#say no to abuse

[theprismyyy]

A CHILD IS NOT A MOTHER, A RAPIST IS NOT A FATHER!!!

Being Brazilian becomes more difficult when you are a woman, or if you simply have a vagina. IT IS UNACCEPTABLE that in 2024 and after many, many years of fighting for women's basic rights, a bill was approved that punishes the victim of sexual violence more severely than her aggressor, than her rapist!!! How the hell should it be fair that a person who sexually abuses another can get a maximum of 15 years, something that IN THE OVERWHELMING MAJORITY OF TIMES IS NOT WHAT HAPPENS, most of the time they barely stay in prison for 1 YEAR, but the victim, if no one stops it, could face 20 years in prison if you decide you don't want to carry this pregnancy caused by your abuser, by your RAPIST.

“Ontem a Câmara dos Deputados aprovou a urgência do Projeto 1904, que ficou popularmente conhecido como projeto de incentivo ao estupro , o projeto quer equiparar o aborto ao crime de homicídio e penalizar mais as vítimas do que o estuprador.

Today we woke up to the serious news that a girl had been abused by her own father in an UTI (ICA), if she became pregnant and decided to have an abortion, after 22 weeks, she would face a greater punishment than her own father, that's what has been said. It is this violence and this serious attack against the lives of women, girls and people they love in our country, the National Congress attacking rights and reversing legislation that was approved in 1940 guaranteeing access to legal abortion in three cases: Rape, which puts the life of the mother and child at risk and also in the case of an anencephalic fetus; We need to mobilize to stop this proposition, this attack against the dignity of women and girls and people who give birth in our country." – By Erika Hilton via her social networks on Thursday (13/06)

Photos of demonstrations against the bill that equates abortion with homicide. Image credits to @odontinho via X (formerly Twitter)

I know I'm not a big person on Tumblr, not at all, but I decided to make this translated into English as an attempt and almost an appeal for the fight against such an atrocity to reach more people; It doesn't matter if there are two, three, four, every mobilization, repost and sharing is already a help so that this reaches more and more people

[william-arthurbo]

Being Brazilian becomes more difficult when you are a woman, or if you have a vagina. As a matter of urgency, a bill was approved that punishes a victim of sexual violence more harshly than her attacker, a person who sexually abuses another can face a maximum of 15 years, if there is an aggravating factor (such as the victim being a minor), but the victim, if no one stops it, could face 20 years in prison if the pregnancy caused by the abuse ends.

Making the termination of a pregnancy beyond 22 weeks a crime, even in the case of abuse, when we Brazilians know that there are doctors, lawyers and judges who delay as much as possible the trial process of an abuser and everything that involves it, such as the termination of a pregnancy resulting from this, is simply inhumane.

Support all the networks you have with hashtags "#criancanaoemae #PL1904Nao". Be strong, be brave, be human.

[poniesatemypencils]

Say no to horse abuse.

There's far too much normalisation of unethical practices in the equestrian community, especially in the Olympics. Already I saw a photo of a horse with their head pulled in towards their chest, gaping mouth with frothy saliva dripping down from their mouth... It's sickening and heartbreaking to see.

[lgbtlunaverse]

The world exists in such a baffling state of simultaneous sex-aversion and sex-hegemony. Every social platform on the internet is trying to banish sex workers to the shadow realm but I can't post a tweet without at least two bots replying P U S S Y I N B I O. People are self-censoring sex to seggs and $3× but every other ad you see is still filled with half-naked women. Rightwingers want queer people arrested for so much as existing in the same postal code as a child and are also drumming up a moral panic about how teenage boys aren't getting laid enough. I feel like I'm losing my mind.

[violetsandshrikes]

I met a girl when I was fresh out of high school in undergrad who frankly, annoyed me quite a bit, but I also had an inkling to continue to be compassionate to her given a few things about her life/background/family

I ran into her two years ago. Last week, her daughter turned 1. This girl, let’s called her “P”, is a really good example of why I never feel comfortable mocking trad wives

Her perfect trad husband, who was a shining young figure in the local religious community, volunteered in all sorts of groups, well loved in his workplace and everything else, beat her up at 1 month post-partum. I reached out to her after seeing her desperately asking for a stroller on a page, confused and slightly concerned knowing both of them came from wealthy backgrounds.

The reality for lots of tradwives living “perfect lives” is this: P was immediately ostracised. All the wealth of her husband and her family meant absolutely nothing if she wasn’t in favour and doing what she was told. Her child and her well-being didn’t matter. P, at 25 years old, was basically deemed an oopsie, and left on her own to figure out how to pay for herself, a baby, find housing, and every other task you can think of.

Having known many of these women (and supported many of these women), another factor most people don’t consider is this: they are intentionally raised to be helpless. When I immediately offered my support to P, she really needed it. This young woman needed to be guided through how to apply for government assistance, how to weigh up rentals and apply for them, how to apply for jobs, how to sign up for childcare. How to sign up for your own power and internet, and how to connect them.

It wasn’t that she was “stupid”, or incapable, or spoiled. While it looks like they’re being sheltered, in reality, these women are practically being held hostage. Sure, they might be allowed to learn things that are expected of them (see: basic cooking, baking, cleaning, child rearing, women’s bible studies, hosting, and so forth) but they are heavily controlled from family life into marriage life, and they are never given the opportunity or the reality of what many of us would consider basic adult tasks.

She’s doing okay now. Her daughter turned 1, is happy and healthy. They live frugally, but they have a roof over their heads and the essentials. I often babysit for her so she can attend counselling, or go to a woman’s support group. She is painfully aware that she has so much to learn about how to live as an adult.

I don’t envy tradwives, but I don’t find any joy in mocking them either. Even when they live the most picturesque lives, they’re also practically living a real life Jenga game. If (and often, when) it comes tumbling down, they’re screwed too, and they often have 0 skills to help themselves or find community (that again, isn’t carefully curated).

[a-scary-lack-of-common-sense]

How Bill was defeated and captured by Ford in my Gf AU! He basically just tricked Bill into accepting a deal that trapped him within Ford's mind and under his control :]

He may have gotten a little out of hand though....

>:)

Next post :]

[renthony]

Your personal triggers and squicks do not get to determine what kind of art other people make.

People make shit. It's what we do. We make shit to explore, to inspire, to explain, to understand, but also to cope, to process, to educate, to warn, to go, "hey, wouldn't that be fucked up? Wild, right?"

Yes, sure, there are things that should be handled with care if they are used at all. But plenty more things are subjective. Some things are just not going to be to your tastes. So go find something that is to your tastes and stop worrying so much about what other people are doing and trying to dictate universal moral precepts about art based on your personal triggers and squicks.

I find possession stories super fucking triggering if I encounter them without warning, especially if they function as a sexual abuse metaphor. I'm not over here campaigning for every horror artist to stop writing possession stories because they make me feel shaky and dissociated. I just check Does The Dog Die before watching certain genres, and I have my husband or roommate preview anything I think might upset me so they can give me more detail. And if I genuinely don't think I can't handle it, I don't watch it. It's that simple.

[inkskinned]

having good & true friends will literally save and protect you in a million unfathomable ways. like okay we have written so many times about lovers. but the way a platonic friend laughs and cries with you. the way they hold your hand at 14 years old and at 34. the way they keep a little silver tie to you, touching base over and over and over. how you can go years without talking, only to re-meet and discover: oh shit! you're still cool!

there are people who have been in my life for more than half of it, and i have loved every version of them. do you know how fucking beautiful that is. yeah love will save the world. but the way friends love you is gonna save the you.

[shesnake]

Assad Zaman in Interview with the Vampire season 2 episode 5 (2024) dir. Craig Zisk

[regularsoneri]

Yes

All male abusers need to have their penises cut off immediately!!! Reblog if u agree 🌸

[theprismyyy]

Court denies legal abortion of 13-year-old teenager after father asks to maintain pregnancy

Girl expressed her desire to terminate the pregnancy to the Guardianship Council of Goiás, but the judge rejected the request

A 13-year-old teenager living in Goiás was denied a legal abortion by the TJ-GO (Goiás Court of Justice), after the young woman's father went to court and requested a ban on the procedure.

The young woman has already completed 28 weeks of pregnancy, which makes the procedure more difficult.

In a statement to the Guardianship Council of the region where she lives, the young woman stated that she would like to terminate the pregnancy when she was in the 18th week. In messages sent to the agency, the girl stated that if she did not have access to the procedure, she would look for a way to carry it out on her own.

In a statement to the Council, the 24-year-old suspected abuser stated that he did not know the teenager's age and that, if he had known, he would not have had a relationship with her.

The child's father, also according to the agency, had asked to talk to the suspect so that he could take care of the baby. Despite the teenager's request for interruption, the father went to court to have the procedure prohibited.

The report sought experts in the field of law, who state that the victim's desire, when under 18 years of age, is not enough to carry out the procedure and that authorization from those responsible is required.

In these cases, the Public Prosecutor's Office can represent the child in case of divergent decisions.

The Prosecutor's Office asked the Court for the abortion to be carried out, but Judge Doraci Lamar Rosa da Silva Andrade prohibited the termination of the pregnancy and accepted the father's request.

The judge also states that the medical team must use “all medical means and techniques that ensure the survival of the unborn child, including all necessary monitoring until it is medically discharged, unless there is proven to be a risk to the adolescent’s life” .

The judge states that the young woman's father argued that the “crime of rape is pending investigation” — despite Brazilian law establishing that any type of sexual relationship with a person under the age of 14 is considered rape of a vulnerable person.

Andrade also says in his decision that “there is no medical report that indicates a risk in the continuation of the pregnancy”.

Agora a grande questão é, aonde eu quero chegar com tudo isso? É bem simples na verdade.

This girl expressed DIRECT interest in terminating this pregnancy that was conceived through RAPE.

Because that's what this is, a fucking VULNERABLE RAPE, it doesn't matter if the man who had sex with this girl supposedly didn't know she was a minor, because she's still a minor and that's It's still rape. Do we all agree? Apparently not, since the girl's FATHER himself went to court to have her request regarding her procedure prohibited, since according to him the “crime of rape is pending investigation”...you are aware that we are talking about whether a 13 year old girl belongs to a 24 year old man, who for all intents and purposes still abused a child and the said father of that child expects this ABUSER to take over this baby....

DO YOU REALIZE HOW SICKLY THIS IS???

And even worse, how sickening it is that judge Doraci Lamar Rosa da Silva Andrade accepted this request to terminate the pregnancy, that she accepted this girl's father's request.

The report also says that experts in the field of law were sought and that they stated that the victim's will, when under 18 years of age, is not sufficient to carry out the procedure and that authorization from those responsible is required.

God, how many openings does this simple fact open for children who are victims of sexual abuse to have their lives, their childhoods, interrupted so that they have to bear, bear the fruit of the rubbish of sexual abuse, a crime for which they are NOT to blame, a crime in which they are the VICTIMS.

It is indeed absurd that the victim's desire in these cases is not enough to carry out the procedure, even if she is a minor, she should not under any circumstances be forced to carry a pregnancy generated as a result of abuse, unwanted management. This child's father basically signed the end of his own daughter's childhood and no one even seems to care about that, ESPECIALLY after this girl STATED in so many words that if she didn't receive authorization to carry out the procedure she would find ways on her own to do this and this is SO dangerous for her, this girl would literally put her own life at risk to get rid of this unwanted pregnancy because YES, illegal abortion clinics are however extremely dangerous for the girl's life, as is the use of medicines without follow up...I'm sorry for having to state the obvious.

AND FUCK ALL THOSE WHO USE JESUS TO JUSTIFY THE CONTINUITY OF AN MANAGEMENT GENERATED FROM A CRIME!!!!

I WILL REPEAT ONCE AGAIN, CHILDREN ARE NOT MOTHERS!!!!!

For all those who want to see the full article, I will leave the link below, it will be in Portuguese but you can access it through Chrome and use the Google translation tool if you want

[tododeku-or-bust]

In the same vein as the grounding question, just because I was confused by it, this is a much more direct question:

I recognize whooping runs the range of a swat or two on the leg to.... Well, some of us got beat fr😅. So imma give a preemptive Trigger Warning for Child Abuse if people decide to elaborate in the tags.

[uncanny-tranny]

Honestly, there is a certain type of fetishizing of violence that occurs when you are the victim of abuse - wherein people talk directly to you about how much they fantasize about your abuser/s dying and being killed - "all abusers must be killed!" they say.

As a victim of prolonged abuse, I never felt cared for when people indulged that information to me. It often feels like my abuse is being exploited for others to enact their own violent fantasies and secret desires - my abuse means nothing to them in the same way that I didn't matter to my abusers. It's not support - it's just another cycle of violence.

I'm begging people to care more about victims and survivors than they do about retribution of abusers. Nowhere along the way should your focus on the abuser outweigh the people affected by their abuse. If you truly want to support abuse victims and survivors, start with us

[mouseshift]

[technically-human]

Hey, don't cry. Ghost yuri, okay?

(Now that you know the girls, they need to meet the boys!)

[kindnessoverperfection]

Please, if you can, take a moment to read and share this because I feel like I'm screaming underwater.

NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) stigma is rampant right now, and seems to be getting progressively worse. Everyone is using it as a buzzword in the worst ways possible, spreading misinformation and hatred against a real disorder.

I could go on a long time about how this happened, why it's factually incorrect (and what the disorder actually IS), why it's harmful, and the changes I'd like to see. But to keep this concise, I'll simply link to a few posts under the cut for further reading.

The point of this post is a plea. Please help stop the spread of stigma. Even in mental health communities, even around others with personality disorders, in neurodivergent "safe" spaces, other communities I thought people would be supportive in (e.g. trans support groups, progressive spaces in general), it keeps coming up. So I'm willing to bet that a lot of people on this site need to see this.

Because it's so hard to exist in this world.

My disorder already makes me feel as if I'm worthless and unlovable, like there's something inherently wrong and damaged about me. And it's so much harder to fight that and heal when my daily life consists of:

Laughing and spending time with my friends, doing my utmost best to connect and stay present and focused on them, trying to let my guards down and be real and believe I'm lovable- when suddenly they throw out the word "narcissist" to describe horrible people or someone they hate, or the conversation turns to how evil "people with narcissistic personality disorder" are. (Seriously, you don't know which of your friends might have NPD and feels like shit when you say those things & now knows that you'd hate them if you knew.)

Trying to look up "mental health positivity for people with npd", "mental health positivity cluster bs", only to find a) none of that, and b) more of the same old vile shit that makes me feel terrible about myself.

Having a hard time (which is constant at this point) and trying to look up resources for myself, only to again, find the same stigma. And no resources.

Not having any clue how to help myself, because even the mental health field is spitting so much vitriol at people with DISORDERS (who they're supposed to be helping!) that there's no solid research or therapy programs for people like me.

Losing close friends when they find out, despite us having had a good relationship before, and them KNOWING me and knowing that I'm not like the trending image of pwNPD. Because now they only see me through the lens of stigma and misinformation.

Hearing the same stigma come up literally wherever I go. Clubs. Meetings. Any online space. At the bus stop. At the mall. At a restaurant. At work. Buzzword of the year that everyone loooves loudly throwing around with their friends or over the phone. Feels awesome for me, makes my day so much better/s

I could go on for a long time, but I'm scared no one will read/rb this if it gets too much longer.

So please. Stop using the word "narcissist" as a synonym for "abusive".

Stop bringing up people you hate who you believe to have NPD because of a stigmatizing article full of misinformation whenever someone with actual NPD opens their mouth. (Imagine if people did that with any other disorder! "Hey, I'm autistic." "Oh... my old roommate screamed at me whenever I made noise around him, and didn't understand my needs, which seems like sensory overload and difficulty with social cues. He was definitely autistic. But as long as you're self-aware and always restraining your innate desire to be an abusive asshole, you're okay I guess, maybe." ...See how offensive and ignorant that is?)

Stop preventing healthcare for people with a disorder just because it's trendy to use us as a scapegoat.

If you got this far, thank you for reading, and please share this if you can. Further reading is under the cut.

NPD Criteria, re-written by someone who actually has NPD

Stigma in the DSM

Common perception of the DSM criteria vs how someone may actually experience them (Keep in mind that this is the way I personally experience these symptoms, and that presentation can vary a lot between individuals)

"Idk, the stigma is right though, because I've known a lot of people with NPD who are jerks, so I'm going to continue to support the blockage of treatment for this condition."

(All of these were written by me, because I didn't want to link to other folks' posts without permission, but if you want to add your own links in reblogs or replies please feel free <3)