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[raytoroapologist]

[mellotronmkll]

Literally happy 36th birthday to one of the most beautiful albums ever created

[gayofthefae]

I FINALLY UNDERSTAND WHY PEOPLE THINK MIKE'S STORY CHECKS OUT

I feel like the main important distinction that is the line between Byler and Milkvan for Mike's plot is that you need to listen to Mike's wording.

Mike is upset with himself because he COULDN'T say it. Not because he DIDN'T say it.

He says that maybe if he had said it things would have turned differently, that applies to both, but he ALSO says that he thinks he can't come back from it and that he should have explained himself but didn't because he didn't know what to do.

If you regret not having said something and will remedy that as soon as you see them again, as is Will's interpretation and suggestion ("whatever you didn't say, you can say it to her then"), then you won't say the things you do but the main point? YOU WON'T BE DWELLING ON IT IN THE FIRST PLACE.

Mike wouldn't have brought it up THREE TIMES to Will, saying basically the same thing the first two, if he weren't racking his brain confused. That is a man who DOES NOT HAVE A SOLUTION! not one who's just regretful. One who's regretful says it once and dwells on their lack of action, not their lack of knowledge. If he knows what to do NOW, there's no need to include "I didn't know what to do" in the story...we gathered that.

And THIS is where Byler comes in. I really that's the only difference because under knowing he doesn't have a solution, that requires the painting to have motivated it one way or another and that is an endgame ensurer.

I GET IT NOW. If Mike was immediately able to say it as soon as she left, it would be because in the moment he just froze up out of a fear of vulnerability and Will's painting would be inconsequential to him because he could already say it and would therefore only affect Will's arc, with its payoff being Will telling Mike his feelings and not the lie being revealed because the lie wouldn't have changed Mike's course of action at all. Then his later claim that he didn't say anything because he was scared in the moment makes total sense from the perspective that he was able to as SOON AS THE MOMENT PASSED.

I GET IT NOW. I GET WHY IT MAKES SENSE TO PEOPLE. Because it IS a consistent story...just consistent with a misinterpretation of Mike's words. Clever, writers. Clever. Very strategic ambiguity.

I just finally get it now and that took such a weight off of me I was seriously racking my brain at why people still thought this. They took Mike's words as "I should have" and not "If only I could have". I'm gonna be so much better at debunking now my God that was literally the only difference.

[stylecouncil]

that part in insatiable ones where brett anderson just profusely apologizes to everyone is so funny like girlie it’s fine you’ve said enough in your solo interview where you said you blame yourself for everything. not even that you blame yourself for everything, that everything IS your fault which is so much more final as a statement

[mithliya]

???? why are white people reblogging some racist white person saying the n-word with a hard r.

New Website is succeeding in making me not miss reddit.

[scretladyspider]

“If you have time to watch Netflix you have time for a side hustle” my side hustle is relaxing so that my body and brain can heal from by this nose-to-the-grindstone bullshit. I refuse to feel guilty for being a human with the need to relax sometimes. my side hustle is no.

[miri-draws]

I've been grunklepilled.

[pumpkinhrat]

[temporalteardrop]

bass makes a dollar. i make a dime. that's why i think about lesbian sex on company time

[everydaylouie]

the far side (in 3D)

[echo-s-land]

[monsterfactoryfanfic]

if I've learned anything from grad school it's to check your sources, and this has proven invaluable in the dozens of instances when I've had an MBA-type try to tell me something about finances or leadership. Case in point:

Firefox serves me clickbaity articles through Pocket, which is fine because I like Firefox. But sometimes an article makes me curious. I'm pretty anal about my finances, and I wondered if this article was, as I suspected, total horseshit, or could potentially benefit me and help me get my spending under control. So let's check the article in question.

It mostly seems like common sense. "...track expenses and income for at least a month before setting a budget...How much money do I have or earn? How much do I want to save?" Basic shit like that. But then I get to this section:

This sounds fucking made up to me. And thankfully, they've provided a source to their claim that "research has repeatedly shown" that writing things down changes behavior. First mistake. What research is this?

Forbes, naturally, my #1 source for absolute dogshit fart-sniffing financial schlock. Forbes is the type of website that guy from high school who constantly posts on linkedin trawls daily for little articles like this that make him feel better about refusing to pay for a decent package for his employees' healthcare (I'm from the United States, a barbaric, conflict-ridden country in the throes of civil unrest, so obsessed with violence that its warlords prioritize weapons over universal medical coverage. I digress). Forbes constantly posts shit like this, and I constantly spend my time at leadership seminars debunking poor consultants who get paid to read these claims credulously. Look at this highlighted text. Does it make sense to you that simply writing your financial goals down would result in a 10x increase in your income? Because if it does, let me make you an offer on this sick ass bridge.

Thankfully, Forbes also makes the mistake of citing their sources. Let's check to see where this hyperlink goes:

SidSavara. I've never heard of this site, but the About section tells me that Sid is "a technology leader who empowers teams to grow into their best selves. He is a life-long learner enjoys developing software, leading teams in delivering mission critical projects, playing guitar and watching football and basketball."

That doesn't mean anything. What are his LinkedIn credentials? With the caveat that anyone can lie on Linkedin, Mr. Savara appears to be a Software Engineer. Which is fine! I'm glad software engineers exist! But Sid's got nothing in his professional history which suggests he knows shit about finance. So I'm already pretty skeptical of his website, which is increasingly looking like a personal fart-huffing blog.

The article itself repeats the credulous claim made in the Forbes story earlier, but this time, provides no link for the 3% story. Mr. Savara is smarter than his colleages at Forbes, it's much wiser to just make shit up.

HOWEVER. I am not the first person to have followed this rabbit hole. Because at the very top of this article, there is a disclaimer.

Uh oh!

Sid's been called out before, and in the follow up to this article, he reveals the truth.

You can guess where this is going.

So to go back to the VERY beginning of this post, both Pocket/Good Housekeeping and Forbes failed to do even the most basic of research, taking the wild claim that writing down your budget may increase your income by 10x on good faith and the word of a(n admittedly honest about his shortcomings) software engineer.

Why did I spend 30 minutes to make a tumblr post about this? Mostly to show off how smart I am, but also to remind folks of just how flimsy any claim on the internet can be. Click those links, follow those sources, and when the sources stop linking, ask why.

[ghcstcd]

Sockeye salmon, if he was just a little buddy

[goatsorcery]

im so done with seeing articles about kids and screen time that doesnt mention parent behaviors even once. “kids are always on their phones” so are the parents! which the kids look to for how they should behave! ipad babies didn’t chose to only play on their ipads, thats what their parents gave them!

an anecdotal example: when i was a kid, all my parents would do in their minimal free time was watch tv and then they would be surprised when in my sister and i’s minimal free time we would also only watch tv/play video games. they scolded us for not reading books, but they never read books. they scolded us for not going outside but they never went outside.

“kids are always on their damn phones” my mom is in her 60s and opens up candy crush anytime she’s sitting — it isnt just the kids