#reject toxic masculinity

[karlie-xox]

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[rosefires20]

My brainrot today is thinking about just how incredible for a character Eowyn is.

Genuinely. The series might not have many female characters but the ones we do get go so fucking hard.

To me, Eowyn is literally the definition of defining being a woman for oneself. She rejects the roles she is given despite acknlowdging the importance and its mostly because she knows part of the reason is that she is a woman.

The reason why she is obsessed with Aragorn isn't because she loves him but because she wants what he has. She wants the freedom and courage and bravery that Aragorn has at every turn. She literally has multiple conversations during the Two Towers about how what she fears most is a cage. All this girl wants is the freedom to be and not be forced into a role. The best thing is that she literally gets that.

The segment of Return of the King about Eowyn and Faramir is literally about her piecing together what she truly wants. She doesn't want Aragorn. She wants freedom and the ability to choose. Faramir does nothing but encourage that in her. Their love story is literally one of the healthiest love stories I've seen in a long time because at the heart of it, their love is a place to return home to for both parties. Both go off to lead and help their people for a considerable amount of time before returning to each other but that does not diminish their bond. Even Faramir, I believe, falls in love with her bravery and dedication to her loved ones. The reason she went to Pelenor Fields and Gondor with the troops of Rohan was because she had things she wanted to fight for. She wanted to fight for herself, her people, and her loved ones. She is the one who protects Theoden after he is killed so that his body gets the treatment it deserves. She encourages Merry and helps him go to the battle because she sees her struggle in Merry. They feel helpless standing around when there are things to be doing.

Let's also not forget the fact that she was around Grima Wormtounge just as much as the King was. She was exposed to the same poison and awful words that eroded the king. It's even implied that her care for him is part of the reason why Theoden was savable when Gandalf showed up. She had the same power and bravery as everyone else even if she didn't see it in herself.

Then at the end of the day, SHE decides where she wants to go and what path she wants to walk. She walked the path of a warrior. The path of a princess/ruler. The path of a caretaker. But in the end she decides which elements truly mean something to her outside of gender definitions. That is what makes her character so incredible to me. In this she literally kills one of the biggest enemies in that battle with such a badass line.

[clonememesfrikyeah]

Do you ever wonder if the Alphas after all their classes at the end of the day when their all out of earshot of Jango in the barracks they debrief and unpack every moment since the moment they opened their eyes that day, and when they get to a funny part, like how Jango looked shouting at all them red in the face with That vein popping out of his temple and just give each other a knowing look and just LOOSE IT. Like sometimes they wind each other going so bad there’s just breathless wheezing from all across the barracks, the ones who had been in the middle of cleaning their blasters are either leaving on them for support or bend over them with their head in their hands wiping at their eyes and feeling like their going to piss their pants and die from lack of oxygen and their faces hurt when they lie down to sleep. Just the clones being boyishly happy and jovial siblings like they deserve.

[p4nishers]

i stand with my canceled wife

[feline-evil]

Dick or no dick confirmation Pickles was always going to be trans to me anyways; if he's swingin' somethin that's phallo babes, if he's not then his t-dick fat. What's not to get.

[thecleverconfidante]

When Bullies Become Heroes

Some people were born to be bullies. Maybe life did them wrong in some way, leaving scars they now wear like armor—a prickly shield that lets them carve out a place of their own by keeping everyone else at a distance. It’s their way of asserting themselves, of creating a sense of safety by pushing others down. Or maybe they’re lost, threatened by the beauty and light they see in others around…

[tiredtriedfailures]

maybe I'm stupid but how does Kenny give "genderless mentor" energy? I lowkey didn't get that part of interview.

I'm glad that Kendrick understands and accepts femininity and unlearning toxic masculinity tho

oh its so funny youre not gonna believe. so when celebrating "kendrick gender talks" i did a little exaggerating. they werent talking about kendricks gender expression, or femininity at all. SZA was talking about his gentle mentorship, fatherliness circles back into motherliness when done lovingly enough. AND kendricks art is too human to keep up the illusion of a macho man, he does reject toxic masculinity openly but not out of any femininity, hes more into Positive Masculinity. as always, i think kendrick could use more feminism, but hes still so beyond his peers and fellow celebrities.

so we were mostly celebrating kenny being comfortable with being called genderless or at peace with femininity and mostly,comfortable relinquishing his masculinity to express himself. a step is a step.

[spitblaze]

I think one of the least bad (but still annoying) things about domestic terrorists is that I cannot fucking say anything about wanting to make a manifesto without clarifying 'like an ARTIST manifesto' so people don't start thinking I'm gonna be on the news in a week for blowing up a grocery store or something

[thorne1435]

I think it took me so long to realize I was attracted to men too because all the men where I live...kinda suck. Or at least, they aren't my type. They're all so angry and bigoted and that's dreadfully unattractive to me.

I think if I had met more anxious prettyboys and intellectual stoners around, let's say, my 7th grade year? I might've figured all this bisexual shit out way sooner.

[catxcatxcatxx]

The patriarchy rewards (a) men, and (b) people who fit into the roles in society determined by their genitals at birth.

Trans women/transfemmes are neither of the two. Therefore, the patriarchy punishes us the most.

[ghoulhusband]

thinking about benny being trans again. benny can you tell us what’s up with your fucking ghost gender please

[kordbot]

thinkin abt benny tonight

[cleverlyconfidential]

When Bullies Become Heroes

Some people were born to be bullies. Maybe life did them wrong in some way, leaving scars they now wear like armor—a prickly shield that lets them carve out a place of their own by keeping everyone else at a distance. It’s their way of asserting themselves, of creating a sense of safety by pushing others down. Or maybe they’re lost, threatened by the beauty and light they see in others around…

[thymechaos]

i just can't believe that oda fucking create sanji, a stereotypical ladies man who simps to an embarrassing degree for women while having his hackles comically raised around everyone he perceives as a man - and most notably butting heads with the more obvious ~manly man~ of the crew. haha, classic anime running gag, the kind that gets obnoxious at times but still makes you laugh.

AND THEN, like a billion chapters later, motherfucker steeples his fingers and goes "soooooooo... what makes a person Like That?"

and the answer is that he grew up in fucking Toxic Masculinity, The Kingdom. the answer is that he was always Different, in a way other guys instinctively perceived as weak, and that made him the target of visceral scorn and violence. the answer is that he was sensitive, sweet, caring, nurturing - feminine-coded traits which are only valued by patriarchy insofar that they're performed by women in service of men. the answer is that in a kingdom comprised almost entirely by violent men, the only ones who were ever kind to him, the only safety he ever had, were a girl and a woman.

so cooking is for women and servants, it makes you less of a man. only women will ever really value you for your passions and dreams. women are also actively hurt by the way the world works, they are unsafe unless they comply with men's violence, and you have to protect them.

(men will always know what you are, and they will hurt you if you let them.)

and even after he leaves... at baratie he is cherished and respected, but even that is an extremely masculine environment. we don't talk about our feelings, we don't let our guard down, the only love is tough love. when he tries to express his artistry and express himself through his cooking, rather than just filling orders and making money, he gets mocked.

so here is a man who will not raise a hand to a woman, because he rejects the masculinity he was raised with and refuses to become yet another man subjecting women to violence. he is desperate for women's attention and affection because it's SAFE, it's the only kind he can trust. other men are potential threats and must be treated as such. he must at all times be snarky, tough, Not Feminine, because to be perceived otherwise is to be powerless, to be hurt.

like y'all. the queer coding of it all? the overtly feminist themes? the active rejection of toxic masculinity and the way it's shown to be directly tied to imperialism? what the fuck.

[delibird-catboi]

Huh

[homunculus-argument]

I think there's a real tragedy in the way straight men don't see themselves the same way that people who are attracted to men see them. If you ask a straight man to describe what an attractive man looks like, there's very little variety - the masculine male ideal is tall, broad-shouldered, square-jawed with a cleft chin and built of sculpted muscle. The stereotypical image of an Alpha Male, someone whom he could respect, and envy.

And sure, there are plenty of women, gay men and people of all sorts who are attracted to to this specific type, even exclusively attracted to it, there is so much more variety in this, both in the tastes and their subjects.

The stereotype of "hot wife, ugly husband"-couples was drawn from the observations of straight men, from their own perspective. Women going after men that men find unattractive makes no sense to them, and they figure that women are willing to overlook being ugly if a man's funny, smart or rich enough. If a woman insists that she's attracted to a specific man who isn't attractive by their standards, they'll assume that she's lying.

The tragic part is when a man who believes himself to be ugly grows bitter over this, developing a foul personality which people do find repulsive, and then uses their repeated experiences of being romantically rejected as proof that they're physically unattractive, insisting that surely women would overlook his heinousness if only he was tall and muscular enough, and had the right bone structure. The self-feeding vicious cycle of being a bitter incel is born.

The thing about "ugly men with a good personality can still be attractive" is that they're usually not even ugly. Some people do genuinely find fat and hairy men, thin and delicate men, short men and feminine men attractive. There's as much variety as in cheese, you can't compare aura to brie. And just like in cheese, as long as you're not toxic, somebody's into that. You just need to find the right wine to compliment it.