#pretend polyamory

[puddle-nerd]

A new take on “you and me and your friend Steve” 😂😂😂

[sporesgalaxy]

listen man the deadpool movies have this annoying running theme that he is allowed to act gay and shit for laughs and a few heartfelt storybeats but the gay attraction is always secondary in serious narrative weight to his girl love interest Vanessa (problem because this is a narrative and choices like that send a message that gay shit is just a joke or temporary and only het romance can be really serious or "real"). And if that wasnt annoying enough, the storybeats about Wade and Vanessa's relationship mostly focus on Wade's side of things and Vanessa is usually largely absent due to being kidnapped or dead or some shit! Plus, to add insult to injury the whole "het pairing prioritization" thing irt story weight of the romantic commitment, literally doesn't even have to be a problem. Its completely in character and never explicitly disproven that Wade and Vanessa are in an open relationship to some degree. You could just make it a fucking polycule!! and no movie ending has been more conducive to a Wade/Vanessa/Wade's buddy he flirts with polycule than the end of DP&W. But the movie didn't have the balls to do that. and Im not really INTO the fan stuff so maybe I missed it but during the time I looked at fanworks for that movie with any frequency, all the postcanon Wade and Logan content I saw acted like Vanessa didn't exist. Like whatever man . WHATEVER!!!! Im just saying the throuple dynamic would be fun too. if you even care.

[ewwww-what]

It probably won’t (it will)

[prehistoricmancunt]

Polyam people without any compersion blow my mind. You live like this??? What’s the point? Like why are you polyam if you hate when someone you’re seeing tells you abt someone they have a crush on or if you see them flirting ??????

[catastrophic-crow]

love poly relationships that are comfortable. that are casual. that are exciting. that are funny, but not played for laughs. that are dramatic, but the drama comes from how they're people and not because poly relationships are presented as inherently and indisputably "strange" and "other" by the narrative.

"oh my god they had a threesome—"

boring. don't care. tell me when they have a comfortable night in and it's not framed like a kink thing by the author. tell me when they can hang out without it being necessarily sexualized bc the writer thinks the only reason more than two people could date at once is if it's primarily a sex thing and everything has to relate back to that.

tell me when more than two people being together is shown with the same love and care as any other relationship would be, instead of being reduced to a single note.

does the piece of media present this as a relationship, or a punchline? i'm not interested in one of those.

[qlala]

the notes on that poll about tagging the individual branches of poly ships are truly a case study in people not understanding polyamory, even setting the tagging part aside

like… polyamory isn’t “puppy pile of lovers who all share one hivemind relationship,” the literal definition is:

multiple romantic relationships, plural. not one (1) singular romantic relationship that is made up of more than two people

like, even if A, B, and C are all dating each other (not the default in real polyamory, but often what people think of first in fandom), they very much still have individual relationships with each other (A and B, B and C, A and C), because it’s impossible for them not to. relationships are always individualized. people have individual relationships with each of their friends, even if their friends are also friends with each other, right?

and poly partners aren’t interchangeable, any more than they would be if someone dated each one of them monogamously at different times—A, B, and C are all their own individual people, and each one of their partners is dating them for different reasons, and each partner has a different relationship with them than they have with anyone else

C has different reasons for being in relationships with A and with B. C loves different things about each of them, they may do different things with A than they do with B, and that doesn’t change even if A and B are also doing each other. A has different reasons for dating C than B does, and A also has different reasons for dating C than for dating B

also, there’s no guarantee that just because everyone is dating and/or sleeping with each other, they’re ever doing it at the same time—for example, there might not be a type of sex that all three of them want to engage in with each other (like if A is always a dom with B, but always a sub with C)

even non-sexual dates can be like that. you know that puzzle where you have to get a chicken, fox, and grain across the river without anyone eating each other? trying finding one restaurant that three people with different tastes, dietary restrictions, and/or sensory issues are all going to enjoy

a less glib example: A is closeted and only feels safe going on dates in public with different-gender partners, like B. same-gender partner C doesn’t mind staying at home for dates with A, because C likes both at-home and public dates, and B takes C out on the town whenever C wants. that arrangement works out great for B, because B hates staying at home for dates, and now they never have to do that. so, everyone’s happy with the set-up—even though it means there’s no situation where all three of them are on a date together at once

and i’m not just saying this to be pedantic; it matters when it comes to writing poly ships. the story is going to fall flat if the writer doesn’t understand that a “poly ship” isn’t one relationship, but several, and all of those relationships are acting on the characters and the story at the same time

honestly, i think this is something a lot of people understand inherently and then implement without even thinking about it (A thinks B’s jokes during sex are funny, C rolls their eyes at both of them) but it really can only improve a story if the author is consciously incorporating those different, individual relationships when they sit down to write poly fic

[beardedhandstoadshark]

Is ship art is the most popular content in art community? What is your opinion on it?

Even without counting rule 34, which makes up the majority, shipping itself would probs still be the single most popular thing about fandom, so I‘d assume the same goes for art too.

My opinion is the same as shipping in general: the appeal of it makes sense for a number of reasons ranging from cute to angsty to character study, there’s lots of cool stuff around for sure, and I’ve both drawn and even got a spare ship myself here and there!

But the wider shipping community around it…oh man. There‘s a reason all the "most toxic“ fandoms are also the ones where shippers go wild, regardless of fandom/fandom space size.

Like. You‘re taking two dolls and clonking them together, why do you feel the need to write whole ass essays or dox people on why yours is the "only valid“ one and everyone who likes something else should go die. They‘re fictional characters, they‘ve got 2 hands to hold. And more. Because it’s all fictional. Make em turn their head and smooch both of them or smth idk. Why is being a "multishipper“ apparently such a big deal. You can do what you want. Touch grass please ;-;

[uraandri]

person i hate just told me i was right about something i said almost a year and a half ago but the funniest thing is that is not the reason i started hating her lmfao

[heartbeetz]

I'm not the kind of person who likes having fankids for my ships. So the thing about Amy (Anton's kid) is that she's not even really a fankid. She's just my version of his canon kid who 1) we haven't actually seen (only heard about) and 2) I made non-canon in my selfship outside of an au. Like I would NOT have designed her if "Anton's a single dad and his daughter is a little pink hedgehog girl named Amy (but definitely not That one. wink)" was not a running thing. Sorry Anton for un-canoning ur already ambiguously canon daughter

[sakebytheriver]

I hate going into the OT3 tag for Roy, Keeley, and Jamie because everyone's talking about how the ship will become canon and crying about how they're gonna be sad if it's not canon and are going all if the show doesn't make them canon they're gaslighting us and I just buddy, bro, my guy, it's an OT3 😭😭 in a mainstream show. Do you truly honestly believe there's gonna be polyamory in a show that can barely acknowledge racism in England exists? 😭😭😭😭😭😭

[discoveringpolyamory]

The decision to begin your journey into polyamory is a big one. Sometimes it involves going slowly, and at other times throwing yourself in headfirst. But one thing I know for sure is that when you know, you know for sure. For some of us, polyamory just makes sense. 

But sometimes, when you're certain about something, it can be difficult to see that other people don't feel the same way. 

When it comes to Polyamory Red Flags, something that's important to recognise is when you're dating someone who, for whatever reason, simply isn't willing or able to continue on this journey with you.

You need to be aware of Pretend and Uncertain Polyamory.

[roublardise]

the thing about french cop shows is that they understand perfectly how to make it good. it's a murder mystery. it's a social portrait. it's a romcom.

[buddydacote]

Pretty much 100% of the time when a joke on here is about an identity it's just bigotry the only time I can think of where that's not true is when it's about trans women

[hippo-pot]

i'm thinking about my foray into polyamory (am now very monogamous) but i had this experience where i was like, okay. this guy is poly and has been for a while. he's gonna be so good at communication :) he can help me figure out the stuff i'm struggling with re: polyamory :) and boy have i never been wronger

[jackkin-memories]

string series least homoerotic nosleep story /j /ref

[concubusbunni]

The perfect ending doesn't exist, this comic right is it

About the finale: Every part of it

On Twitter, I posted these comics in four parts. People liked it there so may be some would like to it here too.

They all just love each other so much.