sorry I'm just a terrible person, I'll be flaying myself alive tonight in penance, I'm so sorry-

[birbleafs]

Most people tend to point out how badass Alhaitham is here (true). But what I like and appreciate a lot about this scene is how it also shows that Alhaitham cares enough for the general public's safety (including the Ayn Al-Ahmar members he'd agreed to fight with just moments before) that he rushed in to disable Mizri's corrupted Akasha terminal to stop his rampage. Alhaitham didn't actually need to do so either (he's not the Matra; public security isn't part of his job as the Scribe) since Mizri was attacking his own members. But Alhaitham still crossed that distance just to protect the other members of the faction once he'd realised what was happening, and he didn't even draw his swords out against Mizri. **Edit: I would like to also point out how there's a note of concern and urgency in Alhaitham's voice that you can hear clearly both in the JP dub here and in the original CN voice. It can be argued, of course, that he only did this knowing that Mizri had the Divine Knowledge Capsule and because he'd wanted to steal it. Still, Alhaitham could've kept his distance as Mizri continued lashing out at his men, and during the chaos and confusion, he could've easily filched the Capsule too before letting the Matra deal with the group's in-fighting while he slipped away with it. But he chose to jump right into the fray instead and risk injury to himself by going against a berserk Mizri.... though, I suppose Alhaitham had probably already decided that risk is extremely low and reasons that "I'm a very good fighter and I've a Vision, so I was never in any actual danger" or something along those lines. Because he's just annoying like that lmfao. This also makes that one iconic, quotable quote of his "I'm merely a feeble scholar" all the more hilarious.... What a lying liar LOL...

Still, I'm willing to accept his (modest lol) rationale, that in terms of sheer brute strength and perhaps without any help from his Vision, Alhaitham isn't as physically strong as the most jacked Eremites—he did preface the above line with "Compared to the mercenaries...", after all lol. He's simply a very efficient fighter who excels at using speed and agility to his advantage.

[gobstoppr]

Tetris Fanart.

I've been playing tetris while listening to horror podcasts. and yeah

[aaronsinferno]

Canonically, Buck's relationship with Tommy is the spark that propels him into facing and embracing his bisexuality. This is a key narrative development, as Buck states that he wants to take his next steps forward with Tommy. This relationship, while not the sole focus of Buck's personal journey, undeniably influences it.

Again, while Buck’s personal growth is not dependent on Tommy, the narrative makes their relationship a valuable lens through which Buck’s sexuality and personal growth are explored. This does not diminish Buck’s individuality at all, but does show how personal connections can impact someone’s self-discovery.

[iocaisaint]

the Nesta modesty discourse is so weird because all someone said is that Nesta is often dressed in more revealing clothes when drawn alongside Feyre and Elain (her sisters) which is weird because Nesta is the only character on page who we know hates being dressed in revealing clothing and will avoid it if she can...no one brought in ships, men or attached morality to dressing modestly/not dressing modestly until some of started throwing around accusations of slut shaming (for pointing out a fact)

Now my opinion is that mean "bitchy" female characters are often sexualised in this weird "femme fatale" thing that fandoms regularly assign to them as their archetype whether it fits them or not (it does not Nesta is literally a bookworm who kills terrible people on the side), also Nesta is noted to be the more curvy of her sisters so we'll just sprinkle that in too.

This goes without saying but people can draw anything they want and every piece of art is a gift but it's hard not to notice a trend when it happens with nearly every time she's in an ensemble

[t00thpasteface]

i admit i'm kinda tempted by that mashcast announcement calling for guest speakers... but i SHAN'T!! i would have no coherent insight to offer. i would just pick a mulcahy episode and then yap about mulcahy-as-symbol. i have thoughts. THOUGHTS I TELLS YA.

mashcast crew if you're seeing this you call me if you ever want to record a podcast one-off that isn't focused on any particular episode and is instead just a bunch of highfalutin navelgazing about characters as personifications of sociological concepts moreso than as realized persons acting independently and the ways in which the minutiae of their interactions reflect broader trends, pressures, and agendas, such as mulcahy being used semivoluntarily by both the church and military as something halfway between window dressing and a sacrifical lamb to [A CANE DRAGS ME OFFSTAGE]

[fayromance]

Everytime someone brings up Black!Volot on the ru-fandom, there's this moral panic and comments like "Imagine if there was a story set in Africa and one of the LIs was white!! 😰😰😱 That would be soooo disrespectful! You gotta understand why we're so upset with the Black guy 🥺👉👈"

I wiiiiiish those lying concern trolls would just shut up. We don't have to imagine shit! Look!

This is how two main, canon LIs of a story set in Africa look like

And this is how the entire Sumerian pantheon looks like in a story set in the Middle East

Those mf-ers don't even have to come up with imaginary scenarios when we literally have this exact thing in canon. Except that there wasn't a single peep in the ru-fandom about those characters being inappropriate in the location and time-period

So maybe, just maybe, cut the crap, stop pretending to care about the accuracy and tell it how it is — that you hate Black people. At least, that would be some honesty for a change

[dykedvonte]

Someone said this already but I’ll point it out again that Jimmy is an unreliable narrator and a manipulator that spins and alters the narrative/tone of every scene he’s in with each character.

This sentence also applies to Curly.

Too many people are taking how Jimmy talks to Curly and how Curly is actually responding at face value when between Anya and Curly he is again the second most affected by his presence. This is to say he changes how he is acting drastically when dealing with Jimmy in a more similar way Anya does than people are willing to admit.

[thefloatingstone]

Watching the "Making of" feature for Disney's 'Wish' where they go on and on about how amazing Walt was and how much he loved stories and fantasy and I'm having big feelings in the discord chat about it

[nkjemisin]

Hey there. I'm writing a story set in New York City and am not American. I have few characters, but most of them are arab or white. I can't help but feel a bit wrong about it, given that America is much more diverse than that, and NYC being an emblem of that. Do you think I should force myself to include more representation or should I just tell my story, and leave that more diverse cast to some other story I could write? I know this is a neverending debate and there are many opinions about it, but I've always agreed with everything you've said in matters of representation in fiction, and so I'd be curious to know your personal answer on it.

I'm a little confused by how you're using "representation," here. It sounds like you think representation = "randomly sticking BIPOC everywhere." I think when most people use that word, it means something more like "create an accurate or at least plausible depiction of a group or place." In actual New York, there are plenty of Middle Easterners and white people who live in relatively homogeneous small communities where they might only see someone of a different ethnicity on the subway. If your story is set in one of those communities -- and you do stick some random BIPOC in that subway scene, because that's plausible -- then it sounds like your characters might be an example of good representation.

(Note: if you're not writing something set in the real world, but it features human beings, it needs to represent humanity as a whole, unless there's a good in-world reason not to. But if it's our world? You can get specific.)

Here's the catch, tho: plausibility is relative. If you've absorbed some biases and haven't done enough research, then you might end up writing something that feels plausible to you, but which isn't actually representative or plausible to anyone else. The way to avoid this is to do the research and check (to the best of your ability) your biases. For example, you aren't American, I assume you've at least visited NYC? If not, you should. You can visit some of the communities I mentioned! You can eat in restaurants, visit mosques, have conversations with actual real people who are living the life you're writing about! If you don't have the time, money, or spoons to do that, there are other ways to do good research -- films and YT/Tiktok videos made by people from the communities in question, for example. But you'd need to watch a lot of them to get a good representative sample.

I recommend this book to all the writing students I've taught at Clarion, and other writer workshops: Writing the Other, by Nisi Shawl and Cynthia Ward. There's a particular part of it that seems relevant here, which is a kind of hierarchy of "appropriate" appropriation, I think first mentioned by Diantha Day Sprouse but included in Writing the Other. Basically it says that if you want to write about a culture that isn't your own, you can learn about that culture in one of several ways: a) You can be an Invader, and just go take whatever intellectual and artistic tidbits from that culture that you want, regardless of how damaging this might be to members of that group. Example: non-Indigenous people who write about actual secret practices, or who encourage the desecration of sacred places. b) You can be a Tourist, in which you're still mooching from that culture, but at least you're figuratively paying someone for it and accepting tidbits that the culture has chosen to sell. Example: getting a sensitivity reader. Or c) you can be an Invited Guest, who brings in as much as they take out, and who has formed relationships that are beneficial to all involved. Example: being part of an exchange program, both as a student and later as a host, and maintaining those friendships outside of the program.

The goal is to be an IG, but that isn't always possible. Tourist is still better than being an Invader. (...I feel like I'm leaving out a category. It's been a while since I read the book; any more recent readers want to check me here?) But the closer you can get to actually participating in that culture, the more your work will be informed by reality instead of biases or misinformation, and the more likely your work will read as plausible not just to you, but to your widest possible audience -- people familiar with the culture and people who aren't.

(I'm a little concerned about your phrasing of "force myself to include more representation," note. Why would that need to be a forced thing? A writer's goal should be to write something that feels lived-in and authentic to [if it's a real place] most people's experience -- not to meet some arbitrary standard, but because that's how you master immersion and characterization. If good immersion and characterization feel forced to you right now, that suggests you need more practice. I recommend writing short stories!)

[ghouldtime]

I feel like König can absolutely melt your heart like this in the kitchen while a big pot of stew is simmering. Feel like it would be mid winter, a cozy fire going in the living room, probably a smudge of paint on his face from having just completed the miniature diorama he made of your wedding day or something. I JUST FEEL LIKE HES SECRETLY A HOPELESS ROMANTIC

https://www.facebook.com/share/r/CZRSbWa5D1b2ryCA/?mibextid=uSdriS

(If you don't want to click the link, it's cool. It's like a really slow beautiful old timey princess kind of dance. Lots of twirling and the holding hands behind your back kind of thing?)

I'm sorry I'm bursting yet another bubble here 😭 while that's a sweet thought and he has plenty of romantic actions to boot, he's not a hopeless romantic or even close to it.

A hopeless romantic is someone who believes in love conquering all and they have an idealistic view of it. They're someone who believes in love, no matter what they've seen or their past. They're someone who holds onto love above all and usually centers their life around it.

He doesn't even come close. Truth be told, he's extremely pessimistic and is near the polar opposite of that 😭

He's seen a lot, experienced a lot, and has never been one to feel that way. After being ruthlessly bullied as a kid for simply existing as himself and seeing his comrades torn into meat confetti for stepping one foot too far, he's doesn't exactly have a pearly world view. He doesn't think about love first, or second, or even third, fourth, or fifth. Love wasn't a focus for him or an interest - it wasn't a necessity in that department, he's been without romantic love most of his life, why would he need it then or now?

Love didn't stop bullets from spiraling towards you on the field, love can't conquer all when things like hate, retribution, and vengeance are sung much stronger in his world. Love could motivate but it destroyed many from the inside out. He wasn't going to start believing in love or wanting it just cause.

Sure, he had familial love. He loves his parents and that did wonders in a world that was usually otherwise cruel towards him. But romantic? He wasn't ever particularly interested. To him, it's usually yet another complication in the line of things. And anyone who is nice to him, he's usually suspicious of. He doesn't let people close for a reason.

Quite frankly, he usually thinks others have ulterior motives, especially if they're trying to cozy up to him. All his life, he's pretty much been an outcast. People tended to only be nice when they wanted something. He can count on one hand the few people who have genuinely been nice to him without WANTING something from him, whether that be his perks with his rank or just to have him as a human shield as they charge into battle.

He was the awkward kid, the loner, the one no one talked to in school. He never had a romantic life there. And he went straight to the military which left him no time or room for one - not that he cared for it. It's just not something he cared for or went after because he hadn't really experienced it and it wouldn't do him any good. He's seen how many marriages end and heard of all the troubles.

He was never actively looking for it or thinking of love. He wasn't seeking it because he's seen how miserable people are in and out of it. He's very much "if it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, I'm happy with being me." König is a very independent man, he's fine on his own and is content with himself and where he stands.

I actually wouldn't describe him as any kind of romantic aside from unintentional because it's not a conscious thought! He's not doing it to woo or impress or to be a big gesture, he's just doing it because he likes you and wants to see you happy. What he does isn't born out of romance or desire or the want for either - it's just from the heart. It's an instinct.

He's not thinking of how romantic it would be as he plants your favorite flowers in his garden. He's growing them because he wants to see you happy and wants to put more of what you like in the world. He stocks your favorite drinks and snacks in his house because he wants you over - he wants you happy, comfortable, and enjoying his company. His actions are how he shows how he feels, but he's also not actively doing it because he's enamored with love itself or loving and how it feels. He doesn't care about the idea of love in particular, but he cares about you and what he feels for you.

He isn't making a diorama of the wedding because it's a romantic gesture, he's doing it because it captured how you both felt that day - and how truly beautiful you were in that moment, outshining the stars that danced above that night. He's memorializing his love in every brushstroke and clay flower, making sure to take extra care on the model he built of you. If he could relive any day over and over, it would be that. Sadly, he doesn't have that power, so he'll stick for the photos that captured it and the replicas he could make to truly memorialize it in the physical realm for years to come.

König's love isn't flashy, it isn't showy, it isn't meant to be something grand or fairytale levels of romance. It's simply his. Will he make you a ballgown if you wanted? Absolutely, but he's no prince, nor a king despite his name. Will he dance with you like that if you wanted? Absolutely. But that's not his first thought or a fantasy he really thinks of unless you implement it in his head. He's just him, living in the smaller moments of life. He doesn't need to show off to the world, he doesn't need it to be extravagant or formal, he doesn't need it to be by the books romantic - all of what he does is heartfelt, that's what he knows matters. And it has to be with and for you 💚 that's what matters the most

He's more one for holding you close and slow dancing in the kitchen as the water in the kettle boils, with no rush to be anywhere else. He's not hopelessly romantic, he's not even intentionally romantic, the only thing he's hopelessly in is love 💚

Besides, he's gotta save some moves for the wedding to make it that much more special 👀(he's signing you both up for ballroom dancing the second you express wanting anything like that. He's already picking out the fabric for the dress too)

[marzipanandminutiae]

yes this is about the stupid "make everyone bi button" poll

like I'm sorry. If you can't see any reason a gay person would be bothered by the sentiment of "oh you just need to be attracted to the binary-opposite gender and then you'd be Better! I would do this to you without your consent if given the option!" besides biphobia

especially when people in our own damn community express this sentiment

what is wrong with you

(especially takes on a added dimension with lesbians, because we all know how much society loves punishing women who dare to have ANYTHING in our lives that's not Inclusive Of Men At All Times- and no that is not a dogwhistle; t*rfs can fuck right off. but it is still true; "what about men?!?!?!" still frequently drowns out conversations about misogyny even in queer and/or ostensibly progressive circles)

[velvetjune]

I like how Jessica Preddy says Rose is not in love or infatuated with Alan, but it’s her third job, her life calling. the unstoppable President of the Alan Wake fan club, genuinely Alan’s strongest soldier. (Source: Remedy YouTube)