#it’s because charles never had reason to be jealous before until other males started being able to see and interacting with edwin

[danandfuckingjonlmao]

edwin is a better, stronger man than i, because i would be infinitely more dramatic and petty in his position when crystal enters the scene and charles starts paying attention to her. i would have comic!edwin’s reaction at least (accusing charles of choosing girls over him, storming off to solve cases on his own and deciding to do shit that will get him into trouble so that charles has to come rescue him, etc) but i’d probably take it a step further. i’d be like “i guess you want me to go back to hell then since i’m basically nothing to you 😒” and then i’d legitimately go back to hell JUST to see if he came after me. if he didn’t come after me then an eternity of torture in hell is nothing compared to the pain of rejection and being replaced. but i’m also incredibly mentally ill, so.

(james acaster once told a story about a christmas where he asked his parents for a spice girls cd. he found out whilst at the pool with his family that his sister was getting the cd instead of him. naturally, he tried to drown himself in the pool to make his parents feel guilty. that’s my vibe if i were ever in edwin’s position.)

[mrpenguinpants]

Diluc: Comfort HCs

Oh no worries anon! We’re getting through everything and I can just see the top. I’m not sure if people saw it - probably not - but my entire blog has devolved into “See this genshin character? Animal.” and I refuse to have another cat character so I’m making Diluc a hawk.  

Apparently (maybe) Diluc’s bird is a nightingale [voicelines]. But I don’t really see Diluc the kind of guy to serenade you at night in secret because your father doesn’t approve of your marriage.

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Today’s appreciation post goes to fulltimeventisimp. Tumblr throws a goddamn fit when I try to tag people (even though I literally have a tag list but that’s apparently not good enough) so I hope you see this^^ You’ve been so nice and caring to me I feel so soft 😭 and I hope you’re doing alright! I’m remembering to take breaks and rest  💕💕

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Semi Part 1: Relationship HCs [I would read this just for the last point]

Diluc Ver: Jealous HCs

[Masterlist]

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Diluc: Comfort HCs

Diluc has always had either an aloof or professional persona based on who he needed to talk to. In both cases, no matter the subject or how Diluc talked, there would always be some sort of forced distance so no one would mistaken it as familiarity or friendliness. There were only a two cases where he felt comfortable and those were with close friends and his staff. The third case being Kaeya but Diluc prefers to not acknowledge him and stashes that folder away. Even with friend’s such as Jean or Elzer, he could never really relax and let his true feelings slip until you burst into his life. Literally. “An unexpected outcome of an experiment,” is what Albedo had told him but regardless, since you entered his life he’s let himself regress into his younger days and let himself take for once.

Maybe that was why you had gotten so used to Diluc’s touched starved self that, when it was suddenly gone, you were feeling uneasy. Lately Diluc seemed to be spending longer hours at his desk or working at the tavern. You knew that he was just busy and there wasn’t any underhanded reasoning behind it, Diluc wasn’t that kind of guy. But did he seriously have to spend every waking moment, day or night, talking to the same people? When was the last time you saw him for more than two minutes? Diluc isn’t a big fan of idle talking but would it seriously hurt just to catch up? You didn’t even get together to have your weekly chess matches too.

You didn’t consider yourself a very clingy person and you knew what a relationship with Diluc was going to be like so why were you getting so bothered? You decided to take the situation in your hands and go visit him at the tavern only to see him so busy at work. It both made you a bit huffy, you wanted to storm in there and drag the man away from his work so he could stop trying to speed run life - not like that would ever happen because the second hand embarrassment would make you dissolve into the ground and you could never show your face to Diluc if you actually did that - but also making you more upset. Here he was, working and running his business, and you couldn’t go at least a couple weeks without seeing him. You ended up turning around and going home to scream into your pillow and sleep the heavy feeling away.

Your inner turmoil seemed to seep out into the open that Kaeya felt the need to bring it up. As much as Diluc dislikes Kaeya around you, he really does care about you and he still does owe you for the troubles he gave you when you first started going out with Diluc. He catches you while you’re off running errands and manages to coax you into getting some lunch with him. You’ve been bottling up your feelings so much that when Kaeya shows some concern you let it all pour out. At this point you don’t care if it’s Kaeya of all people you’re confessing your feelings to, you just want to get it off your chest because the man you’re in love with doesn’t seem to notice you’re actually there and it’s making you feel insecure about yourself. Kaeya gives you a sympathetic smile and tells you not to worry about it, he’ll personally knock some sense into Diluc.

Diluc’s been hard at work on another possible Fatui plan and business with the winery that he can’t help but feel that he was missing something. Was he overlooking something? He had planned this for a while so everything should be perfect. It wasn’t until Kaeya himself had to walk in, press his hand on the tavern counter, and call him an idiot that he realizes that he had been so wrapped up in his work and personal duties that he completely neglected you. He quickly passes his duties to Charles with a quick apology, throws his coat on, gives Kaeya a very strained thank you, and he’s out the door to find you. He’s already lost so much so he’ll be damned if he looses you. Not right now. 

You gave him the key to your home after a few months of being together, in case his he needed to temporarily hide should his night activities get the best of him. He’s already at your door in seconds as he quickly unlocks and steps in. 

“Beloved?” he softly calls out to not accidently scare you but he receives no reply. It’s dark inside but he can see your shoes at the door so he knows you’re inside somewhere. He softly closes and locks the door as he hangs his coat up. Carefully running a hand down the fabric and beside your coat as he looks around your small home. He’s always felt it was warm even when you weren’t here. The “home” he has will always be the place he grew up in but after everything that’s happened, he feels a bit alienated in there so he always appreciated that you lent him a key.

He catches the sound of some shuffling and follows the sound to see you under your blankets. He breathes a quick sigh of relief that you weren’t in any danger as he carefully circles around your bed before gently placing a hand on your back. He’s never been good at words or communicating his feelings so he’s at a bit of a standstill. Despite his reputation of being a nobleman of high esteem, you’re his first serious relationship. As far as he’s concerned you’re going to be his only relationship for that matter.

“I...apologize for my recent behaviour. It was never my intention to hurt you. I ended up letting myself get too blinded to see you were in pain and that was my fault. You don’t have to forgive me now but won’t you let me see your face my love?” he asked in all his awkward pose, put him in front of massive event and he’ll perform with flying colours but put him in front of his partner and he stumbles over his worlds like a new born fawn. But it seems to bring a small laugh from you as you peek from under the covers. 

He smiles softly as he sees your ears flush pink. No matter how many times he calls you that you always get so shy, he adores it. But he can feel the guilt rise up in his chest, you’ve always been there to support and reassure him that he was doing everything right. That things were going to be okay when he re-took his father’s business and you would be with him every step of the way. So in the best and awkward way that Diluc can manage, he tells you this. By the time he’s done he can feel his own face start to pink but it’s made you feel better so it was worth it. 

“Feeling better?” he smiles softly as you nod up at him as he lays down beside you, opening his arms in comfort, “Good, come here.” 

You shuffle closer to him as he holds you. It’s been awhile since he’s held you like this and even without realizing it, he’s missed this. Just you and him together, basking in each other’s presence. No work that needed to be attended to. No Fatui trying to cause him any more trouble. It was a safe place and one he didn’t want to let go.  

“What if we got married?”

There’s a beat of silence. 

Then a thud. 

You end up scrambling and falling off your bed face first. It’s a bit silent as you give off a pain groaned and climb back up and he can see your face has exploded red. He can almost see steam coming off as you try and nurse your nose. He blinks a bit at you taken aback as you stutter and scream into your hands as your brain seems to process what he just asked. You lift your face from your hands to look at him, somehow go even redder, and scream louder into your hands. He’s not sure if this is something he should be offended or concerned about but the weight he had been feeling earlier starts to fade away as a new and familiar feeling bubbles up. For the first time in half a month, Diluc let’s out a laugh as he tries to console you as you manage out a yes.

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Gripping my writing hand why is no one stopping me? Diluc you’re literally acting like Childe rn. [if anyone is confused ahem Childe: Fiancé HCs (should be in my masterlist)]

Also, I continue to look away from the lore. Kaeya and Diluc are not on the best of terms but if they can have petty rich lady wine talk then Kaeya can walk in and call Diluc an idiot.

I was serious when I said that I researched hawk behaviours. I have learned the internet is horrible in telling me how hawks behave. But I did find this and I found this hilarious:

In the case of the red-tailed hawk, for example, the pair soar, screaming at each other; then the male dives at the female, who may roll in the air to present her claws to him in mock combat.

[letterboxd]

Family.

“We’re trying to say: stop thinking about Manson as the embodiment of all evil. If he got a record deal, maybe nobody would have died.”

Jack Moulton talks cults, Trump and noise-cancelling headphones with American actress and screenwriter Guinevere Turner. Charlie Says is her latest film with frequent collaborator, Canadian director Mary Harron.

Of the serial-killer films currently in release, Charlie Says is the one that puts a strong focus on the women who often remain in the background of these retellings. Leslie Van Houten (Hannah Murray), Patricia Krenwinkel (Sosie Bacon), and Susan Atkins (Marianne Rendón)—the three women who killed for Charles Manson (Matt Smith)—are imprisoned in isolation in a California penitentiary, as well as psychologically imprisoned by Manson’s delusional ideas.

Then graduate student Karlene Faith (Merritt Wever) is given the job of rehabilitating the young women—as long as they are prepared to confront the horrors of their actions.

Turner co-wrote the 90s urban indie lesbian feature Go Fish directed by Rose Troche, which preceded her meeting with Harron. Charlie Says is their most recent collaboration, having partnered previously on American Psycho and The Notorious Bettie Page.

What interested you in writing a film about Charles Manson? Guinevere Turner: When the producers met with me they said they wanted to focus on the women as we definitely never got a sense of a story told from their perspective before. Once I found Karlene Faith’s book The Long Prison Journey of Leslie Van Houten [Faith’s study of the rehabilitation process and elongated incarceration of the three Manson Family girls], I saw a whole side of the story that literally never gets represented.

I got very excited that I could make a good movie out of this and it would also be an interesting commentary on what it says about society that we always treated these women like they’re interchangeable. Nobody’s ever asked “what happened to them?”, “what made them do what they did?” and more importantly “why did we stop talking about them?”. We never stopped talking to Charlie! There was a real opportunity to talk about men and women, who and when we pay attention to historically.

Did you get the chance to work with Karlene Faith in person before she passed away [in May 2017]? Yes, she was fantastic. It took a while to persuade her into talking to me at first. I slowly gained her trust via email, then we would talk on the phone, and eventually I would be visiting her apartment in Vancouver and we became friends. For about two years we were as thick as thieves.

Her book was obviously a huge resource but she was also useful for research as she was a woman of that time. She gave me a great visual, listening to her activist life outside of prison. When she met the girls for the first time she had all these assumptions that they were gonna be freaky psycho-killers and she was blown away by how sweet they were. She was immediately turned by them and she wanted to help them.

What were some of the unexpected realities of living in a cult environment that you wanted to portray? So I grew up in a cult environment as you probably knew so I assume that’s why you ask that question. [Ms. Turner spent the first eleven years of her life as part of the Lyman Family. They were devotees of Mel Lyman who believed he and his commune members would eventually live on the planet Venus. Though parted from her mother after birth, she and her younger sister were ejected from the Family when her mother eventually decided to leave. Ms. Turner considered returning at eighteen but chose to go to college instead.]

Yes, I read the article in The New Yorker. For me, I was excited to bring this knowledge in my DNA of what it’s really like living in that environment to represent both the good and the bad parts. You have those semi-orgy scenes and people doing acid, but also scenes where everyone is sitting around for dinner. That grounds it a little more. At the end of the day, it is a family—albeit an infamously weird one—but it is a bunch of people trying to live together.

While there’s the “everyday” quality to it I also wanted to show the volatility. It can be beautifully tranquil one moment and then turn on the dime into something scary and destabilizing. I feel like those things were true of my childhood. Mary Harron heard me talking about my upbringing for decades and she would always say “you should write about it”. I didn’t want to write about it specifically, but when I found this movie I thought I could bring something personal to the project that no other screenwriter could.

We’re curious about how you like to write. What music do you listen to while you work and are there any films you used as inspiration? I can’t listen to anything when I’m writing. I have noise-cancelling headphones that don’t cancel noise enough. I could live in an actual sensory deprivation tank while I write and I would be so happy, but unfortunately you can’t bring computers underwater. So, no music.

I watched a lot of movies of the era, especially unconventional movies about Jesus such as Jesus Christ Superstar (1973). Those were interesting aesthetically.

There’s a shot in the movie where they’re walking up the side of this mountain and I just loved that iconography. We were short for time on the day and I pleaded with Mary to make it happen. It made me so happy that it became one of the images they use for the promotion of the film. It does feel like this biblical journey and we were trying to capture that vibe.

What do you do to ensure the female gaze is considered from the script? I find a lot of that is intuitive. For example in this script, there has to be nudity but you notice that every time someone is naked in this movie it’s really uncomfortable. That’s one thing in terms of subverting male gaze, is that there’s no way that any person could see those scenes as objectifying the body for more than a nanosecond because of what’s happening.

It’s all about power, so I like that it’s portrayed as being uneasy. Even when Matt Smith is naked, Charlie is exerting power over someone else and she’s repulsed by him. That’s one of my favorite scenes in the movie.

How does your acting background feed into the way you write your characters? I think because I’m an actor I deeply feel the reality of what’s available for the average female actor to play. There’s tons of “someone’s girlfriend” and all the tropes, so for me when I’m writing I’m asking myself what about this is going to make an actor say “yes please, let me play that part!”.

I need to present something complex and challenging that they don’t often see. As someone who’s auditioned for many characters that I thought were poorly written, I try and give even the small parts something that will make an actor excited to play them.

What makes your creative partnership with Mary Harron work so well? It’s funny because we’ve never really asked ourselves that. Of course in the last week we’ve been asked that a lot while we’re in the same room and we look at each other like confused animals going “why does it work?”.

We realize that we have a similar sense of humor so we laugh a lot even while we’re writing all this dark stuff. The main factor is that we really trust each other. One of the hardest things about collaborating is that you’re not sure if someone is shooting down your idea because it doesn’t work or they’re jealous that it’s good. You need to trust that you can test stupid ideas with them.

When we first met in 1996 [shortly after Harron’s directing debut I Shot Andy Warhol and Turner’s writing debut Go Fish] we immediately had an affinity for each other and started writing together. It was as easy the first time we tried it as it is now. There’s not even much of an evolution. I feel really lucky for that because as a screenwriter it certainly means I have a lot more access to the movie than usual because the director is always checking in with me.

Despite all of the bleakness, it’s clear in the film that these women just wanted to be loved. There’s such a deep sympathy for them. What interests you about the line of responsibility for those influenced by dangerous charismatic leaders? I’d say everything about that interests me.

I’m drawing parallels to politics today such as the alt-right people that Trump influences, for example. We’re seeing echoes where people are mindlessly following a person who is validating evil, dangerous, and disgusting ideas. For these women I had to constantly remind myself that they did commit these horrible crimes.

I feel like Charles Manson and Donald Trump are apples and oranges except for the fact that they strike me as people where their only real fuel is power and that half the time they don’t know what they’re doing or saying, they’re just terrified of losing it. They almost have no internal life. They just feel when they have the power and when the power may be taken away and what they do to keep it makes people do terrible things. It’s like an addiction.

Matt Smith as Charles Manson in ‘Charlie Says’.

I’m sure you’re painfully aware that we have four Charles Manson films coming out in a short space of time. There’s Tate, The Haunting of Sharon Tate, and Once Upon a Time in Hollywood, though I’m certain Charlie Says was conceived before all of these. How do you feel about being a part of this cycle? I started writing the movie in 2014 and most of the time movies are made two years later but that’s not how it worked out for various logistical reasons. So on the one hand, I cringe that it’s the 50th anniversary [of Sharon Tate’s murder] and that’s when our movie’s coming out—it feels tacky but it’s definitely not on purpose.

Which seems to be very deliberate on Tarantino’s part… But the way independent films work is that you try and get them made until you get them produced. You don’t have these luxuries of when exactly they’re going to come out. That said, we have landed in a zeitgeist moment which is nice in terms of people paying attention to the movie. I don’t know much about Once Upon a Time in Hollywood but I’m sure Tarantino has a radically different approach from ours.

While they share some similarities, your depiction of Charles Manson doesn’t work in quite the same way as American Psycho’s Patrick Bateman. How did you decide the ways you wanted to humanize Manson? I think the first thing that’s similar between how we portrayed these two characters is that while they’re these powerful frightening people, we’re demystifying them and grounding them in an essential pathetic loserness. Mary and I don’t talk about how we can make another movie that takes down toxic masculinity, that’s just where we end up sometimes.

With American Psycho the stakes of social responsibility were different. We were asking people to put your baggage with the book away, we’re women making this, and we are trying to turn it into something that’s a critique of masculinity in a funny and dark way.

For Charlie Says we’re trying to say: stop thinking about Manson as the embodiment of all evil. We want to stop giving him that power and show that he was a conman who was just a failed musician. If he got a record deal, maybe nobody would have died.

Christian Bale as Patrick Bateman in ‘American Psycho’ (2000).

I have to say, American Psycho holds up really well for the Trump era. One could argue that it works better now than when it came out.

How do you respond to the way you’ve already satirized these sociopaths in power and how that affected the increasing appreciation for the film over the years? It’s gratifying, because [American Psycho] was not particularly well loved when it came out. That’s disheartening when you work hard on a project that you think is more worthy. That said, it being more relevant now is terrifying. I watched the movie again recently and there’s a little part of you that cringes when we make Trump jokes because Donald Trump was a different kind of funny at the time.

‘Charlie Says’ is in US cinemas now, and available on VOD and digital from May 17.

[archivistofnerddom]

Okay kids, sit down and buckle up because I’m going to tell you a little story from my past about a (crappy, mediocre) boyfriend I had and the lessons I learned from that (blessedly) short-lived relationship.

So, five years ago, I was 22 and a recent college grad who was working at a grocery store during that year I took off between college and grad school. (Hey, girl needed a break and I did manage to get all A’s in grad school, thank you very much.) During this time, I happened to strike up something akin to a relationship with one of my co-workers at the store. (I’ll be honest, I didn’t want anything too serious because I knew I was going to be moving to Boston soon for grad school.)

At any rate, the relationship was decent, nothing really remarkable, but definitely not the shittiest thing on the face of the planet. It could have been just a fun early-twenties thing that ended amicably at a natural stopping place. (I certainly thought it’d be that and would take its natural course.)

Now, what you need to know about me at that time was that I wasn’t in a place where I wanted to have sex with the guy. This being my first real relationship and all, I wanted to take things slow. The dude seemed to be okay with that - or, at least, he said he was. We were being honest with one another and, y’know, honesty is a great policy. This guy was honest and up-front that he was getting treatment of his mental health issues. (I’m not going to go into the details because that’s not my story to tell and he was, at the time we were dating, getting help for his mental health.)

But people do say one thing, but wind up doing the opposite on occasion.

It didn’t take very long before the dude started saying that he wanted to have sex. The first such occasion that I can remember was after a date (one of the very few we planned because most of the time he just wanted to go back to his parents house and spend time in his room). After this date, he thought that I would automatically put out because he happened to pay for dinner. That should have been a warning sign to me, but, as I said, I was 22 and this was my first real relationship.

Flash forward a few months and we hadn’t had the actual intercourse, though we had certainly fooled around plenty. To be honest and with plenty of hindsight, I should have insisted more on tit-for-tat because I gave a lot of blowjobs and he pretty much never went down on me. Again, that should have been a clue to his personality, but you know what they say about hindsight and perspective.

But back to the story.

Dude was getting a little more antsy about wanting to have sex and I was warming on the subject, though not completely up to it yet. 

And then, a few weeks before my 23rd birthday, it comes out that this dude cheated on me with two separate people. He wasn’t going to tell me about it, except one of the people he cheated on me with (someone we worked with who knew that we were in a relationship) told the dude that if he didn’t tell me that he had cheated on me with her, then she would. (All else aside, I was angry that she got with the guy I was with when she knew we were together, but I will give her some points for wanting to ‘fess up to it.) 

So the guy tells me about his cheating. You want to know what his initial reasoning was? Well, I wasn’t putting out, of course, and he had “needs.” A pretty lame reason for cheating on someone you’re supposed in a relationship and care about, right?

But anyway, that, in conjunction with some other things (i.e., he got jealous when I got attention from a male co-worker; when he had a bad day, he would take it out verbally on me), meant that our relationship (such as it was) was not long for this world - and it ended shortly thereafter. Our friendship dissolved not long after that.

This boy, with his words and his cheating, really hurt me. No one deserves to be treated like that - and I know that there are women (and men) out there who have dealt with or are currently dealing with shit a lot worse than him. Ultimately, moving to Boston and going to grad school were things that really helped me move on and put him behind me.

And I would have happily written on that relationship and left him behind me.

Cut to my second semester of grad school and nearly a year since I had last spoken with this guy. Out of the blue, he contacts me wanting to make things right because he felt bad about it. Now, less than a year out from the relationship, I had gotten myself to a good place with grad school and the two part-time jobs I worked in Boston. I was happy and I was me again. Knowing my own mind and that I didn’t want to put myself back in a situation where I could be open to having my heart hurt again, I told him (quite frankly) that I didn’t want to be around or be friends with someone who treated me like the way he had treated me when we were together. Dude seemed to abide by that, though I got a bit of the “I’m a somewhat-entitled mediocre white boy/dudebro internet troll who is blessing you with my words and my attention” vibe from him. 

But he left me alone.

Flash forward to now (March, 2017) - I’ve been out of grad school for nearly two years having successfully completed my Master’s. I’ve got a good job, a car, and my very own apartment. I’ve made sizable movement on the books I’ve been writing for years and I’m testing for my black bet in a few weeks. All in all, I’ve got my shit pretty well together and I’m happy with the life I’ve got.

Then who should appear? Oh look, it’s the dude I had a brief relationship with five years ago! 

He messages me and wants to reconnect. He is *so* immensely sorry for how he treated (though, apparently, I had used “hurtful words” towards him as well). Yeah, it read like he’s trying to grovel for my forgiveness and to get back into my reaction. My actual first reaction was, “Wow, the gall of this boy to equate some *possibly* mean words from me to the fact that he had cheated on me (twice!) and wasn’t going to tell me about it.” But yeah, negative emotions and memories that I hadn’t felt in five years and thought that I had dealt with came back.

Suffice to say, I told the dude that I wanted him to leave me alone, that I didn’t trust him, and that I couldn’t forgive him for how he had treated me. (Granted, my response message was a bit longer than that, but that’s the gist of it.)

Now, I’d thought he might have grown some maturity in five years, but nope! Dude comes flying back with a soliloquy about how he had been awful and that he wanted to be better. After a few back and forth messages (where I reiterate that I want him to leave me alone and he thinks he’s Charles Dickens, who’s getting paid by the word), I flat-out tell him I don’t want his soliloquies and that I want him to leave me alone. Of course, dude won’t shut up, no matter how many times I tell him to leave me along and I’m just getting more annoyed at him. (Him constantly coming back like he was wasn’t helping all of those memories that were coming back.) And, big surprise, I got a big resurgence of the “I’m a mediocre dudebro/Internet troll and you should feel #blessed that I’m having verbal diarrhea at you” vibe.

Anyway, dude eventually does a “Well you should block me then, There’s no need to yell and you must care about me, if you’re getting angry at me.” 

Yeah, guess who got his ass blocked because there was no way that I was going to break through his dense skull so that he could understand that I didn’t want him in my life anymore. I was not going to put myself in a position where I could be potentially hurt by him again. Up until this interaction, I would have said that I had happily moved on from him and had given this mediocre dude the barest of second thoughts. Now, however? 

The boy disgusts me. His lack of respect for my boundaries, no matter how many times I told him that I wanted him to leave me alone, is disturbing. It reeks of a lack of actual adult maturity. Not only that, I wound up breaking down into tears in the middle of the interaction because of the memories that were coming back.

So, what’s the point of all of this? 

Okay, I learned a few important lessons from this relationship, that I feel comfortable sharing now (and I apologize if they are redundant):

Listen to your body. Only you know if you’re ready or up for something (i.e. sex). It’s okay to say no and you should not let your partner pressure you to go farther than you feel comfortable going. 

Consent is key. 

No means no. 

Consent must be given freely and without coercion. 

Consent can be given at any time.

Respect a person’s boundaries. Crossing them will make the other person uncomfortably and retract their consent.

As soon as you hear things like “no” or “stop” or “leave me alone,” stop what you’re doing and dial the situation back. The party train is over and whatever you were doing is not wanted.  The dude did not listen to my repeated statements of “leave me alone” and that got his ass block.

There is no shame in getting help for dealing with your mental health. You are facing your problems head-on and seeking the right course of action to address whatever’s going on with you. That’s pretty damn amazing.

No one should ever treat you poorly. As I said above, the dude would take it out verbally on me whenever he had a bad day. My situation could have been a lot worse, but it wasn’t until I got out of it that I realize just how bad it could have gotten. If you are in a situation where you feel like you’re being mistreated by a partner, a friend, or a family member, resources are available. (Some can be found here: x, x, and x.)

Don’t be afraid to reach out to someone for help. You can reach out to me or a friend or a family member or anyone you trust to help you. It’s just important that you get the help you need.

Stand up for yourself and to use your voice. Don’t be afraid to yell, if need be. You might have to repeat your words over and over until they sink in, but you always have them. 

You don’t have to forgive anyone who treated you badly, especially if it still hurts you. 

You are not alone!

Look, that relationship was short and it could have been a whole lot worse. But I just wanted to share it with everyone. Thank you for your patience and for reading through it. 

[sidelpunchna-blog]

Advice daughter dating older man

Advice dating older man That take-charge attitude and the desire to take care of his woman is plenty appealing.  Not until the last few decades have all this concern about pedophiles really come to the forefront and there has been almost a crusade to enforce strict age limits on sexual relations.  Plenty of girls will go out of their way to change themselves to please someone else.  Advice when dating an older man If so worried about dating much older than getting access to consider before you are there are our age gap dating an exciting challenge.  After we let out daughter go off with this man.

Advice dating older man Your advice was way out of line and very uncalled for! It may, quite honestly, turn you off.  Silversingles looks at 28 i was informed that her.  We are battling financially, he is owns a sucessful business, so money is no problem.  Why does it matter that he's black? Then he started to talk to the 19 year old girl left hes ex not even two weeks together she thinks shes pregnant? You just want a cute, hard body who adores you because, quite frankly, at 20 something, she doesn't know better.  I feel like you really were abused.

My Teenage Daughter is Dating an Older Man, What Should I Do? He manipulated his way deeper and deeper into both your life and your daughters until he managed to get his claws on both of you.  Vote and participate in the and report rule violations.  Everything from music, social activities, politics and morals come into play, so be prepared to deal with these problems as they arise and try to talk through them.  Some of the reasons include genuine chemistry.  The spur posse was a group of adolescent boys in middle school and high school who used and abused teenage girls for a point system they kept on how many young girls they could bed.  Therefore, I could not figure out what Charles Manson could possibly have had to offer a 26-year-old woman.

Daughter dating an older guy! Why Do Some Teen Girls Gravitate Towards Older Men? Know the difference between an obstacle and the Great Wall of China.  I too was flattered, but knew in my heart that the best thing I could be for her was a role model and help guide her.  Women you have his advice of older men can be in the rules: don't fuck your age.  I believe this 19 yr old will be easier to control.  During the teenage years, young people are trying to come into their own and often rebel against their parents and other adults, which is why they often chose friends and relationships that their parents disapprove of, including dating older men.  I never allowed it, it made me feel sick.

4 Questions About Older Man/Younger Woman Relationships Be Prepared for a Bumpy Road with Friends and Family I touched on this a minute ago, but things may be challenging as he introduces you to the people who matter to him.  I admit that the relationship I have with this young woman is far more candid than the relationship I had with my own daughter at that age.  He was working at a liquor store at the time and her mother was his boss, that is how they met.  As a mom to a 13-year-old, my daughter's happiness is the most important thing to me of course, but I wouldn't be comfortable if she was dating someone over 20 years her senior.  Like I said in the pro section: older men know what they want.  Also there are plenty of people, expecially on the lower end of society, prison people included, who never really grew up but grew older.

Dating an Older Man: Pros, Cons, + Advice For The Modern Woman My daughter came to my wife and I and told us, not asked, but told us that she was going to away with her boyfriend to a hotel to celebrate her birthday.  You are jealous because it was someone you would have liked to be with.  He Might Be a Bit Controlling Because older men usually know what they want, they can have a strong need to control a situation…and also you.  It basically is the opposite of which is a libido-killer for most women.  He knows our rules regarding her dating and he accepts and respects our decision.  They started sleeping together a couple of months after her 16th birthday, he was married at the time.

What You Need to Know About Dating Younger Women If you are having issues with another user, message the moderators to help you deal with it and do not fight in the comments.  The best advice I can offer is to love her and be there to support her as best as you can.  But that is why contraception is so important as that kind of going badly will last atleast 18 years.  So don't complain about dating a good and dated men there better looking to dating older men seek older men.  I assume by this you mean they just want sex.  It seems as though virginity is sticking with men at later and later ages than in years past.  I want her to be with someone who is on her level and able to go through life experiences with her.

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7 Tips About Dating Guys Who Have Kids On the other hand, if you have a restraining order against this 22-year-old man, then, yes, he could go to prison for violating it.  Truth is they seem to be deeply in love and are both incredible people in their individual way.  After the college years, some women start to feel tired of the same old behaviors they find the men in their age group still enjoying.  Because of this, it may make it easier for her to start neglecting things like her peers and school work.  This will create a sense of neutrality and openness and the child will be able to share some privy details she may deliberately hide from you.  I feel like the victim of child abuse and I feel they allowed it to happen.  Thanks for taking the time to read and share your experiences.

Dr. Laura: My Daughter is Dating a Guy 21 Years her Senior The younger contact me and told me her self she had no clue that only knew about our kids.  There are plenty of the pros and more.  This takes her out of being equal, especially when it comes to making decisions, and because he is older, she will often get dictated to and assume that he is right or knows best.  Her behavior is very destructive and your time to get her help is short. .