#please feel free to reblog

[thetravelerwrites]

As a disabled person... a disabled person since I was very young (age 2) and will be until I die... I like stories that portray disabled people accurately. It's why I devote a lot of my writing to people with disabilities or chronic illnesses, because I feel like it's important. We don't get to see accurate depictions of ourselves in media, and that representation is dearly, desperately needed, which is why I write them.

I like stories that are well researched, appropriate to the condition, and display a breadth of knowledge on the subject. I like stories where the disability is true, real, and doesn't magically get better.

But... as a disabled person with chronic pain, who requires regular, painful surgeries and procedures to keep me alive... I also like the stories where there is a magical fix. I like stories in which the characters who are suffering and in pain, no longer have to suffer or experience pain. Because I dream of a time and place in which I no longer have to suffer or live through the pain of my conditions. And I don't feel like it's wrong to feel that way.

I can like both. I can appreciate both. I see the value of both. And I know there are a lot of disabled people who disagree, that fiction should be true to reality in terms of disability, and I understand and respect the argument. I understand why they feel that way, and to some extent, I agree. But fantasy is fantasy for a reason, and I can do or say or be anything I want to be in fiction. What I want is to see myself, but sometimes, I want to see a version of myself that isn't suffering. And I don't think that's unfair.

[polutrope]

Asks to Spread Love 💖

A fanon characterisation that you love

Tell us why you love one of your OCs or an obscure canon character (link to any fics/art you have featuring them!) 

One of the best takes you’ve ever seen

Link to a great meta you’ve read

Recommend three (or more) blogs to follow

Ship or platonic relationship that you got into because of the fans

A popular fandom opinion that you agree with

Best thing about canon

Your favourite fanon

A popular character you actually really like and why

Recommend a fic with an unusual/original headcanon or characterisation that you loved

Recommend some fanart of an uncommon character, place, or event

Recommend a fic (can be your own!) that features something you wish was written about more

A ship or character that you started liking because of someone else (give them/their works a shout out!)

A topic you never get tired of discussing

One of your favourite tropes 

Something you love that you don’t often share because you’re worried what others will think

Something you initially did not like but came around to

Give kudos to someone who leaves great comments

Give kudos to someone who is a devoted fan (either of your own works or others’)

A favourite fandom event

Give kudos to someone who deserves recognition for their contributions to the fandom (event mod, server mod, creator of rec lists, etc.)

Give kudos to someone who was especially welcoming when you first got involved in the fandom

Give kudos to a keeper of the fandom's traditions and wisdom, someone who's been around for years and years and still going strong

A small archive (not AO3), either one that is gone that you miss or one that’s still going

Yes, this is inspired by this ask game, which has put a lot of interesting musings on my dash, so no criticism intended!

[alifeasvivid]

out of curiosity...

please choose the one closest to how you feel

*this poll is asking about the character(s) most dear to you, not your attitude about headcanons and fanon as a whole

-should read: "Slightly - In certain situations, I will make tweaks, but my hc's are mostly settled

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Hi everyone,

There’s a petition on change.org to renew The Acolyte. Even Lee Jung-jae was surprised it was cancelled. I would really appreciate it if you can/would sign it. If you don’t want to, that’s perfectly ok. Here’s the link to the petition.

[k-obeyme-stuff]

I need to settle a little debate with me and...my friend...yes.

1: Asmo would be willing to go monogamous if MC wishes

2: Asmo would reluctantly, but eventually go monogamous for MC

3: Asmo cannot handle monogamy, and it is a set boundary so if MC is unable to handle being in an open relationship, he won't try to persue them further

4: Asmo wants MC for himself, actually (yandere option)

Feel free to tell my why you picked what you did, though, keep in mind, i also have a certain opinions (that being i think Asmo would give up anything for MC, if they asked sweetly enough)

Fyi; This is just for a little experiment, to know fandom's interpretation of Asmo. No one will (or should) attack you for your opinion since obey me won't give any elaboration on this anymore after making nightbringer ok for a very young audience to play

Edit; i do know that polyamory and open relationship are not the same, here I'm specifically talking about open relationship here, but it may have sounded wrong cause I'm bad at wording and my knowledge is limited on this kind of stuff, sorry.

[ncfreespace]

In light of my recent personal radblr feed, I want to say something as an organizer of an irl radfem group who may or may not get classifed as a radfem myself:

We welcome and support ALL women.

We welcome and support all women who are trying to unlearn and fight against patriarchal programming and misogyny, in any way and at all steps of their journey. We welcome and support all women who are looking for small ways to center other women in their life. We welcome women who are lesbian, bi, straight, questioning, separatist, and non-separatist. We welcome women who are not perfect, women who make mistakes, women who are real people who want to be a part of a community with other real people.

But. We do NOT welcome anyone who calls other women cock-suckers or any other misogynistic terms, who blame or shame other women for having abortions, who purposefully put down and attack other women over not being "radical enough" and thus push them away from growth and positive change.

We are trying to GROW a movement, not fraction it. I could never imagine any of the radfems I know in real life treating me or any other woman the way I see happening here. I beg everyone to find real life connections with groups like we have here in the Triangle and DMV area. I'm so grateful I found the community a year and a half ago and was able to make these real life connections, because if I discovered this community through Tumblr right now I would run so fast in the opposite direction.

If anyone near our area is looking for a supportive woman-centered group, please reach out.

And everyone on this site, I urge you to read Non-Violent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg, Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft, and Right Wing Women by Andrea Dworkin. You will never get people on your side by insulting them and putting them down. You will never grow a movement by being disinviting. You will never help the women you claim to want to help by shunning and shaming them. Be inviting and supportive and loving of ALL women. You don't want them to look for those qualities in men? Fine, but at least show them that it is here with us. BE the community and love and support that is needed. Show up for women who are on their own journeys, at whatever place that is.

All my love and solidarity,

Mars

[awbarnes-no]

i feel like sometimes we forget that this is supposed to be a hobby . . . not a job. i'm seeing a lot of people stressing about their muse, worrying over content being post that people wont like, and while i very much understand that it can be hard to not want to please your followers, i just want to remind everyone ( myself included ) of one very important thing . . .

THIS. IS. ALL. FOR. YOU.

we are here to write together because we all love creating stories, so naturally there's going to be some working together to tell a story . . . but i wanna focus more on the other side of the hobby. we do this because it makes us happy. when we are no longer having fun . . . this is just a job you don't get paid for then.

so i guess . . . what i'm saying is to let yourself take breaks. if you aren't feeling a muse, don't write them for a bit. if you want to be present on your blog, maybe write headcanons, or make edits, or SEND MEMES TO YOUR MUTUALS. and if you don't want to be present . . . that is perfectly fine as well. you need to ultimately do what is best for you . . . in order to keep this space a fun space for yourself.

i'm so very proud of all my mutuals who are taking time to themselves, doing self car, and spending time doing what they need to do to get through the Holiday Season. it's almost over. 2024 is right around the corner . . . and WE CAN DO THIS.

i've been in the tumblr rpc since 2014, so i've watched many people start feeling bad for taking time to themselves and i just thought it was time to remind people. this is a hobby. not your job. take care of yourself. you're more important.

[ideaticaphelion]

ok actually i want to post about this

i recently saw a pain specialist for my debilitating chronic pain and fatigue

and he told me i should try a mediterranean diet and therapy. to like. rewire the way my brain processes pain(???)

it has been two days since that appointment and the strain of going has had me bedridden for about half of my time spent awake since.

what do i do?? does that therapy work?? its been years and i feel like im so close to help but they want me to eat food im already eating and do SPECIAL PAIN THERAPY and i feel insulted

(for the record i am a strong believer in the power of therapy and have been going to traditional therapy for years but this just sounds so....... not work-y?)

[kristsune]

So I had this idea a while ago, to do little reviews for all of Tim Meredith’s songs because I feel like there isn’t enough love out there for them. So last week I decided to just Do It. I finished (including the two new songs he just dropped yesterday) I have it here under a readmore, or if you would prefer, you can just read the gdoc here, I only did the songs that were listed on his bandcamp (which you should absolutely go to) even though there are a few extra early ones on his youtube.  These were written in no particular order, basically whichever song I happened to click on next. Anyway, feel free to read and spread the word.

How to even describe Tim Meredith’s music. The way he can adapt to different styles and genres is honestly impressive. It’s probably got something to do with the improv background but it’s amazing how he can just … choose a style and write an incredible song for it. Everytime he drops a new song I am always impressed with what he has managed yet again. 

Disclaimer: I don’t have any musical education except being friends with multiple musicians for many years in which only small amounts of information have managed to seep into my adhd addled brain. So I apologize for the lack of musically correct terminology, this is a work of appreciation, not technical prowess. Also lyrics are generally the last thing I hear, so I may mention them here and there, but they aren’t my main focus for this.

Always Here 

I can’t quite express what it is about this song that I adore, but it absolutely has something to do with the deep rumble of the bass and the way it drives the song forward relentlessly. The effect on the vocals only adds to this. The fact that it goes minor definitely caters to my tastes specifically. The high tones that come in during the bridge have such a Bowie quality that is delightful and a perfect contrast to the rest of the song. (artwork: the mossy greenery adds such a vibe to the song)

Don’t Look to Me

This has been one of my favorites since it aired. The high vocals of the chorus, with the overlapping harmonies are beautifully done and how they are placed over each other makes me think of something being sung in a large hall or church, big and echoey. Additionally the offset of the lyrics “it’s what you chose” (and to a lesser degree “any other way”) makes it feel like you’re being surrounded, like its multiple people telling you this is what you chose, what you wanted. I adore how the vocals trail out with the music at the end. (artwork: the hot pink neon feels so right for the feeling, the tiles adding to the echo)

Sweaty (Near You)

I know this one was controversial at the release, but I honestly could not then, and still cannot understand why. People are honestly sleeping on this song and it makes no sense to me. It’s got a very sensual vibe without gendered lyrics. Sure “baby” is used, but if you don’t think baby could be used for any gender then that’s on you, not the song. The deep base with the sparse instrumentation with a fun noodly solo is just an excellent combination that works so incredibly well. (artwork: the b&w photo with dark maroon text is a perfect combination)

Lucky Boy

When this song premiered my first thought was the entrance song for a villain in a movie. I could see it so clearly in my head. It’s got drive, and movement, and attitude the way it kicks up into high gear into the chorus from the verse with that fuzz guitar. The incredible layers with all the different synth/organ sounds, paints such an image. Nevermind the vocals that fit so perfectly within all that. (artwork: The maneki-neko is such a perfect choice for this)

Numbers and Lights

This is another one I have difficulty describing quite what it is that I love about it. It’s rather lowkey all the way through and I rather enjoy the… almost the stops and starts, the way it gives pause before kicking back in, like the song needs to take a breath before moving on. Again, pretty sure this one turns minor in a way that caters directly to me. Small detail that really delights me is what sounds like the equivalent to crickets under the “Reid asks Reid tells”. (artwork: gotta love biflag color rep. always a plus)

Limb Controller

This song features Amy and was an early favorite of mine. It feels like a song that could and should be played at a disco, just making me want to dance. The synths are perfect and I love how they gain intensity in the bridge before coming back down for the verse. The contrast between Amy’s higher vocals to Tim’s rougher growly ones is a perfect combination. I’ve always loved the “I’ve already let him in, a puppet on his string” moment. (artwork: when videos were still being made, love the scifi vibes)

Never Loved

Another song that is a bit more lowkey, but still comes through with excellent vibes. This one is really all about the syncopation especially with the drums. Which includes the panning back and forth during certain portions, but especially during the time change. I also really love the effects on the vocals. The occasional splashes of a high stringed instrument, and the crash of a forward cymbal really just add to the atmosphere of the song. (arwork: something about being called never loved with what looks like kintsugi just kinda Hits)

Love Your Mind

The repeating pattern throughout this song is just So Good, I love everything about it, and then how other patterns build on top of it? Impeccable. There are so many layers but it's never too much or loses track of itself, never feels over complicated or discordant. I always end up tapping along to the pattern, sometimes difficult to choose which one to follow. This song is shorter, but never fails to make me smile. (artwork: love the chandelier with the many intricate patterns, feels like it matches the song perfectly in that way)

On Your Terms

Oh that bass line. *chef kiss* Absolutely the backbone of the song, helps create the perfect atmosphere for that distorted guitar. Tim always puts a lot into the vocals, but here it feels like there is a extra level of emotion that feels raw. The way the note is held for “on your terms” just kind of kicks me in the chest every time. (artwork: love that the fire is the only color)

Some Thoughts After Consideration

This song truly resonates with me on a molecular level. I have been working in retail for going on 18 years and I just feel this song in the depths of my soul. Something about the wobbly synths and strong beat with the soft vocals are just perfect. The transition to what almost feels like a … big musical number in a theatrical show for the chorus. Like I can just see big spot lights turning on the stage. Perfection. (artwork: can’t go wrong with a squawking seagull, theme on point)

Falling Away

This is another one of my favorites. It’s so soft and gentle, lilting piano blending so perfectly with the vocals, which build up in intensity for the chorus so beautifully. Again, I think this one turns minor key, though I’m not as sure about it as I am with the others. I don’t have a lot of words for this one, but it’s lovely in its simplicity. (artwork: always loved this one for no reason I can really define)

Regret Me Not

I love how this song starts off sounding like something like a medieval march. The most prominent thing about this song is of course those incredible harmonies all throughout. The whole initial build up, and how it switches halfway through is just incredible. There is so much depth in this short song. I don’t always pay attention to lyrics, but when I did look at them I was surprised and delighted by how uplifting they are. (artwork: another older one with a video. I am a sucker for nature anything, and this just being a series of nature shots particularly appealed to me)

Pacesetter

The deep rumbly bass paired with the panning distorted vocals is just an incredible driving force. This song has the kind of beat that will just go on forever. If it were a predator it would be a komodo dragon just relentlessly following behind, never losing sight, always there stalking forward. (artwork: the starting line for a racetrack is an excellent choice)

The Aftermath

This was another early favorite of mine. The mandolin is the star of this song, but it is surrounded by a wonderful arrangement that allows it to be so. The gentle piano with the soft vocals, the shakers and woodblocks all come together beautifully. I always adored the extended pause about ⅔ of the way through. (artwork: this is my favorite video, and I’m sure it took a lot of work to match all the timing so well. The way it ends with the snuffing of the candle 10/10 no notes)

Arcadia

The light bouncy acoustic guitar is so catchy paired with the light and airy vocals, just makes for a lovely song all around. Truly impressive that so much can be expressed with so few instruments. I always find myself nodding my head along to this one. (artwork: makes me think of marshmallow and then want something sweet, but then I remember it’s a rock face and then that makes me want to climb it. Too bad it wasn’t a marshmallow clifface)

Deep Air

This is one of those songs that I love because it’s so out of the usual wheelhouse. It’s chill and wonderfully lowkey, and truly does make you feel like you are just floating around in space. The NASA audio certainly only adds to that vibe. Even with all that I do really love how it still slowly builds towards a big end. (artwork: excellent space vibes, love it)

A Horrid Angry Goose

I remember the goose game stream quite fondly, and this song in response to that was an absolute delight. It’s a fun and funny song, but it also has genuinely fantastic harmonies, and a strong baseline. The build up in each verse into the chorus is just so good. I love how it tells the story of the game, but in such a delightful way. This song is a guaranteed mood boost and I’m so glad for it. (artwork: Goosey perfection)

What It Says About Me

Adore the intro to this, the panning on the string instrument is perfect, and then when the beat drops and everything just drives on. Again, the way the vocals harmonize is impeccable. Truly impressive. Also adore the almost call and response at about halfway through. (artwork: something about the rusted half visible ship feels sad, though I suppose it’s apt for the song)

Unremarkable Sin

The alternating rhythms for this are just so incredibly good, the way it starts and the way it changes when the drums kick in, giving it a bit of swing that is just really great. I really love the gentle vocals for this as well, they fit between the instrumentation so perfectly. (artwork: i love the vague religious vibes, which somehow also translate into the music but in a not actually religious way)

What’s Due

Another one that just kicks ass right out the gate. The rising synths just gives this song such energy. The layered and overlapping synths and rhythms makes it feel like it’d fit right in at a bar or a scene in a movie (bar scene in a movie?) Again the pause about ⅔ the way through adds such drama and it’s absolutely perfect. The processing on the vocals is fantastic and the delivery only adds to the overall attitude of the song. (artwork: bull terriers are one of my favorite puppies and this one is SO cute, bonus points for bi pride colors)

Breaking

The bass line with the panning distorted guitar is such a good combination. That plus the processing on the vocals, creates such a spacious atmosphere that feels melancholy (Though I suppose the lyrics probably add to that feelings). (artwork: love a good seascape, big fan of corals and anemones, and adds to the vibe of having already “fallen”)

An Imagined Sense

Another song that just makes me want to dance, The way this one goes from just a decent beat to kicking into high gear is so good. Again with the excellent doubled vocals/extreme delay just creating such a great balance with the synths. (artwork: the video for this is extremely hypnotizing and feels like you’re being sucked into the song, which feel right)

Walk Away

The really distorted bass paired with the really light piano synth and gentle cymbals is just a really excellent combination. I really love the repetition for the chorus, plus of course the lovely harmonies make for a really lovely chill song. (artwork: Always been a fan of viewing through an opening, but the broken down interior out into the green outdoors is very pleasing.)

Exquisitely Bad

The groove that is set as soon as the song starts is just impeccable. And that groove just doesn’t stop. I love the contrast of that deeper bass with the higher synths that alternate between ears. Something about how the vocals jump up during with the chord progression is delightful. Really just a killer song. (artwork: love the dilapidated house with green font, fit right in with the Halloween premiere)

Horny for Greece

I know this started as a song from stream, but it is genuinely a fantastic song. That funky piano that gives Stevie Wonder Vibes, the niche but perfect rhymes with excellent vocals, the syncopated drums. All just add up to great vibes. (artwork: having the title cut diagonal over the broken section of sculpture is perfection)

The Eventual

Always a sucker for a song with handclaps. Mixed with the woodwind and the harmonica creates such an interesting atmosphere. There is something about the double beat on the drums that I really enjoy. I also love the strong distortion on the vocals, really pulls the room together. (artwork: took me ages to realize the picture was flipped upside down, that being said, it’s still very visually interesting)

Wretched

The slow build with the offset synths that make almost a round, the drums start and stopping before they fade and the beat truly starts is just so good. It creates such tension. I love how the synths create almost waves throughout the song, pulling it along. I also adore the effects on the vocals, just fits so perfectly with the soundscape of the rest of the song. (artwork: it took me a little bit to realize what I had been looking at, but the textures are so good. Fits with the vibes)

More Time

The hard fuzz guitar is such a strong start for this song, paired with the very rock drums is just perfect. Just has excellent classic rock vibes. I really love the depth of emotion felt in the vocals, and the low doubled vocal is a perfect extra layer you sometimes don’t even realize is there adding to it. (artwork: not sure how or why, but the fire seems to just fit perfectly for this)

Can’t Happen Here

I absolutely love the piano intro for this, it really sets the whole mood. I absolutely love the vocals for this song. The almost call and response, the harmonies, just *chef kiss* fantastic. I also really love the fuzz guitar when it kicks in. Ramps the song to a whole other level. (artwork: love the roiling clouds for this one. Yet again, fits the mood perfectly.)

Kennecott

I desperately love the percussion in this song, both the unusual patterns and the sounds used. It creates such a cool landscape for the song. And the interest doesn’t end there. The part where the sound pans quickly from left to right with the rhythm is just so incredibly good. This song is just an experience from start to finish. (artwork: I never quite figured out what this one was, an aerial shot? of the beach? My brain always just made it out to be an abstract painting but I am currently realizing that is incorrect. Still fits the vibe though, feels scattershot like the song.)

On Notice

(sidenote: I have barely listened to this one, because I tend to listen to my youtube playlist, and I found while making this that this song is only on bandcamp, so I haven’t listened to this one nearly as much as most of the others despite it being released about a year ago)

The sheer amount of Radiohead Vibes for this is absolutely incredible, and as someone who absolutely adores Radiohead, I love it. I love how the vocals come in and out, I love the almost droning instruments in the background. Additionally, on the delay on the vocals is fantastic, and I love the pause like ⅔ the way through. Excellent. (artwork: Love the b&w, looks like black marble. Great look.)

Better from Further Away

I love the simple clean (upright?) bass in the opening, with the soft drums. Again, I am a sucker for harmonies and I love them on the chorus. The juxtaposition of the very chill relaxed song, to the somewhat ridiculous (read: amazing) lyrics is very good. (artwork: Love this video, especially the close up zoom on the sheep when they are mentioned.)

Friend of Mine

I love how gentle and soft this whole song is. The piano and soft drums working so well together with the gentle lyrics. I really love it when the piano kind of goes into double time. (artwork: Love a good red sunset. Excellent.)

In The Dark

I love how this starts out with what feels like very 80’s movie synths, and then just shifts into a very chill song. Not sure why but it does give very 80’s Jim Henson vibes. Like I feel this should be in the Dark Crystal or Labyrinth or something. Maybe it’s the lovely harmonies that I can see being sung by small fuzzy puppets. Also I absolutely adore the horns throughout. Perfect 10/10. (artwork: I think 3 puppets should in fact pop out of the three holes to sing those harmonies.)

Now We’ll Never Know

This song is so very pretty. The simple bass and ringing guitar along with the gentle vocals. Yet again, the harmonies on the “oohs” are beautiful and I love them, especially paired with that gently picked guitar. (artwork: love a good dilapidated staircase. The green lettering is a perfect match.)

[loveerran]

Medical Bill Assistance - For Real

I think you will all like this one :)

https://dollarfor.org/

I think most of you are aware that more than half of all U.S. hospitals are nonprofits. Nonprofit hospitals must have charity care programs to keep their tax-exempt status. These programs, also called financial assistance, decrease medical bills for low and middle-income patients. The org linked above will qualify you and make it happen. A high percentage of you qualify and (shockingly) the medical providers aren’t advertising the program.

Don’t have the spoons to face this on your own? They will do this with and for you: https://dollarfor.org/debt-forgiveness/.

What you will need:

About 3 minutes

The name of the hospital, the amount billed, and the approximate date of your most recent bill

Your household's size and annual income

Don’t want someone from a nonprofit helping with your personal medical stuff? Want to do it on your own? They have a walk-through for that: https://dollarfor.org/resources/how-to-apply-for-charity-care/step-one-check-your-eligibility/

You do deserve this!

[pingxie-exchange]

Thank you to everyone who voted in the first poll! There's still a day left to vote if you'd like to, but at this point I feel confident that there is enough interest to run the exchange again this year.

So on to my next question... sign-ups for this exchange usually run from June 18th to June 28th with an assignment due date of August 10th and a work reveal date of August 17th (the day Xiaoge returned from behind the Bronze Gate).

However, this year, the Small-Medium Ship Exchange has had a delay. This means that works are due for that exchange on June 28th. Therefore, I suspect that the 18th to the 28th will be prime stress time for anyone participating in that exchange and people may not want to sign up for another in the middle of that. 😬

So I'm thinking of moving the sign-up time for this exchange to a different time.

(Also, please keep in mind that no matter when sign-ups are, your works will still be due on August 10th, and there will be a few days lag time between sign-ups and assignments going out as I run matching. So, the later sign-ups are, the less time you will have to create your works.)

Thank you all for helping me out again!

[mammameesh]

Small Business...Meesh

As some as you might know, I'm an avid crocheter. I have listed some of my bigger creations on Etsy, as these have not yet sold at a market. Please consider supporting me as a small business this Saturday. If you can't, please Reblog....

[slasheru]

Hey Tumblr, I need your help!

I make SU in Wolf RPG Editor, which is this super ancient Japanese RPG editing engine from 1998-2007. I am trying to find ANYONE, ANYONE AT ALL, IN 2023 developing for this engine!! If you know ANYONE who makes games in Wolf in The Year Of Our Satan 2023 who scripts their own stuff in Wolf PLEASE PLEASE drop an ask in my askbox or DM me!

I've been trying to debug a message box loop in Wolf's actual engine scripting for A YEAR, and it is my white whale. It is my Excalibur. Someone come help me my family is dying and my crops are failing out of grad school

Wolf uses its own proprietary scripting so I can't ask anyone for code help, cuz it's a scripting logic issue and you need to know Wolf! Aaaaa!!

[the-breath-in-air]

I can't decide...

[bradshawsbaby]

Ancient Rome AU Poll #1

[rewatching-sam-and-dean]

If you don’t like Sam and Dean precisely because they are messed up, then why do you like Supernatural (if you do)?

I see fans saying things like, these boys need therapy (and wanting them to actually get it), but like, they are fictional. Let them be the miserable little (big) codependent psychos that they are. Also, what therapist are they going to o talk to? We saw how that worked out for then in "Sam, Interrupted." I want my boys weird. I want them codependent. I want them to be the weird brother-husbands (platonically, in my case) that they are.

Am I wrong? Please leave your thought in the tags, if you participate. (I’m deleting if I get no bites.)