#sex and romance repulsed aroace

[the-mechs-flags]

drumbot brian and sex and romance-repulsed aroace please!

sex and romance repulsed aroace flag colorpicked from drumbot brian!

i hope i did the flag justice! original flag under cut for those who don't know it. thank you for the ask!

[h4zardousch3micals]

By the way "some aroace people still date and have sex" and "it's weird how internet spaces makes every single aroace character romance and sex favourable" can and should co-exist. Sincerely, an aroace person

[neptune-scythe]

shout out to repulsed aces and aros who have no safe spaces in fandom because it's just everywhere you turn and it's in all the fanarts and all the fanfics and all the posts except for like ... 5% TOPS.

shout out for enduring the horrors every day for the few rare posts that have nothing to do with sex or romance

[fun-k-boards]

If I ever make a book it's going to be so painfully aromantic and asexual that any allos reading will die from a heart attack because of the lack of romance and sex

[weepingfireflies]

I'm actually not particularly fond of the romance/sex-favorable/neutral/repulsed division as, like, a permanent identity for me because somedays I'm frolicking in romance and smut & other days I want to explode the world if I see ppl even mention a ship at all. I think it's good for a lot of people, but it doesn't really work for me unless I'm feeling repulsed or neutral or favorable

Edit: Everyone who saw this that was wondering if there was a word for this: I've been informed about the term sex/romance-ambivalent. I suggest searching it up. Thank you to the people who mentioned it, but please stop trying to label me. Whether I decide to personally use it as a label is up to me.

[cosmicredcadet]

Accept and support repulsed people or die by my blade

[agendercryptidlev]

People treat characters being AroAce like they're being forced to eat vegetables despite the fact that a character being aspec instantly makes them 300% more cool and interesting.

[bloggingboutburgers]

Had a bit of a "community heartbreak" last week, yet another one in a life-long series (though it'd been a while), so I malfunctioned for some days, took exactly one painkiller, and then finally tried to make sense of stuff that hurt me over the years and that I kept being clueless to for a ridiculous amount of time, so that maybe, hopefully, it could save some people in cases similar to mine some confusion and hurt

[dooblez]

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Last song: Pale Blue Eyes by the Velvet Underground (for drawing purposes I have been listening to this for the past four hours)

Favourite colour: brown :]

Last movie/show: Adventure Time

Sweet/savoury/spicy: SWEET >:) everything else makes my stomach mad at me/j

Relationship status:

/lh

Last thing googled: the Lioden welcome page because I forgor my password :,)

Current obsession(s): Wings of Fire and Space DnD and AT: Fionna & Cake

Nine people I'd like to get to know better

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Favorite color: Blue and purple!

Last movie/TV show: Seinfeld, I’m currently on season four!

Sweet/spicy/savory?: I have a huge sweet tooth, so sweet things

Relationship status: Single

Last thing I googled: I searched up the show “Arthur” because I was trying to find that one meme where Buster was like “You really think someone would do that, just go on the internet and spread lies?”

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[angieblogging]

can we just all collectively agree that it is okay for aroace characters not to date or have sex if they clearly show no interest in it or repulsion?

can we respect that and not ship them?

or are yall too deep into amatonormativity…???

[bored-boring-and-tired]

me currently:

“i want people to have crushes on me so badly because i thrive on external validation and im super insecure so i really really want people to have crushes on me”

also me, being aroace and sex/romance-repulsed (if someone has a crush on me):

“pleasepleasepleaseplease nobody have a crush on me and ESPECIALLY DONT TELL ME because then i have to reject you and i hate rejecting people and then i’ll probably have to come out to avoid hurting anyone because i overthink everything ahahahha”

[natalinova]

Being repulsed is really fucking weird. Not wanting to see people kiss, being uncomfortable when witnessing romantic displays, that's all associated with childishness. I've genuinely thought there was something wrong with me or that I was a bad friend for not wanting to hear about my friend's new boyfriend for hours. Or that not liking to see my friend and her girlfriend kiss meant I was jealous somehow.

It's very alienating and othering and simply confusing because most of us go through this for years before discovering there's a word for it and other people feel this way.

[roses-are-repulsed]

You don't need to be in a romantic relationship or having sex to be queer. You are not required to partake in amatonormativity just to be seen as "Queer enough" You are queer enough as is. You repulsion is Queer enough. The only person who can decide if you're queer or not is you.

[neptune-scythe]

I bring a certain repulsed aroace vibe to the fandom that most people don't appreciate

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

Alright I’ve seen like 40 posts with shit like this “as an aroace shut up and stop saying aroaces can’t date we can ship who ever you want stop saying that allos!!” So I have to say something

Now, the thing is I half agree. I agree that aspec people can date and have sexual / romantic / platonic (aplatonicspec is included in apsec people) relationships. That is 100% fine and you are 110% valid.

This is where it changes:

You can ship who you want, but if you are shipping a romance/sex/(platonic? Friendship-?) repulsed person SHUT THE FUCK UP AND LISTEN. Yes, there are exceptions to everything, however there is a line. you are playing fucking jump rope with it. Helicopter to be exact. You don’t care who gets hurt, you’re just having fun swinging it around.

Which is fine, in its own way, fandom is dolls after all. But let us have one character? Let’s not shove that ship down people’s throats? Let’s not make it main stream? Let’s not ship every single character you see? Thank you

Also

Stop fucking “speaking for aroaces” as an aroace. I know for a fact I don’t speak for the aroaces, I speak for some maybe, maybe more will disagree with that but, either way, STOP.

You don’t speak for all aroaces when you say “aroace people can still date”

You don’t.

Maybe you speak for some.

But shut that fuck up about all.

Thanks for coming to my midnight rambles, I’ve been your host, Jamie! The time is 11:41pm

[vroomvroomwee]

This mama's boy is for the aspecs