#sensitive conversations

[howdoesone]

How does one not freak out when their new friend’s mom says, “Your hair looks just like your father’s…from what I remember of the donor catalog”?

Building new friendships is an exciting experience, full of shared stories, mutual interests, and new discoveries about each other. However, sometimes conversations can take unexpected turns, leading to moments of discomfort or surprise. One such scenario is when a new friend’s mom remarks, “Your hair looks just like your father’s…from what I remember of the donor catalog.” For individuals…

[antianakin]

Headcanon that Cody actually thinks Obi-Wan is ten times more attractive in his Jedi clothing than he ever was in armor. He doesn't think Obi-Wan is UNATTRACTIVE as such when he's wearing more armor earlier in the war, but one day he sees Obi-Wan with either no armor or just the bracers and something just CLICKS and his jaw drops to the floor because YES, that's exactly how Obi-Wan should always look.

And bonus headcanon that he sees Obi-Wan in Mandalorian armor for whatever Reasons and immediately hates it and thinks it's probably the most unattractive Obi-Wan has ever looked. Obi-Wan finds this absolutely hilarious.

[not-the-living-ghost]

One thing that I think oftentimes goes unspoken in the Dead Boy Detectives fandom is the sheer societal difference between modern day and the society that Edwin grew up in. And yes, we talk about Edwin’s repression and his aversion to touch, but I mean this more so in the context of race, class, and gender.

Gay or not, Edwin is ultimately a white upper class cisgender man growing up in the Edwardian Era; there are clearly bound to be aspects of society that he’s not terribly educated on.

We see this implicitly shown at times in the show (for instance, 9 times out of 10, when a woman in the show acts in any way that he perceives to be out of the ordinary, Edwin jumps straight to hysteria, when the very concept of hysteria in and of itself is made up and deeply rooted in misogyny), but I am also curious to see how this would have impacted Edwin’s integration into modern society in the early days, when he first escaped Hell.

I am also curious to see how, over time, Charles’ views might have altered Edwin’s perspective on things. Here we have Charles, who is notably punk, definitely anti monarchist, and anti-capitalist meeting Edwin, who back in 1916, I highly doubt ticked any of those boxes. I’m curious to see how any sort of political conversation between the two ghosts would go

[woahjo]

mmmm high lord katsuki and new attendant reader…

he’s a cold man, with an icy stare and a fiery temper that is set off at the drop of a hat. the high lord katsuki has a reputation for being harsh on his peers and servants alike, though he has enough political sense to keep the peace.

he’s from an important family, born and bred with a silver spoon in his mouth and taught all of the niceties of good society. katsuki has read all of the classics and, in addition to an impressive family home (which he manages along with familial business), he has an extensive library, which he visits frequently.

you are low-born, only granted to opportunity of reading because your father taught you before he passed away. you’d been forced to find work when he passed and, by some stroke of luck, someone in the kitchens was willing to take you in and have you keep inventory for a small monthly salary. reading and writing comes in handy for that.

you consider yourself unlucky, however, at being noticed by katsuki’s first officer and personal attendant, kirishima, who happens to be of common birth with a position that should belong to a noble and thus, outranks you. well, just about everyone our ranks you. it’s him who recommends you for the “promotion” and lands you in katsuki’s personal office in the main house.

“my lord,” he says, stepping into the room with the comfort only a noble could have. “i’ve brought them.”

“who?” katsuki doesn’t raise his head. his voice is low and gravelly.

“the new serving staff, my lord,” he states. “the one from the kitchen inventory.”

katsuki looks up at this, his gaze unimpressed and unyielding. he looks you over for a moment, staring as if to size you up.

oh, he’s beautiful. it’s shameful thing to think of such a harsh man, but it’s the truth. he almost looks like a painting, with hard set eyes and round lips. you’d expected someone frightening, with harsh features and sharp, cutting proportions befitting of a man with rumors like the ones surrounding him. instead, the man who sits before you seems a prince with a slightly colder gaze. you suppose that his beauty is drowned out by the other rumors surrounding him.

“you said they could read?” katsuki snaps.

“yes, my lord,” he responds.

katsuki doesn’t comment on this, instead, he shifts his gaze to you and harshly barks a question.

“you’re willing to work?”

what does that matter? you don’t have much of a choice.

“yes, my lord.”

“very good,” katsuki says. “kirishima, see her to her quarters.”

kirishima excuses himself and you bow deeply and do the same. katsuki’s gaze lingers on you for a moment as you bow. it is so intense that you can almost feel the moment he tears it from you and returns to pouring over the papers in front of him. he does not look up again as you shut the door.

katsuki gives the impression that he is made of stone, stubborn and immovable. you imagine that his peers have trouble convincing him of anything and you briefly wonder, judging by the hard look he’d given you, if you’ll run into the same trouble.

[danandfuckingjonlmao]

edwin is a better, stronger man than i, because i would be infinitely more dramatic and petty in his position when crystal enters the scene and charles starts paying attention to her. i would have comic!edwin’s reaction at least (accusing charles of choosing girls over him, storming off to solve cases on his own and deciding to do shit that will get him into trouble so that charles has to come rescue him, etc) but i’d probably take it a step further. i’d be like “i guess you want me to go back to hell then since i’m basically nothing to you 😒” and then i’d legitimately go back to hell JUST to see if he came after me. if he didn’t come after me then an eternity of torture in hell is nothing compared to the pain of rejection and being replaced. but i’m also incredibly mentally ill, so.

(james acaster once told a story about a christmas where he asked his parents for a spice girls cd. he found out whilst at the pool with his family that his sister was getting the cd instead of him. naturally, he tried to drown himself in the pool to make his parents feel guilty. that’s my vibe if i were ever in edwin’s position.)

[sweetmage]

I definitely agree there are some glaring issues with the way Cyberpunk 2077 handles minorities (especially as it relates to gender, sexuality, and orientalism) but I feel like every day I come across someone, somewhere complaining about the advertisements or the way they fetishize and exploit minorities.

My beloveds, in our real actual world McDonald's ran a very stereotypical and frankly kinda racist ad campaign trying to appeal to black people. Many many companies have used scantily clad women as advertisements. Remember the Go-Daddy commercials that made it look like if you went to their website you'd see the rest of their porno premise setup?

Ad agencies and people trying to sell you something are not your friend in the real or fictional world. Night City is a city absolutely ravaged by the furthest extremes of capitalism. Of course they're objectifying women, and fetishizing trans people, and feeding into body dysmorphia, and preying on the mentally ill and vulnerable. Is this not the (not so distant) extremes of what our real life society already does? Do you expect that a place primarily run by rich CEOs would care about ethics and morals and integrity over their bottom line? Do you expect that sexuality and nudity won't be exploited at every turn to drain as much cash as possible out of the public?

The way in which some of the characters are written and some of the game mechanics work definitely have some big issues I hope Orion corrects but expecting a squeaky clean, ethical depiction of a capitalist dystopia is just... not what the cyberpunk genre is about 😅

[buk-kakyoin]

Sam, about to word vomit at his workplace about government secrets that'll get him literally killed: "oh good, no computers in sight. They are the sole enemy we need to worry about and we're free to talk in secret here!"

The nosy-ass CCTV camera that see all and craves the hot goss: *whirring camera laughter* *popcorn making sounds*

[hindahoney]

Wild and revolutionary concept: maybe don't treat converts like trash just because they're converts? And also don't ask someone if they're a convert in a public setting?

[cultkinkcoven]

@ null

Let me go ahead and give you a proper response, because I think this needs to be addressed.

Fucking hell.

I wrote a whole probably better worded response to this that Tumblr destroyed so you get this.

*deep sigh*

Lets try this again slowly. You are obviously very upset and running with things completely out of context. It's incredible to me that of all the things said in that post, you somehow came to the conclusion that my argument is that it's okay to draw naked kids. Truly incredible.

I am not defending pedophilia. Pedophilia does not need to be defended, it is a mental disorder. The word "pedophile" is not the same word as "child predator" let's get that very clear right away. I don't care how uncomfortable it makes you. I refuse to moralize primal human psychology.

The point of my post was to stop moralizing primal human psychology, desires and fixations. Full stop.

I am not defending illustrated CSAM, I am not saying it's okay that this content exists or encouraging its creation. I am making the very real and important distinction between illustrated contextual fantasy and illegal CP content. No, drawing r34 of a cartoon character isn't going to immediately catch you a charge. It is highly dependent on the context and the way the act is portrayed. There is an immense amount of nuance here and I'm not going to discount it to make your life easier.

I'll say it again: We as a people do not know how to determine why something is actually wrong. You yourself clearly do not.

The issue with the situation you describe has always been children being exposed to inappropriate content. It does not matter if it is illustrated, real, written in text or spoken aloud.

Children being exposed to any type of inappropriate content is traumatizing. It is not the existence of porn or fetish content that hurts kids, it is being exposed to it by predatory adults.

This content cannot harm children unless an adult is actively harming them. Your abuser could have used any kind of content to groom you. Your issue is not with the existence of fetish content or grown adults engaging with consenting adults in private.

Your issue is with *children* being *exposed* to inappropriate material. And fetish content, sexual content, violent content, is not for children.

Yes, consuming extreme and illegal fetish content can increase your predisposition to causing harm.

But fantasized illustrated and exaggerated content is not snuff. Eroticism is not porn and porn is not snuff. Two consenting adults engaging in pet play is not bestiality. Furry porn is not bestiality. Age play is not pedophilia. There are no children and no animals involved in this situation. Watching real depictions of crimes will erode someone's sensitivity to it., that is true. Watching campy exaggerated horror movies does not make you a violent freak who loves murder. Finding an image of a fake anime girl hot does not directly translate to finding real children attractive or wanting to engage with them. I'm so sick of us watering down what pedophilia is.

Adults engaging with other adults does not harm children. Full stop. Is it weird? Yes, as fuck. It's allowed to be weird and gross. That does not make it harmful.

I said in my reblog that inappropriate content does not belong on all ages sites. Extreme fetish content must be restrained to monitored and moderated adult only forums so that illegal content can be identified and investigated. Porn is traumatizing for children to see in general. That does not mean we need to ban porn for the entire population. The issue isn't the porn. It is the access to it by minors.

Does this mean illustrated CSAM okay? No. I said that multiple times, idk how many times I have to say it. No. No. No it is not definitely okay. Not everything needs to be so aggressively black and white. It does not have to be the worst thing in the world to be a red flag. It is not normal. It is still problematic, it is still inappropriate. It is still a red flag. It is still risky.

What that means is that we need to approach these things with consideration and respect so that it does not evolve into something dangerous.

It means keep fetish content where it belongs, on adult sites.

It means report fetish content when you see it on public platforms and social media sites

It means keep adult conversations between adults.

Predators exposing kids to inappropriate content is not the fault of sex workers trying to make a living. Predators exposing kids to inappropriate content is not the fault of adults coping with their condition in non-harmful and private ways.

Pedophilia is a mental disorder, and I refuse to moralize human psychology. The mass majority of people who suffer from this condition are former victims of childhood sexual assault. I am not defending predators or predatory behavior. Not all pedophiles are predators and I refuse to persecute a group of people with no justification other than my discomfort. I don't care how hard that is. Life isn't easy. I am willing to preserve the uncomfortable nature of the truth if it means preserving the truth.

People who have problematic, unethical and illegal fetishes, kinks and, fixations deserve space and empathy. I will say it 1000 more times.

You observing behavior between sexual predators means nothing to me. I am not going to assert that all people who engage with paraphilias act the way that sex traffickers do. Nor am I going to assert that all drug users are irresponsible addicts. Again, too simple of an explanation for an incredibly complex topic and a gross generalization of a huge group of people. I will not treat an entre population as if they are corrupt. Doing so does not stop the corruption.

You still think I'm a deplorable monster? Block me.

And the next time you see disturbing content that is not for you, Block that too.

Block and avoid things that make you feel uncomfortable and unsafe. Do not engage in conversations that are not meant for you.

I swear there always has to be at least one person who takes a single sentence completely out of context and just runs with it, its like one of the inevitabilities of the universe or something. I guess it wouldn't be a Luciferian take if it wasn't unjustly distorted by at least one person so.

[howdoesone]

How does one ask their new friend if they also feel like a science experiment gone right?

In today’s rapidly advancing world of reproductive technology, the concept of children conceived through sperm donation is no longer rare. Yet, despite the growing number of kids who share this unique origin story, the conversation surrounding it remains sensitive and often awkward. One particularly tricky scenario is asking a new friend, who might also be a sperm donor child, if they too feel…

[sloasis]

The thing about Chris going to Texas is that if he called ANYONE other than Eddie's parents , he would already be back home and talked about it and forgiven his father . If he TOLD Eddie that he didn't want to stay there in their house anymore because he was still really upset with him then Eddie would've been like okay I love you , we can call Tia Pepa or Abuela or Buck or even Bobby and you can stay with any of them for however long you need . I'm not blaming Chris or anything like I understand what and why he wanted to leave , that is a very weird and upsetting and even traumatic thing to come home and see your own father almost kissing a woman who looked exactly like your dead mother but I think he could've still stayed in L.A. to process it all .

He called Eddie's parents , his grandparents cause he could've KNOWN they always wanted him to stay with them , he could've known that they were always gonna drop everything to come GET him , [ and he probably just wanted to get as far away as he could I totally get that , especially as a teenager lol ] and thats a bad thing , in my opinion . I mean like again I don't blame Christopher or anything , that seemed like the best option that he wanted and thats okay and valid but it's quite literally been in the narrative from the first second we saw Eddie's parents that they have ALWAYS wanted to take Chris away from him , they have always thought that he was an incompetent parent and that it was gonna ruin / blow up his life and I just really hope we get to see that storyline and conversation finally get closure because THAT is messed up . Eddie needs to tell them that , he needs to tell them to back off and that they've always gotten into his head about his own parenting and that it's made him feel small and useless and that he's been grieving his youth and Shannon's life AND death for most of his life because of it and the way they've always belittled his choices and decisions . Eddie deserves that closure and Chris deserves to understand and I just hope they come out of it closer than ever . Eddie deserves his little boy back and Chris deserves to forgive his father

[punk-o-ween]

this is so random i know and perhaps im just being a bit paranoid about this but im sorry if i do come off as too enthusiastic, energetic, hyper etc through posts and/or comments...i have been told this b4 and i dont think ive ever made a post about it

i know not everyone likes it, especially since i use caps a lot usually with people im more comfortable with or if im very happy about something (which is 99.9% of the time because i try to be positive) but im usually just afraid of people taking my tone the wrong way so i try to be myself and be more silly through text so that ppl dont take me the wrong way ... same reason why i rarely use periods/always use "!" and always add emojis and/or emojicons after i say something so that people know im being lighthearted especially if im expressing an opinion

if you dont like it, just lmk bc i do feel very bad when people arent caps users or energetic thru text and im over here looking like im screaming in ur face but ueah sorry once again😭😭

[buwheal]

Glitches and bugs. Doodle page.

Getting used to drawing his cheeks specifically and stretching the boundries of his shape. Somewhat.

[inseparabiles]

#highkey envy everybody in the tags#who gets asks like 'please write piss kink yesterday'#where the fuck are you getting your freaks from#high society life has made me so prim and proper#got my pinky up when I drink my fucking tea

would you like write smut like that? is that why you haven't because you don't get asks like that and you would if you did? asking for a friend

It's genuinely. Like don't get me wrong we do like writing our genfic, we do love our all of that that we're doing anyway and people seem to like reading, but it's like

I guess it's been oddly branding? And I don't know if it's that people now take that brand as a "well you wouldn't do this thing and asking it of you would be weird and I'm going to respect your implicit boundaries by not doing it" or if it's more like "we, the audience that you have, want this specific thing that you're already writing and when you part from it it's HIGHKEY WEIRD and OFFPUTTING" or a mix of both but

would we like to get the kind of unhinged requests that we're seeing all over the tags? Get slapped in the face with an ask that's just so out there? Write explicit for the sake of explicit without having to find a better excuse for it? Yes. God. Yes. We would.

[soph4estela]

need these nowwww ૮꒰ྀི⸝⸝> . <⸝⸝꒱ྀིა

[daily-hanamura]