#seriously who hurt them

[alaskan-wallflower]

yall act like wendy bebe and heidi are like the plastics in mean girls. you think wendy is regina because for some reason she would bully everyone, especially freshmen. Like hell she would, she’d probably stick up for them. Tall think Bebe is Karen Smith or some shit because you make her out to be some slutty dumbass bimbo who’s only purpose is being eye candy for Clyde. And as if Heidi would be friends with people who are that mean. She said she wanted to change and I believe she can and would. Idk. I hate the way fandom portrays girls. Not that the way M&T do it is any better at this point.

[chirpsythismorning]

The way fans on the st sub are almost all in agreement Nancy ending up with neither Jon nor Steve wouldn’t be the worst thing in the world, and how they can even come up with a sleuth of reasons as to why, honestly pretty valid and fair reasons, but then are absolutely gobsmacked when fans merely speculate something along those lines for El is, quite something.

[jascurka]

I can't believe it the thetehe bed!NN the bed!!!! They gave them a bed to sleep in for their little sleep over I'm so happy I always loved the official art of them watching TV eating snacks and clementines (oranges???)....... Suddenly thinking of that "I'd peel an orange for you" thing....... Wah

🥺😴🥺😴🛌🏼

[miraculouslumination]

The audacity to be like "there's a problem with racism in transandrophobia discussions" while also unironically using the term "transandrophobia truther(s)"

[befickleforever]

Imagine being a victim of sexual assault by a very famous author, making the choice to come forward despite all fears, and then seeing people online decide that you’ve lied or there’s ’more to the story’ because they love the author so ‘believe victims’ doesn’t apply in this scenario. Then imagine having to live with that.

[tpup]

girl who has always ended up bottoming & being treated like a sub despite wanting to top and feel the thrill of dominance x girl who has only ever topped and been expected to dom despite wanting to bottom and submit to someone

[phoenixtakaramono]

There are only two episodes left in The Boys S4, but having seen the leaks and with what we got, I have some opinions.

My conspiracy theory is that they got too many cooks in the kitchen (writers in the writer’s room)—plus the writer’s strike and pandemic happening during this time—and it’s starting to make sense how they dropped the ball with this season.

[crabussy]

I LOVE AND APPRECIATE MY FRIENDS WITH NPD 👊👊👊👊👊👊💥💥💥 OKAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[beastking-golion]

Did christian linke actually do anything wrong beyond saying he didn’t see jayvik as romantic or are you guys just losing your shit over a difference of opinion?

[abandoned-quiche]

i think what undertale fangames should really strive for is to push undertale's themes of mercy to the edge - push the PLAYER to see what their limits are on who deserves mercy.

[rhys-ravenfeather]

Anyway, I literally just blocked someone over this this morning, so casual reminder that no one is ever obligated to forgive anyone. And it is not your place to pressure them to forgive the people who hurt them for any reason.

[some-stars]

i have absolutely NO patience for anyone being shitty or judgmental or othering about addicts, not just because of my ethical principles and baseline compassion for other human beings, but because i have personal experience with how inseparable substance abuse is from mental illness and other kinds of inescapable suffering. i got high on cannabis and benzos all day long, 6 days a week for two years because i had severe treatment-resistant depression (aka i had tried EVERY legal treatment available without improvement). when i found a medication that made it go away almost entirely, i dropped down to maybe 3 times a month purely for fun and after my day's responsibilities are done, within days of starting to feel better. and now i feel like shit again and i've been getting high several times a week as literal self-medication. because, you know, i'm in horrible pain and it would be cruel and inhuman for someone to tell me i had to ignore the one tool i had access to that would reduce my suffering, just so i wouldn't be an ~addict~, which is of course the worse most disgusting worthless thing a person can be.

i know that there are many addictions that are more physically damaging and that people continue to crave physiologically even when they start recovering from the mental or physical pain that drove them to drugs in the first place. i am very, very fortunate that due to my life circumstances i have no access to meth or heroin or more dangerous stuff like that. but it is sure as hell a lot less difficult to resist even those cravings when the pain that they were used to alleviate is drastically reduced!!!

anyway this is all just me restating the rat town study that proved almost all drug addiction is caused by capitalism and/or trauma, and weakening capitalism and building rewarding caring societies eliminates substance abuse almost entirely. why the fuck would you scream at and shame people experiencing unspeakably terrible pain rather than the forces and people who caused/failed to treat that pain?

[pollyannaswag]

personally i think spicytok/dark romance memes poking fun at the ridiculousness of some of it is all good fun but if you seriously take 'issue' with adult women being excited to read smut that appeals to their interests within a community of likeminded people who want to hear about it & share recommendations... you do realize you're just shaming women for having sexuality right

[dazzle02]

Shameless -- Ian Gallagher 5x12-7x11 Defence!!

I'm going to start this off by saying I love all the characters. (Minus the obvious...) I despise the way so many fans talk about Ian. I HATE the narrative that Mickey deserved better than him, that Ian was always wrong in every disagreement. I seriously do.

The one I hate the most is Ian not going to Mexico with Mickey. He was NOT wrong for that. In the slightest. In fact, I'm sorry, but Mickey was wrong for asking him to.

Ian had worked so hard to build a life for himself. He fought so hard to become an EMT. He worked so hard to get to a stable place. And he's just supposed to abandon all of that? Ditch his family who he loves. Leave the job he worked so hard for that he loves. Totally risk his mental health due to not having access to proper health care due to the fact that he would become a fugitive had he gone with him, plus the instability of a life on the run would've been terrible for him.

And yes, in S8 he did end up manic, and he did end up a fugitive and then in prison and losing his job. But he didn't know that was going to happen. He DID know it would definitely have happened if he'd gone to Mexico with Mickey. And if by some miracle they managed to stay out of prison, he never would've been able to see his family again. I know everyone loves to say Mickey was the only support system he needs or whatever, but that's just NOT true in the slightest. Ian loves his family. His siblings mean the world to him.

And you know what? In the long run, him not going was much better for both of them. If he'd gone, they would've just spent the rest of their lives on the run in Mexico as fugitives, he'd likely never be in a very good place with his bipolar, and it'd just be them and I truly think they'd have grown to resent each other. But with him not going, Mickey ended up turning himself back in when he went to Prison, and ended up getting let out the right way meaning they could actually have a life together where they had other family, Ian could take care of his bipolar properly, and there likely won't be any resentment.

Now look, I love Mickey. And I totally understand him. He's got so much trauma. But I'm gonna be pretty critical of him right now. Mostly because no one ever seems to be and I need to point this out.

He was in Prison for a crime he DID commit. He drugged Sammi. He planned to torture her. He thought he'd killed her. And hey, I hate Sammi and I honestly do enjoy those scenes between Mickey and Debbie. But at the end of the day, he DID commit the crime he was arrested for.

And I hate people saying that Ian should understand he did that for him and that he was in prison for Ian. NO!

Ian never asked him to do that. It wasn't for Ian. I'm sorry, but it just wasn't. To me, doing things FOR someone it HAS TO BE something they'd actually WANT done. Or that would actually benefit them.

Ian never would've wanted them to go after Sammi like that. And it wasn't going to do him any good either. She was leaving. She hurt him in a TERRIBLE way and she needed some sort of consequences, but at the end of the day that wasn't doing anything for Ian.

What he'd needed at that point was stability. Ian obviously got out of Military Prison and ran off with Monica, then came back and broke up with Mickey. But I honestly believe that if Mickey hadn't then been arrested Ian would've found his way back to him pretty quickly, I mean just look at Ian during that scene. He was NOT okay. He was on the verge of a depressive episode. And he felt he was hurting Mickey by keeping him around, and he also was feeling like everyone just saw him as something that needed to be fixed. I mean, he was on his meds from the start of S6! I truly think that had Mickey not been arrested, they would've been able to work things out.

But instead Mickey was arrested. And I truly think Ian was really hurt at learning what went down. It wasn't about Sammi, he couldn't care less about her. I don't even think it was even about Mickey trying to kill/torture her.

I mean, look at it from Ian's perspective for a moment. He's just opened up to Mickey about how shitty his meds make him feel, he feels he's getting somewhere with Mickey being his partner again instead of his caretaker, then MP's show up and arrest him and he's in Military Prison. And what does Mickey decide to do? Torture Sammi. Get revenge. Sometimes revenge isn't what someone needs. At that point in time, Ian needed stability. I think in his mind, Mickey took this huge risk at the time he needed him the most and it got him in prison. And I think that would've hurt him. But I also think he would feel a lot of guilt, because Mickey's excuse for it was that he did it FOR IAN. And I will always hate things like that.

People say Ian just abandoned Mickey in Prison. But I honestly think Ian felt abandoned by Mickey too.

So yeah, Mickey was in Prison because he committed a crime. Then he escaped. And I get it. No one wants to be in Prison. But people act like he was in there for a crime he didn't commit and that just isn't true.

Ian didn't owe Mickey anything. Him not going to Mexico was NOT a betrayal. It was him realising that it wouldn't be a good idea. For either of them. He gave him ALL HIS MONEY! And that is HUGE for a Gallagher. He grew up with so little money. They were barely scraping by so often. And he was finally making a stable income, he had SAVINGS, and he gave it ALL to Mickey. Because at the end of the day, even though he knew he couldn't go with him, he wanted Mickey to be okay. And he WANTED TO GO! You can see it that Ian wanted to go. But he knew he couldn't.

And while we're at it. Fiona wasn't wrong for telling Ian that Mickey would set a match to the life he'd built. HE WAS A FUGITIVE! It's not even about Mickey as a person. It's about the fact that Ian never could've had a stable life with him while he was a fugitive having escaped from prison. (Honestly, I could write so much about Fiona and Lip and the narrative that they always treated Mickey terribly and never gave him a chance. I will defend the Gallaghers forever. They've fucked up, but this is something I will ALWAYS defend them on!! And I might make a post about this another time...)

In conclusion, Ian loves Mickey. Mickey loves Ian. But Ian was not wrong to not go to Mexico, and I maintain that Mickey shouldn't have asked him to. I just genuinely don't think he stopped to think about the damage it would do to Ian's mental health, which is understandable as he was in a very stressful situation. But people need to stop villainising Ian for choosing to do what was best for them both.

[princessefemmelesbian]

Well would you look at this. 😵‍💫 Because obviously if you dare say anything as wild and controversial as “lesbians don’t like men, please stop using a label that hurts us and tries to force men into our identity” you’re a raging terf radfem transmisogynist. Because obviously ONLY trans women use the bi lesbian label and it’s not like there are transfem lesbians who are rightfully against the label as well or anything and it’s not like terfs use the label to refer to cis lesbians who date trans women and why can’t you just let people identify as how they want of course lesbians like men stop the infighting already if you disagree with me that lesbians can like men then surely that’s because you’re an exclusionist gatekeeper who hates trans women.

[kathrahender]

When talking about some ships, people always seem to forget that they aren't in an actual abusive relationship. And I'm tired of reading always the same thing about them. They always say they're abusive, but I'm here to tell you that no, these two ships aren't abusive. Not at all.

First, about the "Bakudeku."

In Boku No Hero episode 1, before Bakugo and Izuku were classmates in the UA, Bakugo told Izuku "kys", that's true. And Bakugo abused Izuku, that's also true. But tell me one thing. During their time in UA, Bakugo hurt Izuku like a partner would? Yeah, he called him "Deku" (and we all know what that word means), but apart from that, what did he do to Midoriya for you to call him abusive? And last time I watched the anime, at the beginning, their friendship before going to UA was only one-sided (that's what implied the moment when Bakugo rejected his help to get up in the river when they were still kids) and they weren't a couple, so technically you can't even call Bakugo an abusive friend, much less an abusive partner. First, have that in mind.

Secondly, after Bakugo apologized to Izuku for hurting him, do you think he would ever dare to hurt him again? Because it's not believable. After Bakugo's apology, he would never hurt Izuku, not in a emotional nor in a physical way.

And thirdly, are you so worried about people shipping this couple, which is not even canon and there are fanfics/fanarts where their relationship is VERY healthy (and I'm sure they wouldn't be toxic even if they were canon, not after Bakugo's apology), when there is A LOT of ACTUALLY TOXIC canon ships????

Now, talking about Catradora

So we all know what happened between them since the beginning of the show, right? They were friends, later they became enemies, then they became relluctant-allies, until they became friends again and finally, at the end of the show, they became lovers. When talking about "Catradora", anti-Catradora's fans always say Catra is toxic towards Adora, and they also say the Catradora is a toxic ship. But... where is the toxicity in their romance? Well, better said- their "ex-friends who became enemies and then they became lovers at the end of the show" relationship. Can you read that? Because that's exactly what happened in the show.

Catra and Adora were friends when they were in the Fright Zone, until Adora discovered the sword and she became She-Ra. Then, she switched sides, going through a Heel-Face turn because she discovered she was in the bad side all along. You know what happened after that? Exactly, Catra and Adora became enemies. And since the beginning of the show, and until season 5, they still were enemies. Not friendly-rivals, not friends, and not lovers. They were enemies. And correct me if I'm wrong, (which I'm not) but you're not supposed to treat your enemy kindly or gently. They are your enemy and not anything else for a reason. They're not your partner, your friend or nothing like that. You hate them. You want to see them destroyed. Because they're your enemy.

But we all know there's a little thing called "enemies to lovers". You know that exists, right? The trope where two enemies who hurt each other become a couple? The trope where two people from opposite sides come to terms and they are no longer fighting each other? Yes? You know that trope? Because that's exactly what happens in this show.

Their relationship is like this: friends-enemies-friends-lovers. And if we watched the same show (I doubt that because if we watched the same show you wouldn't be saying Catradora is toxic) you should be aware that they become a couple at the end of the show. You should be aware that we don't see them being abusive towards each other when they are a couple. And again, as I said in another post, "A" character hurting "B" character when they are in opposite sides is not the same as "A" character hurting "B" character when they are an actual couple. So, therefore, Catradora can't be toxic because we didn't see them being abusive when they were girlfriends.