#self-shipping positivity

[ghostinspacee]

For the self-shippers who see this...

If you ever feel like trying to get more in touch and connected with your f/o(s), you can always try creating a self-shipping journal. I'm in the on going process of making mine, and it's so nice and fun to do! It can be a fancy little notebook or a spiral notebook, doesn't matter.

I'll make a list of things you can add to your journal if you decide to start one:

- Write down how you and your f/o first met

- Add pictures, doodles or drawings of your f/o

- Add doodles of things that remind you of your f/o or relationship

- Write down any dreams or daydreams you have about them

- Write down a playlist or list of songs that make you think about your f/o

- Write down scenarios that go with a certain song

- You could buy cheap stickers of your f/o off Etsy or something and put them in there

- You could write about your s/I if you have one and how your s/I met your f/o

-Write letters from your f/o or write letters to your f/o

- Things you both enjoy doing with each other

Honestly you could do what you want with it but these are some of the things I've done with mine. It's fun to do cause if you're ever feeling down or anything, you could look at the journal and remind yourself that your f/o loves you <3

There's probably a bunch more stuff you could do so if anyone has other ideas, leave them in the comments/tags. If I think of anything else, I'll update the list. Hope you guys enjoy this idea! 😊

[bungoudogs]

Como alguém que em um dia muito ruim não sente vontade de falar com ninguém, nem mesmo via mensagem, gostaria de dizer isso:

Seu f/o respeita isso e nunca ficaria com raiva de você por falar pouco ou por não conseguir responder as mensagens dele ou dela. Mesmo que você fique completamente não-verbal, ainda irá te amar e respeitar isso.

Ele ou ela, entende que conversar nesses momentos é difícil e opressor e não iriam lhe forçar a conversa se você não estiver bem para isso. E vai garantir que outras pessoas saibam disso para que você não tenha que falar quando não quiser. Pode até mesmo responder por você, se for necessário.

Se você quiser conversar, mesmo que um pouco, ele ou ela vai lhe dar um caderno e uma caneta se dizer as coisas em voz ainda for muito para você. Ou apenas te pedir para usar o bloco de notas ou algum aplicativo de mensagens. Se você usar a linguagem de sinais nesses momentos, seu f/o vai se esforçar para aprender.

Se qualquer tipo de conversa, por menor que seja, lhe causa angustia ou cansaço, seu f/o vai te fazer perguntas de sim e não para poder atender suas necessidades ou apenas descobrir se você está desconfortável com alguma coisa. Também pode trazer lanches e comidas reconfortantes para você ou algum filme que ame muito. Vai te dar muitos abraços e garantias de que te ama.

Vai prestar atenção em você futuramente para indentificar quando você fica sem ânimo para falar, assim poderá lhe ajudar. No início, pode ter ficado preocupado(a) quando você não respondeu suas mensagens ou o ignorou quando lhe deu bom dia, mas agora entende o que está acontecendo e está pronto para lhe ajudar. E com certeza vai te defender se as pessoas te chamarem de mal-educado(a) ou rude por lhes ignorar.

Quero lembrar que seu f/o te ama muito e lhe apoia em tudo, principalmente nos momentos difíceis e que você pode sempre contar com sua compreensão e carinho!

[mothwiingz]

hey btw there’s nothing wrong with shipping your ocs with canon characters. or shipping yourself with a canon character. even if you have a crush on the character. you are hurting literally no one. you can do whatever you want. cringe culture is dead

edit: proshippers this post is not for you. go away

[dolliepiilled]

your f/o having a crush on you but they’re the worst at hiding it .. always perking up at the mention of your name , getting you gifts and paying for your food , offering to take trips with you and do things for you , rambling on and on about you with their friends with the sweetest smile and flushed face , always stuck to your side whenever you’re around .. and somehow , it’s obvious to everyone but you ;3

[rexscanonwife]

I'm gonna need fellow self shippers to NOT apologize or put themselves down for making their s/is basic/mary sue/OP as fuck because we're here to have FUN!! If you wanna give ur s/i a taste of the power or to make them the hottest person in your f/os canon then DO it! Make characters u don't ship with have a crush on you, make yourself the sole savior of this universe and be unapologetic about it!! [OK TO RB]

[cherrylight]

i think the reason why selfshipping can be so difficult for others is the mere fact that they think they don't deserve it. or don't deserve their f/o to love them unconditionally, or be there for them, or offer support and guidance, or be their crutch.

selfshipping is hard for those who are always the giver and never the receiver. you feel uncomfortable about selfshipping or thinking about scenarios with your f/o. or how you have no idea what to add to your selfship, what lore to even do, because you don't think you should do something like this for yourself.

but you do deserve this. you deserve to feel loved and cared for by your f/os, you deserve to create the most silliest of scenarios, you deserve to be so canon-divergent and self indulgent with your selfships. you deserve to love yourself, you deserve to receive love and care, you deserve to receive these things even if it may feel uncomfortable to.

you deserve to do things for yourself. it may take time for you to be fully yourself while doing so, but you got this! i believe in you. i believe we can overcome this together. <3

[kayakoto-enterprises]

New drug just dropped its called ur f/o being obsessed with how nice and soft you feel when you two cuddle. Youre like a living plushie to them

[urbodymytemple]

"i don't think my f/o would actually love me-" RAAAAAAHHHHH THEY DO LOVE YOU DAMNIT REAL AND TRUE. IT DOESN'T MATTER IF IT WOULD BE "OOC" FOR THEM THEY LOVE YOU SOOOOOOOOO MUCH THEY WILL HELP YOU WITH YOUR INSECURITIES AND EVERYTHIIIIIINGGGGGGGGG

[zombii-ships]

Imagine your F/O just being absolutely lovesick over you. They walk through town and see you everywhere, random things like a snack or a shirt they think you’d like. Somewhere they wanna take you, or a plushie they want to get you as a gift.

Them spacing out during the day, maybe at work, thinking about you. Friends and family members catching them daydreaming and they just respond “Oh! It’s nothing, just got distracted.”

How after the two of you hang out, they look at the place you were sitting and just, ache. That you’re not there anymore. How they try not to look desperate when you text them, thinking that maybe if they wait a minute to open your messages, they won’t have to confront how down BAD they are for you.

Maybe they even swap clothes with you, maybe they take a shirt, or a hoodie or sweater from you, playing it off as a joke or just “something friends do”. But when they get home, it’s wrapped around their favorite pillow, or they wear it around the house sometimes just so they can feel close to you.

Fuck, they really are hung up on you, do they have the courage to actually confess their feelings? Or are they gonna draw it out until they absolutely HAVE to do it.

[loveisunison]

🌻 Idk who needs to hear this but, self shippers.

BE LOUD ABOUT YOUR SELF SHIP !!!

Talk about your f/os for hours, be cheesy in your posts about them, express your feelings in "weird" ways, show off your art, write that imagine you've been thinking of, explore very niche topics even if you think others won't care . . .

BE ANNOYING !!

Don't hold back and love loudly. Your love hurts nobody, this is your life and you're allowed to take up space !!!

So go ahead and love your f/os with all you have, as much as you want and in all the ways that make you happy :3 🧡

[kimiko24-art]

I will explode u

[spooky-angel-eddie]

💌Things that could help you feel closer to your f/o🪽

i know not all of these things will work for some people but here are some things i do, or plan on doing, that i think could be helpful :3

~ Draw them or, even better, draw yourself or your s/i with them

~ Think about what they smell like (whether canon or what you believe) and purchase perfumes or candles that smell like them

~ Make or buy their favourite food or food you think they would enjoy (if you also enjoy it)

~ Create a playlist that reminds you of them, or with music that you think they would enjoy

~ What is their comfort clothing item? Perhaps you could find or buy that for yourself to keep a part of them with you, and experience borrowing/wearing their clothes

~ Make a pinterest board for them, with pictures of them or things that remind you of them

~ Watch movies, shows, documentaries or videos that you think they would enjoy (if you also enjoy it)

~ Does a plushie or keychain exist of your f/o that you could buy, if not, maybe you could make one? It would be fun to have a mini version of your f/o that you could carry around with you!

~ You could make or buy bracelets/necklaces with your f/o's name or colours or gems that remind you of them

~ Write about them! Whether its fanfiction or simply just writing how you feel about them, it could be a stress-relieving activity

i had a good time thinking of these and definitely plan to eventually do the things i haven't yet done on this list, i hope some of these ideas are helpful and fun for you too! <3

im kinda afraid to post this and i know this isnt what i normally post buuut its my blog so get over it :p/lh

[dalvs-wife]

HEY SELFSHIPPERS WHO HAVE AN UNFORTUNATELY POPULAR CANON X CANON SHIP THAT IS A DISCOMFORT!!!!

the next time you get shown the ship or just have it in your head, imagine your f/o looking at the ship from over your shoulder and scrunching up their nose. being grossed out by it. being made uncomfortable by it, grimacing awkwardly at the sight of it. being confused by it!!!

they dislike that ship just as much as you do, believe me! no matter how many times someone draws them looking happy and in love with whoever, that ain't happening.

you two are each other's favorites, so the next time you see that sorta thing, just remember your f/o's silly little scrunched up weirded-out face at the mere sight :]

edit: PROSHIPPERS DNI THIS POST IS NOT FOR YOU.

[sunflawyer]

has anyone done this yet

[nightthinker-08]

I couldn't sleep so I drew some Pomnies shes surprisingly fun to draw lol Oh and some doomed yuri too I guess xD buttonblossom is cute n all but calling them doomed yuri or digital yuri is a lot funnier to me

[comfort-character-central]

Your f/o would notice. They'd notice those small signs of struggle, the subtle shifts in higher to lower energy, they'd remember what it takes to properly support and appreciate you. They would do everything it took to give you the credit, support, love, and care you deserve.