#prejudice against men

[gynoidgearhead]

More reasons this is shitty:

As a survivor of domestic abuse by a cis woman ex-metamour with anger issues and terrifying driving habits, which culminated in an attempted kidnapping in a motor vehicle, I must cosign the statement that women are not inherently safer than men.

If the idea is that you will always be paired with a safe driver, the answer to that is to start a goddamn traditional taxi service with vetted and certified drivers - you know, the precise thing Uber and Lyft were created to destroy, making everything worse.

The entire idea of "women plus" as a political category literally lays the groundwork for viewing trans women's womanhood as less than cis women's womanhood.

You literally cannot create the category of "women plus" without necessarily implying the existence of "men plus".

Or maybe "men minus"? The imagery of the phrase "women plus" has some deeply weird connotations, and seems to imply a scarcity or endangerment of masculinity as the hordes of "women plus" "encroach" on "men's territory". Like, "men minus" sounds like a category designed to "fortify" masculinity by purging "insufficient men". I think it's pretty obvious why that's patriarchal.

Hey uhh Lyft what the fuck

[bisexualfagdyke]

I cant believe people on here actually think you are a bigot for *checks notes* thinking that trans men are oppressed for being trans men and have unique experiences with transphobia

[trans-androgyne]

Misogyny and sexism are not and never have been synonyms. That’s not all of what’s meant by sexism. Literally just take two minutes to look up the term. It’s prejudice or discrimination against people on the basis of their sex (often expanded to include their gender). Plenty of them make sure to specify that it can affect men.

Here’s an example of its use from APA: “We define sexism as individuals' attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors, and organizational, institutional, and cultural practices that either reflect negative evaluations of individuals based on their gender or support unequal status of women and men…it is important to acknowledge all levels of analyses are intertwined and both women and men experience sexism.”

[theblockedtomb]

if you make posts about, e.g., trans men being seen as the worst of both men and women, denied the right to speak on either experience, and tag it as transandrophobia or something similar, you are making it very clear that when trans women talk about their experiences you either do not listen or do not care. Trans women also experience these things. It's not because you're a trans man. It's because you're trans. I know you're trans because you're a man but that's not the point, the point is all trans people are treated like this. Unless they either go stealth or gain high levels of social acceptance. Guess which subgroup of trans people that's easier for.

[echoesofcamelot]

This shot takes my breath away.

It’s… I don’t know how to explain it.

It’s the discarded sword, forgotten because there’s no longer any fight.

It’s the wound, dark and fatal, clearly visible on Arthur’s side.

It’s Merlin’s leg, pressing tightly against Arthur’s.

It’s his left hand, clinging to him desperately.

It’s his right arm wrapped protectively around him, his right hand cupping his head tenderly, his fingers tangled in his hair.

It’s the way Merlin is holding Arthur, as if trying to merge with him and become one.

Or maybe it’s just the way this image alone tells a story, or at least the end of it. The way you can tell it was a good one, epic and tragic and filled with love and loss and all those things that make a story worth telling.

Yeah, that must be it...

Love and devastation and everything in between, all condensed into this very moment and captured forever in a single frame of a TV show.

[eddiesfagbriefs]

some of you need to talk to a real life gay/bi man. outside. where there’s fresh air and grass. or even asphalt! i’m not picky!!

[celestialvexation-arch]

[chaos-in-one]

The way people will treat extremely new definitions for labels as the Only Acceptable Definition sometimes is fucking WILD

Anyways I'm a proud butch panagender (mix between pangender and agender) & genderfluid lesbian and ily all other lesbians who get shit for not fitting the newest box for what people expect lesbians to be <3

[xylophonetangerine]

I recently realised that I am biphobic when I caught myself thinking that bisexual men are a little gross for wanting to fuck women. I am disappointed in myself and will try to work on this in the future.

[catcatb0y]

This is the same op. The same post. Just edited.

I entered the notes expecting a TERF block list, but I was instead greeted with thousands of accepting and understanding queer people echoing the initial statement. Butch lesbians loving being called 'boyfriends', casual women enjoying "dude," or "bro," or "man," people embracing he/him lesbians, an abundance of love for drag kings, and people being incredibly supportive of gnc and genderfluid people.

But the edited post. Is TERF bait.

Like, taking it at the value that it's at (we should hate men because they can fuck with gender but we can't) is outrageously hypocritical??

Misandry (a predjudice/hatred of men and masculinity mirroring that of misogny) is not going to solve the demonization of masculinity within the queer community- which is a large part of WHERE the issue originates. The queer community and the non-queer community have two vastly different divides (which is important when considering the 'legitimacy' around discussions concerning misandry)

The reason [non queers] push or accept femininity in gay men is because of misogny, because it allows them to push a homophobic stereotype of gay men being 'basically women' and therefore [basically (lower than) men]. Gay men reclaim this stereotype by embracing said femininity, but that does not exempt them from the misogyny that they face as gay or gnc men*.

Because of that misogyny outside of the queer community, the people who use femininity to demonize gay men are appalled by the idea of using masculinity to empower queer women.

If this were the standard case within the LGBT community, it would already be rectified by the very people who have claimed to create a community haven.

But it's not.

Because the LGBT community has created a reactionary space based on the same principals that demonized them, but in reverse.

The reason that LGBT people aren't accepting of he/him butches or drag kings or masculine gnc women is because a large part of them has pushed out that masculinity and created a stereotype of femininity being the epitome of comfort and queerness. Gay women who attempt to co-opt any sort of masculinity are demonized by the (fear) of [the patriarchy] in the form of men, and their femaleness does not exempt them from the bioexistentialist misandry that has been birthed of TERF ideology*.

Because of, what's boiled down to radical reverse misogyny (which leads to reactionary misandry), the people who use femininity to (humble) and claim gay men as "safe" via are appalled by their very own Peak Of Goodness (women who are Pure and Good, who Only Love women who are Good and Pure) co-opting the very thing they have claimed to build a haven from.

(*It's the same principle in reverse. Feminine gay men still experience misogny, and masculine gay women still experience misandry. There is no predjudice that ONLY harms it's attempted target. Ergo: misandry would NOT help gay women who want to act masculine or to be a man.)

Misandry and butch lesbians cannot coexist. Misandry is the thing that gets trans women assaulted in women's bathrooms. Misandry is the thing that gets transmasc nonbinary people turned away at the door to queer spaces. Misandry is the thing teaching young lesbians to parrot "All men suck," like 'Polly wants a cracker'- because wild concept. Women- espeically wlw- who don't like men. Won't be welcoming and accepting of people like them (women (who love women)) co-opting the language of the people they hate.

[idiosyncraticrednebula]

I think we really need to get to a point where we realize that straight white men aren't inherently evil, predatory, abusive and oppressive.

[beardedhandstoadshark]

What are your pronouns? I’m sorry if this is personal 🙏 Don’t kill me

Ok!

I‘m gonna kill you AND pair all your socks together wrong >:)

(Jk jk) Yea no worries! If anything, asking is considerate, is it not?

Anyways, in your mind just call me whatever you feel like fits best ^^ while there is a specific set of pronouns I also genuinely do not mind or care if the terms I get called are meant for guys gals or non-binary pals lmao. If someone goes "Hey bro“, another one "Hey sis“ and a third one "Hey sib“ that is all perfectly fine and cool for me!

(Except the last one but that’s only because sib sounds weird >v<)

[teamseaslug]

(Per my last reblog) obviously I'm jumping in as well on this becauss its Obama but there's a huge part of it is just standard biphobia. Bisexuality is only real when it's a white girl with a golden retriever bf (whatever that means) and bisexual men all went extinct during the AIDs crisis because of the rumor that they'd bring AIDs to their heterosexual wives with their inherent promiscuous deviousy. (Yes this is literally one of the biggest reasons bisexual men don't come out/seem more rare than bisexual women or gay men)

[jrwiyuri]

I think some feminist ideas would be questioned a lot more if some ppl experienced one day as a black guy..

[autistichalsin]

Some of you are literally watching the right wing continuously try to expand the definition of "pedophilia" to include "existing around a child while queer," and then agreeing with them when they say pedophiles deserve to be summarily executed.

Not only does this place innocent people in danger of political executions, it also puts children in danger, as most children who are sexually abused have this done by someone close to them, and feelings that they would be responsible for the death of their abuser if they reported leads to lower rates of reporting. It also leads to higher rates of abusers murdering their victims when they're found out because the punishment will be the same anyway.

Part of being on the left is realizing that it's better to let 100 guilty men go free than to wrongly convict one. Another part of being on the left is realizing that one's life is never something others have the right to take away- even the most evil people alive. Yes, that includes mass murderers and rapists and pedophiles. Once you make one group acceptable to kill, you give others a vested interest in defining groups they have prejudice against into that group.

You have to start dealing with the fact that no crime makes one's life forfeit. Not even the worst most depraved and sadistic acts. The worst people alive have rights, and if you can't accept that they deserve them, at least try to accept that it is to your benefit that they retain rights no matter what they're accused of. And if you can't do even that, well... you just might be the kind of person who would cut off your nose to spite your face.

If you want to protect victims, if you want to protect minority groups, you have to realize that sex crimes, or any crimes at all, do not deserve the death penalty. Period.

[cthulhum]

is heterophobia real