#pros of being asexual: boy i love being asexual

[rosyrubi15]

Help I keep making all my OCs asexual

[profoundbondfanfic]

Hi! I’m hoping someone here or one of your followers can help me find a fic I read probably 5+ years ago 😭 in the fic Cas was asexual or maybe demisexual? And he was kind of navigating his relationship with Dean for the first time experimenting with different things and Dean was like super patient and understanding. I’m guessing it was rated M or E, but it was such a sweet fic and it’s been bugging me that I can’t find it again! Any ideas? Thanks! 🫶

Hey!

Maybe one of these?

Aces and Pros by twowritehands

Dean is a porn star. Cas is ace, but he does enjoy masturbating and is Dean's #1 fan.

Just Your Heart, In Exchange For Mine by noxsoulmate

Dean owns a bakery and Castiel loves his pie. This could be such a cute little bakery love story – if it weren’t for the fact that one was a retired hunter and the other one a powerful witch. There’s also the matter of the black little cat Dean finds in front of his bakery one cold and rainy night. Not to forget the crazy witch on the loose, ripping out other witches’ hearts.

like january by sharkfish

“I told you that I’m asexual,” Cas says, “and that’s true, but I’ve always understood myself to be more gray-asexual than purely asexual. That means --” “I know what it means,” Dean says, letting out the breath he was holding. “I haven’t been attracted to someone in so long, the distinction no longer seemed to be relevant.” “Nothing can change the way I feel about you,” Dean says. “Nothing.” Cas looks down at his hands. “Sometimes I think I may be attracted to you.”

Preacher Comfort by almaasi

Dean Winchester works as a nurse at an after-hours medical clinic. He's a champion at what he does, but for him, professionalism has its pitfalls: good-looking patients make him flustered. Luckily, his fly-by-night infatuation evaporates within minutes, since most patients only swing by once. Castiel (fondly known as Bee Sting Guy around the clinic) is one of those iniquitously handsome fellows – and he keeps coming back. He's also a Catholic priest, 94% asexual, and in need of the tender love that happens to be Dean's speciality.

In this one Cas isn't asexual but the rest is exactly like you described (His first time experimenting with different things and Dean being super understanding and patient and caring about it. And a really sweet fic):

Cardigan by tricia_16

Castiel Milton has always been a loner. He's perfectly content spending his days working at Milton's Antique Toy Store and his nights reading and watching TV, mostly because he's never known anything different. Enter Dean Winchester: former high school football captain, all-around golden boy... and apparently, Castiel's long-time admirer.

[quillkiller]

some Tom riddle headcanons pls!!!

have been discussing with my royal consort kara @sugarsnappeases and the results are in..

he’s terrified of death. of dying. to the point where he’s entirely obsessed with death. his mon died in childbirth, it’s the first thing he ever knew!!!!! death !!!!!! his life has been marked with death since his birth, sending him into this obsessive spiral of becoming immortal

and then he finds out he’s a wizard. magical. there’s MAGIC !!!!! surely there’s eternal life if there’s magic. like in fairytales, in the storybooks, etc. but nope :/ wizards also die it TURNS OUT ..

and the interesting thing about this is that he does die young. according to me (and kara) because voldemort kills tom riddle, but tom riddle also created voldemort on purpose. he’s so obsessively terrified of death that he doesn’t even realise he all but kills himself. this not to say that he kills any good parts he ever had, because he wasn’t a good person. he was willing to do anything to become immortal and that included becoming a fanatic pureblood supremacist <- which he was before he became voldy. so this is not like. excusing canon tom behaviour, it’s simply exploring his character and motivations…… so yeah, he ends up killing himself anyway. becomes this snake like ugly monstrous creature because he cares more about living forever than he cares about luxury or good looks or sex or love <- perverse asexual freak. will he be happy living forever? lonely? content? satisfied? <- things he has never once considered because the Only Point is living forever / and his small minded god-complex making sure he Will

speaking of small minded god-complex. he grows up in this orphanage right.. he’s this lonely unfortunate miserable bitter boy and then someone comes to tell him he’s a wizard. who WOULDNT feel like The Chosen One in that situation. and he just never comprehends that he’s simply not. that he’s just one of many wizards before him. just one of many with a traumatic childhood. but he thinks he’s special and him being a wizard is Proof of this. feeding into his small minded god-complex that makes him hate muggles. he was miserable in the muggle world, treated terribly, unfortunate and unhappy, so he hates them all. they’re all inferior and could never do what he can. will never be understand and will never be special. <- again, not tom excuses, but tom exploring. this is us exploring the WHY and HOW of his character and NOT ! agreeing with any of them shdhfjjsk. but yeah. small minded kid with a god-complex whose entire life has been clouded with his obsessive fear of death/immortality that there just simply isn’t any other point of view for him. and it makes him the monster he becomes

myrtles death!!!!!!! was an accident. that he capitalized off of. a girl ends up dead and well now there’s a dead body in front of you and you’ve read about horcruxes and you want to live forever. sort of like robbing a corpse. he’s not morally above exploiting someones dead body for his own gain. his entire life revolves around his own goals and ideas and obsessions. did we mention the god-complex… i dont even think he feels bad for myrtle, or see almost anyone ever as a real person (<- sociopath), but rather congratulates himself for the lucky break.. he needed a dead body, has probably been making a pro and con list of who his first kill should be for months, and now there’s an accidental death around him. he’s doing a happy little dance

^ this made me giggle. did you all know kara is the funniest person in the world

the older generation of purebloods HATE him at first. like walburga, orion, cygnys, etc etc etc. like they’re older than him, by a LOT even if toms also older than their children, and he comes this almost still a teenage kid trying to convert them for his Cause. they’re literally laughing in his face and mocking him. unbelievably unimpressed…. however tom doesn’t give up, genuinely probably unfazed by obstacle because of his tunnel vision. he starts off recruiting less important pureblood families. like the flints. until he gets his claws into peoples children…. that’s when it all starts getting really fucking serious…. when he starts getting successful… creating this little death eater cult built from scratch and made-up by teenagers. reg having the voldy posters in his room, huge argument against the ’uwu reg didnt want to take the mark’ and also WAY more interesting if he’s the one getting his parents recruited rather than the other way around. then there’s barty ’daddy issues’ crouch being picked up and recruited by an older male figure type leader, evan rosier the morally bankrupt kid with necrophilic tendencies who can’t get or keep a job after hogwarts because of intentional malpractice for his own anatomical research ……

so yeah….. some tom riddle thoughts… <3

[tiredaf23]

Headcanon time >:3 (gotta cut the post bc its too long 😔)

Curly:

he/him, probably they too.

Most definitely our panromantic asexual (repulsed) icon

Probably around 34-ish, I'd say 38 at most

I know he was originally supposed to be British, but he's Icelandic to me

White (Icelandic) but moved to America when he was around 22-ish, so his accent is a little softer than before.

100% has a Dinosaur plush he named "Curlasaurus"

Audhd (idk man, i just see it), BPD (unhealthy attachments to people lead to unintentional biases), and GAD (having to keep the peace also leads into anxiety disorders).

Only 100% able-bodied, no pain on the ship fr 😔

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Swansea

You will never find an Appalachian dad who isn't like Swansea. Source, my grandpa.

He/him, doesn't understand but will definitely try.

57 to 62 years old. Look at him. He's old (/silly)

That one text meme:

Boy shut up. Boy shut up. Boy shut up. Boy shut up.

Okay, sorry...

Boy you want hotdogs?

Straight

White (either Virginian or from North Carolina)

Unironically wears bass pro shop merch

Depression (due to divorce and loss of kids)

Arthritis and carpal tunnel (old hag/j)

Had jaundice at one point. It scared the shit out of him and he slowed his roll on alcohol because he was scared to leave his kids. This was before his divorce.

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Anya (party hat Anya :D)

She/her, but also okay with bell/snow neo pronouns

25 to 30 years old. Somewhere around there!

Lesbian at first, but completely repulsed with everything after the Jimmy incident

She owns a little stiffed teddy bear that has a nurse's outfit on!

Since she was around 8, snow always wanted to be a nurse!

Sounds like Fluttershy from MLP and I know using ponies is kinda iffy with headcanons, but I love Fluttershy and I love Anya and I need them both to be my mothers. 👁👁

Swansea won't admit it, but he's a major sweet tooth. ^w^

Bell ses emoticons instead of emojis because she finds them "nicer and not as condescending"

Egyptian and Greek! I don't think a lot of people realize how close the two were hand-in-hand in history. Hell, Cleopatra was Greek!

Depression, MAD (major anxiety disorder) OCD, chronic intrusive thoughts, slight hallucinations (static in her vision and random soft voices)

Blind in her left eye. I like the idea of bell needing glasses because of the OST cover.

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Daisuke

Any pronouns work for him as long as you still refer to them as a guy. She's cis but is apathetic to pronouns.

Probably 18 to 23 years old. Somewhere in the "I'm an adult, but my brain isn't fully developed" stage.

Queer as in "idk yet but I'm not questioning."

Adores xenogenders and will ask you rant about yours.

Guys are you skibidi alpha?

Okay, idk what time frame it's set, but he'd totally say this.

Japanese (canon) and Native American (I'm not sure what tribe, as I'm not sure how exactly to headcanon Native characters in detail)

ADHD (i mean come on), depression (homelife), PTSD (homelife)

Scoliosis and chronic pains. Probably needs a cane but he says YOLO unironically, he ain't using it (that's dangerous, please use your mobility aids if you need them)

Definitely punk at heart, but doesn't like dressing it because he feels punk shouldn't have a dress code (kinda self incorporated in there)

Definitely owns blue laces though, it you catch what I mean 👀

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Jimmy

He/him, probably not 100% homophobic (as in he won't threaten you for it) but will use the whole "a gay guy hit on me once" schpiel to avoid gay people

Around 35-ish. I want him to be close to the age of Curly, but not quite his age, ya know?

Straight. Dead blank. Makes Swansea ashamed for being straight.

Mixed (white and Mexican)

Didn't come from a good home. Due to the (very unfortunate) stereotype of "Mexican mom's are brutal", Jimmy didn't get help to get away from his abuse. He grew up in Texas where everyone thought it was okay and didn't say anything.

Probably snaps often. While sometimes he doesn't mean it, he never apologizes for it. He grew up thinking apologizes are for pussies.

Now I'm not using this as an excuse for his actions. It's just proven that people who come from bad homes are more likely to be bad people. This does not mean you are a bad person. Not everyone who comes from bad homes become bad people.

I think it's Canon bro's a brony and I'm gonna make it worse: He watched the Rainbow Dash incident on repeat and flat out refused to watch the show after it became Canon she's a lesbian.

This is going to be the controversial part. Mental disorders. Because no matter what I put here, it can be seen as "demonizing" a disorder. I'm not. I'm going straight off of the DSM-5. I got bored and read it during school (technically yesterday, it's 1am, Nov 2nd, and I cant sleep) so I spent 3 - 4 hours total reading and putting these characters in the categories I think they're in.

I do NOT believe in cluster-b abuse!! I do NOT believe that my headcanons for Jimmy's disorders are an excuse for his actions. I do NOT defend Jimmy.

I just wanted to say that before I put them down.

NPD, Bipolar, C-PTSD, autism, BPD, anorexia.

Hypermobility, tic disorder (because it's visible, I put it with the physical disorders, though I acknowledge it's a neurological one), and chronic pains in his knee and lower back.

[c0ffeecr0w]

Just gonna share some of my headcanons, mainly for the 16 - 22 year old highschool/college versions of the main 4/5 but also for their canon age version as well. I took some of @rottrottencorpse's SP HCs cuz I thought they fit so well

Here's what I have so far:

Stan is bisexual, Kyle is biro-asexual (gay pref), Cartman is gay (closeted), Kenny is panro-hetero and Butters is bicurious

Stan, Kenny and Butters have blue eyes with Butters' being sky blue, Kyle has green, Cartman has heterochromatic (brown and blue)

Kenny and Cartman are Genderfluid, both having masculine and feminine identities. Kenny goes by He/She/They pronouns but normally goes by He/Him, while Cartman goes by He/She, mainly He/Him as well unless in feminine clothing (and Transginger)

Stan has Spanish/Iberian roots, given from Randy. He sometimes gets called greaseball by Cartman but mostly as a joke (his hair isn't greasy anyway)

Cartman and Stan hang out together on weekends when Kyle isn't around or have nothing else to do. They get along well together

Stan's dog Sparky is a Staffordshire Terrier and American Bulldog mix. He still has him, though he likes to hang out with Big Gay Al usually. He still likes Stan though

Cartman is the shortest out of the gang (5'5) while Kyle is the tallest (6'2) while Stan (5'9) and Kenny (5'11) are somewhere in between

Cartman and Butters both love Disney films

Eric has a soft spot for cats and dinosaurs

Kenny does Karen's hair while she paints his nails for him (Butters taught her)

He also loves Fast and breakfast foods, pancakes especially

Kenny smokes the most out of the gang, from nicotine to marijuana, Stan and Eric occasionally, Kyle doesn't, Butters would be easily peer pressured to do it though

He doesn't do substances around Karen

Stan listens to Alt Rock, Emo, Grunge and Metal (most subgenres), hates Dubstep. Kyle listens to Classical and The Cure. Eric has his Spotify playlist filled with Pop music. Kenny is a Grunger and Nu Metalhead, loves Nirvana and Limp Bizkit, though he likes plenty of different music. Butters probably likes Pop and Eurodance, the happy, cheesy kind. Stuff you'd here on DDR basically

Kenny plays with Karen when she wants to, sometimes Butters plays dolls with her too

Stan binge eats when depressed/stressed. He's gained a bit of chub because of it aside from his sluggishness when high or tired. It isn't noticeable in his usual jacket or in baggy clothes

Kenny has a job that he works at in the summer. He spends a bit of his money on either for his home or for Karen. 60% of his money is given by Butters

Stan has a slight crush on Kyle, though they both see each other as mostly best friends

Butters and Kenny both love each other platonically and romantically.

Butters is a pro at DDR. Kenny sucks at it but plays it with Butters anyway when at the arcade

Stan is still with Wendy, both have gone over their on and off relationship and managed to become better. He's in a poly relationship with her and Kyle since Wendy is polyamorous

Kyle is from Irish-Polish descent. Irish from Sheila's side, Polish from Gerald's side

Stan and Kenny are smoke and music buddies. They both nearly have the same music taste

Eric, Kenny and Butters still have their superhero characters, though all of them LARP as their superhero and fantasy characters

Stan is an alcoholic and stoner. He doesn't go to the point where he abuses it but he usually drinks a can/bottle or 2 a day

Stan is an animal lover but mostly loves big dogs

He also plays the guitar, mainly because of playing Guitar Hero that inspired him

Kyle is germophobic. He hates pee (canonically), anybody sneezing/coughing on him or even a drop of spit getting on him while one is talking

Cartman is most likely the one who'd blast music in the car at full volume

Kyle is more outdoorsy than Stan and would go have walk in the woods

Kenny is a skater boy

Has piercings on his nose and ears, dragon tattoos on arm and back

Also loves Horror and action movies

Stan sucks at iceskating or skating in general, though Wendy is sweet enough to help him out

Butters works at a diner, which Kenny meets him at often. Butters would give him either a hot dog, pancakes or anything he'd like

Kenny has a crush on Butters, which Butters is aware of. Both are real sweethearts to each other

Kyle enjoys writing stories and poetry. He sometimes shares some to Stan, Kenny and Wendy

Kenny is more of a foodie than the rest of the gang. He even eats more than Cartman does (Jk, not pokin fun at his weight)

Kyle hates his hair but Stan would hate it if he would cut it off

Kenny is still Mysterion. No one knows it's him except for his friends. Due to him being up at night, he sleeps a lot in class. Total night owl

Kyle is a A+ student, who Kenny leans onto due to him failing math. He's nice enough to help him out

Stan would be the one who'd sneak in a hip flask at school just in case he gets depressed, though it'd affect his focus if he drinks too much. Despite that, he's a B+ student. Great at art and History

Cartman is a B- student, he sometimes slacks off, texting or watching YouTube videos on his phone. Great in Spanish and English

He and Kenny would be ones who'd pack plenty of snacks. Kenny would be sweet enough to share a bag of chips or 2 while Cartman just hoards it all, especially for Kyle. Though exceptions are for Stan, Kenny and Butters, maybe Clyde too

Kenny is a C grade student. He sucks at math and History but nails science and art

Stan has had moments where he'd get drunk at prom night or in class

Even though he struggles with depression and alcohol, he's such a sweetheart teddy bear

Kenny hides his playboys and cig packs under his mattress in case Karen finds them in his room

[gaykarstaagforever]

Get ready for the "pronatalists," coming to a political election near you in the next several years.

They're an unofficial Silicon Valley cult that is basically just good-old-fashioned eugenicists, including the thing where they say it isn't their fault SCIENCE and MATH say rich white people are the best humans.

They unironically think Elon Musk is the paragon of human existence, and like him, a big part of their thing is romanticizing autism...or what they CALL autism, but isn't autism, it's just them being selfish assholes and declaring themselves beyond criticism because it is a "condition." Which they openly think is also the next stage of human evolution, which is why they have to quickly breed their superior genes into the race that will "save the world" from too many poor brown people existing. Because them liking money a lot is going to help save us from climate change...? It immediately gets muddled, once they've declared their practical white supremacy.

But all this, OF COURSE, isn't racist. They're just "realists" about how bad the Earth will be when uneducated brown non-billionaires who don't even own companies get to make decisions! Because it's a paradise now, since it's being run by white billionaires.

Huh.

They think of themselves as left-wing, but the progressive left hates them for obvious reasons, so they are now affiliating with the far-right. For obvious reasons.

The only things that separate them from Fundamentalist Evangelicals is that they are atheists, pro-queer, hate Trump, and are pro-choice. But the pro-choice thing is really only about them wanting the right to discard "substandard" fertilized eggs, because they use AI to tell them which embryos will be "more intelligent" than the others.

...An odd thing to claim, considering IQ is not an actual measure of anything besides how well you do one time on a test, and you CERTAINLY can't predict it by looking at genes. But the US refuses to regulate this kind of gene selection, so of course eugenicists are going to take advantage of it.

The atheism thing seems noble and progressive until you realize it is just very rich people justifying why they don't have to follow the same ethical code as everyone else.

The pro-queer thing also barely counts, because they STILL expect superior white gays / asexuals to use IVF and surrogacy to gift their awesome genes to the future. They've cut out the need for sex to do eugenics. I guess that's kind of a new innovation on the ancient stupidity.

I for one don't trust anyone who looks at Sam Altman and says "this is the Ubermensch." Including Sam himself. Who is of course a fan of all this.

And they hate Trump because everyone with a brain hates Trump, because he's an awful person, all the time, to everyone. Other rich people have always hated Trump. He brags about it. Being rich and hating Trump doesn't make you a hero.

This wouldn't be worth talking about, because these freaks have been around for years, and obviously they have been unpopular with people on both sides of the spectrum. But now, oh boy!, they've realized they are rich and have big dreams for the Earth, so they are of course getting into politics. As Republicans, of course, because any rich person who demands the right to tell the rest of us how to live ends up over there. That's most of their thing.

The family The Guardian talked to lives in my home state of Pennsylvania, because we're purple enough to let you be weird, but red enough to help you be white. I can't wait for this movement to join the coalition of angry extremists that is already the state Republican party, and start pouring money into their master plan to re-Caucasian America. Because everything must be Texas. Because Elon LOVES Texas.

Also they abuse their children. At least, this couple does.

Posting this bothers me, because talking about them is exactly what these people want. So much so that I wonder how much of this is even true, or just them being ridiculous for attention.

But the dad hitting his 2 year old in public, in front of the reporter, like he doesn't even know that's at least bad optics, is the kind of terrible that genuinely comes from a person's black little heart.

[ambroseandmox]

Hm.

Personal rambling under the cut.

I've been having gender dysphoria again, after several years without it.

I'm talking full blown crisis over not having a dick. It's not as bad as it has been before, but the desperate feeling of being wrong is there.

I've never liked having breasts, and I actually have been trying to get medically cleared for breast reduction surgery for decades, but apparently I need to be skinny to qualify, and losing weight makes the back pain unbearable. For a very long time, I assumed the bad feelings I have about my body were from the combination of being fat (and teased mercilessly for it as a kid) and having seriously big boobs (and even more mercilessly teased for that). I have lived my whole life in huge shirts to try and hide it, but I now think I have far deeper issues than that.

But I also don't want to transition. I want nothing to do with beards or body hair. I usually lean towards wishing I could be androgynous, but that doesn't fit quite right either.

I never had a huge sense of "I can't be female" as a kid. I preferred boy toys a lot of the time, but I still played with dolls as well as cars. I was always a tomboy in that I loved pro wrestling and preferred playing with boys to talking about them and doing makeup with the girls. As I got older, I began to realize that I am definitely on the asexual spectrum, so I thought that was it.

I have, more than once, been mistaken for a guy. And it has always felt bad - shameful. So I don't think I'm fully trans? But I think the shame is more that I have failed to perform femininity adequately, if that makes sense.

I don't know. I'm rambling. There are times where I love having long hair and wearing cute fuzzy purple sweaters with skinny jeans. But there are also times where I want to cut my hair short and bind and wear jeans and combat boots. Just this morning I found myself standing in my kitchen with my arms folded and cursing that I had boobs in the way. When I feel more masculine I even move differently, stand differently, I stand taller and take up more space, but when I feel more feminine, I curl up small when sitting and relax my posture. Is this what it feels like to be genderfluid?

I also have chronic pain so I don't often feel connected to my body. Is that why the gender feels come and go? Would I be more aware of it if I didn't dissociate from the physical quite so much? Or is it truly a once every five year phase? I have no idea.

Is dropping back into a Batfam place - which is a very male-centred thing - a reason why I'm feeling like this now? Or is it because I've started lifting weights (to rehab a shoulder injury) and getting into some fitness stuff making me think more about the physical form? Because I've started looking into breast reduction surgery seriously again (and im willing to pay out of pocket if I have to)?

I don't know if any of this ties together. Most of the time I just feel like a brain in a meat suit and I don't particularly care what it's form is. It's strange to have gender feelings at all, but sometimes they show up, I guess. And like I said, I think the last time I had a dysphoric period was in 2017-2018, and it faded. Since then I've had some periods of feeling feminine, but usually no gender feels at all.

I like feeling like I understand things, so being so unsure about all this is maddening. But I guess I don't need to figure it all out. But I also feel like I can't talk to people in my real life about it until I DO have at least some of it figured out. I'm not out to anyone at all. And I needed a place to get some of this out.

[dark-dragon-scales]

Welcome to my blog! You can call me Entesi. I am an adult dragon nb boy who loves being horny over my faves. This blog is an adult self ship blog, so I wouldn’t recommend you follow if that bothers you. If you are not an adult and you interact with me I will block you

Please be aware there will be kinks here, including some really intense stuff so do not follow if that’s going to upset you. This blog is pro-kink and I will try my best to trigger tag the more intense stuff hut feel free to ask me to tag something. I can’t guarantee I will but I will try most likely

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[castlebyersafterdark]

"I also thought it was funny and really odd that that one ask specifically mentioned lesbians being uncomfortable with byler having sex. WHY? No one is forcing them to have sex with a man if they watch it! It won't make them straight. People tend to like sex in general regardless of their own orientation. I'm sure there are lesbians around here who support the ship and the rep it brings and want it to be a good story too."

Wait, let me clarify what I meant by this! Of course there are many lesbians here who support the ship and the rep it bring and want it to be a great story. I wasn't trying to attack lesbian Bylers at all! This was also more of a side note and not the main gist of my ask/theory.

By uncomfortable, I just meant that some people are uncomfortable with characters they aren't attracted to having sex, in the same way that, like, straight guys are uncomfortable with male gay sex scenes, but less so with lesbian ones. This is in no way universal, but I can't imagine that isn't a factor for some. Think of it this way: there's a cliché of straight girls being into MLM ships for sexual reasons (the fujoshi steotype), but this does make sense cause there's a baseline of attraction there. If that train of thought holds, it could go like:

straight guys liking straight ships but being fine with sapphic female ships (if they care about shipping at all)

bi girls and guys liking straight ships, WLW ships, and MLM ships

lesbians liking WLW ships but being cool with straight ships if there's a focus on the woman

gay guys liking MLM ships but being cool with straight ships if there's a focus on the dude

Of course, things are NOT that simple at all. People can, and very often do, like ships outside of what they're attracted to. Many people just like good stories and attraction plays zero role in what they're into. Even in fic, lesbians have written some of the best spicy MLM stories. Things aren't black-and-white. There are lots of asexual and aromantic Bylers, since Tumblr attracts people who are different!

BUT, for some Bylers, when it comes to sex I can imagine them being like, "I support it, & good for them! But I just personally don't wanna see it." Or maybe they don't mind if there's a sex scene in the show, they just don't wanna discuss hyper-specific questions related to male sexuality. And that would make sense! I wouldn't blame them.

I've definitely seen some people who are anti-spicy byler specifically because they think it's weird that people are fantasizing and going way outside the bounds of what is canon and what will be canon.

Beyond that tho, yes, you're 100% right. Age and generation play a huge role. Gen Z is sadly sex-negative in many ways. BUT, if fandom is majority female, we can't discount the Heartstopper effect.

Pushing lesbians aside, there are straight female Bylers who love Byler because of how cute and adorable the boys are, like in a boyband sort of way, right? But they don't like the idea of them having sex, not just in a hypothetical freaky headcanon way, but like at all. Because it would "corrupt" them, or something of the sort.

Perhaps making that specifically gendered isn't fair. I'm sure there are lots of young men who are sex-negative too. And Steddie is, like you said, largely female as well, and they're extremely pro-smut. But I feel like the fandoms are completely different. Most Bylers aren't Steddies, and most Steddies aren't Bylers. Steddie is entirely fanon, and the people who are attracted to Steddie are mainly here because it's hot. There's also the element of, "They're older, so it's moral."

The people who are attracted to Byler, on the other hand, are often attracted to its canon status and its "adorable wholesomeness," if that makes sense? They skew younger and are way less comfortable with sex in general. Byler is about blue and yellow color coding, Taylor Swift lyrics, Miwi's first meeting, fruity lip glances, and hand-holding. Byler is a twee concept entirely divorced from real lived experience.

I just find it hard to imagine that if the fandom was completely reversed and largely comprised of queer males, who might relate more directly to Will and Mike's experiences beyond just general queer and romantic relatability, it would be AS sex-negative?

Just because gay and bi guys are way more likely to directly understand male sexuality and see it as normal, plus they're likely to find Finn and Noah attractive (just like bi girls and straight girls) already do, so that adds in that factor too. But it becomes less of a museum exhibit and more of a, "that could be me" kinda deal.

Again, I could be completely wrong. But, like, explicit gay male sexuality on screen, especially in a coming-of-age context is so rare. And I feel like queer guys would be like, "Hell yeah! Byler sex!" You know, like in the same way that straight guys have historically been into sex scenes in films, like seeing Rose's boobs in Titanic, for example. But Internet fandom as a whole is overwhelmingly female and AFAB, so I feel like there's not really a way to test this theory.

Another great viewpoint where I don't have too much to add because you broke down some great points, thank you for coming back to elaborate!! Very thorough read of the fandom as a whole, I see a lot of your points. And spot on with the last two paragraphs. That's not all of the emotional and interest and appeal, but I can say it's definitely accurate to an extend for partially the mindset as to why I and others do find this ship so engaging and interesting. A coming of age story like this is super rare and one portrayed with all these other cool genre elements is just suuuuper cool, to put it as simply as it gets.

[celepom]

How to Be Ace: A Memoir of Growing Up Asexual 

By Rebecca Burgess

'When I was in school, everyone got to a certain age where they became interested in talking about only one thing: boys, girls and sex. Me though? I was only interested in comics.' Growing up, Rebecca assumes sex is just a scary new thing they will 'grow into' as they get older, but when they leave school, start working and do grow up, they start to wonder why they don't want to have sex with other people. In this brave, hilarious and empowering graphic memoir, we follow Rebecca as they navigate a culture obsessed with sex—from being bullied at school and trying to fit in with friends, to forcing themself into relationships and experiencing anxiety and OCD—before coming to understand and embrace their asexual identity.

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Guh, This is one of those books that hit me upside the head with how much I related to it. “Not interested in sex, only comics.” Feeling pressure to be sexual when in a romantic relationship, whether that was from the partner or societal norms. Being the “weird kid” who was bullied (tho for me it was throughout elementary school, by high school I found my own weird group of friends). Not understanding the obsession with (romantic) relationships. And something that I haven’t seen anyone else explore as an Ace that I related to a lot; looking at anyone I was friendly with as a prospective “love interest,” even if I didn’t have any actual interest in them like that (and I usually didn’t). It’s like because you don’t have the ability to feel sexual attraction to point you towards partners, your brain tries to weigh a list of pros and cons about potential partners without asking WHY IS THIS NECESSARY? DO WE WANT THIS??? WHY ARE WE EVEN THINKING LIKE THIS????

Social Pressure/Expectations.

Exhausting.

(I’ve since stopped doing this, but maybe that’s because I don’t really meet a lot of people in this pandemic age)

BUT! YES! ANYWAY! A very relatable graphic memoir by Rebecca. The art is very expressive and has a very ‘friendly’ feel to it. It’s like a hug in art form.

And the first time I read it I was shocked and delighted to see my own work listed as reference material/further reading at the back. (I may or may not have had an excited run-around my apartment. You can’t prove anything...)

I’m also reading their current webcomic, ‘The Pauper’s Prince,’ and I’m looking forward to ‘Speak Up!” which is being released September 2022. Feel free to check those out too!!

[bambazzle]

LGBT+ Fantasy/Fiction Books and TWs

-In the case that a book on the list is the first of a series, TWs will include warnings for the entire series-

IDNS means “I Do Not Support the Author”- reasons will be listed and linked! if you are interested in this author’s book, try to buy second hand!

I have removed some books that were on here, I know! I removed them specifically for problematic content- this book list was not just books I loved, but books I had yet to read and hoped to love. Books that misrepresent or fetishize our community don’t deserve to be supported and spread even more. I have replaced these books with ones that don’t perpetuate harmful stereotypes, so we can all enjoy our escapes! 

1. Carry On by Rainbow Rowell (Trilogy)-

(Fantasy, Witches, Vampires, kind of Harry Potter-y, MLM Romance, TW for suicidal ideation, self-destructiveness, abandonment, foster care, neglect, bullying, major character death, racism, murder and attempted murder, violence, gun violence and relationship issues. It has some heavy topics but is written in a pretty light tone.)

(DNS author: Racism/stereotyping/fetishization of Asian community)

2. Red White and Royal Blue by Casey McQuiston-

(MLM “Enemies” to lovers, about the son of the President and the Prince of England getting into a fight, they have to fake a friendship to fix their PR situation, TW for being publicly outed, semi-graphic sex scenes, politically charged discussions, addiction, underage alcohol use, blackmail, parental death (mentioned), homophobia, panic attacks, sexual abuse/harrassment (mentioned), racism, parental neglect )

3. Song of Achilles by Madeline Miller-

(MLM but not explicitly romance, Ancient Greece, demigods, exile, TW for abduction, abandonment, war, violence, ableism, child abuse, death, human sacrifice, human trafficking, murder, plague (mentioned), sexual assault (mentioned), self-harm, slavery, torture)

4. The Foxhole Court by Nora Sakavic (Trilogy)-

(MLM, very slow burn. Demisexual MC. Mafia mixed with kids with broken homes mixed with a kid who has a dream of being a pro at a fictional sport. The focus is NOT on the relationship, it is the subplot. TW for ableism, verbal and physical abuse, abuse within a psychiatric facility, alcoholism, underage alcohol use, physical assault, sexual assault, conversion therapy (mention), death of an animal, parental death, drug abuse, drug use, drug overdose, drug misrepresentation, violence, gun violence, knife violence, homophobia, hate crime, murder, panic attacks, rehab, self harm, suicide (mentioned), graphic torture, manipulation, police intervention, organized crime/mafia, graphic description of burns. It is a great series but it has heavy content and is not light reading if you go in unprepared.)

5. The House on the Cerulean Sea by TJ Klune -

(MLM (WLW side characters), fantasy, found family, heartwarming romance, magical creatures, TW for abuse(mentioned), trauma-related anxiety, bigotry, body shaming, bullying, child abuse (backstory), internalized fatphobia, homophobia, microaggresions, violence, violence against children)

6. Heartstopper by Alice Oseman (Series)-

(MLM, graphic novel, slow burn, coming out, TW for emotionally abusive relationship, anorexia, self harm, suicidal ideation, bullying(mentioned), psychiatric facility, trauma discussion, homophobia)

7. The Raven Boys by Maggie Stiefvater (Series)-

(MLM, Fantasy, about a secret private school, slow burn, found family, TW for underage alcohol use, drug use, suicide(mentioned), homophobia, domestic abuse, child abuse(mentioned), murder and attempted murder, burglary, car crash, fire related death(non-graphic), kidnapping, terminal illness, sick parent, ritual sacrifice, suicide, violence, gore, gun violence, knife violence, panic attack, PTSD, workplace harrassment)

8. They Both Die at the End by Adam Silvera-

(MLM, Bisexual Latino characters, whole story takes place in 24 hours because at about midnight- aka the start of the book- they get a phone call saying they’re going to die, TW for death, animal death, child death, drowning, violence, gang violence, gun violence, homophobia, panic attack, parental suicide, suicidal ideation, sick parent, police intervention, and foster care)

9. Six of Crows by Leigh Bardugo (Series)-

(Queer characters, but no romance in the first book, fantasy, found family, slow burn, TW for graphic depictions of violence, addiction, genocide/fantasy racism, gambling, drug use, withdrawal, ableism, abuse(mentioned), sexual slavery(mentioned/backstory), sexual assault(mentioned/backstory), imprisonment, murder and attempted murder, death, death threats, loss of loved one, prosecution, torture, violence, gore)

10. The Gentleman’s Guide to Vice and Virtue by Mackenzi Lee- 

(MLM Historical Fiction Romance, Travel/Journey, Best Friends to lovers, TW for abuse, homophobia, adoption, alcoholism, breakups, death(mentioned), epilepsy/seizures, prison, robbery)

(DNS author: transphobia/biphobia)

11. In Deeper Waters by FT Lukens-

(MLM, High fantasy, “A young prince must rely on a mysterious stranger to save him when he is kidnapped during his coming of age tour”, TW for kidnapping, violence, abuse, war(mentioned))

12. Aristotle and Dante Discover the Secrets of the Universe by Benjamin Alire Sáenz (Duology)-

(MLM Latino coming of age story, TW for violence, surgery, transmisogyny, sexism, homophobia, hate crime, PTSD, hospitalization, alcohol use, drug use, animal death, car crash, death(non-graphic))

14. We Contain Multitudes by Sarah Henstra-

(MLM, coming of age, friendship and romance, TW for bullying, homophobia, abuse, underage alcohol use, drug use)

15. Beneath the Citadel by Destiny Soria-

(Asexual/Bisexual representation, fantasy, ragtag team goes on a quest, TW for death, abduction/kidnapping, blackmail, branding, child abuse(mentioned), coma, amnesia, execution, murder, addiction, violence)

16. More Happy than Not by Adam Silvera-

(MLM main character, YA, “it's about a boy who is considering a memory-alteration procedure to forget he's gay because leading a life as a straight teen would probably be way easier for him. It's about science versus nature, friendship, sexuality, and a quest for happiness.” About the happy ending and how even bad moments lead to good. Hopeful but despairing. TW for attempted suicide, suicide, domestic abuse, medical procedure to erase sexuality, internalized homophobia, homophobia, depression)

17. I Wish You All the Best by Mason Deaver-

(Nonbinary main character, nonbinary muslim side character, romance/love and building a family out of people you care about. About finding your voice. TW for bad coming out, misgendering, transphobia, family rejection/struggle, anxiety(detailed), child abuse, gender dysphoria, homophobia, disownment, panic attacks, suicidal thoughts, suicidal ideation, underage alcohol use)

18. We Are Okay by Nina LaCour-

(WLW, moving out and coming of age, self-discovery and childhood romance, TW for loss of a loved one, depression, loneliness(detailed), chronic illness, death, drowning(mentioned), suicide)

19. The Rest of Us Just Live Here by Patrick Ness-

(Contemporary, about the normal people’s lives while living among Chosen Ones. Family/coming of age/acceptance story. TW for monsters, apocalypse, violence/explosions, death, anorexia, relapse, panic attacks, anxiety attacks, unrequited romance)

20. Lizard Radio by Pat Schmatz-

(Dystopian story about a teenager struggling with their gender identity, TW for abandonment, oppressive government, outlawed homosexuality, hate crime, homophobia, transphobia, violence)

[incrediblyconfusing]

BNHA: Aromantic Headcanons

A list of headcanons for characters I think are aromantic and what types of aromantics they are :). I added definitions for two of them because I’m not that good at remembering microlabels so I don’t blame anyone else if they aren’t.  

Kaminari - aromantic bisexual, mystified  

So confused about romance. He gets the overall concept, but he doesn’t really understand why people want it. Like “You guys actually feel like that? I thought it was a joke..” Cannot comprehend the explanations of the Allos™. Still thinks that some people are exaggerating. He’s that person who gives blunt relationship advice like:

“I dunno, have you considered just... telling him you’ve got a crush on him?”

“Y’know, 95% of these problems could be solved if people talked to their partner. Like they’re supposed to.“

He likes to flirt with his friends though, because he knows from his limited research that flirting makes people feel attractive and desired. Also, he’s still a bisexual disaster.  

Todoroki - aromantic asexual, oblivious

He read an article once that was like ‘How to Show Your Love 101’ without realizing it was for confessing to crushes. The next day, he gave a bouquet of red roses to Uraraka, a letter detailing his admiration to Midoriya, heart-shaped chocolates to Iida, and a frog plushie to Tsuyu. Needless to say, there was a bit of confusion in his friend group.

“T-Todoroki-kun, do you want to date... all of us!?“

“Huh?”

“Deku asked if you wanna date all of us at once.“

“No, but if that’s what you want, I don’t mind.“

“But... you gifted us various items often associated with romantic confession. Social cues dictate that that signals you are courting us.“

“I am?“

Todoroki is the popular guy that gets tons of chocolate on Valentine’s Day. He always ends up sharing it with his entire class. It’s up to Class 1A to keep this a secret so they don’t have to deal with an entire school’s worth (seriously, it’s ridiculous) of upset admirers.

Ashido - arospec (cupioromantic) pansexual - leaning towards women,  Hopeless Romantic™

Ashido is canonically cupioromantic and a hopeless romantic. She’d be very favorable towards a relationship and constantly mistakes aesthetic attraction for romantic attraction. Keeping up on the current gossip, making lists with other girls about the hottest boys, and overall being a ‘ditzy blonde’ type means that most people don’t realize her aromanticism. She’s an aro that picks crushes, choosing a different one almost everyday.

When it comes to talking about Ashido’s ‘romantic feelings’, she usually just sticks with boys to avoid homophobia, but give her the go ahead and she’ll gush just as much about girls. Probably in a QPR with Kirishima, Kaminari, and Sero. Bakugou, Jirou and Shinsou are in it too, but they pretend they aren’t.

(Cupioromantic: Romantic attraction is not felt, but the individual has the desire to still participate in romantic relationships)

Shinsou and Aizawa - aromantic asexual, asocial  

These two just want to retire in a nice cozy apartment with as many cats as they can support. It’s not that they don’t like other people, per se, but they just have limited energy for them. Energy which Class 1A has a monopoly on.

“Why would I want someone living with me? Imagine I go to get coffee from the kitchen and there’s just a person there.”

Bakugou - aromantic asexual, smug

He’d be so obnoxious about it because he sees it more like not having a weakness that everyone else does. When he becomes a pro-hero, he’ll always crow in triumph when villains or villainesses try and fail to seduce him as a battle tactic. Fans and enemies alike will try to overanalyze what his ‘type’ is, but any attempt to court him always fails.

I’m guessing that Bakugou also has a little mysophobia, or at least touch aversion, so kissing and third base isn’t the most appealing for him.

Kirishima -  arospec (greyromantic) bisexual - leaning heavily towards men, friend-oriented

A cuddly aromantic, Kirishima is just one of those guys that cares about nothing more than his classmates - to the point of being a little protective sometimes. It’s a given, considering his Quirk is perfect for shielding others.

He never really thought of being in a relationship until Mina brought it up, though he’s definitely had a squish on Crimson Riot as a kid. He doesn’t really care for romance; but if someone wanted to be in a relationship with him, he would definitely be willing to try it out. There’s not much value in dating for Kirishima because he already does ‘significant other’ stuff with his friends - they get each other gifts, cuddle, take each other out on impromptu ‘dates’. Romance is nice, but he’s satisfied with what he has and doesn’t really want anything else.

(Greyromantic: Romantic attraction is felt, but it is very infrequent and muted)

Hawks/Takami - aromantic heterosexual, awkward

Created to be the perfect hero by the HPSC, he’s supposed to be marketable as well as competent. Marketability increases citizen trust, and citizen trust makes his job easier. It is important, as a hero, to foster connections with the people he protects.

At least, that’s what he keeps telling himself as he goes on another date with a fan that won some raffle.

In reality, he’s uncomfortable with the whole idea of romance and doesn’t really get it. But, as a celebrity, Hawks is contract-obligated to neither confirm nor deny anything on his sexuality. This means he doesn’t have to get in a relationship, but he also has to do things like accept dates to keep up the illusion of an eligible young bachelor looking for that special someone. To keep up the parasocial fantasies that his merchandising team run off of, he keeps himself ambiguous on the whole thing.

When asked about his single status on TV, he usually just jokes about it.

“Romance? In this economy!?”

Bonus:

Asui, Midoriya, and Burnin’ - aromantic demisexual, leaning towards women

Green

[solarsavoy]

Sunday Ship, Gakushuu x Akari

This ship is so rare, I don't even know what their official name is, and GakuAka doesn't sound cute to me, so Gakushuu x Akari it is. I was requested to analyze this rare pair by @tuulikannel, and I have to say, it's quite the challenge. Still, I'll do my best because I like it.

To start, I feel like Akari is mostly into boys and that Gakushuu prefers boys but could be with a girl given certain circumstances. With that said, I could definitely see Gakushuu being with her later in life and it working out for the long term. Both of these characters prefer a casual distance in their relationship and if Akari pursues acting (which I assume she does) these two would make for the "ideal couple".

Here you have Akari, beautiful, intelligent, graceful, out being the awesome actress that she is, and Gakushuu, brilliant, focused, hard working, and not afraid to go above and beyond.

Depending on how Gakushuu develops, I can totally see him using Akari's status to heighten his own while also treating her like a queen because it 1. looks good for both of them and 2. would mean the world to her since I imagine he goes over the top with things. He'd pay for an extravagant wedding, luxurious vacations, only the finest of jewelry, and I think Akari would love every second of it.

Here's the kicker though, I don't see a lot of passion in their relationship. They would care for each other a great deal, but I don't think either of them would ever know each other on a deep level. Both of them are the type that needs someone else to punch through their cold exterior to get to know them. I think they would both be okay holding each other at arm's length though, a comfortable distance if you will, and respect each other's space.

I don't think they'd have children either. In my mind, Gakushuu wouldn't want them for his own reasons and I feel Akari would just go along with it. Gakushuu's is because he wouldn't want to be his dad and the best way to skip that is to simply not be a dad. For Akari, I think it's because she's used to her family being small and the pain of losing her sister was so great that she would be okay if Gakushuu just said "no kids" and then she'd just accept that because it's not something she'd fight hard for.

I also think this relationship is dangerous, in a way, because I don't think they'd ever separate but they also don't do anything to make each other better as people. They are there for companionship, and because of the distance they are both happy to keep, it would never get deep enough to really develop that passion, that desire that every relationship deserves to have. And in a way, that's sort of sad.

Because I can see Gakushuu being asexual, I don't think it'd be too much of a problem for him to be away from her a lot, but Akari may just keep it in and never say anything because at the same time, she has the "perfect relationship", why ruin it?

To wrap this up, I wanted to end with something a little more positive. While they have their pros and cons of being together, a pro I'd really love to see played out are their conversations. I think they'd be wildly entertaining.

An example: Gakushuu: Yeah, I snuck out once. Akari: I broke your dad's trophy case/laptop on my first day at Kunugigaoka like a bad ass. Gakushuu, wide eyed: That was you???

Another example: Akari: I almost got my ultimate revenge on my worst enemy, but then I realized I liked him as a teacher, so… Gakushuu: I DID get revenge on my worst enemy. Akari, confused: Who was that? Gakushuu smirks. Akari puts it together: You're the one that put your dad in jail??? (Reference, bismuth's fanfic.)

So in the end, I feel like they'd make for a great platonic relationship, but I'm not convinced they'd stay that way because of their potential as the "perfect couple", and if they go into romance, I don't think they'll ever come out of it. That's just my opinion though and I'm always open to other headcanons of these two because honestly, there's almost nothing on this pair since it's so rare. So let me know if you feel differently about them.

And thanks for reading! Let me know if you'd like me to analyze another ship and I'll do it! Have a wonderful day, peoples.

[jakey-beefed-it]

Rather boring, rather personal musings on relating to monsters below the cut

I don’t have any of the same struggles that non-cis, non-straight, non-men have, but there’s a whole lot of music written by, for, and/or about non-cis non-straight love that *really* resonates with me. And sure, part of that is empathy- it doesn’t take a lot of imagination to contemplate a version of myself that wasn’t straight or cis, and thus putting myself in others’ position isn’t a big stretch -but I think part of it is also related to me being... and this is going to sound really offensive so please bear with me... fat and ugly.

It’s not to the same degree by a mile and then some, but there is certain othering, a view of any sexual feelings I might have as somehow *monstrous* or *grotesque* which is similar in kind if nowhere similar in magnitude to how, say, a gay man might be made to feel when confronted with heteronormative society. In a very different way, yeah, but we’re both doing masculinity ‘wrong’, if that makes sense. And the whole ‘redefine masculinity as being an incel jackass’ thing doesn’t work for me because I’m not *actually* a monster, I just *feel* like one sometimes. 

I went to an all-’boys’ (several of whom turned out to not be boys at all in later years) Catholic high school. I wasn’t Catholic then and I certainly never will be having gone there, but it was the best education in the vicinity and I figured it would give me the best odds at college. So for four years, basically the only girls I encountered were through sister schools; coming over to work on theatre productions with us. None of them was especially interested in me, and several of them were openly contemptuous, but that probably has more to do with theatre people frequently being a bit shallower than most about looks and Catholic school girls being a bit shallower than most about finances; at the time I wasn’t considered *good*-looking but I wasn’t a freak or anything. I dated a couple of people (not one of whom I met through theatre), went off to college, and had *no goddamn idea* how to talk to women. 

I figured it out within a year or so (pro tip: talk to women like you’d talk to anyone else, duh) but yeah, during that year and the one previous I went from ‘husky’ or perhaps ‘chubby’ to ‘morbidly obese’. So while the circumstances changed (no longer surrounded by a limited pool of people looking for someone handsomer and/or wealthier) to some extent, the whole ‘hm, no one has ever desired me carnally’ thing stuck around. And that doesn’t feel great, obviously. 

Compounding matters, I’m *somewhere* on the grey/demi/asexual spectrum. In that I can certainly find people *attractive* but the thought of *actually having sex* with them is more off-putting than appealing unless I’m Properly Smitten. And literally only one of the people I’ve ever been Properly Smitten with has ever felt the same way. The rest varied from embarrassed disinterest to sympathetic disinterest. 

So that’s *another* way in which I’m ‘doing masculinity wrong’, apparently- not out trying to make as many ‘conquests’ as possible, not especially even interested in *sex* beyond the right planetary alignment. I do *have* a libido (though it’s suppressed somewhat due to depression, weight, and medication) but it’s not the sort of thing that would ever lead me to make dumb decisions, if that makes sense. 

So yeah. Spent most of my life being made to feel somehow inadequate as a man for my relative lack of sexual feelings, then being made to feel disgusting and monstrous for them when they *do* come up. I’m mostly straight, I’m pretty comfortable being male, I’m not even properly *a*sexual, so I’m never going to *really* ‘get it’ with regard to being Acctually LGBTQIA+, but on some level... maybe because of empathy, maybe because of experiencing the tiniest version of that sort of social stigma, I kinda almost maybe get it sometimes.

Anyhow that’s probably why I nearly broke down crying at the age of 21 when seeing fucking *Shrek* of all things, why my favorite d&d character is a hulking slab of a tiefling with a kind heart, why I feel like Guillermo Del Toro *gets* it in the way that most people don’t. 

I’m doing lots better lately- both mentally and physically -which is probably why I have the self-reflection to *analyze* myself and my thoughts beyond ‘People don’t like me because I suck.’ So if you’re reading this and worrying about me, 1.) aww 2.) nah it’s cool, I’m just Contemplating.

Meh, I’m not entirely sure where I was going with this beyond “It’s a Sin,” by the Pet Shop Boys and “Losing my Religion” by REM are really good songs that I have no right to relate to but somehow strongly do anyway. Loads of other songs fit the same mold but those were the two that brought out this word vomit.

If you’ve read all the way to the end, woof, thanks? I’m sorry? Please keep all replies to the reply function or private message, I don’t want this thing seen by all kinds of people who don’t know me and are more inclined to take it in bad faith. As a bribe/reward for getting this far, here is a picture of my cat, Frisbee.

He’s also morbidly obese, but people don’t seem to mind that as much in cats.

[ihatebnha]

I recently decided I'm childfree and it's taken quite the toll on my dating life. Which bnha guys would be the most okay with a childfree partner?

Lowkey I’m the queen of making shit work, so I really just want to say… most of them lmfao.

I mean, that’s not entirely true, but given the fact that I’m gonna think of this in the context of them being Heroes… I can see it being pretty likely that all of the boys are okay with not having kids since their schedules are almost guaranteed to be taken up with risking their lives on a daily basis.

HOWEVER (and I’ve actually spoken about this here!)(I’m too lazy to find the link rn, check the CT ML or come back in a bit LOL), some highlights include:

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Deku - as much as I think he theoretically would like having kids, he’s probably pretty reasonable in being aware that as soon as he goes Pro… kids are outta the question for him. He’s literally All Might’s successor, the NEW Symbol of Peace or whatever takes it place… and since that’s the case (and we literally see him in death matches with villains every single week), even tho he’s probably emotional about it, NO BABIES FOR HIM!!!

Bakugo - I honestly feel like his decision is truly based on whatever you want because having kids isn’t something he thinks about. Ever. I figure if he could reproduce asexually, he might have one on his own to make his parents happy… but if you tell him right off the bat when you start dating that you don’t want kids, that’s fine with him. He don’t care, he’s busy.

Any of the Todorokis - you think a single one of those boys really wants to pass down their father’s DNA or give him the satisfaction of having grandkids? NO. Bachelor lifestyle for all of them… except that they have you.

Shinso - I love you daddy Shinso but I really doubt that his goal in life. You could probably beg him for one if you really tried, but because of the brainwashing thing going on, and the fact he’s Aizawa’s clone… he also doesn’t care. *Insert that one tik tok meme: when you live in a double income household and have no kids…* that’s him.

Shigaraki - he would’ve had to have lived a different life to want kids. Villain status nonwithstanding, his dad was so shit he’d probably try to choke you out if you even tried to mention a baby. You bring up… Toga’s baby shower and he’s basically just this.

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Honorable mention: Denki - voted most likely to drop a baby on it’s head in high school

[antiloreolympus]

10 Anti LO Asks

1. god bless the hearts of lo fanartists bc ive seen how lo hades looks and he does not look like the pretty boy 20-something model the fanart makes him out to be ❤️

2. I see LO stans praise it as "empowering to all women" and i'm like where? Perse doesnt get to chose to be sexualized or use her own powers, so how is that "empowering"? More so, every woman has a different definition of empowerment, but LO only promotes a very rigid idea of what "empowerment" is through Rachel's privileged worldview. Artemis can reject sex and be empowered. Aphrodite can embrace her sexuality and be empowered, and the list goes on. Rachel doesn't get to dictate that for us.

3. The writing in LO is so contradictory and I don't get why? Like Hades said he chose to rule the UW, but now it's saying he didn't want to be king, but he chose to be king anyway and loves the perks of it? Persephone says she doesn't want to be associated with her AOW, but then she changed her name to "hi i'm a murderer"? Hera flipped immediately on her disdain for Hades chasing after a 19 year old, and there's so many other examples. IDK whats even going on and why RS doesn't keep track?

4. It's no shock it didn't end up on the NYT Hardcover, YA, or Paperback lists because you have to sell tens of thousands of unique copies in a week to get on there, which we could see just wasn't happening. However the fact it didn't even make the NYT Graphic Novel list means LO severely undersold. You don't need to sell much to get on that one and the fact it didn't is a bit of a blow to the supposed "phenomenon" LO claims to be when it didn't perform well in it's main country of popularity.

5. Some of the most popular webtoons on there, up there with the popularity of LO, all took off several months and in some cases nearly a full year off to recharge and they're as popular as ever once they came back, IDK what's going on in RS' head but there's no real excuse for her to not take a break (esp with books coming out) to recharge and let other comics build up an audience instead of the marketing team only focusing on her. she can afford to not be on the top spot for a few months.

6. dont get me wrong she still looks and acts like a child today but s1 persephone was especially always drawn with with baby-like features that its just off-putting. like why were there SO many panels of her with big baby eyes looking like she was about to cry and stuff? like its just weird? i guess now she upgraded from looking like a elementary school child to now looking like at high school freshman. rachel why did you design her to look so young and make her barely legal its so weird 😭

7. I don't get how Rachel claims LO is "pro female sexuality" when it doesn't promote that. Persephone is forced to not even look at another guy, and her only sexual experience has to be assault. The Maidens are framed as regressive liars w/ asexuality being something to "get over", Aphrodite, Minthe, and Thetis are all shamed and punished for consenting sex (esp Minthe). Meanwhile the men can cheat and sleep around (specifically Hades) and it's praised. That's not "pro female sexuality" at all.

8. A big part of why HxP is a popular ship is because there's the idea of Persephone embracing the temptation of darkness in her, but also Hades wanting to be a better man for her. They allow each other to grow. The problem in LO is that they're excused for everything, have no actual pushback, and they stay the same awful people they started as. LO doesn't depict them growing together, they're both regressing into the same awful person (so LO Hades times 2) and RS claims that as "development".

9. At the end of chapter 35 when Minthe says “Hey asshole” she has pointed ears and then round ears and the panels are literally under each other. I don’t think RS ever was consistent not matter whose been working on LO

10. rachel im tired of waiting show us how bad the third volume cover is now. the logo better be covering hades' face too for good measure.