#what im saying is that im quite fond of men who have renegotiated their personal idea of masculinity | Explore Tumblr posts and blogs

thorne1435 · 1 year ago

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I think it took me so long to realize I was attracted to men too because all the men where I live...kinda suck. Or at least, they aren't my type. They're all so angry and bigoted and that's dreadfully unattractive to me.

I think if I had met more anxious prettyboys and intellectual stoners around, let's say, my 7th grade year? I might've figured all this bisexual shit out way sooner.

#It kinda sucks too because I know well enough that it's not who they are that's bothering me #it's the patriarchal idea of masculinity that's bothering me.#and I do think it's somewhat misandristic of me to dislike what they're (unwillingly) raised to be like #but only insofar as I ignore the social factors at play and assume this is an inherent trait of men rather than a patriarchal one.#sort of like how it's not misogynistic to hate the stereotype of Dumb Women Doing Shopping #but it *is* misogynistic to hate women because of the stereotype of Dumb Women Doing Shopping.#y'know?#anyway this one kinda got away from me #what im saying is that im quite fond of men who have renegotiated their personal idea of masculinity #those men who have outright rejected toxic masculinity and traditional ideas of The Patriarch as a household role.#and if i had met more of those men when i was a kid maybe i would have less internalized misandry #and less resulting queerphobia towards males as a sex including myself as a trans woman: these things are often related.

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