#queerplatonic? me? pLEASE

[kurtdotkelly]

dbh community how bad is it that im sso utterly downbad for hank and connor . [plllatonically.] nnoo dont kys youre so sexy hahah!!! nnnooo dont start the android uprising ur too pretty !!! /q

[sunnibits]

john & arthur + “love”

[spacebubblehomebase]

"A New Day Will Dawn."

-Said some guy named Luke probably.

Welcome to my #HHStargazersAU! Stay Tuned~♡? -Bubbly💙

[laismoura-art]

Charlie: Dads? I'm Bisexual

Lúcifer: Oh, Bisexual? I thought I named you Charlotte! :D

Alastor: Ugh! Really? And you dare call yourself a father! Allow me to show you how it's done!

Alastor: Hi, Bisexual! I'm Aroace, pleasure to make you acquaintances! >:D

Charlie:

Charlie: I think I'll go back to bed, proud of you, Al...

Poor Charlie is stuck in a eternal loop of dad jokes. Save her!

@mikka-minns ? May I tempt you with some Queerplatonic Radioapple being cringe co-parents to Charlie?👀👀

@madamealtruist

[altschmerzes]

if the only time you bring up A Secret Third Thing is when someone has suggested generally celebrating or uplifting platonic/queerplatonic fictional relationships in spaces that ordinarily obsess about romantic ones to the exclusion of all else perhaps consider why you’re doing that and also stop.

[whiskersoup]

simple and happy <3

[qprconcepts]

qpps who both used to hate physical touch until they met each other and now it’s their love language

<3

[twospiritstooprideful]

Me: "Woagh! A Found Family! YES, I love found families, I wonder if the fandom agrees—"

Fandom: "They're all kissing sloppily."

Me: "Aw, man. C'mon."

[nolonger-ams]

Sam refused to tell me what his NSFW blog is called so now I'm obsessively scrolling through his account to find clues

@acrosstheconstellationsandmoonys

[beyond-a-name]

Polymour

I invented a word to describe someone you love

Polymour:

(noun) A person with whom you share a deep and intimate connection that is distinctly polyamorous and non-amatonormative; someone you love and share a relationship with, especially a relationship-anarchistic, non-romantic, and/or queerplatonic relationship

denotes love, significance, non-exclusivity, and a freedom from role-defined relationships

I think that practical use is the single best way to learn a new word, and certainly the best way to create one, so here's the gap in my life this word was made to fill.

So I've been in love with two people for a while, and we're all a-spec and very poly, and I'm very relationship anarchist. Relationship anarchy is in fact the only relationship model that makes any sense to me, that accurately works well with how I feel and doesn't feel like a trap, contract, or obligation.

I don't really like the word "partner", but these two people I loved and connected with, one of them did use the word partner and I wanted the validity of their other relationships. We will call this person MV.

The other person I connected with and loved, well they felt even more trapped by romance than I did, and it was clear we cared about each other very much, but "partner" was never going to be a word to enter their vocabulary, and I wanted to share in that too. We will call this person V.

So, I was MV's partner and V's friend, but to me, these felt the same. I loved them the same way, and our relationship structure was identical. They were (and are) both deeply important to me, but both words seemed insufficient. Speaking to anyone else, "partner" felt more obligatory than the way MV so freeingly used it, and "friend" sounded way more distant than the intimacy V put behind it. I didn't like either word, but more than anything, it hurt that I couldn't just say I loved them. It upset me that I loved them the same but our words were different.

What really sealed it was talking to a colleague about my two loves, I said MV was my partner and friend, and that V would never describe themself in those terms but that I loved them both the same. My colleague listened, and was happy for me, and it really seemed like they got it!

The next time I saw them, they had bought me two movie tickets, for me and my partner. It was sweet, but I could only think about how to upgrade the tickets to include all three of us, thinking those two would each go to Mv and V and I'd buy my own ticket to share treat them both to the movies and- And it hurt.

It was only a few days after that I invented this word in the shower. And it works so beautifully for us!!!!! V could relax because they knew that our love for them wasn't going to be the amatonormative trap we'd both suffered, and MV was just as relieved as I was to have a word that wasn't still so romancey and role-defined. We have a way to tell people that we're important to each other without worrying about those people's pressures or expectations, because well, we invented it.

Like everything good about relationship anarchy, instead of roles and contracts or hierarchy, we just get to focus on the love we feel.

When someone hasn't heard this word (because they obviously haven't), instead of managing someone else's baggage, we just get to teach them how we all love each other.

So it works well, for me and my polymours.... <3

[smolldust]

OKAY SO

Me and my one friend (not my wife who divorced me, this is a different friend) started this long running bit where we aggressively flirt with each other. It was just a bit at first but we both enjoyed it.

ANYWAYS this started at the end of May but at a 4th of July party with my friends they were all telling me and this friend to just already get into a relationship cuz we were both single and lonely and desperate for a partner and we already had this flirting bit going so it made sense. We were both flustered and didn’t enter a relationship mainly cuz I wasn’t sure how I felt and they said they didn’t want to push me into anything cuz they knew I was aroace.

BUT now that I’ve been thinking about it I actually would really like to be in a qpr with them. We have a lot in common, we have similar interests, we bounce off of each other well, and we already aggressively flirt with each other so we’re already pretty comfortable around each other.

HOWEVER I don’t wanna ruin what we got goin on right now. I mean they HAVE said that they found me attractive but they also said they have a crush on someone else and I don’t wanna make things awkward.

Idk imma have to talk to my alloromantic friend (this friend and friend I wanna be in a qpr with are both ace so that’s all good) for advice and his opinions. Cuz right now my only plan of getting closer and flirting is asking them about their ocs

I’m kind of a disaster lmao

[aro-culture-is]

Alloaro culture is wanting a similar word to qpr for a committed partner you have sex with sometimes that is not romantic: qpr isn’t right because it has the word platonic in it.

hi! in a very gentle way, i am vibrating to let you know this is incorrect :)

from the POV of someone who's been around the aro community since ~2013-2014 on tumblr, the only time i've seen folks start to say that qprs couldn't include sexual components has been when

they've learned an incorrect definition of QPRs, or

in one particularly notable case, the individual proposing it turned out to be quite sex negative and upset at the mere thought that people could think that qprs could include sexual activity. this individual suggested an alternative term for individuals desiring sex in QPRs in a rather explicitly alloarophobic measure. when gently called out from what had seemed to be a genuine attempt at coining a new term, the above came to light. smaller cases of this pop up every once in a while, but this one got some notoriety.

queerplatonic was always meant to mean "queering the idea of a platonic relationship", "queering the idea of what a relationship means", and by explicit definition, has always been broadly and radically inclusive. any relationship, so long as the partners involved agree it is a queerplatonic one, is queerplatonic. no exceptions. this can mean it involves romance, sex, traditionally platonic elements, and anything and everything those involved desire out of it.

tldr; the word platonic is in queerplatonic to say it is counter to the idea of a restricted "platonic" relationship.

[achios]

yall i just want a queer platonic partner is that too much to ask

[apollogies-all]

Hey girl*, Joker Persona 5 and Goro Akechi lesbian makeup photo redraw, ok?

because i just remembered i never posted this here.

[unnamable-lee]

people who think of queerplatonic relationships as just really close friends make me mad and sad, it's so much more than that.

[oilith]

Thoughts on toh ships

My favorite ones out of all of them are probably camilraeda and gustholomule. Camilraeda forming a polycule sometime between the timeskip, and gustholomule is just really fun imo.

I really do like raeda and camileda invidually too, they both have pretty interesting dynamics. On the friendship side i've always headcanoned darius and lilith as besties (again FRIENDship, they're BESTIES). Aladarius is good too, and i think they end up as a couple.

Out of the hexsquad ships i like lumity and willuz the most. Willumity is pretty cool too, i can see luz dating both willow and amity, tho i don't think willow and amity would date. I don't really care about lunter or huntlow that much, but i've always catered towards the sapphic ships the most so *shrug*. I do see why people like them tho. Gustholomule could be such a fun dynamic, and i ship them as queerplatonic partners.

Also, just so you know, i ship kikimora and odalia unironically. They're both so incredibly toxic and it's literally just bringing out the worst in each other (at least at first). Also, you can't tell me alador and odalia aren't a bi4bi couple and kikimora isn't a lesbian

Also hootlingo is a Thing.