#pots people do you feel me?

[thecouncilofdumdums]

instead of compression socks, we should use concussion socks— which is when you fill a sock with pennies and hit people with them

[devilfic]

you know what. I think battinson is such an enthusiastic kisser

both his kisses with selina were kind of this dreamy, almost out-of-body experience where selina had him under her spell and he was just sort of helplessly in love with her so he could do naught but follow her lead,,, but I like imagining what it'd be like if HE initiated kissing his partner

like there's the more confident bruce, a few more years into being batman bruce, where he leans in during a lull of good conversation and he's smiling and suave and controlled but like. bruce in year 2? bruce fresh off selina and realizing he could maybe make time for a relationship? realizing how much he missed being touched? somebody call animal control cause this bat is in heat

before he leans in, he watches you like you'll disappear. his eyes are wide open!! he doesn't want to miss a thing!!! I think he's more likely to grab for your waist instead of going for your face or something.... I think he bubbles with the desire to touch you so bad and he just wants to feel you against all of him, and I think he can't help being a manhandler,,, he needs to move you just so because like he cannot let you slip from his fingers when he's aching to kiss you so bad

he doesn't make a lot of noise when he kisses but he breathes Heavy. I think once he's kind of really winded that's when he starts whimpering really low in his throat... nothing too crazy... little grunts and whines but they're so quiet. if he's kissing you and gets disturbed tho I do think he will full on groan and groan LOUD and it's both funny and super attractive because his face screws up in this petulant little scowl like. can't you see he's busy

he 100% leans fully into it which is a lot because he's a BIG man. he's going to have to push you up against something every single time because he is chasing you every time you part for air, almost mindless and eyes half-lidded as he mouths at you. he's so into it that I can guarantee it's gotten you two kicked out of a gala or two when people inevitably find him devouring you in a dark corner or a hallway you both assumed to be empty

if you wear lipstick/gloss he is not wiping that shit off either oh my goooood. don't let me think about you leaving marks all over his face and him proudly walking out into a swarm of paparazzi just. cheeky

it's really hard to just give this man a quick, chaste kiss. everything has to last at least a minute with him. it's why he literally cannot kiss you when he's busy because it'll be a minute and then five and then he's behind on work (oh no..... so sad.... anyway) because he's got you laid on the nearest surface sucking bruises into your neck

bruce will kiss any part of you but I think he's just so obsessed with your lips that it's where he inevitably fixates each time. it is so so hard to kiss him anywhere else because he will be like wow nice. kiss from my lovely partner. not on my lips tho.... and when he turns around for a kiss on the lips you can't just refuse! he's got such kissable lips and oh this is a time loop that never ends isn't it

[triaelf9]

hey folks who interact with creative works online! just a tiny PSA

If you don't like a character, that's totally fine! If you have a different reading of a situation in a show & have issues with stuff that's going on, that's also fine.

What is NOT fine is to ACTIVELY SEEK OUT fans of the characters you don't like and talk shit about them, the characters they have feelings about, or the content they've posted b/c you, Freddy McHatesalot really needs to tell everyone how much you dislike a...fictional character.

You are totally welcome to consume content in your own space in whatever way you see fit. It is disrespectful of the fandom space to try to drag other people into your space and interact with you if they don't want to. And dunking on a character in writings or art of them is fucking rude as hell to the person who put work into into the creation they made out of some feelings they were having.

Also. side note, it is possible to enjoy a character who is Wrong About Some Things or Isn't Doing The Right Stuff In The Right Situation. Sometimes it's possible to like a character and disagree with them, and shitting on people b/c you can't see what they see in a character is pretty trash garbage and is 90% of why I just make silly little art for me and my own silly feels and hope folks get a chuckle or some enjoyment out of it too.

[lesbiansanemi]

Hate when I’m reading a fic and then it starts going on about the character smoking weed. Brace yourself for some of the worst characterization you’ve ever seen and the world’s most unfunny jokes, almost all centered on weed and being high

[ratcandy]

hello abled person writing a character with a disability. i see you are considering "curing" their disability in your story. before you make that choice, consider: why do you want to do that. what compels you to make that story choice. why would it be necessary. what is the narrative significance of doing that. what message do you believe you may be sending by doing that.

answer correctly or i'm opening the trap door beneath your feet and you're going into the spike pit

[nandermoenthusiast]

i do think it is a crime that i dont have any video editing skills because sometimes i hear a song and i see an amv that could make us cry so clearly in my minds eye…

[mangled-by-disuse]

so one of the things that annoys me endlessly is this phenomenon where, when I say I like something, people assume that means I want more of it, a different version of it, add-ons and bells and whistles, and i'm just like

no.

no, when I say I like tea, I mean I like tea. Not herbal tisanes, not "tea with--", no milk, no sugar, no fruit, no frills, just good-quality tea in a range of fermentations and colours.

when I say I like a hot bath, I mean the bath. Not bubble-bath, not bath oils and foams and salves and unguents, not candlelight and music and a zen space to sensually relax with a book and a glass of wine, just a hot bath in a normally-lit bathroom where I can unwind and get clean.

when I say I like beer, I mean I like beer. Not fruit-flavoured, not with a special something-something added, for the love of GOD not sweetie-flavoured, just a well-brewed ale or stout in a simple pint glass, in good company.

and that isn't because there's anything WRONG with the add-ons! these are not bad things! I know that for some people, a tea advent calendar with different herbal blends, or a luxurious foamy scented bath with candles and music, is what they mean by "I like tea" and "I like baths". but it would just be nice if when I asked for a green tea, people didn't assume I mean "with..."

anyway this post is about lord of the rings: war of the rohirrim

[stonerhog]

hrmmm

[icewindandboringhorror]

It always seems a bit unbalanced on The Great Food Truck Race when there will be multiple teams who are cooking a wide variety of complex dishes with 10 different components and a bunch of prep work, and then there's that one team who like... exclusively serves plain crepes with some premade nutella on them, or plain waffles with just some whipped cream and cut up strawberries lol...

[seeminglyseph]

it's so weird to watch youtube drama and it starts out like 'oh that seems like. mildly cringe but mostly harmless' and then like an hour later it's escalated so far I'm like 'fuck okay. fine. sure. in isolation, some of these small actions are fine. But this collection of actions are extremely harmful. I do wish the handful of weird cringe window dressings weren't included but I also see how they have been used by these specific people. augh goddammit.'

And yes I'm following the weird poppy-zena drama thing. I did used to watch their youtube channel, but not follow any of their other socials so realizing just how deep the rabbit hole goes is extremely wild. so much of the stuff they spoke about on their youtube channel is antithetical to their actions off their youtube channel. But also the fact that most of the commentary channels don't actually know how POTS works is wild sometimes because the stuff dealing with Spawn is like. As a disabled adult living at home due to an inability to support myself in this economy, and the way emotional abuse can like... seriously fuck up your ability to like. have the confidence to move forward. And like. Those guys did not want that kid to leave, it was clear. and they kept them stagnant by impacting their health and fucking with their head.

Personal anecdote: my mom used to get on my case constantly to work out a budget because I was so constantly irresponsible and stupid with money, but one day I worked out a budget for what I would need if I was to get an apartment of my own and asked if, as the adult who had lived on her own and always talked about being the one responsible with money, she would look it over and give me advice on what I wasn't factoring in and what I really needed to consider if I wanted to make a realistic budget. Her response was to get extremely angry at me for thinking about moving out, and start asking me why and interrogating me about that. I got no advice about the budget and swiftly learned instead that talking to my mom about leaving was a bad idea. I also abruptly got an income cut and other life issues popped up, but. Dollars to Donuts my mom doesn't remember that this happened. This event literally meant nothing and just doesn't exist in my mom's memory and if I was to bring it up she'd tell me I was just being spiteful and blaming her for all of my problems. But often controlling parents do countless things they do not think of as mattering that leave huge impacts on their kids, and if they've done this shit since that kid is small... even if that 'kid' is an adult now. the abuse has left enough of an impact to fuck with them pretty hardcore into their adult years.

like. it's often really embarrassing to be dependent as an adult, but there's often a lot of stuff that happened when you didn't have any power that like. when you're an adult who's supposed to have power doesn't really change. if your folks have been taking your money since you were a teenager, how do you have a savings? if you've been isolated and disabled since a kid, where's your support system? if it's all you know, how do you run? Parents will complain about a 'worthless layabout' and like. they cut all that kid's lifelines. eventually they just lie down and stop. It's a lot of work to learn how to be an adult all alone.

[riverside-lavender]

hate when i’m reading a disability fic and a character goes “oh you’re not broken” to the disabled character bc… no. i am. i am broken. if i was perfectly fine i wouldn’t be dealing with this shit yeah? my body is broken and it can’t be fixed. that’s a fact. i can’t leave my house more than three days a week or i’ll be sleeping twelve hours a day for a month. that’s not what someone perfectly healthy deals with. i am broken. it’s just not a big deal bc that’s my daily life. the only thing i can do is stick a band aid over the stab wound, it’s not going away any time soon. i’d rather the focus be on “you are strong because of this” not “you are strong despite this” or just straight up ignoring the issue. it won’t magically go away in the middle of an important fight, it won’t vanish when everything is peaceful, your character will deal with it all. the fucking time. my disability isn’t a hardship to overcome because it isn’t going away. there is no after. my body is broken. it’s just how it is.

[gas-stxtion-a]

//sorry i haven't been working on replies lately! you see, it's because [mid-sentence i slowly lie down on the floor and start crying really hard. i do not finish my explanation]

[scientia-rex]

A lot of younger people have no idea what aging actually looks and feels like, and the reasons behind it. That ignorance is so dangerous. If you don’t want to “be old,” you aren’t talking about a number of years. I have patients in their late 80s who could still handily beat me in a race—one couple still runs marathons together, in their late 80s—and I lost someone who was in her early 60s to COPD last year. What you want is not youth, it is health.

If you want to still be able to enjoy doing things in your 60s and 70s and 80s and even 90s, what you want to do, right now, is quit smoking, get some activity on a regular basis (a couple of walks a week is WAY better for you than nothing; increasing from 1 hour a day of cardio to 1.5 will buy you very little), and eat some plants. That’s it. No magic to it. No secret weird tricks. Don’t poison yourself, move around so your body doesn’t forget how, and eat plants.

If you have trouble moving around now because of mobility limitations, bad news: you still need to move around, not because it’s immoral not to, but because that’s still the best advice we have. I highly recommend looking up the Sit and Be Fit series; it is freely available and has exercises that can be done in a chair, which are suitable for people with limited mobility or poor balance. POTS sufferers, I’m looking at you.

If you have trouble eating plants because of dietary issues (they cause gas, etc.) or just because they’re bitter (super taster with texture issues here!), bad news. You still want to find a way to get some plants into your body on a regular basis. I know. It sucks. The only way I can do it is restaurants—they can make salads taste like food. I can also tolerate some bagged salads. On bad weeks, the OCD with contamination focus gets so bad I just can’t. However, canned beans always seem “safe,” and they taste a bit like candy, so they’re a good fallback.

If you smoke and you have tried quitting a million times and you’re just not ready to, bad news. You still need to quit. Your body needs you to try and keep trying. Your brain needs it, too. Damaging small blood vessels racks up cumulative damage over time that your body can start trying to reverse as soon as you quit. I know it’s insanely, absurdly addictive. You still need to.

You cannot rules lawyer your way past your body’s basic needs. It needs food, sleep, activity, and the absence of poison. Those are both small things and big asks. You cannot sustain a routine based on punishment, so don’t punish your body. Find ways to include these things that are enjoyable and rewarding instead. Experiment. There is no reason not to experiment—you don’t have to know instantly what’s going to work for you and what won’t, you just need to be willing to try things and make changes when things aren’t working for you.

You will still age. Your body will stop making collagen and elastin. Tissues you can see and tissues you can’t see will both sag. Cushioning tissues under your skin will get thinner. You’ll bruise more easily. Skin will tear more easily. Accumulated sun damage will start to show more and more. Joints will begin to show arthritis. Tendons and ligaments will get weaker and get injured more easily, as will muscles. Bones will lose mass and get easier to break. You’ll get tired more easily.

But you know what makes the difference between being dead, or as good as, in your 60s vs your 90s? Activity, plants, and quitting smoking. And don’t do meth. Saw a 58-year-old guy this week who is going to have a heart attack if he doesn’t quit whatever stimulant he’s on. I pretended to believe it was just the cigarettes, and maybe it is, but meth and cocaine will kill you quicker. Stop poisoning yourself.

Baby steps; take it one step at a time; you don’t need to have everything figured out right now. But you do need to be working on figuring things out.

[hestiadoesstuff]

I love bestowing the beloveds with ✨️afflictions✨️ <3